Lilly B

Ladies... No Confirm = No Show, Right ?

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No confirm = No show ?

Not in my book.

I often see ladies saying they've had so many no shows today and that must be really disheartening.

But can I please ask... (as I only know how I work)

Did this person book on the day, or called on the day to confirm an advance booking and then not show up ?

Or was it an advance booking (taken days before) that didn't show up as you don't get them to call on the day ?

Or a booking made on the day that didn't show up ?

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When I take an advance booking, it's just a reservation in my mind, until they call on the day to confirm it.

I get all advance bookings to call between 8am and 9.30am on the day, I'm quite iffy allowing exceptions.

If they call on the day (that's when I give my address) then do not show up, that's a no show :mad:

If they make an advance booking, do not call on the day to confirm, then it's simply an unconfirmed booking surely ?

I get my fair share of unconfirmed advance bookings, but I haven't relied on them.

If I get a caller wanting to visit the same time as an existing advance booking, I tell him I'm already booked but that person is due to confirm by 9.30am on the day, if he doesn't would you like me to text you I can see you instead ? This works in so many ways for me and for the client.

I advertise in a local free paper, when that guy calls me for details, I willingly give them, but will not take a booking from him that day. Sorry if he's only in town for the day and I miss out, but most of the time they're local and understand when I explain that many from the paper advert no show and as a result I always like people to have a think about it and call me back to book another day - result = less no shows. I appreciate I don't get most of my bookings from the paper advert so can afford to do this.

Sorry if all that comes across as me being know-it all, but this has worked for me for the past 4.5 years tho I'm still always willing to take on new advice and ways of working, it just disheartens me to hear ladies saying about no shows and them having relied on them.

I'd just like a better understanding of what ladies call a no show, me being pedantic I guess, tho I'm sure there's a nicer word for it.

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Any other ladies who's way of taking bookings that works for her care to share, booking request/email only, calling hour before booked time etc.

Or any ladies willing to answer my original question re no confirm = no show

Guys feel free to chip in any way you choose

Thanks :)

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You know what? If it is a new client, I don't take the booking seriously until I have spoken to them half an hour before and know they are on their way.

It is usually `advance' bookings (more than 5 hours before) from strangers that turn out to be `no-shows'.

If I do have an advance booking from a new client and someone else calls to book for the same time, I call the initial client for confirmation and make a judgement from their response.

There is no excuse for a `no-show', they only have to text quick. I won't even take a call from someone who has in the past been a `no-show' without giving notice or an apology.

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As a punter i wouldnt dream of leaving my place before speaking on the phone on the morning of the punt and again just before i leave mine for the WGs place. Clear and concise communication is essential to me. The fact is anything could happen between the time you booked and the punt if your booking ahead so seeking confirmation on the actual day is common sense in my opinion. I usually punt same day though as i wont know if i fancy a punt till i wake up, a week next Friday i might not feel like one. ;)

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As a punter... I usually punt same day though as i wont know if i fancy a punt till i wake up, a week next Friday i might not feel like one. ;)

That is exactly why I take advance bookings for more than 4-5hours ahead with a pinch of salt. The only advance bookings I take seriously are the ones where a gentleman is visiting an area and is looking for "company" in the evening at his hotel.

Any other advance meeting I will pencil it in but not expect them to turn up, (but would be ready if they did).

To the OP, I only count a NS when they have booked on the day and do not turn up. Bookings from the day before that are not confirmed are just counted as exactly that, non-confirmed booking. The most annoying ones are the ones that book for within the hour and then No Show, aggghhhhh.

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Hmmm, well yes a non-confirmation doesn't equal a no-show however I do ask that clients let me know if they know they cannot make it sooner. It's only polite, quite often clients want to plan ahead, and the girl may have turned down other such requests for the day.

I have however had quite a few clients forget to confirm, or confirm much later than agreed and get quite upset that I've not 'taken them on their word' ie they don't understand the need to confirm. Unfortunately in this line of activity, with so many variable confirmation at a set time is the only way for either party to be sure, or to at least communicate effectively yet discretely.

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I am always happy to confirm in the morning and would much prefer to do that rather than turn up and find the lady unavailable.

It's just common sense but also polite.

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Perhaps the bit I forgot in my original post is to account for the difference that some ladies like or get mostly same day bookings, some mainly advance bookings and some (like myself) have a mixture of both. I've been thru phases of encouraging same day bookings, but now I encourage advance bookings and happily take same day bookings.

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I book quite a proportion of punts well in advance (2 weeks or more) to coincide with business travel. Quite often my plans change so I have to cancel. I always email the lady at least 24 hours in advance to say I can't make it, whether I was planning to see her for the first time or she's a regular. I believe 24 hours notice is sufficient notice to allow her to take a booking from someone else.

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I am very rarely take same day bookings and if I do, they after be confirmed at least 4 hours prior appointment.

Yes, timewasters/short notice cancellations/ its an absolute bane for WGS. You going into so much effort to arrange time off from your civilian work, all your family matters, your childcare, etc to attend it, and then he cancels.

For a last year or so for every made booking, I tell them: Please confirm this appointment before xxdate, and before xxtime. If you not 100% certain you can make it, please don't book me at all!" After saying this to the guys, I noticed that quite a high number respond " In that case lets postpone it to other time" or something similar. Result! So some people do have a bit of conscience! :-).

Of course it does not work all the time. Only last week guy arranged outcall to Coventry on this Wednesday at 7pm (6 days before). I asked him to confirm it before 11am on Wednesday. Hi did, we had a chat. I asked him if this meeting definitely on, and he is not going to cancel later. He said, 'most certainly not' and then texted me his address. However: at around 4pm, text from him- "after to cancel". No even apology, no "sorry", nothing! This kind of people not going to have even a second chance. But now, I am so glad that he canceled, as looks like I had a lucky escape.

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Hmmm, well yes a non-confirmation doesn't equal a no-show however I do ask that clients let me know if they know they cannot make it sooner. It's only polite, quite often clients want to plan ahead, and the girl may have turned down other such requests for the day. I have however had quite a few clients forget to confirm, or confirm much later than agreed and get quite upset that I've not 'taken them on their word' ie they don't understand the need to confirm. Unfortunately in this line of activity, with so many variable confirmation at a set time is the only way for either party to be sure, or to at least communicate effectively yet discretely.

Just goes to show how different people are. Unless i got amnesia i simply wouldnt forget as its something i automatically do every time i punt. It sometimes is the case the WG gets an unexpected punter so the time i had agreed that i would confirm just before leaving results in her phone going to voicemail. If a newbie to me this causes a delay as i require a reply before i leave mine confirming the punt is on, but i usually get a call or text shortly afterwards saying its still on. I wont leave mine under any circumstances without hearing from her though. If more than about an hour and still no reply i ring my plan B option and go there instead. :)

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I get a mixture of bookings, though now I only work restricted days I am often booked in advance.

But I have never in all the time I have escorted asked for a confirmation on the day, once it is booked in, it is booked in. I always ask for the client to let me know if they cannot make it.

I know very different to most ladies but it has always worked ok for me. And I very rarely get no-shows. When I was working full-time, I maybe got one a month though often you would get 2 at once. I think perhaps it is down to the initial enquiry where I listen carefully to new clients, it is not foolproof but I often know who may be a possible no-show before the appointment actually happen. If it is a new client and I am not a 100% that they will show up, I usually send a text about one hour before just asking to check all is ok still.

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I mentioned no shows on another thread so I just wanted to clarify when I say no show I mean they don't show up when I expect them to! Luckily I spent years in the hotel industry so I know the difference between a no show and and unconfirmed booking!

Most of my clients are same day bookings and quite often within a couple of hours. I don't ask these men to confirm again because more often than not they are on their way to me once I hang up! My no shows were these men who I had quite good lengthy (but not wank fodder) conversations about their booking and I felt confident they were going to arrive. I have gained a sixth sense to those unlikely to show and just wanted salacious phone calls or were sooo nervous I guessed they'd bottle it. These men I will ask for another confirmation text, but as I said usually I do not. One has to get the balance between getting my security and reassurance right and not being a pest or making a booking seem overly arduous. Rarely does anyone gets my flat number until they have arrived in the vicinity and ready to come in.

Any bookings made the previous day or earlier I ask them to confirm the morning of the booking and if I don't hear from them will send an innocuous 'Are we still on for 11am' type text which could easily be passed off as a wrong number if the wrong person reads the text. If a chap doesn't arrive and have not heard from him by 15 mins after his start time I will text 'are you on your way?' If I get no reply after another 5-10 mins I text again and tell them that they have missed their booking and I assume they will not be arriving so have therefore many other plans and the booking is now cancelled.

It works for me and I think it works for my clients. In fact they tend to be more jittery about contacting me to conform the appointment is still scheduled! reading the experiences on these boards I now know why!

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Thanks to the ladies who've contributed to this thread so far, and the gents. Lydia I wasn't directing straight at you, tho I did spot your no shows comment amongst others today and it's a topic I've wondered about for a while when reading other ladies 'no show' comments.

Like I said in my next post perhaps I forget how many ladies mainly take same day bookings and that is always a no show, as there would be no need for them to re-confirm a same day booking unless (smiths :)) they wanted to.

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I tend not to like advanced bookings because they pin me down to dates and times and I hate that. I never know what I am doing from one day to the next so the more spontaneous appointment fits in with my daily schedule, plus I find them more exciting.

However, I do take some advanced appointments. I don't say 'No' to them, I would just prefer to take same day or next day appointments. That is my preference, because I have such a busy other life.

The way I work is to take the appointment, sort out the time, and then ask the client to let me know if he cannot make it rather than call me to confirm.

I find that is the easiest for me, and it appears to work. I do not get no-shows but that might be because I don't work much?

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To me a booking is not a booking until the client has arrived we have agreed on services ect and have sorted out payment

saying that if someone books in advance by a few days and i am availble then im happy to take the booking but i require them to confirm on the day before 9am generally

even if its a regular client i still require a text or phone call to confirm that they still want to see me and if i havnt heard from them by that time then i carry on taking other bookings

i actually prefer same day appointments,

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To me a booking is not a booking until the client has arrived we have agreed on services ect and have sorted out payment

saying that if someone books in advance by a few days and i am availble then im happy to take the booking but i require them to confirm on the day before 9am generally

even if its a regular client i still require a text or phone call to confirm that they still want to see me and if i havnt heard from them by that time then i carry on taking other bookings

i actually prefer same day appointments,

You travel a lot though.. I would have thought the advanced booking guarantees that you can at least pay your hotel bill/travel expenses?

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I make most of my appointments quite a while in advance and I've got into the habit of texting a day or two ahead of the booked day to confirm that it's still okay to meet. Hopefully this reminds the lady that we've got a date booked (although no one's forgotten so far) and lets her know that I've remembered it as well! I always text again when I'm actually on my way to see the WG, to confirm that I really am going to show up. Communication is key.

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I make most of my appointments quite a while in advance and I've got into the habit of texting a day or two ahead of the booked day to confirm that it's still okay to meet. Hopefully this reminds the lady that we've got a date booked (although no one's forgotten so far) and lets her know that I've remembered it as well! I always text again when I'm actually on my way to see the WG, to confirm that I really am going to show up. Communication is key.

Totally agree, clear communication is absolutely crucial. :)

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On the subject of confirming, I called a WG from the other site earlier this week at around 11:20am and asked how soon she was available. She said 12.15pm would be OK and we agreed to meet then, saying she'd give me the flat number when I was on the street etc. Now that's less than an hour before the time of the appointment.

I arrived on the street, parked up and was waiting, got my parking ticket etc. I then saw the girl walking up the street about 12.10pm with her friend/fellow escort. So I waited until after 12.15pm, called her to get the full address and go meet her. She said I hadn't confirmed the appointment and that she was having lunch and would text me when she's done! When the hell was I expected to confirm anything when I had only spoken to her 40 odd minutes ago? Fair enough if the appointment was too short notice, but don't accept it in the first place. And she never text me later on either. Pity, as she was gorgeous and touring so won't be back for a while.

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im refering to when i work at home in bristol ( should have said that) when i tour i will take advance bookings if i have met before, but otherwise its call on the day basis and i work pretty much the same way as i do when im at home even when touring

But i often put on a special offer for the first day at a very good price as this ensure that most of my ovheads are covered in the first day

You travel a lot though.. I would have thought the advanced booking guarantees that you can at least pay your hotel bill/travel expenses?

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I prefer advanced bookings as it can be hard to work a free couple of hours in a specific geographical location. Yesterday was one such day, so I rang someone I had been interested in seeing and who I have exchanged a few emails with a couple of months ago. She sounded nice, remembered the emails and a 2 hour booking was arranged for yesterday afternoon. She asked me to ring her yesterday morning which I did, her phone was off so I left a meessage. I rang back an hour later, phone still off left another message, and an hour later, phone still off left final message I am now going into the meeting I told you I had in your area, please text me if this is still on. No text, finished meeting went home frustrated as my whole day had been set up and planned to have that 2 hour booking.

Why can't even a text be sent, sorry something came up, I just think it is rude personally.

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I prefer advanced bookings as it can be hard to work a free couple of hours in a specific geographical location. Yesterday was one such day, so I rang someone I had been interested in seeing and who I have exchanged a few emails with a couple of months ago. She sounded nice, remembered the emails and a 2 hour booking was arranged for yesterday afternoon. She asked me to ring her yesterday morning which I did, her phone was off so I left a meessage. I rang back an hour later, phone still off left another message, and an hour later, phone still off left final message I am now going into the meeting I told you I had in your area, please text me if this is still on. No text, finished meeting went home frustrated as my whole day had been set up and planned to have that 2 hour booking. Why can't even a text be sent, sorry something came up, I just think it is rude personally.

Very poor but although disappointed i would view this as a close shave because if she is so unprofessional and rude i didnt miss anything. Yes she could of had an emergency come up but in reality how likely is that, and that she couldnt send a text that would take a minute to send and good WGs dont come out with excuses i have noted, funny that. If possible always have a plan B option is my advice. :)

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Very poor but although disappointed i would view this as a close shave because if she is so

unprofessional and rude i didnt miss anything. Yes she could of had an emergency come up but in reality how likely is that, and that she couldnt send a text that would take a minute to send and good WGs dont come out with

excuses i have noted, funny that. If possible always have a plan B option is my advice. :)

No excuse, it takes 30 secs to send a text saying something has come up, especially if a meeting has been planned in advance. Or a profuse apology later x

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Sometimes, with the best will in the world, events take over and there is nothing you can do. This happened to me recently when I was in the middle of negotiations with a guy. I had already spoken to him about an appointment and then all hell broke loose (hospital emergency with one of my kids) and I was unable to make contact. ( I don't know if other girls are like me, but my family does not know another 'phone exists, so if I am with them it is put away at home and switched off.) We had not actually arranged anything in a concrete way, but I was not able to tell him it was definitely off for that day until much later when I apologised profusely.

We rearranged for the next day so all was okay.

Shit sometimes happens on both sides, and we are all of us only human

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Sometimes, with the best will in the world, events take over and there is nothing you can do. This happened to me recently when I was in the middle of negotiations with a guy. I had already spoken to him about an appointment and then all hell broke loose (hospital emergency with one of my kids) and I was unable to make contact. ( I don't know if other girls are like me, but my family does not know another 'phone exists, so if I am with them it is put away at home and switched off.) We had not actually arranged anything in a concrete way, but I was not able to tell him it was definitely off for that day until much later when I apologised profusely.

We rearranged for the next day so all was okay.

Shit sometimes happens on both sides, and we are all of us only human

Most guys will understand this sort of thing and be very accommodating. The difference between your example and spanner2's is that the WG he had booked never even bothered to get in touch, either before or after the booking was arranged for.

I had something similar happen last year when I had booked an outcall to a hotel where I was on business. I booked about a week in advance and experienced great comms up until the day of the booking then absolute silence, despite me texting confirmation that morning as requested. It was a no show of course. When I read her purple site profile that night I noticed a phrase something along the lines of "my time is precious to me, please don't waste it". Talk about not practising what you preach! Never did hear from her ever again, despite a polite email asking her what had gone wrong.

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