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Email From The Client's "wife"

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I've recently receive an email, which is supposed to be from one of my client's wife. I am publishing it here, but obviously removing names.

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hiya xenia

you do not know me but i know you through my husband's emails and messages, you both send to eachother to see eachother. i want to clear one thing what ever i'm going to write pls pls do not think there is your fault, i'm not going to blame you why did you see my husband becos i know that is your profession. i do not have any problem with tthat but i do not know wether i should ask you to help me or not but i love my husband more than anything in this world. i would like him to come out of this addiction. six months ago i find out, he is going to see different girls for the last 10 years and he is addicted to sex and he wants help so i took him for councilling but after 2 months he went again to see some one. now we are seperate from eachother for the time being but i want to know what kind of fantasies he has what did he ask you to do for him, what did he like. all these question comes in my mind all the time becos in the last 15 years of marriage i do not remember we had arguments or we did not have good sex life. we enjoyed our sex life too much but still he goes out to see other gils which i can not uderstand at all. if you want me to meet you i'm ready to meet you just to have some conversation about this . i know you are a very busy lady, do not take me wrong ,i will pay you for your time. might be you thinking i.m stupid woman who is writing a letter to you but xenia i do not know i have a feeling you do have good heart and help me what is my husbands fantasies what he asked you when ever he come to see you or you can give me some tips. pls if you do not want to see me at least reply to me pls. i'm so confused ido not know what to do. i'm looking forward your reply.

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When I read it, I instantly knew that it was sent by the client, not by his wife. Ok, maybe its just my female intuition, plus few other give aways. I only 98% certain that the client wrote it.

If course, to make myself 100% convinced, I started to analyse the grammar, punctuation, paragraphs (or lack of it) spelling, etc: there was not much to go on, as this particular client only was sent me 5-6 emails in the past, and they all contained 1 or 2 sentences.

The only thing I noticed, that lack of capital letters at the beginning of the sentence, abbreviation "pls" (please) is exactly the same, as the client's, and spelling of the "becos" (because) misspelled also, as this client did in his email.

I am at first wanted to reply to him: "I know, you wrote it", but what if its 2% possibility its still might be her?

Whatever outcome is, I am not going to reply, and ignore further emails from this guy. The most upsetting thing is: why some clients treat us as an idiots with this silly games? Or maybe it was really his wife? What do you think?

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Hi Xenia - Can't comment who wrote it, but the mail is devoid of emotion which would be unusual for the split partner of a cheating husband. Also this mail is asking you to re-live his fantasies, from your perspective - for whose amusement ?

Suspect - you know it already :)

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Is your client a native English speaker? To me, this feels as though it was written by someone for whom English was not his/her first language. I could be wrong, but some of the phrasing is a bit weird. I mention this because maybe that will help you pin down who actually wrote it...

But whoever wrote it, the whole thing looks rather peculiar, and I think your decision not to reply is absolutely correct. Whatever's going on, you're well out of it.

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Oh no, how confusing and upsetting for you! I would be totally the same, unsure what to think and whatever my instinct told me I'd argue back with myself 'what if I am wrong'.

My advice is to do as you have said- ignore or reply very simply saying. I am afraid I do not discuss any business regarding my clients with anyone else.

If its him, he knows you are discreet and if its her you're telling her you don't want to get involved.

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Hi Xenia,

I don't know what to make of that email honi, what do your instincts say ? is he the type of client to do something like that do you think ?

there maybe some truth in it, like you say- small possibility that it could come from wife, unusual but possible. Go on your instincts xxx

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Because it reads like crap thats why! God I hate people who can't use grammar or punctuation properly - my inner English student is coming out!

Doesn't seem genuine to me at all. Gut instinct just says so.

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Is your client a native English speaker? To me, this feels as though it was written by someone for whom English was not his/her first language. I could be wrong, but some of the phrasing is a bit weird. I mention this because maybe that will help you pin down who actually wrote it...

He is Asian (South Asian), was not born in UK, but lived here since he was 13 yo. (or so he said to me, as far as I remember). He is a fluent in English, albeit with a deep accent.

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That email sounds like some sort of mind-game to me. Or maybe a sexual fantasy for the client.

I agree with it being devoid of emotion, but it's more than that. I can't imagine many wives being so willing to meet an escort her husband is seeing. The most common response would be to say nothing at all. After that, they'd probably be like 'I'm his wife, please don't contact him again.' They wouldn't want to meet just to discuss sexual fantasies, and so on.

Very bizarre, very weird and very creepy, whether it is from the client or from the wife. Mark it under 'spam' in your inbox.

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Because it reads like crap thats why! God I hate people who can't use grammar or punctuation properly - my inner English student is coming out!

Doesn't seem genuine to me at all. Gut instinct just says so.

You've missed out an apostrophe and a comma somewhere :)

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Xenia, I think you're right to avoid future emails from this chap, whether it was he or his wife who wrote that other email.

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Hi Xenia,

I don't know what to make of that email honi, what do your instincts say ? is he the type of client to do something like that do you think ?

xxx

Natasha, I don't know what type of the client he is. He is not a regular, and only seen him twice before for a short one hour meeting over a year ago. In fact I hardly remember who he is. (just a parts of conversation with him, but nothing regarding sex). He probably was quite unremarkable, which is actually a good thing, lol.

You never know what to expect from your past clients. During the last 3 years, when my circumstances changed I found myself to take an appointments from the guys, who I never would consider to see, if they book me me 5 years ago or so. Following it, that some undesirable clients slipping through, and you feel awful when they leave. Still: talking to the girls, that situation does not apply to me only.

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I think you are right, I don't think it was written by a female, especially a scorned woman. Some observations, to check with the previous emails.

hiya - very informal given nature of message.

eachother - word joining

lot of sentences with obvious words missing.

"i want to clear one thing"

"do not think there is your fault,"

councilling

uderstand

becos

wether

seperate

Nearly all the spelling errors are phonetic mis-spelling.

I think he just wants free porn emails.

Trust your instinct.

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Natasha, I don't know what type of the client he is. He is not a regular, and only seen him twice before for a short one hour meeting over a year ago. In fact I hardly remember who he is. (just a parts of conversation with him, but nothing regarding sex). He probably was quite unremarkable, which is actually a good thing, lol.

You never know what to expect from your past clients. During the last 3 years, when my circumstances changed I found myself to take an appointments from the guys, who I never would consider to see, if they book me me 5 years ago or so. Following it, that some undesirable clients slipping through, and you feel awful when they leave. Still: talking to the girls, that situation does not apply to me only.

If this were me, I would not respond to the email at all, and further than that - i would not see him again. He's crossed a line by trying to hoodwink you so he has fucked up.

I have recently returned to working after a long time of only seeing regulars and even then only occasionally. I have seen two clients who left me feeling awful when they left, and they were a stark reminder of the 'rough with the smooth'. I felt cheap and used and compromised by my own weakness at not sending them on their way sooner.

I think WGs have to have the hide of a rhinoceros to be able to survive in this biz.

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I think you are right, I don't think it was written by a female, especially a scorned woman. Some observations, to check with the previous emails.

hiya - very informal given nature of message.

eachother - word joining

lot of sentences with obvious words missing.

"i want to clear one thing"

"do not think there is your fault,"

councilling

uderstand

becos

wether

seperate

Nearly all the spelling errors are phonetic mis-spelling.

I think he just wants free porn emails.

Trust your instinct.

Agreed!

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I suspect if this email was from a "wife" it would be less polite and pleading.

A wife would be hell bent, regardless of if she still fancied/loved her hubby or not....

The part about asking you to tell "her" what "her" husband liked...oh "purleeze".

As if any other woman on the face of the earth wants another female to tell her what goes on in the bedroom with her husband, this idea makes me smile and shake my head..not likely!

Trust your gut, usually right.

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If this were me, I would not respond to the email at all, and further than that - i would not see him again. He's crossed a line by trying to hoodwink you so he has fucked up.

I have recently returned to working after a long time of only seeing regulars and even then only occasionally. I have seen two clients who left me feeling awful when they left, and they were a stark reminder of the 'rough with the smooth'. I felt cheap and used and compromised by my own weakness at not sending them on their way sooner.

I think WGs have to have the hide of a rhinoceros to be able to survive in this biz.

I totally know where you are coming from.

In my previous "incarnation" (name change) I saw a "gent" or five who quite literally made me want to hurl.,... attitudes pretty bad,in fact I do not think some of them even like females...and sees escorts in order to project their demons on to..all very toxic I must say.

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It could also be a third party of course, not him or his wife. Another reason to not get involved.

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For what it's worth the email was not written by his wife, most certainly by him. When a wife does find out that her husband is a punter you ask all the questions why, where what did you do? I asked these very questions to my OH I needed to know.

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You have been paid for the service you provided by the person you provided them to, end of... I wouldn't expect Tesco's to respond to my wifes emails about what I bought in their shop in the past (and I am not comparing your service with Tescos obviously, although clubcard points might be the way forward).

Any response opens the door for more questions i.e. why wont you tell me, can you at least tell me xyz, blah blah. Block the email address by setting as spam.

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You have always been the super sleuth Xenia - if you think you are right you probably are!

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Xenia your doing the right thing not replying and ignoring further emails. That is exactly what I would do if it were me.

Shelly

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Xenia, this is obviously the client who just wants you to sent him something he can have a w*nk over. Don't waste your time replying and don't see him again. Who know where his creepy weirdoness ends.

It's truly amazing that with the sheer amount of limitless free pornographic material you can get on the internet in every form imaginable there are people who prefer to waste someone else’s time getting that 'personal' touch sitting in front of a computer screen.

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It could also be a third party of course, not him or his wife. Another reason to not get involved.

I'd second that. I've seen people play tricks on each other using texts and emails because both are anonymous. Based on the elements of fantasy, I'm certain that the email was written by a man, if not your client, then perhaps a "friend" playing a prank on him?

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Because it reads like crap thats why! God I hate people who can't use grammar or punctuation properly - my inner English student is coming out!

You've missed out an apostrophe and a comma somewhere :)

Brilliant Jayna! :)

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Xenia, this is obviously the client who just wants you to sent him something he can have a w*nk over. Don't waste your time replying and don't see him again. Who know where his creepy weirdoness ends.

It's truly amazing that with the sheer amount of limitless free pornographic material you can get on the internet in every form imaginable there are people who prefer to waste someone else’s time getting that 'personal' touch sitting in front of a computer screen.

I don't think it is at all. If Xenia is right in suspecting it's the client, he's not interested in any old wank material, it's Xenia that has aroused his imagination, and only hearing her account of their sessions can give him what he wants.

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