wishihadnt

Advice Needed - Starting A New Relationship And Leaving Punting

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Hi everyone.

New to punternet (or anything like this to be honest).

Looking for some advice as follows.

Until a couple of years ago, I hadn't ventured into the world of punting. I was going through a pretty low point in life and visited a few WGs for OWO and protected sex - somewhere in the region of 3-4 girls, maybe 5 or 6 visits in total. Last visit was around 4 months back. First punt involved OWO both ways and protected sex. Other punts involved OWO on me only, and protected sex. Probably some fingering on a few occasions.

I did enjoy most of the experiences at the time obviously (human nature) but feel some regret now at what I have done in terms of risks.

I'm at a point in life where things have turned around for me. I've met a few regular girls recently - one was a very drunken 'one night stand' holiday affair a couple of months back - protected, but a bit risky and did involve oral without etc.

Now recently, I've started to befriend a girl who is very interested in me. I'd like to make sure I look out for her and health.

I am trying to do the right thing. For the first time in my life, I visited a local GUM clinic to see if I could be checked up. I was pretty nervous as it was the only time I've been to somewhere like this - but pleased I went

They've taken a pee sample to check for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, and also a couple of blood tests to check for HIV and Herpes (IIRC). I should have mentioned that I had seen a couple of WGs, but bottled it (stupidly). Would they have tested for anything else otherwise?

I am generally a healthy person, but if I'm 100% honest I do wonder about the risk of Chlamydia/Gonorrhea - especially as I have read some people don't display very obvious symptoms.

Is there anything else I should be doing? I've never had unprotected sex - not even with non-working girls (to be honest, had never been in any serious long-term relationships!). And I will definitely not partake in any unprotected sex with this girl until I am sure that I am clean from the above, but are there any other risks? Other unidentified infections etc?

What would any of you lot do in my position?

I just want to make sure that I am not likely to pass on any serious/unidentified infections to this girl who I very much care about now.

Any advice most welcomed - and call me an idiot if I've done anything too wrong here.

Thanks

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I assume that you are still waiting for your results.

I'm not an expert but it sounds to me that, having visited the clinic and been tested, you've done everything one would reasonably expect. Also as far as what you've described with your punting, you appear to have conducted your activities pretty safely, so hopefully you'll have nothing to worry about and things will come back clear.

Obviously if your results come back and some form of treatment is needed, they will advise and guide you. In the meantime if you feel you need some more reassurance, you could give the FPA helpline England a call on 0845 122 8690 - see www.fpa.org.uk/helpandadvice/fpahelplines . It's all confidential and they'll listen and deal with your call sensitively.

Hope it works out well for you, and then for both you and your girl.

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If you haven't experienced any pains, or difficulties in passing water etc then you are probably in the clear. Well done for visiting the GUM clinic. It can't have been easy. My bet is that you are in the clear. I wish you and your new lady all the best.

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Hi everyone.

New to punternet (or anything like this to be honest).

Looking for some advice as follows.

Until a couple of years ago, I hadn't ventured into the world of punting. I was going through a pretty low point in life and visited a few WGs for OWO and protected sex - somewhere in the region of 3-4 girls, maybe 5 or 6 visits in total. Last visit was around 4 months back. First punt involved OWO both ways and protected sex. Other punts involved OWO on me only, and protected sex. Probably some fingering on a few occasions.

I did enjoy most of the experiences at the time obviously (human nature) but feel some regret now at what I have done in terms of risks.

I'm at a point in life where things have turned around for me. I've met a few regular girls recently - one was a very drunken 'one night stand' holiday affair a couple of months back - protected, but a bit risky and did involve oral without etc.

Now recently, I've started to befriend a girl who is very interested in me. I'd like to make sure I look out for her and health.

I am trying to do the right thing. For the first time in my life, I visited a local GUM clinic to see if I could be checked up. I was pretty nervous as it was the only time I've been to somewhere like this - but pleased I went

They've taken a pee sample to check for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, and also a couple of blood tests to check for HIV and Herpes (IIRC). I should have mentioned that I had seen a couple of WGs, but bottled it (stupidly). Would they have tested for anything else otherwise?

I am generally a healthy person, but if I'm 100% honest I do wonder about the risk of Chlamydia/Gonorrhea - especially as I have read some people don't display very obvious symptoms.

Is there anything else I should be doing? I've never had unprotected sex - not even with non-working girls (to be honest, had never been in any serious long-term relationships!). And I will definitely not partake in any unprotected sex with this girl until I am sure that I am clean from the above, but are there any other risks? Other unidentified infections etc?

What would any of you lot do in my position?

I just want to make sure that I am not likely to pass on any serious/unidentified infections to this girl who I very much care about now.

Any advice most welcomed - and call me an idiot if I've done anything too wrong here.

Thanks

I think it is only fair that you tell this new lady you have been sleeping with WGs and see if she wants to sleep with you. I mean GUM clinics only check for things they know about. What if you have caught something which is not discovered yet? Your lady friend should be given the option to decide for herself.

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I am sure you new lady wont expect you to be a virgin, so you will have had sexual encounters in the past. Many people have unprotected sex with strangers which is probably more risky then seeing wg's and using a condom.

Do you think this new girl will tell you about her sexual history? Thought not...will she discuss her visit to the GUM clinic?

Make sure you have had the appropriate tests and what is history is history.

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Might also be good to get your new lady checked out too before you guys sleep together, unless you know her history

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I am sure you new lady wont expect you to be a virgin, so you will have had sexual encounters in the past.

Make sure you have had the appropriate tests and what is history is history.

Sound advice. On the assumption that you are both over the age of consent some past sexual history is inevitable for both of you. I would tend to let sleeping dogs lie, unless she wants to tell you all about her randy past, and then expects you to open up on yours. Even then the odd white lie won't hurt in my view. What matters far more is where you go and what you do together in your new lives. Good luck to you both.

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Do not disclose your punting past to her. No good can come of it. Wise to have a full set of GUM tests.

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Do not disclose your punting past to her. No good can come of it. Wise to have a full set of GUM tests.

I kinda agree here, you don't need to go to into the details unless you want to be open about it and likewise for her too..I suggest the past is the past and best kept there...imo I would keep it very high-level and leave it at that...

Good for both of you to have a test too :)

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Do not disclose your punting past to her. No good can come of it. Wise to have a full set of GUM tests.

This man speaks sense.

I'd imagine you were tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea, hiv and hepatitis when you went to the GUM. I doubt whether they'd test you for anything else if you went back and admitted you were a punter (I admit it and get no extra tests). The NHS do not test for herpes/hpv in the UK as apparently a huge proportion of sexually active people carry one strain or another anyway !!

Best not to lose any sleep over it. File your punting past away in a part of your brain that you only visit to experience pleasant memories and get on with wooing your new lady.

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I think it is only fair that you tell this new lady you have been sleeping with WGs and see if she wants to sleep with you. I mean GUM clinics only check for things they know about. What if you have caught something which is not discovered yet? Your lady friend should be given the option to decide for herself.

I see no point in telling a possible future partner of your own past sexual escapades, particularly if it's with an escorts. WishIhadnt has already taken pretty much as much precaution as he can with regards to sexual health by visiting a clinic?, telling his possible future partner achieves nothing save for possibly ruining the relationship before it gets started.

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I don't know why some people in here seem to think there's some big risk that the OP will have caught something because he's had sex with wgs!

I get the impression we are far more careful about our sexual health than your average 'civvy', for obvious reasons. I certainly didn't go off to the clinic to get tested on a regular basis as I do now before I took up escorting, even though at various points in my life I had sex with quite a lot of men.

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Do not disclose your punting past to her. No good can come of it. Wise to have a full set of GUM tests.

Absolutely agree with you on this. Wishihadnt did the right thing by limiting the risks with the small amount of punting he did, then having an MOT at the GUM. I would bet that disclosing the fact he's punted to a new partner would only backfire on him; civvies don't necessarily have our positive outlook on the business unfortunately.

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civvies don't necessarily have our positive outlook on the business unfortunately.

More's the pity! Many a bloke has to suffer in silence as a result of the ridiculous prejudices pumped out by such rags as the Daily Snail.

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