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Hypocritical Ex-colleague Who Condemned Prostitution

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I thought I would share this story as if there's ever a case of 'people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones' this is it.

One day, whilst in my previous job, one of my colleagues condemned prostitution in the staff room at lunchtime. She came out with the usual "all the women are junkies and the men saddos who can't get girlfriends". I thought 'You hypocrite'. The reason being that this woman was married and had three children and had a full-blown on-going affair that her family didn't know about. She told he husband eventually and he forgave her.

I'm not married and I've never punted whilst in a relationship so if I chose to pay a someone money to spend time with them (and I don't always have sex with them) I'm not causing anybody else emotional hurt unlike the emotional hurt she caused her family, to say nothing of her possibly giving her husband an STD.

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And i thought you were going to say she's now on the other site!!

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Not quite sure what the OP is getting at. There is a difference in many peoples eyes between people who have an affair and prostitution. I am not making a judgement here but simply a comment.

I don't actually see too much hypocracy in the colleagues stance. She didn't like the thought of prostitution but was happy to have an affair. That seems OK to me.

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Not quite sure what the OP is getting at. There is a difference in many peoples eyes between people who have an affair and prostitution. I am not making a judgement here but simply a comment.

I don't actually see too much hypocracy in the colleagues stance. She didn't like the thought of prostitution but was happy to have an affair. That seems OK to me.

I'd be inclined to see it like this too. She's not guilty of that which she condemned so the hypocrisy is not obvious. Unless she was charging the guy she was having the affair with of course!

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Not quite sure what the OP is getting at. There is a difference in many peoples eyes between people who have an affair and prostitution. I am not making a judgement here but simply a comment.

I don't actually see too much hypocracy in the colleagues stance. She didn't like the thought of prostitution but was happy to have an affair. That seems OK to me.

Hippocrates? lol :lol: hypocrisy . ;)

was it a teacher per chance ? most are bloody hypocrites ! oops ! :P

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i think the op is saying that when a moral supremacist claims the moral high ground their morality should be perfect

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Yes that's what I'm saying. In my first post I should have mentioned that she condemned prostitutes and the men who use them in such a shrill tone that anyone would think she was a paragon of virtue. My point is that single men who aren't in any relationship who use prostitutes don't cause as much emotional hurt as married people who have long-term affairs.

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Yes that's what I'm saying. In my first post I should have mentioned that she condemned prostitutes and the men who use them in such a shrill tone that anyone would think she was a paragon of virtue. My point is that single men who aren't in any relationship who use prostitutes don't cause as much emotional hurt as married people who have long-term affairs.

I agree with your comment about single men. But if a married person is having an affair or paying for sex the innocent party in it would probably not differentiate between the two and class it as cheating however long it was going on for.

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I'd be inclined to see it like this too. She's not guilty of that which she condemned so the hypocrisy is not obvious. Unless she was charging the guy she was having the affair with of course!

She is shagging around behind her husbands back, she therefore has NO moral highground as she clearly is rather loose with her virtue also...at least we admit it lol.

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I think if a wife found out her husband had shagged a WG she would be horrified, angry, hurt and upset. If she found out he was having a full blown affair its an altogether sharper and more long lasting sting as she will forever be thinking, did he stay with me just for the children, the tangled finances, the ease of slipping back into normal life. With a WG she will be at best suspicious of him but would eventually trust him again...thats if she stays with him in either case.

The same for this womans husband. What she was doing was worse..it wasnt for money, the morgage, to put the kids through a good school or ease the pressure of the finances on her husband..it was purely for selfish fun..simple.

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She is shagging around behind her husbands back, she therefore has NO moral highground as she clearly is rather loose with her virtue also...at least we admit it lol.

Yes, your admit it, but who to your wife/partner? I don't think so!

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Yes, your admit it, but who to your wife/partner? I don't think so!

This is true I guess reading my post back. We are all as bad as each other, but my point still stands that she has no moral highground for if we are as bad as her, she is equally as bad as us..well you as I have no partner and when I decided to start up in this industry I told my ex husband/on/off shag my intentions so I was honest. It is also one of the reasons I do not have a partner, I dont want to tell some bloke I am in this industry but I also do not want to lie to some poor bloke either.

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This is true I guess reading my post back. We are all as bad as each other, but my point still stands that she has no moral highground for if we are as bad as her, she is equally as bad as us..well you as I have no partner and when I decided to start up in this industry I told my ex husband/on/off shag my intentions so I was honest. It is also one of the reasons I do not have a partner, I dont want to tell some bloke I am in this industry but I also do not want to lie to some poor bloke either.

I agree she has no moral high ground she cheated on her husband and her children. I am not in the industry I was and maybe still am the innocent party who's partner has punted and was found out.

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I agree she has no moral high ground she cheated on her husband and her children. I am not in the industry I was and maybe still am the innocent party who's partner has punted and was found out.

Well I am sorry to hear that but personally no one can stand up and complain that this industry is wrong when they are busy being porked by someone else behind their husbands back like the op described.

Would it not have made you feel worse to find out your husband was having a full blown affair behind your back instead. Men usually see a wg, walk out with a smile on their faces then quite often forget all about her. With an affair there is no forgetting when he or she walks away from their lover, there are secret longed for texts and furtive phone calls, the other is on their minds...As a wife it would have been a killer to find my husband visited a wg, it would have been a marraige killer if he had an affair of the heart as well as the dick.

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Well I am sorry to hear that but personally no one can stand up and complain that this industry is wrong when they are busy being porked by someone else behind their husbands back like the op described.

Would it not have made you feel worse to find out your husband was having a full blown affair behind your back instead. Men usually see a wg, walk out with a smile on their faces then quite often forget all about her. With an affair there is no forgetting when he or she walks away from their lover, there are secret longed for texts and furtive phone calls, the other is on their minds...As a wife it would have been a killer to find my husband visited a wg, it would have been a marraige killer if he had an affair of the heart as well as the dick.

No not really found out just after my mother died in fact on the day of her funeral that he was having an affair. Then he started punting in 2006 till I found out. Life really is crap!

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I read a woman's piece in a newspaper saying that she could forgive her husband having a one-off fling with another woman or a one-off with a prostitute but not a full blown on-going affair with another woman. This was because he would have an emotional attachment and feelings for the other woman that he should only have for his wife.

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No not really found out just after my mother died in fact on the day of her funeral that he was having an affair. Then he started punting in 2006 till I found out. Life really is crap!

Yes, it can be crap. I found out two days after my mother died that my husband had been calling sex chat lines every day the second i left the house to go to work. He thought it was in the uk when the particular line he favoured was somewhere in south america...i bumped into the postman and was handed the mail so he had no chance to intercept...nice surprise...nice bill...nice time to find out.

I read a woman's piece in a newspaper saying that she could forgive her husband having a one-off fling with another woman or a one-off with a prostitute but not a full blown on-going affair with another woman. This was because he would have an emotional attachment and feelings for the other woman that he should only have for his wife.

Well thats the line of thought I was trying to get at, i think you put it in a less convoluted way.x

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