Jennifer

Do Older Punters Have More Respect For Working Girls?

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Hi,

I've been a wg for around 8 weeks and have had a series of emails from older people. I've been very dubious about whether to accept them or not seeing as I am only young. I think its sexual preference is the main reason for not accepting any yet.

The oldest guy I saw was 65. His profile said he was 41 so accepted the booking. It was only until I met him that I realized he was a lot older that what he said but he still looked younger than 65 and he later told me it was because he kept active and fit (eg ran marathons and cycled). After the meet he told me he was 65 and I instantly felt weird and I was annoyed that I had been lied to. He was older than my grandad!

I've found that older guys between 30 to mid 40s show working girls more respect. They actually care about how you feel and make you feel comfortable. So I don't know whether to start accepting more meets with older men to see if i'm actually comfortable.

I would like to know what people think from a punters view and a working girls view, Thanks!

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I've always tried to show the lady the proper respect.

I'm 31 now and I've been doing this since age 22.

Possibly older guys have more respect simply due to the obvious reason because they are older and have matured - all the young bravado and daftness is out of their system.

But dont be lured into a false sense of security, I'm sure more than one lady on here can tell of a time they were mistreated or made to feel uncomfortable by an older guy.

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Hi,

I've been a wg for around 8 weeks and have had a series of emails from older people. I've been very dubious about whether to accept them or not seeing as I am only young. I think its sexual preference is the main reason for not accepting any yet.

The oldest guy I saw was 65. His profile said he was 41 so accepted the booking. It was only until I met him that I realized he was a lot older that what he said but he still looked younger than 65 and he later told me it was because he kept active and fit (eg ran marathons and cycled). After the meet he told me he was 65 and I instantly felt weird and I was annoyed that I had been lied to. He was older than my grandad!

I've found that older guys between 30 to mid 40s show working girls more respect. They actually care about how you feel and make you feel comfortable. So I don't know whether to start accepting more meets with older men to see if i'm actually comfortable.

I would like to know what people think from a punters view and a working girls view, Thanks!

Hi there.

I think the age thing is down to personal preference. If you don't want to see older men then simply say so on your website. Unfortunately this industry lends itself to lies because there is no form of legislation, so if one slips through the net, you'll have to put it down to experience, but I understand how you feel.

I see men of all ages and find the younger guys are more up for the sex as soon as they come in. The older guys like to take their time and why not? It's all about fun whichever way you like to have it.

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Hi Jennifer,

My take is that, at the grand old age of 56, it is still impossible for me to be intimate with a woman - be she a WG or not - unless I feel I can respect her. However if is to be a good punt I think respect has to works both ways, By that I mean I have to feel that the WG also has some degree of respect for me as a person (or at least gives a damn good impression that she respects me), as opposed to seeing me as some sort of creep.

There have been a couple of times in years gone by, when I've gone with someone but soon after it become clear that all they wanted was me "in and out", so to speak. As a result it I think it did little for either of us, except that they ended up with my cash!

Over the years I feel I've become very able at identifying WGs with whom I feel I share a mutual respect. The benefit for me is that if I feel there is that respect, I will have a good time (which hopefully the WG will have too, at least to some extent) and I will be likely to return because I know I will see someone who I can in someways relate to and relax with. And after all, as seeing a WG is often about finding some sort of escape from the crap that can be 'real' life, sex is supposed to be about doing something enjoyable with someone nice.

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From the male perspective, I would hate the younger me now. I'm in my 40's, but 20 years ago, I was a proper prat.

I guess we learn how to behave by getting it so wrong in our early years and learning from experience.

With wgs i like to take time, interact with the actual person, have a kiss & cuddle. It all adds to the occasion for me.

Don't get me wrong, there's some times when I just want to jump on the girl straight away. Lol

Maybe that's why I prefer wgs at least in their 30's too. They're not just the girl in the picture, but a person with life experience as well.

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Unfortunately this industry lends itself to lies because there is no form of legislation, so if one slips through the net, you'll have to put it down to experience, but I understand how you feel.

Now we have WG's complaining about punters lying about their age and bemoaning the lack of legislation to prevent it !!!!!!

We understand how you feel too, I mean was there ever a section of society more lied to and mislead than punters ?

More power to the grey pound !!!!!!!!!!!!

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More power to the grey pound !!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey it's the silver pound around these parts.

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Hi,

I've been a wg for around 8 weeks and have had a series of emails from older people. I've been very dubious about whether to accept them or not seeing as I am only young. I think its sexual preference is the main reason for not accepting any yet.

The oldest guy I saw was 65. His profile said he was 41 so accepted the booking. It was only until I met him that I realized he was a lot older that what he said but he still looked younger than 65 and he later told me it was because he kept active and fit (eg ran marathons and cycled). After the meet he told me he was 65 and I instantly felt weird and I was annoyed that I had been lied to. He was older than my grandad!

I've found that older guys between 30 to mid 40s show working girls more respect. They actually care about how you feel and make you feel comfortable. So I don't know whether to start accepting more meets with older men to see if i'm actually comfortable.

I would like to know what people think from a punters view and a working girls view, Thanks!

It all depends on the individual. With age can come maturity but not for all. Its your business who you wish to punt with but seeing all age groups increases your scope of punters obviously. Certainly feeling comfortable is what you should be in my opinion.

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I don't think necessarily that's the case. I'm young and have always respected women and people in general regardless of their profession. See who you want to see, that's up to you and no one else.

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Thanks guys.

I like to think of myself as quite mature even as I'm only 18. Seeing as I'm new to the scene I like talking and being made to feel comfortable.

I know its up to me but I just wanted to hear other peoples opinions

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I can see that you felt a little put out by your chap's lie about his age, and I do understand the thought process of 'You lied to me, I don't like that'.

But you need to remember that in actual fact, the lies that punters tell don't matter. He can tell you that he's 28, 6ft 2 and an airline pilot, and then arrive clearly 45, 5ft 7 and wearing an Asda uniform - and it doesn't matter, because as my old friend JRC would tell you, the customer is king.

The only lies that matter are the ones told by the 'Product Marketer' ie the hooker. The customer has the right to get what they thought they were buying, but the hooker doesn't get (or need) the right to 'choose' the calibre of the client, beyond the basic cleanliness and behavioural requirements.

By all means, if you'd prefer not to see the older guys, then make that clear. But in answer to your original post, you may well end up missing out as in my experience, older guys have had more time to hone their technique. Not just sexually, but in their approach as well. It's not about respect as such - it's about life-learned lessons and knowing that 'the hole is the goal' is not always the most satisfactory approach.

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Jennifer the older I get the more I appreciate women and life in general. The younger a woman is the more protective and "caring" I feel about her. So for me its not so much about respect, I respect females of all ages equally. As always with females there are exceptions.

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If I were to generalise then yes older men are more sweet and respectful than younger men. However I have also had plenty of adorable younger clients. In this game you will find yourself making judgements on age, race and nationality based on the experiences you have. Just try not to become too prejudiced because you may miss out on some great guys. Use your instinct when deciding on making a booking, think about your own security and enjoy what you do! Reading this forum will help learn how other girls operate and go look at the saafe website for more advice.

You will get clients who make you feel a bit icky, even if they haven't done anything wrong, but that is part of what you take on when you become an escort. Of course if it bothers you then you are entitled to have upper or lower age limits.

Good luck!

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I can see that you felt a little put out by your chap's lie about his age, and I do understand the thought process of 'You lied to me, I don't like that'.

But you need to remember that in actual fact, the lies that punters tell don't matter. He can tell you that he's 28, 6ft 2 and an airline pilot, and then arrive clearly 45, 5ft 7 and wearing an Asda uniform - and it doesn't matter, because as my old friend JRC would tell you, the customer is king.

The only lies that matter are the ones told by the 'Product Marketer' ie the hooker. The customer has the right to get what they thought they were buying, but the hooker doesn't get (or need) the right to 'choose' the calibre of the client, beyond the basic cleanliness and behavioural requirements.

I am completely honest on my profile. I state that I will only see white Males and that's not because I am racist It's just sexual preference. I also state on it that I prefer to see Men up to the age of 45. Sometimes I do change because I also judge people on the way they email and how they talk to me. I think you can get a feel of how a person is by the way they type and the language they use.

All this said, I have met a few guys who have ignored my profile and booked to see me and not letting me know their real age or their race.

But yea, I don't lie. All my pictures are real and they aren't photo enhanced at all. I just kinda expect the same honesty :)

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Certainly, I have great respect for all wgs that I meet, whatever age that they may be. Undoubtedly, this man was foolish for lying about his age - but I assure you that this is not the case with every older man!

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I am completely honest on my profile. I state that I will only see white Males and that's not because I am racist It's just sexual preference. I also state on it that I prefer to see Men up to the age of 45. Sometimes I do change because I also judge people on the way they email and how they talk to me. I think you can get a feel of how a person is by the way they type and the language they use.

All this said, I have met a few guys who have ignored my profile and booked to see me and not letting me know their real age or their race.

But yea, I don't lie. All my pictures are real and they aren't photo enhanced at all. I just kinda expect the same honesty :)

The joys of this game! A lot of men do not read profiles- they will still call and ask for things you have made very clear you don't do whether it be services or with regards to their age/race.

It's one of those things you have to suck up I'm afraid. If you're that bothered you need to question them more thoroughly when they make the booking and refuse to continue the booking should they arrive and be non white/old.

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I never judge or make my mind up about anyone until I actually meet them, well unless of course they behave completely out of order before then. In my experience age doesn't really make much difference. The times when younger guys have shown disrespect, well there were clues in the initial contact that I should have picked up upon - but I was trying to give them a chance. It's a learning curve and I still get things quite wrong occasionally!

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To me age has always been a number and really doesn't determine what a person is or isn't.

That said I have heard older people generally show more respect, but I don't think that is always the case.

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Now we have WG's complaining about punters lying about their age and bemoaning the lack of legislation to prevent it !!!!!!

At least there isn't (so far as I know??) any problem with punters doing a bait'n switch!

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Yea, just something I gotta put up with tbh haha.

But yea, I gave that man (the 65 year old) a chance in the end and it still made me feel weird but I was a little more relaxed about it if you know what I mean.

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Everything always boils down to the individual, not some characteristic or anything. If an escort personally prefers seeing older (or younger) clients then it could be for any number of reasons.

As for clients, everyone is different. Bitter old men, grumpy old farts, - every age group has its good and bad people.

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I am an old guy (probably the "oldest swinger in town"!!). When arranging a date with an escort I ALWAYS tell them that I am an old guy & ask them if they are o.k. with this. If they say "yes" I again ALWAYS ask them again when I arrive for the date if they are sure that they are o.k. with me. I have never been refused on the grounds that I am an old guy (even by the young escorts). I do however tend to try to see escorts aged 30 plus if at all possible.Most of the escorts I have seen (even those from agencies) state that they prefer us older guys because we treat them with more respect than the young guys some of whom I am told treat escorts as "meat". Having said all that I always look on an escort's profile to see if they state a maximum age for their clients. I have had some tremendous times with escorts some of whom are on this Forum - bless you Ladies, I think you are all great :D

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You don't need to see anyone you don't feel comfortable with, don't feel like you do or let anybody try to make you feel like you should.

Some people (as claire pointed out) think we need to see everyone and anyone but that's how you'll very quickly turn jaded and hate hooking.

If you're only comfortable seeing people up to 45, then do that. You might decide to put it up at some point when you become more comfortable with older men (and yes, you'll open yourself up to some lovely guys but that's not the point).

Oh, and if someone shows up who you don't want to see or don't feel comfortable with then don't feel you need to go through with the meeting, be it because of age (they should have read your profile) or one of those handy guy feelings (if you haven't already you'll quickly learn they're your best friend)!!

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Im 59 and have great respect for all women not just working girls. In my case you have to earn disrespect, then heaven help you.

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This is something I've noticed in conversations with a few working girls in their early twenties, it seems to ring true that there is a preference for the more mature client usually from the mid thirties age group onwards, being that they are often more respectful overall. In this context, I have heard some funny stories in regard to younger clients (18 to early twenties) who are obtuse, arrogant and demanding. One example I heard was of a young lad who promised an awesome performance, but lasted 5 seconds .However, there have been a number of unpleasant stories regarding the more mature punter to balance this, some examples I have known of have been downright rudeness, stalking, and demands of rough sex.

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