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Sarah Summers

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Working Girls see men every day. We are used to seeing men who sport a beard, or who are overweight, have bendy shaped willies, one leg etc etc... you all know what I mean I'm sure.

My question is, if you have something slightly 'different' about you, should you let your lady know before the punt takes place? I don't mean if you have a beer belly, I mean if you sport a full beard for instance, because some ladies do not like beards at all. Some gentlemen seem to overlook hygiene in this area and a smelly beard is a complete turn off - I'm actually pulling a face as I type :)

If you are grossly overweight, should you tell your lady about this? Some ladies don't like being squashed, it's that simple! I'm not trying to be awkward here.

When I see Asian clients, very often they write to me first asking if I mind seeing them. I find that to be most endearing, but some ladies don't like seeing them and this is their way of making sure there are no nasty surprises when the door is opened.

Similarly, when a guy has a medical condition or is disabled, I would expect him to let me know about it in advance. I think that is a 'given', but there have been occasions when a guy has turned up, and is clearly disabled. I feel that is wrong, because he has not afforded me either the right to say 'No' I don't want to see you, or indeed to make allowances for certain things, such as a little extra time for his disability (undressing, and dressing etc)

I'm pretty easy going, but there have been times when I have been mildly shocked when I open my door. It's my guess that guys think a girl would refuse to see them so they say nothing. It's also my guess that guys like these have a hard time getting repeat appointments so by not mentioning things before the appointment, they seal their own fate.

Any thoughts on this?

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Working Girls see men every day. We are used to seeing men who sport a beard, or who are overweight, have bendy shaped willies, one leg etc etc... you all know what I mean I'm sure.

My question is, if you have something slightly 'different' about you, should you let your lady know before the punt takes place? I don't mean if you have a beer belly, I mean if you sport a full beard for instance, because some ladies do not like beards at all. Some gentlemen seem to overlook hygiene in this area and a smelly beard is a complete turn off - I'm actually pulling a face as I type :)

If you are grossly overweight, should you tell your lady about this? Some ladies don't like being squashed, it's that simple! I'm not trying to be awkward here.

When I see Asian clients, very often they write to me first asking if I mind seeing them. I find that to be most endearing, but some ladies don't like seeing them and this is their way of making sure there are no nasty surprises when the door is opened.

Similarly, when a guy has a medical condition or is disabled, I would expect him to let me know about it in advance. I think that is a 'given', but there have been occasions when a guy has turned up, and is clearly disabled. I feel that is wrong, because he has not afforded me either the right to say 'No' I don't want to see you, or indeed to make allowances for certain things, such as a little extra time for his disability (undressing, and dressing etc)

I'm pretty easy going, but there have been times when I have been mildly shocked when I open my door. It's my guess that guys think a girl would refuse to see them so they say nothing. It's also my guess that guys like these have a hard time getting repeat appointments so by not mentioning things before the appointment, they seal their own fate.

Any thoughts on this?

Yes its just good manners to let the lady know of any 'surprises'.

When I contact a girl, I just let them know Im 59, just in case they have a problem with age. Its always nice to see their faces when they open the door and realise Im not a walking car crash.

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Yep - I sport a trim and spotlessly clean beard, which ( apart from tickling the odd girl when DATY) has never been the subject of comment from a WG. I am also diabetic and take medication for high BP and to control cholesterol. If I were to book you, would you need me to complete a medical questionnaire beforehand.. or would a letter from my doctor suffice?

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I love a beard!

I do get Sarah's point though - it's worse having to get to the door and then politely turn someone away.

Luckily, anyone I see with a disability makes me aware of it straight away so I can prepare in advance - leave more time, that sort of thing. Usually I don't have many other problems - the main issue I have is people turning up with cold sores and then I have to explain they won't be allowed any form of kissing or RO and then giving them the option to leave if they want to x x

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Yes its just good manners to let the lady know of any 'surprises'.

When I contact a girl, I just let them know Im 59, just in case they have a problem with age. Its always nice to see their faces when they open the door and realise Im not a walking car crash.

59? You're a punting baby!

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Yep - I sport a trim and spotlessly clean beard, which ( apart from tickling the odd girl when DATY) has never been the subject of comment from a WG. I am also diabetic and take medication for high BP and to control cholesterol. If I were to book you, would you need me to complete a medical questionnaire beforehand.. or would a letter from my doctor suffice?

One guy turned up at my gaff and explained that he had to give himself a viagra injection because of medical complications surrunding his disability. He did not previously explain the nature of his disabiity either, so although I knew he walked with a stick (which was all he told me in the email) I had no idea about the rest of it which he fully explained when he got here. A one hour appointment turned into three hours. He did this to every girl he saw and only ever got to see a girl the once.

I realise you are jesting, but - I was talking about obvious things such as being too big to fit into the lift etc etc..

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I've always done this when I've found a lady from their own website/space. Their website gives me an expectation of what to expect so I think it's only fair to return the favour.

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One of the very first ladies I saw – all those years ago and, like you Sarah, a well-known poster on this board – I spelt out all those details to her – my age, size, hirsuteness. She wasn’t remotely perturbed, so I’ve never bothered since.

I’m not obese, but pretty heavy! Now, I can imagine that an extreme pot-belly can restrict your positional options, but is squashing really a problem? I just go home with aching wrists! And has anyone ever described their willy to you in an unsolicited email?! :eek:

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One of the very first ladies I saw – all those years ago and, like you Sarah, a well-known poster on this board – I spelt out all those details to her – my age, size, hirsuteness. She wasn’t remotely perturbed, so I’ve never bothered since.

I’m not obese, but pretty heavy! Now, I can imagine that an extreme pot-belly can restrict your positional options, but is squashing really a problem? I just go home with aching wrists! And has anyone ever described their willy to you in an unsolicited email?! :eek:

I think you are all taking this too literally! Some ladies are very skinny you know ! And yes... I have had many an email asking if I would see a man with eleven inches and a three inch girth..LOL

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One guy turned up at my gaff and explained that he had to give himself a viagra injection because of medical complications surrunding his disability. He did not previously explain the nature of his disabiity either, so although I knew he walked with a stick (which was all he told me in the email) I had no idea about the rest of it which he fully explained when he got here. A one hour appointment turned into three hours. He did this to every girl he saw and only ever got to see a girl the once.

I realise you are jesting, but - I was talking about obvious things such as being too big to fit into the lift etc etc..

Point taken, Sarah. I did see mention of a client injecting himself with Viagra on another post recently. Brave man - needles and cocks...oooooooo I feel sick just thinking about it!!.

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I think you are all taking this too literally! Some ladies are very skinny you know ! And yes... I have had many an email asking if I would see a man with eleven inches and a three inch girth..LOL

So are you! - I know that you ladies get those sort of emails all the time. I've even been privileged to read a few! :)

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I certainly like to be able to exchange an Email or two before seeing a lady for the first time. It's not because (I believe) I've any features that might be worthy of mention like a wooden leg or somesuch. Rather it's to say upfront what I'm seeking and what I enjoy and to gain some reassurance that the lady concerned is content with that.

I've sometimes (very rarely) sent the lady a picture of myself - nothing remotely pervy! - to reassure the lady that I'm a normal friendly individual.

As I frequently book well in advance the exchange of an Email or two serves to heighten my feeling of pleasurable anticipation and in my experience 'breaks the ice' rather nicely.

Uncle Pokey

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I certainly like to be able to exchange an Email or two before seeing a lady for the first time. It's not because (I believe) I've any features that might be worthy of mention like a wooden leg or somesuch. Rather it's to say upfront what I'm seeking and what I enjoy and to gain some reassurance that the lady concerned is content with that.

I've sometimes (very rarely) sent the lady a picture of myself - nothing remotely pervy! - to reassure the lady that I'm a normal friendly individual.

As I frequently book well in advance the exchange of an Email or two serves to heighten my feeling of pleasurable anticipation and in my experience 'breaks the ice' rather nicely.

Uncle Pokey

Is the photo recent?

LOL

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So are you! - I know that you ladies get those sort of emails all the time. I've even been privileged to read a few! :)

Really? Rather indiscreet don't you think? :eek:

@ Sarah

If a gent does have a disability, he should mention this on initial contact as the ladies incall venue may not be disabled friendly i.e stairs

As for beards, I can't say I've ever seen a gent with a smelly beard. I quite like them as it happens. Feels very nice when... :D

With regards to obesity. It can be difficult but not impossible to find a position that suits both parties.

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Really? Rather indiscreet don't you think? :eek:

@ Sarah

If a gent does have a disability, he should mention this on initial contact as the ladies incall venue may not be disabled friendly i.e stairs

As for beards, I can't say I've ever seen a gent with a smelly beard. I quite like them as it happens. Feels very nice when... :D

With regards to obesity. It can be difficult but not impossible to find a position that suits both parties.

Fair comment. I just think politeness goes a long way. When I post threads like this I am talking generally, and I thought people would realise this.......... I have no aversion to beards btw, but I have encountered the odd smelly one..LOL

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I find it very difficult to put one of these intoductory emails together at all - and i don't have any particular problems relating to any of the things you mention. It's just a case of not wanting to come across as either too self assured or even too reserved. But i do think that once i start typing, i end up making something out of nothing, if you see what i mean, in an effort to over emphasise that i'm a fairly normal, albeit, quite a shy sort of bloke. On that basis I would definitely mention anything that i thought might have any effect on a proposed meeting!

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59? You're a punting baby!

Oh thank you, I love you already :wub: . Dont do tours to london do you?

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Working Girls see men every day. We are used to seeing men who sport a beard, or who are overweight, have bendy shaped willies, one leg etc etc... you all know what I mean I'm sure. My question is, if you have something slightly 'different' about you, should you let your lady know before the punt takes place? I don't mean if you have a beer belly, I mean if you sport a full beard for instance, because some ladies do not like beards at all. Some gentlemen seem to overlook hygiene in this area and a smelly beard is a complete turn off - I'm actually pulling a face as I type :) If you are grossly overweight, should you tell your lady about this? Some ladies don't like being squashed, it's that simple! I'm not trying to be awkward here. When I see Asian clients, very often they write to me first asking if I mind seeing them. I find that to be most endearing, but some ladies don't like seeing them and this is their way of making sure there are no nasty surprises when the door is opened. Similarly, when a guy has a medical condition or is disabled, I would expect him to let me know about it in advance. I think that is a 'given', but there have been occasions when a guy has turned up, and is clearly disabled. I feel that is wrong, because he has not afforded me either the right to say 'No' I don't want to see you, or indeed to make allowances for certain things, such as a little extra time for his disability (undressing, and dressing etc) I'm pretty easy going, but there have been times when I have been mildly shocked when I open my door. It's my guess that guys think a girl would refuse to see them so they say nothing. It's also my guess that guys like these have a hard time getting repeat appointments so by not mentioning things before the appointment, they seal their own fate. Any thoughts on this?

Honesty is the best policy. Apart from with a number of WGs on here i have no interest in emailing, all my punting arranging is done by phone.

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Honesty is the best policy. Apart from with a number of WGs on here i have no interest in emailing, all my punting arranging is done by phone.

That's basically what I was trying to say, and you said it in four words..LOL

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I certainly like to be able to exchange an Email or two before seeing a lady for the first time. It's not because (I believe) I've any features that might be worthy of mention like a wooden leg or somesuch. Rather it's to say upfront what I'm seeking and what I enjoy and to gain some reassurance that the lady concerned is content with that.

I've sometimes (very rarely) sent the lady a picture of myself - nothing remotely pervy! - to reassure the lady that I'm a normal friendly individual.

As I frequently book well in advance the exchange of an Email or two serves to heighten my feeling of pleasurable anticipation and in my experience 'breaks the ice' rather nicely.

Uncle Pokey

Most certainly not something i would ever do Uncle, send a picture of myself, its punting not dating, my looks as long as i am clean arent relevant unless perhaps i was extremely ugly, i am just ugly in fact and a lard arse. :)

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Most certainly not something i would ever do Uncle, send a picture of myself, its punting not dating, my looks as long as i am clean arent relevant unless perhaps i was extremely ugly, i am just ugly in fact and a lard arse. :)

I have lost count of the number of guys who have sent me a lovely email accompanied by a photo ( why is it always on a yacht?) which is at the very least.......... fifteen years old. I mean... in the photo they send they actually have hair :)

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Similarly, when a guy has a medical condition or is disabled, I would expect him to let me know about it in advance. I think that is a 'given', but there have been occasions when a guy has turned up, and is clearly disabled. I feel that is wrong, because he has not afforded me either the right to say 'No' I don't want to see you, or indeed to make allowances for certain things, such as a little extra time for his disability (undressing, and dressing etc)

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Any thoughts on this?

Yes. I'm disabled but to look at me you wouldn't usually know, unless I'm experiencing mobility problems that day and using a walking aid. Singularly the worst mistake I ever made was declaring it. My disability has been used as an excuse to refuse services. At one place some bitch told all the girls that I had AIDS - I don't. I've even had them use latex inspection gloves for the service! I've been left on the bed for 20 minutes and when I've gone to investigate where the girl has got to, she sent a security guard out (possibly tooled up - hand hovering near his rear waistband) and I got properly bolted up and told to leave without a refund.

If you're disabled my advice, unless it's immediately apparent like you're a paraplegic, is not to declare it. Some of these women are evil cunts.

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Similarly, when a guy has a medical condition or is disabled, I would expect him to let me know about it in advance. I think that is a 'given', but there have been occasions when a guy has turned up, and is clearly disabled. I feel that is wrong, because he has not afforded me either the right to say 'No' I don't want to see you, or indeed to make allowances for certain things, such as a little extra time for his disability (undressing, and dressing etc)

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Any thoughts on this?

Yes. I'm disabled but to look at me you wouldn't usually know, unless I'm experiencing mobility problems that day and using a walking aid. Singularly the worst mistake I ever made was declaring it. My disability has been used as an excuse to refuse services. At one place some bitch told all the girls that I had AIDS - I don't. I've even had them use latex inspection gloves for the service! I've been left on the bed for 20 minutes and when I've gone to investigate where the girl has got to, she sent a security guard out (possibly tooled up - hand hovering near his rear waistband) and I got properly bolted up and told to leave without a refund.

If you're disabled my advice, unless it's immediately apparent like you're a paraplegic, is not to declare it. Some of these women are evil cunts.

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I see clients of all physical statuses (is that the correct phrase?), the only information I need is whether or not the client requires any special arrangements for the booking.

That's it. I don't have a huge amount of experience with disabilities but I have seen men with various ailments and conditions. It's never been a problem apart from where someonecouldn't negotiate the stairs to my flat - and we bashed that out prior to any booking. I have seen someone who used the viagra injections, yes it took a little extra time for him to prepare, but we still concluded the appointment by the end of the 2 hours he'd booked.

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Yes. I'm disabled but to look at me you wouldn't usually know, unless I'm experiencing mobility problems that day and using a walking aid. Singularly the worst mistake I ever made was declaring it. My disability has been used as an excuse to refuse services. At one place some bitch told all the girls that I had AIDS - I don't. I've even had them use latex inspection gloves for the service! I've been left on the bed for 20 minutes and when I've gone to investigate where the girl has got to, she sent a security guard out (possibly tooled up - hand hovering near his rear waistband) and I got properly bolted up and told to leave without a refund.

If you're disabled my advice, unless it's immediately apparent like you're a paraplegic, is not to declare it. Some of these women are evil cunts.

I'm sorry to read this. Your experiences sound awful and I apologise on behalf of those who treated you like this, but I personally want to know if there is anything special about you so I can accommodate you properly, I bet you didn't get treated like this by an indie?

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