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Are Asian Men Less Likely To Like Girls Who Are 30 Or 30+?

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I truly do not mean to culturally stereotype asian men or anyone.

I absolutely love asian and middle-eastern men, they are often the nicest, friendliest and most well-groomed gentelmen of all. And I have a some of amazing regular Asian and Middle Eastern clients

Very rarely do I get a client who arrives to meet me and doesn't seem to like the look of me in the flesh, but it happens about once a year I guess! But this summer I had two clients in a row (different days of course!) who, when I greeted them at the door with a kiss and an embrace, didn't look happy. I asked if they were ok and both asked how old I am, even though my profile VERY clearly states my age as 30, my genuine age (why lie?) which I look good for I think, and I was only just 30 on September!!!

They both said they "didn't realise I was 30" and turned and walked off without even a polite apology!

I don't know if this was some sort of `set-up' by someone who maybe has a grudge against me, it was such a coincidence how similar the incidents were, and both men were Asian/Indian.

Is it just coincidence or bad luck? is it perhaps cultural? I was absolutely devastated both times, it really knocked my confidence, and no one else has said anything of the kind, I usually get compliments.

This will start a debate, so lets go!!

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Not a cultural thing. I'm asian and the age of a lady bears no consequence to me

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yes, hopefully it was just a coincidence!

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I see a lot of Asian/Indians (prob partly due to the area I am in) and I'm 36 so it wouldn't ring true for me. I suspect it was a bad coincidence which of course knocked your confidence. I think we all have bad runs- last week I had 3 no shows in a day and got in a tizz about there being a vendetta against me, but it was one day and all is fine again. Try and forget it!

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I think we all have bad runs- last week I had 3 no shows in a day and got in a tizz

True! You do go through phases of bad luck like that, sometimes a day, sometimes a whole week!

Last week, a lovely regular client turned-up, and told me he couldn't pay me because he had lost his bank card, but he stood there expecting a freebie!!! And I'd turned down someone else to see him. I was furious but just stayed polite and said "oh, ok, see you another rtime". Then another person was a no-show so I gave up for the day. It was awful because I really needed the money that day to pay my credit card bill that was due!!! Things haven't been the same since that day, hence I'm trying to join an agency again.

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I truly do not mean to culturally stereotype asian men or anyone. I absolutely love asian and middle-eastern men, they are often the nicest, friendliest and most well-groomed gentelmen of all. And I have a some of amazing regular Asian and Middle Eastern clients Very rarely do I get a client who arrives to meet me and doesn't seem to like the look of me in the flesh, but it happens about once a year I guess! But this summer I had two clients in a row (different days of course!) who, when I greeted them at the door with a kiss and an embrace, didn't look happy. I asked if they were ok and both asked how old I am, even though my profile VERY clearly states my age as 30, my genuine age (why lie?) which I look good for I think, and I was only just 30 on September!!! They both said they "didn't realise I was 30" and turned and walked off without even a polite apology! I don't know if this was some sort of `set-up' by someone who maybe has a grudge against me, it was such a coincidence how similar the incidents were, and both men were Asian/Indian. Is it just coincidence or bad luck? is it perhaps cultural? I was absolutely devastated both times, it really knocked my confidence, and no one else has said anything of the kind, I usually get compliments. This will start a debate, so lets go!!

I have no idea if it was a coincidence or bad luck but what i do know is every person is an individual so as they are all unique they should be treated in an individual way, just like WGs should be. :)

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After starting this post today I decided to deal with the issue `head on'. One of the guys in question, who was particularly insulting, I just phoned him up. I politely made him aware of who I was. I said "do you realise I was actually devastated by your comments? .....I understand that in the flesh, a girl may not always live up to what you imagined, but my age and photos are real, but rather than insult me, you could have at least made an excuse that you suddenly just didn't feel like it, or similar"

And he replied "Amy, I have thought of texting you, I am so sorry for what I done". And he sounded sincere.

I said " I appreciate that `Karim', just please in future remember that people have feelings and you can be tactfull if you want to get out of a booking". He agreed and sounded ashamed.

So it all ended amicablly.......I feel a lot better.

I'm usually really carefull, and make sure someone sounds friendly and affable before I confirm a booking.

I've noticed a lot of Asian/Indian/Middle Eastern men actually enquire "do you see Asians?" which is astounding because as I said, for me, they have always been the most immaculate bookings, I'm suprised they ask that.

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SBSG you know it's not discreet to call clients ? Most would be horrified if you did.

This isn't the first thread where you say you call clients so only asking

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After starting this post today I decided to deal with the issue `head on'. One of the guys in question, who was particularly insulting, I just phoned him up. I politely made him aware of who I was. I said "do you realise I was actually devastated by your comments? .....I understand that in the flesh, a girl may not always live up to what you imagined, but my age and photos are real, but rather than insult me, you could have at least made an excuse that you suddenly just didn't feel like it, or similar"

And he replied "Amy, I have thought of texting you, I am so sorry for what I done". And he sounded sincere.

I said " I appreciate that `Karim', just please in future remember that people have feelings and you can be tactfull if you want to get out of a booking". He agreed and sounded ashamed.

So it all ended amicablly.......I feel a lot better.

I'm usually really carefull, and make sure someone sounds friendly and affable before I confirm a booking.

I've noticed a lot of Asian/Indian/Middle Eastern men actually enquire "do you see Asians?" which is astounding because as I said, for me, they have always been the most immaculate bookings, I'm suprised they ask that.

Err, not really. It's because there is a minority of ladies who state on their profiles that they won't see Asians/Africans/Martians (delete as appropriate.) I'm Asian and I'll always ask unless the lady specifically says on her profile that she will see any race.

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Re: the age thing, I'm sure being Asian generally has no bearing but those individuals might have personally had an issue.

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SBSG you know it's not discreet to call clients ? Most would be horrified if you did.

This isn't the first thread where you say you call clients so only asking

If i am ever contacted without me previously agreeing it i wont be punting with the WG again as its highly unprofessional in my opinion and i expect absolute discretion. :)

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Hi there!

I see Asian men and never has any one of them ever said anything like that to me and I am older than you. I think they were very rude to be honest.

Human behaviour never ceases to amaze

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I'm also of Asian origin yet age to me has no consequence to me either. In one of my recent punts the lady stated her age as 33 yet she was probably at least 10 years or more on top of that! Nevertheles the punt went very well but I would appreciate honesty. The honesty aspect defines the character of the wg as it would do in any walk of life!

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It's more likely to be a case of the gentlemen not reading your website before making the booking; unfortunately all to common amongst gentlemen of all ethnicities!

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It's more likely to be a case of the gentlemen not reading your website before making the booking; unfortunately all to common amongst gentlemen of all ethnicities!

That could be the case. Also common are sites/profiles listing services not actually on offer now or anymore in my experience which is a very widespread occurence and why they are an indication only to me to be confirmed by speaking to the WG.

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That could be the case. Also common are sites/profiles listing services not actually on offer now or anymore in my experience which is a very widespread occurence and why they are an indication only to me to be confirmed by speaking to the WG.

Very true, some listing sites can be very difficult, if not impossible, to update once the ad has been placed, leading to out of date information hanging about online. There are also sites which will lift a ladies ad from one site to put on their own, the lady knows nothing about this so can't even try to keep that ad up to date.

I recommend that any gentleman wanting to visit a lady has a read through her own website, not just the advert. The website will contain more details than it's possible to fit into an advert, and it's likely to be the most up to date.

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I (am Asian &) often positively seek out the 'older' woman. I think that the transition from girl to woman is by definition much more likely to have occurred for a 30+ year-old, and I'm very often in the mood for a real 'woman'.

As an aside - SBSG you sound like an absolute star in the making. I believe that in your game 'attitude' is almost everything, and you are clearly committed to your clients' satisfaction, and are simply adorable! If you're hot to boot - then you have a long and lucrative career ahead of you.

As to your current low tide of business - I'd bet that this is the Universe ('God', if you believe) causing you to regroup, re-evaluate your strategy, so that you're forced to make a change possibly that makes things all the better for you, going forward.

Good luck with it all - and you're a breath of fresh air in this forum!

Omar xx

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I think the issue of race has nothing to do with this post/incident.

If two english men/Cacuasian men did this to you, this post would be non-existant.

They either didnt like your age, or something else. And they happend to be indian. Shit happens.

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AGE IS A MAJOR ISSUE FOR ME. I can never see nor even think about seeing an old escort......but wait....for me "old" is someone who is at least 100 years old!

To be honest, I think women in their 30s are great lovers. In fact, according to medical science, a woman peaks sexually at age 38. Some of the best sex I have had has been with women who are closer to 35 than they are to 25.

As for Asians being rude or whatever, I am an Asian, and my ladies love me as a person, and I love them. I am very well respected at agencies, etc., and I respect them.

I cannot say that all Asians are nice people. I have met some of the worst people who are Asians (Indians and Pakistanis) but then, I have met nice Asians too. The same applies to people of other races too.

Like Paul McCartney and Stevie Wonder said in their song "Ebony and Ivory"....."There is good and bad in everyone", so it is best not to stereotype.

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Thirty is not exactly old is it, unless you have had a particularly hard life.

If your website describes you reasonably accurately, I'd forget about these two guys, who you probably wouldn't have enjoyed anyway had they stayed, and just get on with bringing your assets to the attention of the world, or the Surrey / London boarders at any rate.

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I'm asian myself, in my 20's. Most of the girls I've seen have been 30+. I think what happened to you, was just one of those things, i'm sure something unusual/strange has happened to most escorts. Just one of those things I guess. Also about your other comment, I always ask if im seeing a new lady, if she see's asian guys. Just from experience, as some don't, and do not state on their profiles/website, so find it prudent to ask before arranging anything.

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I think the issue of race has nothing to do with this post/incident.

If two english men/Cacuasian men did this to you, this post would be non-existant.

They either didnt like your age, or something else. And they happend to be indian. Shit happens.

Agree wit this

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AGE IS A MAJOR ISSUE FOR ME. I can never see nor even think about seeing an old escort......but wait....for me "old" is someone who is at least 100 years old!

To be honest, I think women in their 30s are great lovers. In fact, according to medical science, a woman peaks sexually at age 38. Some of the best sex I have had has been with women who are closer to 35 than they are to 25.

As for Asians being rude or whatever, I am an Asian, and my ladies love me as a person, and I love them. I am very well respected at agencies, etc., and I respect them.

I cannot say that all Asians are nice people. I have met some of the worst people who are Asians (Indians and Pakistanis) but then, I have met nice Asians too. The same applies to people of other races too.

Like Paul McCartney and Stevie Wonder said in their song "Ebony and Ivory"....."There is good and bad in everyone", so it is best not to stereotype.

Agree with this also

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I think the issue of race has nothing to do with this post/incident.

If two english men/Cacuasian men did this to you, this post would be non-existant.

They either didnt like your age, or something else. And they happend to be indian. Shit happens.

I agree with this, I think you've fallen for something scientist refer to inadvertent sampling bias, even trained scientist and statisticians fall in this trap. Essential what happens is small natural variations in the sample appear to to take on significance when they coincide with another characteristic by simple chance.

Edited by WykeTyke

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Last week, a lovely regular client turned-up, and told me he couldn't pay me because he had lost his bank card, but he stood there expecting a freebie!!!

If that's "lovely" SBSG, I'd hate to meet your nightmare clients ;) .

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