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As A Punter, Do You Care How The Wg Feels?

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I know that this might sound like an odd topic, but do you really care about her and her feelings or just about your own satisfation?

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What a question! My satisfaction is very much dependent on how the WG feels. If she's not enjoying herself in my company then I don't wan't to be there.

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I'm friendly and respectful if thats your question. I want her to enjoy the meeting. Ive had to "thaw" out some girls who seemed cold or shy when we first meet. Sometimes works wonders :D

If she doesnt want to be with me or clearly isnt enjoy the time then I've usuaully cut my losses and left.

I'm not a "I dont care what you feel, shut up and let me f%^k you" punter if that what your getting at. That would make me feel sick and guilty.

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Yes i most certainly do care about the lady and her feelings,she is a humam being and should be treated as one,in the same way i would treat anyone else in life.

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I know that this might sound like an odd topic, but do you really care about her and her feelings or just about your own satisfation?

I punt with respect but i have no definite way of knowing a WGs true feelings as she is a virtual stranger to me. I prefer it if she is enjoying the punt but know from many years of experience that it could be her simply being good at her job and convincing me she is enjoying it.

As i cant know for sure i dont delve into her inner feelings unless she says something which does happen occassionally. I am quite happy punting with the superficial exterior some WGs project. I dont expect anything more than whats been agreed, if more is given i happily accept. :)

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Respect, trust and enjoyment works boths way.

If her feelings are hurt or she is upset then it will effect me too.

I would hate to think I had made a lady feel awkward or had hurt her feelings

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Yes.

I want her to be at ease, and preferably want her to enjoy herself.

or at least that she is sufficiently comfortable to be able to put up the perfect act.

Quality.

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Personally, yes. I enjoy the experience more if I think that the lady is enjoying herself too. As Jones the Butcher states above, the girls are human too, and I like to feel I have met with a person, not just a sex toy.

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I try to treat the ladies I meet with respect. Generally I feel that is respected. I hope I have never abused or insulted anyone I have met.

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I want to be what she would describe as her perfect client. It doesn't bother me if I don't turn sexually excite her and I couldn't care less if she acts or fakes. I care that she is happy and comfortable in my company and that is it. I will do everything in my power to help her feel safe and confident.

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Whilst it is a paid for sexual encounter , I do try and find some sort of connection with the lady, as a person.

I can't do the wham, bam, thank you Ma'am thing at all., As a bit of a people person I do care a liitle that this lady is in a good place - as she will be better at her job - but its not my responsibility..and there are limits depending on the time available. I am there primarily to have sex with the lady .. not to be a counsellor

With a regular ( which is generally my preference anyway) I am much more likely to know them a little and talk about stuff , including what is going on for them and how they are.

All just makes it a bit more "Real" .and I have ( In the past ) cared about them a little .. whilst respecting boundaries !

Its seems a perfectly normal thing to do .. to treat another person with respect and a bit of care.

Treat others as you would like to be treated !

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What a question! My satisfaction is very much dependent on how the WG feels. If she's not enjoying herself in my company then I don't wan't to be there.

Exactly - Couldn't have put it better myself.

Well done.

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Many thanks to you all for replying to this post. It is really good to know that there are some decent men out there in the real world.

Believe me though, not all men feel like you do, which is really why I asked the question tpeters.

T x

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Trudie,

The guys that have already responded for the most part reflect my thoughts.

There are indeed blokes around who greatly respect the WGs they see. There are also blokes who recognise that their hard earned cash is better spent and better rewarded if they make an effort to be kind, clean and gentle with the girls they visit.

These are commercial transactions with which we are concerned. But that lessens not the effectiveness of same imparted by attention to the niceties such as respect and so forth.

Uncle Pokey

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I know that this might sound like an odd topic, but do you really care about her and her feelings or just about your own satisfation?

Is there really morally much difference between a non-violent rape and a session with a WG when the punter doesn't care about her and her feelings, and is only concerned with his own satisfaction?

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Yes, in the sense of being polite and never asking for anything that is off the menu. If the WG enjoys sex with me that's great, though that's not why I visit one and for many WGs I expect not something that they are looking for at work.

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Is there really morally much difference between a non-violent rape and a session with a WG when the punter doesn't care about her and her feelings, and is only concerned with his own satisfaction?

Interesting answer. I rather think this was a pointless question since no-one on this message forum here was about to say they did not care. The awful thing is in reality there are many men who don't give a shite about our feelings. They pays their money and they takes their enjoyment. Similarly, there will be men who see girls that are distant, uncommunicative and reluctant to do anything, but as they paid, they 'do the girl' get their money's worth and walk away without giving a second's thought, for her well being or her welfare.

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I care about all females so its natural to feel the same way about escorts.

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I do know men who simply don't feel any kind of empathy with any females even girlfriends. Pretty obvious with all the rape going on.

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Interesting answer. I rather think this was a pointless question since no-one on this message forum here was about to say they did not care. The awful thing is in reality there are many men who don't give a shite about our feelings. They pays their money and they takes their enjoyment. Similarly, there will be men who see girls that are distant, uncommunicative and reluctant to do anything, but as they paid, they 'do the girl' get their money's worth and walk away without giving a second's thought, for her well being or her welfare.

I dont know how many punters are like the later.

I only know what I do... but I do know that no means no and then Ive walked. Ive posted that I have when shes said no cos she hungover or just not up for it.

Okay I do agree that its a bit pointless question as who treats girl like shit as what poster is gunna say "Yes I treat girls like shit! Hmm I cant seem to get a booking"..., but I am hoping that those guys are the very minute minority...

I already worry about how punters treat girls Im fond of. Dont make me more worried....

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I dont know how many punters are like the later.

I only know what I do... but I do know that no means no and then Ive walked. Ive posted that I have when shes said no cos she hungover or just not up for it.

Okay I do agree that its a bit pointless question as who treats girl like shit as what poster is gunna say "Yes I treat girls like shit! Hmm I cant seem to get a booking"..., but I am hoping that those guys are the very minute minority...

I already worry about how punters treat girls Im fond of. Dont make me more worried....

I should think those girls can take care of themselves or they would not be still there doing the job? Most of my punters are great, but then they would have to be or they wouldn't be able to return.

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Yes, about her feelings that is.
Edited by Jean Valjean

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To be honest, I only punt because I want a no strings attached relationship. The moment I start to care then clearly it is becoming too much of a relationship and I have to back off for both our sakes. Fortunately, I've not yet been struck down with the obsession bug or the desire to be the white knight. If a lady does open up and talks about a problem or an upset then I am happy to listen and talk it over. Without wishing to sound heartless, I don't want to make it my problem, I've enough problems of my own to want to take on anyone elses emotional issues.

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Interesting answer. I rather think this was a pointless question since no-one on this message forum here was about to say they did not care. The awful thing is in reality there are many men who don't give a shite about our feelings. They pays their money and they takes their enjoyment. Similarly, there will be men who see girls that are distant, uncommunicative and reluctant to do anything, but as they paid, they 'do the girl' get their money's worth and walk away without giving a second's thought, for her well being or her welfare.

All I care is that I am meeting a WG who is comfortable and confident in her job and is not financially trapped, forced or pimped. I don't and shouldn't have to worry about her feelings because all I want to pay for is sexual gratification. I am not paying to make her happy and am quite aware that I may not be a preferred sexual partner. If I am sexually appealing to her then that is absolutely fantastic, but I know it's not real as soon as I hand over the envelope. If I really like her and she really likes me to the point we form a genuine relationship, then I will take great notice of her feelings and welfare because like her I am a human being. Believe it or not 99.9% of the time I am Mr Average Joe who would like a soul mate and live happily ever after in wedded bliss, but occasionally I become Mr Punter (although I don't spin round in a phone box and emerge with a cape with a Big P and slicked back hair). I don't want to visit a WG and feel grateful for her sacrifices or be lead down any emotional route I just want to have a great time in bed and go away. I am certain most WG's feel the same way and it doesn't mean we can't have a great time. Yes I'm one of those who fell for a WG and ended up making a complete fool of myself. No fault whatsoever of hers, she is fantastic in every way and I will always have feelings for her. Moral of the story: if you go about Punting the wrong way or over-complicate the process it can cause plenty of upset.

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To be honest, I only punt because I want a no strings attached relationship. The moment I start to care then clearly it is becoming too much of a relationship and I have to back off for both our sakes. Fortunately, I've not yet been struck down with the obsession bug or the desire to be the white knight. If a lady does open up and talks about a problem or an upset then I am happy to listen and talk it over. Without wishing to sound heartless, I don't want to make it my problem, I've enough problems of my own to want to take on anyone elses emotional issues.

DirtyBerty (what a fantastic tag btw) I completely agree with everything that you have succinctly written. You hit the nail on the head with the 'White Knight' phenomenon.

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