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Hi everyone,

I'm single at the moment and I've just had my 4th punt in the space of a year.

All things considered I've enjoyed the punts and the ladies I've met have been friendly and chatty, although I guess that is part of their job.

On the way home I felt a bit 'empty', if that makes sense, and thought that I'd really like more of a relationship, rather than just getting laid and then getting up and walking away from it.

Are there any guys out there who have had similar thoughts or am I just having a case of 'post punt blues' ?!

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Hi everyone,

I'm single at the moment and I've just had my 4th punt in the space of a year.

All things considered I've enjoyed the punts and the ladies I've met have been friendly and chatty, although I guess that is part of their job.

On the way home I felt a bit 'empty', if that makes sense, and thought that I'd really like more of a relationship, rather than just getting laid and then getting up and walking away from it.

Are there any guys out there who have had similar thoughts or am I just having a case of 'post punt blues' ?!

Thanks

Hi BigMig. :) If a punt is good or better i get a post punt high not the blues and dont feel a bit empty but we are all different. If i just wanted a relationship then thats what i would concentrate on but prefer punting as well as its no strings and i choose who i wish just by having the money to pay. The walking away with no hassle is something i like. :)

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I've had that too and cant explain it at all. I suspect it may be symptomatic of the onset of addiction in a similar way a drug user may forever chase an ultimate high but never quite achieve it.

Plus of course, doing the research beforehand and making a selection is generally much more exciting than jumping in a taxi afterward to empty the dishwasher or put the cat out.

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I suspect that if you are punting, at least partly because you feel you miss a "real" relationship, then a hollow feeling after some punts is not uncommon. At least with only 4 punts in a year, you have the habit well under control. Best of luck from me in finding a girlfriend and in getting the most out of your punts whilst you continue your search.

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This is genetically/evolutionarily programmed in us - orgasms in both male and female trigger the release of oxytocin from the pituitary which, in female, causes the contractile tissue in the nipple to contract and hence sometime produces small amount of nipple discharge (this hormone is most well known to be associated with childbirth and lactation). In male, although no one is certain its exact biological function, it is believe to be a powerful behavioural modifier in which it causes the warm and relaxed (even lethargic) post-ejaculatory feeling; in normal relationship, this feeling often lead to the bonding between the partners. In evolutionary term, this is beneficial as the men temporarily lose interest in bonking the next female so there is a higher chance of staying with one female to allow pro-creation and support of newborn.

In a punting situation, since we will naturally avoid too much bonding and try to dissociate from the intimacy, the brain is a bit "confused" afterwards and a lot of men experience this post-punt blues. It's nothing to do with how experience you are, you either experience it or not. Before I packed up punting recently, I have been on and off punting for more than a decade, and I still experience the post punt blues from time to time, often after a particular realistic intimate GFE. Some people even experience post-orgasmic blue from masturbation. This has nothing to do with religious upbringing as I am not religious and many of my friends who experience the same aren't either.

However we want to interpret otherwise, we are biological programmed to do certain things...:-)

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Thank you to our science correspondent!

I've always thought that this is down to the "low" you can experience following a "high", as your body chemistry adjusts itself. I know that after an adrenaline or endorphin surge you can feel physically sick. I've even felt quite rotten after masturbating, which I don't experience after sexual activity with a partner.

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In a punting situation, since we will naturally avoid too much bonding and try to dissociate from the intimacy, the brain is a bit "confused" afterwards and a lot of men experience this post-punt blues.

I have always punted when single and always suffered from post-punt blues but found them unbearable following an overnight. I just felt so rejected when she left, although I know I wasn't being rejected. Confused is an understatement. I think intimacy is the addiction, more so than the sex. It's more mental than physical for me so I make punting work for me now; Shorter bookings purely focused on the sex. Looks are very important when punting less so her charisma. Punting, for me is not an excuse to stop looking for a relationship.

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The hallmark of a great punt I think is one that leaves me walking on air afterwards. The best have this effect for days after. No post punting blues for me.

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Same for me, ive felt exactly the same way but only with WG's ive had genuinely good chemistry with.

I was with a WG yesterday, as soon as we saw each other i could tell we fancied each other. Shes exactly 100% my type, and i think im her type as well judging by how sexualy and socially she was into me. The lust and kissing quality was waaayyy off the chart, ive kissed over 100 women now and she is the best kisser ive ever had and by far, it was like our lips were made for each other, unbelievable, none of my ex girlfriends ever showed me that much passion and this WG was like it the one and only time shes met me so far.

Turns out she doesnt kiss clients that well. Shes Polish, i asked her why does she kiss me so nice, as ive had a lot of Eastern European girls now and the majority of them just will not kiss. She explained she absolutely loves kissing but only does light kissing with clients or just normal peck on the cheek type kissing. But with me she fancied me a lot... and i could thoroughly sense it from her, im pretty sure she wasnt acting it out like escorts tend to do.

Im more of a one night stand kind of person, but this WG was intense, im going to be seeing her a lot more often. No sex though, try prove to her im not after free sex, and win her heart.

Ive been punting now for 4 years, with about 40 WG's, hopefully this girl is the one ive been looking for as she seemed a bit on the open side of having a relationship with a client (escorts usually have this self rule to never personally date a client). Ive never clicked this much with any other girl in my life.

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Same for me, ive felt exactly the same way but only with WG's ive had genuinely good chemistry with.

I was with a WG yesterday, as soon as we saw each other i could tell we fancied each other. Shes exactly 100% my type, and i think im her type as well judging by how sexualy and socially she was into me. The lust and kissing quality was waaayyy off the chart, ive kissed over 100 women now and she is the best kisser ive ever had and by far, it was like our lips were made for each other, unbelievable, none of my ex girlfriends ever showed me that much passion and this WG was like it the one and only time shes met me so far.

Turns out she doesnt kiss clients that well. Shes Polish, i asked her why does she kiss me so nice, as ive had a lot of Eastern European girls now and the majority of them just will not kiss. She explained she absolutely loves kissing but only does light kissing with clients or just normal peck on the cheek type kissing. But with me she fancied me a lot... and i could thoroughly sense it from her, im pretty sure she wasnt acting it out like escorts tend to do.

Im more of a one night stand kind of person, but this WG was intense, im going to be seeing her a lot more often. No sex though, try prove to her im not after free sex, and win her heart.

Ive been punting now for 4 years, with about 40 WG's, hopefully this girl is the one ive been looking for as she seemed a bit on the open side of having a relationship with a client (escorts usually have this self rule to never personally date a client). Ive never clicked this much with any other girl in my life.

Mate, I've been there recently and can relate to a lot of the feelings you expressed. See the thread "The End of a Beautiful Affair".

My only advice to you is that - (1) don't have a regular that you have feeling towards, run now before it's too late!! (2) if you are genuinely liking her beyond the sex, then tell her your feeling and see if a relationship can emerge from the 2 of you. I learnt it the hard way...

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Sparkstar, have you had a relationship with a WG before? There are a handful of threads on this topic that might make interesting reading for you.

It can work. Rare, but it can. A lot of the time it doesn't though. For what are probably quite obvious reasons.

I've been down that route a few times. Once a disaster, some middling and once absolutely amazing.

So without wishing to put you off or indeed patronise, just tread carefully and keep your eyes open.

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The alternative could be a relationship that goes dull, and becomes almost like a prison sentence, but you cannot bring yourself to quit. Whatever you've got it is often the grass in the next field that is greener. I'm too old to want a relationship and can happily do without fireside company, so punting is a wonderful experience for me with no sense of guilt but rather a great feeling of anticipation when the next punt gets near. Time will tell for you and I hope you get it right.

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Sparkstar, have you had a relationship with a WG before? There are a handful of threads on this topic that might make interesting reading for you.

Just once, it lasted for 5 months. She was an escort when i met her as i was organising gang bang parties back then. She continued escorting and doing gang bangs while we were a couple.

I loved it.

But this new girl, she doesnt want to be a WG when shes with someone, she wants to be all his. I told her she wouldnt need to worry about money so no problem there.

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Ah, well it seems you are made of stronger stuff than I. The one disaster was when she continued working. The amazing one was when she stopped.

I hope it works out well for you both.

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The hallmark of a great punt I think is one that leaves me walking on air afterwards. The best have this effect for days after. No post punting blues for me.

Same here if i got the blues afterwards i would have to consider if it was worth continuing. I punt for sex AND fun not to get the blues. We are all different of course but experiencing that would be a real bummer.

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Same for me, ive felt exactly the same way but only with WG's ive had genuinely good chemistry with. I was with a WG yesterday, as soon as we saw each other i could tell we fancied each other. Shes exactly 100% my type, and i think im her type as well judging by how sexualy and socially she was into me. The lust and kissing quality was waaayyy off the chart, ive kissed over 100 women now and she is the best kisser ive ever had and by far, it was like our lips were made for each other, unbelievable, none of my ex girlfriends ever showed me that much passion and this WG was like it the one and only time shes met me so far. Turns out she doesnt kiss clients that well. Shes Polish, i asked her why does she kiss me so nice, as ive had a lot of Eastern European girls now and the majority of them just will not kiss. She explained she absolutely loves kissing but only does light kissing with clients or just normal peck on the cheek type kissing. But with me she fancied me a lot... and i could thoroughly sense it from her, im pretty sure she wasnt acting it out like escorts tend to do. Im more of a one night stand kind of person, but this WG was intense, im going to be seeing her a lot more often. No sex though, try prove to her im not after free sex, and win her heart. Ive been punting now for 4 years, with about 40 WG's, hopefully this girl is the one ive been looking for as she seemed a bit on the open side of having a relationship with a client (escorts usually have this self rule to never personally date a client). Ive never clicked this much with any other girl in my life.

I hope it turns out how you want it to. However, i have experienced exactly the same on a number of occassions over the years, the instant click and really getting on well. After many punts it wears off in my experience and was simply her being really very good at being a WG. So my advice for what its worth is be cautious and i wish you well. :)

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