Sarah Summers

Does The Old Adage 'variety Is The Spice' Apply To Punting?

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I read a ;little phrase which I thought was rather nice - the author of it will know who they are..

'Familiarity breeds contentment'

Does this apply to punting or do people think the reverse is more apt?

I have regular clients. Some of them have been coming to me (or me to them) for a long time, and for me, the fun never dissipates, and the encounters are always good - for me at any rate.

I have seen guys who become a little over familiar and I find that to be slightly insulting to be honest, since I don't reciprocate.

I would prefer the boundaries to stay in place, it is simple etiquette, and reinforces the ethos of the punt as opposed to a relationship, no matter how many times we have met.

You can still respect the lady/punter you are fucking no matter how filthy/horny you get; there are still some things you would not do such as looking into her handbag or looking at her bookshelves and opening into envelopes/kitchen cupboards etc !

Actions like this make me reluctant to see that person any more I am afraid to say, so in some cases familiarity can be a bad thing, although the former statement far outweighs the latter for me

Any thoughts?

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I have tended to follow the "variety" adage and now in my last month of this thing we do, I feel strongly that in fact the familiarity method is far, far better, although it is of course now too late to follow it.

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The client/provider relationship is a professional one and if he is becoming overly familiar and you do not wish to reciprocate then it is definitely time to move.

As for your strap line "variety is the spice" I couldn't disagree more. Uninhibited snoggers who will let me come in their mouth aren't over plentiful so when I find a girl who pushes all the right buttons for me I will go back again and again.

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I do like variety but there are a few ladies who I go back to as i know I am almost guaranteed a good time. But over-familiarity can come from the other side as well. There is one lady I have seen quite a few times. On my last visit I mentioned I was going to an exhibition afterwards. She looked it up on the internet, liked the look of it and more or less invited herself along. She then got a text from her agency saying she had another appointment and so couldn't come (or, possibly, when I was reluctant, pretended a text was from the agency to avoid an awkward situation). That seemed over-familiar to me and a blurring of the proper boundaries. I will see her again as she is an first-class SP but I may have to be a little firmer with her if anything like that happens again. She is a lovely lady and I do enjoy my time with her but I do think it is best to keep things strictly professional.

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The client/provider relationship is a professional one and if he is becoming overly familiar and you do not wish to reciprocate then it is definitely time to move.

As for your strap line "variety is the spice" I couldn't disagree more. Uninhibited snoggers who will let me come in their mouth aren't over

plentiful so when I find a girl who pushes all the right buttons for me I will go back again and again.

Variety works well for me. I'm often the one to persuade prospective clients to push out of their comfort zone and try a mixed race girl/young girl/tall girl and they're often surprised that it works out so well, especially if they've had bad experiences in those areas before - it can be easy to stick with what you know. X

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To an extent but I generally prefer arranging bookings with girls from a small pool of tried and tested regulars

At present I'd say I have only 4 girls who are my first choice once the hormone levels start to rise

Once they get to know you, you build a rapport, they become more comfortable with you, they know what you like and, for me at least, the quality of punt remains consistently and reliably high

I now generally only go for 'newbies' if theyre particularly stunning or if my regulars are all occupied and I just cant wait

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I require the variety of punting with newbies to me but have regulars as well as it can be the case punting with them gets better and better as they get to know how i tick, exactly what i like sexually and how i like it. However i will get bored or they move on at some time so its a constant and enjoyable quest to find the next gem.

So ideal for me is a mixture of both. I expect no more than whats been agreed between us.

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I read a ;little phrase which I thought was rather nice - the author of it will know who they are..

'Familiarity breeds contentment'

Does this apply to punting or do people think the reverse is more apt?

I have regular clients. Some of them have been coming to me (or me to them) for a long time, and for me, the fun never dissipates, and the encounters are always good - for me at any rate.

I have seen guys who become a little over familiar and I find that to be slightly insulting to be honest, since I don't reciprocate.

I would prefer the boundaries to stay in place, it is simple etiquette, and reinforces the ethos of the punt as opposed to a relationship, no matter how many times we have met.

You can still respect the lady/punter you are fucking no matter how filthy/horny you get; there are still some things you would not do such as looking into her handbag or looking at her bookshelves and opening into envelopes/kitchen cupboards etc !

Actions like this make me reluctant to see that person any more I am afraid to say, so in some cases familiarity can be a bad thing, although the former statement far outweighs the latter for me

Any thoughts?

I go for the best of both worlds. A couple of ladies I see regularly, a small handful I see now and again and (about once per month or so) ladies who are new to me. This method suits me fine and works really well.

I think that regardless of how often you have seen someone though, that mutual respect really should be maintained. I could never imagine going poking around someone elses cupboards/handbags, regardless of whether I had known them 5 minutes or 5 years and equally regardless of whether they were a WG or not.

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I think that regardless of how often you have seen someone though, that mutual respect really should be maintained. I could never imagine going poking around someone elses cupboards/handbags, regardless of whether I had known them 5 minutes or 5 years and equally regardless of whether they were a WG or not.

I totally agree. ..and that's got to include not farting whilst in the sack. :eek:

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There's always something exciting about being with a girl for the first time and there's also something about being with the same girl multiple times. Both are fun :)

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I'd kill to have a regular that I can click with and discover myself sexually.

Looking into finding a Thai WG precisely for this reason in 2012

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I rarely visit the same girl twice, it's the excitement of a different location and someone I've never met before.

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There's always something exciting about being with a girl for the first time and there's also something about being with the same girl multiple times. Both are fun :)

Don't sit on the fence man :)

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I do like variety but there are a few ladies who I go back to as i know I am almost guaranteed a good time. But over-familiarity can come from the other side as well. There is one lady I have seen quite a few times. On my last visit I mentioned I was going to an exhibition afterwards. She looked it up on the internet, liked the look of it and more or less invited herself along. She then got a text from her agency saying she had another appointment and so couldn't come (or, possibly, when I was reluctant, pretended a text was from the agency to avoid an awkward situation). That seemed over-familiar to me and a blurring of the proper boundaries. I will see her again as she is an first-class SP but I may have to be a little firmer with her if anything like that happens again. She is a lovely lady and I do enjoy my time with her but I do think it is best to keep things strictly professional.

Do you blame yourself for letting her 'get ahead of herself'. I find it's usually the other way around!

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I don't think i'm sitting on the fence. It's great to have a regualr wg but also great to meet new girls. I do both.

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Do you blame yourself for letting her 'get ahead of herself'. I find it's usually the other way around!

I can't blame myself because I don't think there is anything to be blamed for. For a start, it may be that she was never serious in inviting herself along or only saying what she thought I wanted to hear (I'm 90% sure not but then there is the matter of the suspiciously timely text) or even that she was thinking of the extra time together as paid time (I'm 99% sure it wasn't that as she has never been mercenary, isn't a clockwatcher, and has on a previous occasion refused to accept from me the extra she usually charges for anal when she did the act spontaneously during a meeting). Even if she was sincere it may be that this is standard practice for her; she is a lady who can be uncomfortable when attention is drawn to the monetary side of things so possibly she is in the habit of seeing her regulars socially just so, to put it frankly, she feels less like a prostitute. Even if she was sincere and it was an unusual thing for her to do, I can't consider it blameworthy that she feels comfortable enough with me to go out with me socially or got swept up in the moment and forgot the rules or whatever it was. I don't think it is smart, I reckon it is best to keep things tidy by observing the boundaries, but that doesn't mean I think it is a bad or blameworthy thing not to.

Of course, if things were the other way around there wouldn't be this ambiguity: if a client tried to wangle a free social date from an escort you could be pretty sure what that meant and wouldn't be dragged into the sort of over-analysing of which I am patently guilty here.

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I rarely visit the same girl twice, it's the excitement of a different location and someone I've never met before.

Judging by your impressive list of FRs (209 online out of 236 written), that is a LOT of different girls at a LOT of different locations. Respect ! It's no wonder you rarely repeat visit, you just can't have the time :) .

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Variety works well for me. I'm often the one to persuade prospective clients to push out of their comfort zone and try a mixed race girl/young girl/tall girl and they're often surprised that it works out so well, especially if they've had bad experiences in those areas before - it can be easy to stick with what you know. X

"Out of the their comfort zone" ? I've recently been persuaded by my favourite regular to try some "Variety", and have an appointment with a young mixed race girl later this week. This is MILES outside my own personal comfort zone, but has me in a "fever of anticipation", which is rather thrilling. :D

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I can't blame myself because I don't think there is anything to be blamed for. For a start, it may be that she was never serious in inviting herself along or only saying what she thought I wanted to hear (I'm 90% sure not but then there is the matter of the suspiciously timely text) or even that she was thinking of the extra time together as paid time (I'm 99% sure it wasn't that as she has never been mercenary, isn't a clockwatcher, and has on a previous occasion refused to accept from me the extra she usually charges for anal when she did the act spontaneously during a meeting). Even if she was sincere it may be that this is standard practice for her; she is a lady who can be uncomfortable when attention is drawn to the monetary side of things so possibly she is in the habit of seeing her regulars socially just so, to put it frankly, she feels less like a prostitute. Even if she was sincere and it was an unusual thing for her to do, I can't consider it blameworthy that she feels comfortable enough with me to go out with me socially or got swept up in the moment and forgot the rules or whatever it was. I don't think it is smart, I reckon it is best to keep things tidy by observing the boundaries, but that doesn't mean I think it is a bad or blameworthy thing not to.

Of course, if things were the other way around there wouldn't be this ambiguity: if a client tried to wangle a free social date from an escort you could be pretty sure what that meant and wouldn't be dragged into the sort of over-analysing of which I am patently guilty here.

She sounds rather nice actually!

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I don't think i'm sitting on the fence. It's great to have a regualr wg but also great to meet new girls. I do both.

Chill. I was being funny :)

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I read a ;little phrase which I thought was rather nice - the author of it will know who they are..

'Familiarity breeds contentment'

Does this apply to punting or do people think the reverse is more apt?

I have regular clients. Some of them have been coming to me (or me to them) for a long time, and for me, the fun never dissipates, and the encounters are always good - for me at any rate.

I have seen guys who become a little over familiar and I find that to be slightly insulting to be honest, since I don't reciprocate.

I would prefer the boundaries to stay in place, it is simple etiquette, and reinforces the ethos of the punt as opposed to a relationship, no matter how many times we have met.

You can still respect the lady/punter you are fucking no matter how filthy/horny you get; there are still some things you would not do such as looking into her handbag or looking at her bookshelves and opening into envelopes/kitchen cupboards etc !

Actions like this make me reluctant to see that person any more I am afraid to say, so in some cases familiarity can be a bad thing, although the former statement far outweighs the latter for me

Any thoughts?

I wouldn't dream of looking through my wife's handbag (unless specifically asked to retrieve something from it), in the same way I wouldn't expect her to look through my briefcase. Even in marriage there are some privacy boundaries IMHO. If I came even close to invading a (even regular) WG's privacy in this way I would expect to be shown the door abruptly! :eek:

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I wouldn't dream of looking through my wife's handbag (unless specifically asked to retrieve something from it), in the same way I wouldn't expect her to look through my briefcase. Even in marriage there are some privacy boundaries IMHO. If I came even close to invading a (even regular) WG's privacy in this way I would expect to be shown the door abruptly! :eek:

Exactly!... but I was using that one as a rough example.......... nobody did that yet VH ! Things that have been done are :- looking in my kitchen cupboards, examining my shelves and one guy lifted up an envelope from a shelf and looked inside it, saw some money and asked me if it was a fee....... I was mortified at the cheek of it

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As I tend to punt less frequently now than when I was in full time employment, I go for variety. There are one or two ladies I have seen more than once, and plan on seeing again, but more often than not I like a change.

I try to respect the boundaries, and would never think of looking in cupboards, open envelopes etc, but I would not think too hard before looking at books on a shelf if it was in the room we were using. I would regard it as a way of starting a new line of conversation. If the lady doesn't want me to look she should think about putting her books in another room.

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As I tend to punt less frequently now than when I was in full time employment, I go for variety. There are one or two ladies I have seen more than once, and plan on seeing again, but more often than not I like a change.

I try to respect the boundaries, and would never think of looking in cupboards, open envelopes etc, but I would not think too hard before looking at books on a shelf if it was in the room we were using. I would regard it as a way of starting a new line of conversation. If the lady doesn't want me to look she should think about putting her books in another room.

Yes, look at my books by all means, but don't go through my bookshelves and look at other stuff tucked away !

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