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If for whatever reason a lady has refused to see a client in the past what are the chances that over time her thoughts might have changed?

Have any of you ladies given a punter a second chance?

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If for whatever reason a lady has refused to see a client in the past what are the chances that over time her thoughts might have changed?

Have any of you ladies given a punter a second chance?

Depends entirely on her reason for refusing them in the first place.

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Oops posted twice

Edited by Annabel Squires

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As Annabel says, it must depend on the reason.

Was the punter rude or obnoxious?

Did he smell?

Was he indiscreet?

Did he persist in asking for services which were not available?

Was he drunk, or under the influence of drugs?

In my view a WG is entitled to refuse to see a guy for whatever reason. She is putting her safety and security at risk every time she opens her door so, from time to time, she must rely on her gut instinct and refuse to see a guy.

The punter should respect this and not try to trick his way into seeing her again. My guess would be, that if he did trick his way in, he would not receive a top notch punt.

So, in conclusion, m'lord, go elsewhere dear punter.

Edited by porker paul

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If for whatever reason a lady has refused to see a client in the past what are the chances that over time her thoughts might have changed?

Have any of you ladies given a punter a second chance?

Depends on the actual offence, sometimes he just needs to go away and sort himself out. Other times it's just obvious we don't get on, that there is a personality clash, we are on a different wavelength. In those cases I think it's best to quit whilst ahead!

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Yes I have given clients a second chance at getting it right after I have stopped accepting

appointments ..... usually due to either indiscretions or overstepping the mark in other ways.

There are some clients though who I have flatly refused to see again and it does annoy me

when they persist in trying to change my mind.

Obviously if a man is not fastidious with his hygiene or his manners leave much to be desired

then a second appointment is often out of the question.

The old saying "everyone deserves a second chance" does not really apply in our business

considering how intimate and personal it is.

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Well, it's not completely unheard of then, which is surprising. But obviously that depends on the "offence".

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I refused quite a few guys for different reasons, the only one I gave a second chance too was a guy i`d seen before who was a real sweetie but turned up drunk the second time, but i knew he was going through a divorce, so told him to come back when he was sober. There are few exceptions to the rule though

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Well, it's not completely unheard of then, which is surprising. But obviously that depends on the "offence".

What did you do?

Edited by ContentGuy

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What did you do?

Either he can't remember, or he's too ashamed.

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Either he can't remember, or he's too ashamed.

LOL, why would I be ashamed?

As it happens I've done nothing yet.

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LOL, why would I be ashamed?

As it happens I've done nothing yet.

Sorry, I, along with a few others had assumed that you had sinned and were asking for guidance.

You should have made it clear in your OP that this was a hypothetical question. Then we would all have answered hypothetically! :blink:

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Sorry, I, along with a few others had assumed that you had sinned and were asking for guidance.

You should have made it clear in your OP that this was a hypothetical question. Then we would all have answered hypothetically! :blink:

Your assumption was correct, I meant I hadn't approached the lady in question yet.

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Your assumption was correct, I meant I hadn't approached the lady in question yet.

I hope, when you find out why she declined to see you, that you will let us all know. This question is keeping the whole of Punternet on the edge of it's collective seat :D

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I hope, when you find out why she declined to see you, that you will let us all know. This question is keeping the whole of Punternet on the edge of it's collective seat :D

I've a feeling you've heard it all before ;)

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I just asked advice of fellow floozies on this one.

I had a regular for a few years, (my first client in this country so he is kinda special) It got to the stage where he was cancelling appointments at the last min so I told him I would not see him again.

I just got a message from him (been a few years since we last met up) asking me to forgive him and his new job back then has settled- so I shall give him another chance.

I really like him, a great guy just got so damn frustrating cancelling appointments AFTER they were supposed to have started!

Edited by Gemma Harris

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argh

Edited by Gemma Harris

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I just asked advice of fellow floozies on this one.

I had a regular for a few years, (my first client in this country so he is kinda special) It got to the stage where he was cancelling appointments at the last min so I told him I would not see him again.

I just got a message from him (been a few years since we last met up) asking me to forgive him and his new job back then has settled- so I shall give him another chance.

I really like him, a great guy just got so damn frustrating cancelling appointments AFTER they were supposed to have started!

I know I'm not the intended person to reply to this, but in the light of the way you have posed the question I think you want the following answer:-

"Yes give him an appointment but make it totally clear that any lateness etc will not be tolerated. One error, and he's finished for all time."

I hope you both enjoy the encounter

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I just asked advice of fellow floozies on this one.

I had a regular for a few years, (my first client in this country so he is kinda special) It got to the stage where he was cancelling appointments at the last min so I told him I would not see him again.

I just got a message from him (been a few years since we last met up) asking me to forgive him and his new job back then has settled- so I shall give him another chance.

I really like him, a great guy just got so damn frustrating cancelling appointments AFTER they were supposed to have started!

I'd give him one more chance and only one - if anybody else gets in touch wanting the same time put them on a standby list and agree a time for them to ring and see if he's cancelled or not. I've never a regular do this, to be fair - I would normally blacklist or ask for a deposit after two book-and-cancels, but it's only ever been with punters I've not met. The standby list system works great for me :).

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If for whatever reason a lady has refused to see a client in the past what are the chances that over time her thoughts might have changed?

Have any of you ladies given a punter a second chance?

It depends on the reason for refusing to see the client. If, like Gemma, it was because of work related cancellations then possibly, but only if he was always really apologetic, understood what a PITA it was for me, and had more stable working arrangements now.

But if the refusal to do further business was because of something emotional then no, I wouldn’t. I don’t have to like a client to see them but I mustn’t either dislike them or feel awkward seeing them. I had one regular I stopped seeing because he would “follow” me around the forum then nit-pick every post I made by emailing me and querying things. We would regularly get into lengthy correspondence about what I said and what he though I meant and it really ground me down. I gave him a couple of chances to stop, to just be a chilled out client and back off, but at that stage in his life he couldn’t so I refused further bookings. Although he says he’s now “better” I just wouldn’t feel comfortable seeing him again. I don’t hate him, but an uncomfortable situation developed that I can’t see beyond I’m afraid. I may forget the actual events that lead to the shunning of a client, but I never forget the awkwardness and upset that was caused because of those actions.

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It depends on the reason for refusing to see the client. If, like Gemma, it was because of work related cancellations then possibly, but only if he was always really apologetic, understood what a PITA it was for me, and had more stable working arrangements now.

But if the refusal to do further business was because of something emotional then no, I wouldn’t. I don’t have to like a client to see them but I mustn’t either dislike them or feel awkward seeing them. I had one regular I stopped seeing because he would “follow” me around the forum then nit-pick every post I made by emailing me and querying things. We would regularly get into lengthy correspondence about what I said and what he though I meant and it really ground me down. I gave him a couple of chances to stop, to just be a chilled out client and back off, but at that stage in his life he couldn’t so I refused further bookings. Although he says he’s now “better” I just wouldn’t feel comfortable seeing him again. I don’t hate him, but an uncomfortable situation developed that I can’t see beyond I’m afraid. I may forget the actual events that lead to the shunning of a client, but I never forget the awkwardness and upset that was caused because of those actions.

Fair enough. It's just a pity you can't see past what started off as a misunderstanding turned into something you can't forgive. It's not easy to get over knowing that you've spent many hours of what you thought was mutual fun to then find out you were disliked the whole time, no matter how much time passes, that will stay with me for a long time. The client's always going to look bad in this situation anyway no matter what, even if all he wants to do is make his peace.

Just for the record, I'm not the client Lara was referring to in her post.

Edited by Doozer

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Fair enough. It's just a pity you can't see past what started off as a misunderstanding turned into something you can't forgive. It's not easy to get over knowing that you've spent many hours of what you thought was mutual fun to then find out you were disliked the whole time, no matter how much time passes, that will stay with me for a long time. The client's always going to look bad in this situation anyway no matter what, even if all he wants to do is make his peace.

Just for the record, I'm not the client Lara was referring to in her post.

How is that a misunderstanding?

Having people constantly email questioning every single thing you post on every forum is quite irritating. And Lara already said she gave him a couple of chances to back off and calm down. If someone points out that what you are doing was irritating or upsetting in some way and you choose not to listen to that and carry on with the same behaviour, I don't blame an escort for cutting them our completely.

Quite simply it's not learning from mistakes.

A frank talk is needed by both parties.

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How is that a misunderstanding?

My point wasn't directly referring to Lara's situation that she explained in her post, but unfortunately I can't edit my post now. So apologies for any confusion.

Edited by Doozer

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My point wasn't directly referring to Lara's situation that she explained in her post, but unfortunately I can't edit my post now. So apologies for any confusion.

Ahh sorry, I thought it was!

What actually happened in your situation?

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