MinxyLydia

Communication

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Inspired by comments on the thread about stopping yourself cumming and real life experience obviously... I thought this might be fun.

I made a comment about communication being important- a WG is not a mind reader and all men have different abilities and likes and dislikes. For example some want kissing some don't, some love their nipples being played with, some hate it and opinions on anal play vary dramatically! I thought how much easier it would be if a man had to complete a questionnaire when he arrived!

here's my first draft based on things I wish I knew!

Delete as applicable:

I like getting to know a WG and engaging in small talk/chat before the naughty stuff starts

I just want to get straight down to it

I want kissing

I don't want kissing

I want to/am able to come as many times as possible in the time limits

make me come asap then again before the end of the session

Please don't make me come too quickly- save it for a grand finale.

I won't come at all

Play with my nipples

bite and tug on my nipples

Don't go anywhere near my nipples!

I like my balls licking

Don't lick my balls, tickles like hell

I will make peculiar noises when I come, please don't be alarmed

I will come silently so you don't know whether to carry on bouncing or not!

a cheeky finger in the arse is good

Don't go anywhere near my arse, I'm no poof!

.....

There are loads more I'm sure- add your own boys and girls!

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Very good, I like to get down to the foreplay first,the last WG I saw went straight for the DFK, I was taken aback as I was not expecting it and don't really like doing it but, she was good at it so I carried on, would rather have been asked first though!

Most WGs I've been with like me performing oral on them, one of the Oriental girls I was with though, didn't mind but asked me not to suck but lick!

So, if it wasn't for the sake that when I see a lady I want to instantly go down on her then yes, I would love to fill out a questionnaire but if the girls could ask the questions and do the filling in and I'll just grunt whilst I'm sucking/licking ( I can just see it now, my face buried deep in a pussy and the girl asking me questions)!!!

You are right though, a very good idea.

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- I like getting to know a WG and engaging in small talk/chat before the naughty stuff starts

I just want to get straight down to it - depends on my mood, and the girl, play this by ear

- I want kissing - definitely

- I want to/am able to come as many times as possible in the time limits - but usually just twice in an hour

- Play with my nipples - love this - gentle sucking and licking

- I like my balls licking - yep

- I will make peculiar (and loud) noises when I come, please don't be alarmed - laughing is fine too :P

- a cheeky finger in the arse is good - but only in the bath or shower

- enthusiastically offer your face/mouth/boobs as a 'finishing' target

- dont stop milking/sucking during orgasm - carry on until i ask you to stop

- always swallow

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- I like getting to know a WG and engaging in small talk/chat before the naughty stuff starts

I just want to get straight down to it - depends on my mood, and the girl, play this by ear

- I want kissing - definitely

- I want to/am able to come as many times as possible in the time limits - but usually just twice in an hour

- Play with my nipples - love this - gentle sucking and licking

- I like my balls licking - yep

- I will make peculiar (and loud) noises when I come, please don't be alarmed - laughing is fine too :P

- a cheeky finger in the arse is good - but only in the bath or shower

- enthusiastically offer your face/mouth/boobs as a 'finishing' target

- dont stop milking/sucking during orgasm - carry on until i ask you to stop

- always swallow

And now we all know! ;)

Actually that milking/sucking thing is quite useful to know! Some guys get sensitive really quickly and want you to let go but I never want to stop too soon in case it spoils the moment!

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Delete as applicable:

- I like getting to know a WG and engaging in small talk/chat before the naughty stuff starts

I just want to get straight down to it - depends on my mood, and the girl, play this by ear

- I want kissing - definitely

- I want to/am able to come as many times as possible in the time limits - but usually just twice in an hour

- Play with my nipples - love this - gentle sucking and licking

- I like my balls licking - yep

- I will make peculiar (and loud) noises when I come, please don't be alarmed - laughing is fine too :P

- a cheeky finger in the arse is good - but only in the bath or shower

- enthusiastically offer your face/mouth/boobs as a 'finishing' target

- dont stop milking/sucking during orgasm - carry on until i ask you to stop

- always swallow

Man alive Bill, you definitely want your money's worth..........lol

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I saw a man recently who I last saw about three years ago. He came once and could not manage it again. Three years is a long time. I could not remember the details of our previous time together. This time he stopped himself from cumming about ten times that I noticed, probably more. In the end he could not come at all and let me feel guilty about it. We tried everything but his little friend which was still hard would not perform. I wondered why he kept stopping at the crucial moment which was not fair on me since the punt ran considerably over and he showed no willingness to leave at all. In the end I had to kick him out and he let me take the blame. Even when he had his coat on in the doorway he tried to start things up again and he put me in a bad position since I had to tell him to go now.

Afterwards i was cross with myself for allowing him to play me like that. He overstayed by one hour because he made me feel like it was my fault

Communication is the key. Good thread Lydia

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Man alive Bill, you definitely want your money's worth..........lol

(always swallow)

Yeah .......... I'll be lucky

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Inspired by comments on the thread about stopping yourself cumming and real life experience obviously... I thought this might be fun.

I made a comment about communication being important- a WG is not a mind reader and all men have different abilities and likes and dislikes. For example some want kissing some don't, some love their nipples being played with, some hate it and opinions on anal play vary dramatically! I thought how much easier it would be if a man had to complete a questionnaire when he arrived!

here's my first draft based on things I wish I knew!

Delete as applicable:

I like getting to know a WG and engaging in small talk/chat before the naughty stuff starts

I just want to get straight down to it

I want kissing

I don't want kissing

I want to/am able to come as many times as possible in the time limits

make me come asap then again before the end of the session

Please don't make me come too quickly- save it for a grand finale.

I won't come at all

Play with my nipples

bite and tug on my nipples

Don't go anywhere near my nipples!

I like my balls licking

Don't lick my balls, tickles like hell

I will make peculiar noises when I come, please don't be alarmed

I will come silently so you don't know whether to carry on bouncing or not!

a cheeky finger in the arse is good

Don't go anywhere near my arse, I'm no poof!

.....

There are loads more I'm sure- add your own boys and girls!

Perhaps you should ask gents to fill in this questionnaire whilst you are putting away their payment :D

- enthusiastically offer your face/mouth/boobs as a 'finishing' target

- dont stop milking/sucking during orgasm - carry on until i ask you to stop

- always swallow

I wholeheartedly agree with all of those! Adding derrière as another lovely place to shoot one' load.

Can be so frustrating when I am enjoying some OWO/HR and have just begun to climax only for the stimulation to immediately be halted :huh:

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All i want is what i have very clearly and concisely agreed with the WG she offers during my phone chat. I will always stick to my end of the deal, turning up as agreed with the correct cash, clean and respectful.

For an ideal punt the WG being naked in very high clear porn heels tottering on them as she walks (not falling over though of course) or if not practical in the skimpiest clothespossible is a good start. Into the shower with her naked revving my engine from just outside the cublicle.

DFK and OWO are essentials, RO, Cim, Rimming (her on me), Dirty Talk, Snowballing, Anal Play both ways and Swallow are always fun. If anything is offered i like i accept which happens from time to time.

I long ago stopped being embarrassed to tell WGs exactly how i like things and dont waste time being indecisive which i often see from punters at parties although i understand nerves are affecting some.

I know my body better than anyone so i know if i can manage this or that normally although i have been overwhelmed by the relentless onslaught at parties sometimes having to cry off like a baby to seek refuge, a very poor excuse for a man as one Party WG screamed at me while laughing when i had no more spunk to give. This happens less often at 121 punts as i can control the environment more and obviously there is but one lady, although with some one is more than enough.

So its just fun, fun, fun i am wanting and thats usually what i receive.

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One thing that drives me nuts when asking a man 'is there anything in particular you'd like?' type questions is those that say 'oh anything!' or similarly vague answers. I sometimes (if in naughty mood and have judged the man's sense of humour right) say 'OK then, we'll get you tied to the bed and whipped by my midget with a stick of celery'.

They often then decide they don't want just 'anything'!

Tee hee!

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Lydia, you are a godsend. I'm printing out copies as I type. ;)

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Thanks for asking Lydia !!

A nice Greeting Cuddle is important and then I want an opportunity to "arrive" , to shower, a nice big (Ish) fresh towel, a drink offer is nice,.usually a juice, but i sometimes like to bring a small bottle of champagne to enliven the OJ.

I like getting to know a WG a little ( nice to break the ice a bit, establish a bit of rapport ) .......... engaging in small talk/chat or a short but decent back/legs massage, Ladies nipples gently tracing up the back and a nuzzle into the neck is lovely ..............and a great way to move from this phase into phase 2.

I want kissing... full on DFK , not necessarily immediately (ie not at the door when I come in, but work up to it .. teasing first and gradually gettting more sensuous )

I really enjoy the whole foreplay teasing thing ...so don't usually want to dive into penetration too soon. So caressing, exploring each other kissing RO ..OWO and tender ball licking all lovely stuff .and thank you !!..................So, having some tactile fun is all important before we get to shagging. Nipples played with and enjoyed both ways .....

Phase 2 ...Even then its nice to take it slowly at first, enjoy the moment . enjoy the first feelings of penetration and the felling of being inside you. so I don't want to go straight into a fast furous shag .. several positions perhaps ?? Crouching Cowgirl is a great favourite if you can manage it, some ladies really specilise in this and its just fantasitc visuallly ...A bit more RO as we go on .........depending on how much you are enjoying things / engaging in the whole process/ its particulraly nice if you enjoy it too and if , perchance we manage to get you to orgasm too .........Bonus !! But not absolutely essential for me .Like I say if it happens its a lovely bonus ! However, I do like a bit of feedback .So if something is really nice just say so, or you want more of or less of something ...just say so! .. Please !!....fake moans are a big turn OFF !! But if something is working or you really want to come, or you don't want something to stop.please just say so. I am not a mind reader !!

I will tell you when something is nice and hitting the spot.....give me some feebcak about your own body / situation.

So, don't try make me come too quickly- save it for a grand finale, but there maybe times , especially in an hour when I might prefer the quicky , recover and Round 2 ....perhaps ask ?? or lets include it in the small talk stuff.

You'll know when I've come , and once I have you need to lay off a bit as I get qute sensitive for a short while .!

Not much intersted in Bum play either way ...but please ensure everything is well cleansed in that area.....for me nothing is more sure fired to wreck a punt or a mood than whiffs.

If you especially like your bum played with .just say so .I'm happy to play with your botty .......but I don't need to kiss it .nor do i like my own orifice played with ..One way traffic I am comfortable with.

All of that .............& I am a very happy bunny.

Cuddle up .a chat , see how things progress,

Love every minute !! Thanks !!

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Big DFK the minute I get out of the shower

then drop to your knees and start sucking

spin me round and start "tromboning" (giving me a good auld rim with a reach around)

shove a vibrating butt plug in my ass

tell me to throw you to the bed by your hair and get in to a 69

use all her toys on her

then go with the natural flow in terms of different fucking positions

finish with either a full facial or deep CIM with swallow

dry me off when I come back out of the shower

dress me - especially socks and undies (my knees should be too weak to be able to do this myself if the WG has done her job properly

tell me I'm the biggest and the best ever and you cannot wait for me to see you again

or alternatively - "oh just anything really"...... :)

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Reading the last two posts made me feel like I have been sleeping on my punts all this while.......lol

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This could go down under the thread on best thing to happen in a punt, but this conversation took place with my favourite lady;

Sucking my cock, I asked "When I cum can you let me cum in your mouth?"

"Sure, no problem".

"Would you dribble some cum down my shaft".

"Of course".

"And if its not asking too much lick it back up and then kiss me with a mouthful of cum? I hope I'm not asking too much".

"No problem, if it keeps you happy"

Result!

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Wasn't Lydia's original intention for this thread to throw up some of the questions that could/should be asked, rather than to go through individual answers?

Apologies if I misread it.

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Wasn't Lydia's original intention for this thread to throw up some of the questions that could/should be asked, rather than to go through individual answers?

Apologies if I misread it.

Thank you Asgard!

But at least I know what to do if I ever meet the above men!

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