Rojo

Am I A Sex Addict?

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What apart from a presumably expensive analyst diagnosing you so qualifies a person as a sex addict?

When do you cross from being a randy bugger to an addict? I need to see an escort on average maybe twice a week, I don't think that's a lot of sex, but it's a lot of escorts. Am I a sex addict or is there a different classification as a punting addict? I've seen two girls in one day on a number of occassions, as I felt compelled to do so, even though the compulsion was not purely sexual, more like "I must do this naughty thing".

Am I an addict or just a kid in a sweet shop?

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Kid in a sweet shop...

I would say an addict would be someone who would do more than punting...

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What apart from a presumably expensive analyst diagnosing you so qualifies a person as a sex addict?

When do you cross from being a randy bugger to an addict? I need to see an escort on average maybe twice a week, I don't think that's a lot of sex, but it's a lot of escorts. Am I a sex addict or is there a different classification as a punting addict? I've seen two girls in one day on a number of occassions, as I felt compelled to do so, even though the compulsion was not purely sexual, more like "I must do this naughty thing".

Am I an addict or just a kid in a sweet shop?

Not being in control of your sexual impulses makes a person a sex addict in my opinion so you crave and have sex whether you actually enjoy it or not. There isnt a universally agreed definition of a sex addict.

You sound like a kid in a sweet shop to me enjoying your punting. :)

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Am I an addict or just a kid in a sweet shop?

Same thing, From what you say, you already passed the "kid in the sweet shop" stage.

As for advice, I don't have any. Enjoy if you can afford it. Life is too short to be good all the time.

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The late George Melly said that the onset of impotence in his old age was like being unchained from a lunatic. I think we all have to go with the lunatic we are chained to.

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What apart from a presumably expensive analyst diagnosing you so qualifies a person as a sex addict?

When do you cross from being a randy bugger to an addict? I need to see an escort on average maybe twice a week, I don't think that's a lot of sex, but it's a lot of escorts. Am I a sex addict or is there a different classification as a punting addict? I've seen two girls in one day on a number of occassions, as I felt compelled to do so, even though the compulsion was not purely sexual, more like "I must do this naughty thing".

Am I an addict or just a kid in a sweet shop?

Are you in a relationship with another human being at present. If so you should be getting enough sex from that. If not, then go ahead so long as it doesn't cause you financial hardship.

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The late George Melly said that the onset of impotence in his old age was like being unchained from a lunatic. I think we all have to go with the lunatic we are chained to.

A lunatic that wants to shag you up the wrong'un in his case. Great quote.

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The late George Melly said that the onset of impotence in his old age was like being unchained from a lunatic. I think we all have to go with the lunatic we are chained to.

something to look forward to? I kinda think not. :)

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Are you in a relationship with another human being at present. If so you should be getting enough sex from that. If not, then go ahead so long as it doesn't cause you financial hardship.

Oh Paul I think I'm going to disappoint you when I say that I am married and very happily. However it's not about volume it's about variety, and a compulsion I cannot control or perhaps choose not to as it causes me no financial hardship. I mentioned in another post what I call "superhero syndrome" of two separate and completely different alter egos, as long as neither life overlaps into the other they can coexist.

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Oh Paul I think I'm going to disappoint you when I say that I am married and very happily. However it's not about volume it's about variety, and a compulsion I cannot control or perhaps choose not to as it causes me no financial hardship. I mentioned in another post what I call "superhero syndrome" of two separate and completely different alter egos, as long as neither life overlaps into the other they can coexist.

So you go into a phonebox and come out as 'Shag-man' wearing your underpants on the outside!! I like your style!!! :)

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There was a call in show on radio 5 on this topic (various addictions, not just sex) last week. The broad conclusion was about doing the balance of your life harm or not. If you spend more money than you can afford to, of ruin your job or marriage based on inability to stop, then it is addictive behavior. If you are in control, and can stop for a week or month if you have to, then you are fine.

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Haha actually a phone box is perfect for "shagman", after all superman just uses it for a changing room, I do too but it's also got a card with my next job on it and the "twat phone" for me to call her on!

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Very happily married but seeing two escorts a week? Er...what?

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Very happily married but seeing two escorts a week? Er...what?

You don't think that's possible?

I know lots of men who are very happily married, but still enjoy this 'hobby'

Some gents see it as their 'me time'

Some believe it keeps their marriage alive

Some just enjoy a variety.

Some don't believe in fidelity.

The list goes on and on...

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Am I an addict or just a kid in a sweet shop?

Depends. Is seeing escorts twice a week disrupting your personal life?

Punting addiction is very real, and quite damaging if it affects your private life.

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Depends. Is seeing escorts twice a week disrupting your personal life?

Punting addiction is very real, and quite damaging if it affects your private life.

That, of course, is the crux of it. Honest answers to questions like:-

1/ Can I stop for a couple of months?

2/ Is the cost putting an unreasonable strain on my finances?

3/ Is it potentially extremely damaging to relationships I value?

will give you a fair idea whether you are addicted or not.

Unlike others on this thread... I think you probably are.

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Surely the way to find out would simply be to attempt to stop for a while - I'd say at least 8 weeks - and see if you can manage it? And indeed how you feel during that period? Who knows, maybe you'll feel liberated. And if you really find you absolutely cannot bring yourself to stay out of the sweet shop, then you know you have a problem.

(And yes, I'd say being in the grip of a compulsion that's completely uncontrollable does count as a problem, even if you're currently in a position to indulge it without hardship.)

Hey, just in case it helps: I'd be more than happy to take over on your behalf and spend your "sweetie money" for you, just so you know it's not going to waste... ^_^

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Sounds more like a lucky bastard who's solvent enough to be able to afford 2 encounters a week. :D

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OP: no u are not . now behave yourself ! :P

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Are you in a relationship with another human being at present. If so you should be getting enough sex from that. If not, then go ahead so long as it doesn't cause you financial hardship.

You should know that it is not about how much sex you have at home. Of course it helps reduce punting with a new partner when things are new and exciting. In the long run you always gasp for that next punt.

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Not an addict,possibly a bloody millionaire!!LOL.

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Very happily married but seeing two escorts a week? Er...what?

I have never been married but have been very happy in relationships but always punted as i am selfish and require variety for sex which punting offers with no strings attached and want my cake and eat it. People view things in different ways, what one views as strange another views as their norm. I couldnt care less what others think personally, i do what suits me, always have and always will. Who is another to judge a legal adults consentual decisions.

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Rojo - there is a 20 question test provided by other addict support groups to help you decide if you're an addict or not:

I've modified them below, my answers at right in italics -

Did you ever lose time from work or school due to mongering? No

Has mongering ever made your home life unhappy? No

Did mongering affect your reputation? No

Have you ever felt remorse after mongering? Yes

Did you ever offer your own body to get money with which to pay debts or otherwise solve financial difficulties? No

Did mongering cause a decrease in your ambition or efficiency? Yes

After mongering did you feel you must return as soon as possible? No

After a session did you have a strong urge to return and have her again with another WG ? No

Did you often monger until your last pound was gone? No

Did you ever borrow to finance your mongering? No

Have you ever sold anything to finance mongering? No

Were you reluctant to use "mongering money" for normal expenditures? Yes

Did mongering make you careless of the welfare of yourself or your family? No

Did you ever monger longer than you had planned ( paid to extend a session)? Yes

Have you ever mongered to escape worry, trouble, boredom or loneliness? Yes

Have you ever committed, or considered committing, an illegal act to finance mongering? No

Did mongering cause you to have difficulty in sleeping? No

Do arguments, disappointments or frustrations create within you an urge to monger? Yes

Did you ever have an urge to celebrate any good fortune by mongering? Yes

Have you ever considered self destruction or suicide as a result of your mongering? No

Typically 7-9 yes's and you're in a grey area where you may or may not be an addict. More than that, and you should give a support group a try to see if it's right for you. imho of course.

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I would say I am a sex addict, Used to punt pretty much every week for a while, stopped punting regulary since 2009, then I turned to sex chat lines, where in the past 2 years have spoent over 6000 quid on my phone bills. Stupid I know!!! Have stopped all the sex line shit now, hasnt been easy, but I have too much to lose to carry on in the way I was going. was a very scary experience to be honest, to be totally out of control.

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Rojo - there is a 20 question test provided by other addict support groups to help you decide if you're an addict or not:

I've modified them below, my answers at right in italics -

Did you ever lose time from work or school due to mongering? No

Has mongering ever made your home life unhappy? No

Did mongering affect your reputation? No

Have you ever felt remorse after mongering? Yes

Did you ever offer your own body to get money with which to pay debts or otherwise solve financial difficulties? No

Did mongering cause a decrease in your ambition or efficiency? Yes

After mongering did you feel you must return as soon as possible? No

After a session did you have a strong urge to return and have her again with another WG ? No

Did you often monger until your last pound was gone? No

Did you ever borrow to finance your mongering? No

Have you ever sold anything to finance mongering? No

Were you reluctant to use "mongering money" for normal expenditures? Yes

Did mongering make you careless of the welfare of yourself or your family? No

Did you ever monger longer than you had planned ( paid to extend a session)? Yes

Have you ever mongered to escape worry, trouble, boredom or loneliness? Yes

Have you ever committed, or considered committing, an illegal act to finance mongering? No

Did mongering cause you to have difficulty in sleeping? No

Do arguments, disappointments or frustrations create within you an urge to monger? Yes

Did you ever have an urge to celebrate any good fortune by mongering? Yes

Have you ever considered self destruction or suicide as a result of your mongering? No

Typically 7-9 yes's and you're in a grey area where you may or may not be an addict. More than that, and you should give a support group a try to see if it's right for you. imho of course.

I think these questions are geared to addiction to a substance rather than mongering. There are differences between the two. I would raise two more questions:

Did you ever thought about or decide to stop mongering?

Did you succeed?

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