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Are Punters Socially Inadequate Or Just Being Men?

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I ask this as a man of 47 ive never actually had a girlfriend hence i punt. I know there are guys, married or in relationships

who do this and of course some have a peculiar fetish that can't be satisfied with the person they are with. I guess there are a whole gamut of needs being satisfied. Ladies does this describe the guys that you meet. Guys is this you? ;-)

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I ask this as a man of 47 ive never actually had a girlfriend hence i punt. I know there are guys, married or in relationships who do this and of course some have a peculiar fetish that can't be satisfied with the person they are with. I guess there are a whole gamut of needs being satisfied. Ladies does this describe the guys that you meet. Guys is this you? ;-)

Welcome to the forum. :) For me i require sex with a variety of women and punting is by far the easiest way of achieving this. It makes no odds to me if i am in a relationship or not i still punt being a selfish git who wants his cake and to eat it. Its got nothing to do with being socially inadequate in my case, its just that monogomy sucks and i have no interest in such an alien to me concept preferring shagging around.

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Welcome to the forum. :) For me i require sex with a variety of women and punting is by far the easiest way of achieving this. It makes no odds to me if i am in a relationship or not i still punt being a selfish git who wants his cake and to eat it. Its got nothing to do with being socially inadequate in my case, its just that monogomy sucks and i have no interest in such an alien to me concept preferring shagging around.

I more or less mirror these sentiments.

Everyone from the average Joe to the Hollywood A lister pays working girls for sex, wouldnt simple common sense tell you that wg's would meet all sorts of men from all sorts of backgrounds and social strata, with all sorts of reasons for paying them to be intimate with them ?

Edited by BillGoldberg

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During my life I played the dutiful husband and father (still doing the latter) as well as the best, and although I have now (in my single status again) known in excess of 40 wg's I can say without any fear of contradiction that I turned down far more opportunities to stray during my married years.

Punting is an alternative to relationships that at best are uncertain in the longer term, and the sooner that is more widely realised the sooner broken marriages, families and homes will become a problem of the past.

If as a teenager I had known what I know now, there would have been no marriages or children, and my life would have been far more orderly and less of the shambles it has been at times. It takes a wise young man to get his sights straight from the outset and to stay the course and I didn't have that trait as far as women were concerned, my future was damned when I confused lust with love!

Happy punting to all!!

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I echo Smiths and BillGoldberg, I pay for sex so I can fuck lots of different women, without the danger of getting caught which normal philandering would involve.

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I'm definitely socially inadequate, and inadequate in lots of other ways too.

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During my life I played the dutiful husband and father (still doing the latter) as well as the best, and although I have now (in my single status again) known in excess of 40 wg's I can say without any fear of contradiction that I turned down far more opportunities to stray during my married years.

Punting is an alternative to relationships that at best are uncertain in the longer term, and the sooner that is more widely realised the sooner broken marriages, families and homes will become a problem of the past.

If as a teenager I had known what I know now, there would have been no marriages or children, and my life would have been far more orderly and less of the shambles it has been at times. It takes a wise young man to get his sights straight from the outset and to stay the course and I didn't have that trait as far as women were concerned, my future was damned when I confused lust with love!

Happy punting to all!!

My god I can relate to what you say.

30 or 40 years ago everyone seemed in a rush to get married as if they would be left on the shelf at 25 or something. I think many of us swallowed that type of bullshit.

I would add that getting regular sex via punting means I can have friendships with a number of women without seeing them as a potential bed partner. Once you have overstepped that line it's difficult to go back to being 'just friends'

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I'm definitely socially inadequate, and inadequate in lots of other ways too.

Me too. I'm joining the club with you Jonker. If I wasn't socially inadequate, I probably wouldn't be replying to this thread right now - I'd be off doing something worthwhile somewhere nice with nice people.

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I regret not punting until I was 25 because I believed the myths that "all the woman are junkies and the men social inadequates who can't get girlfriends". If I'd starting punting in my late teens I would have saved myself a lot of emotional heartache when my relationships finished. I wouldn't have had some of the bad relationships I had.

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It's interesting that all the replies so far are from blokes! I am with all of the posters so far in that we do not feel inadequate or odd. We just prefer uncomplicated sex and a good deal of variety too.

Come on Ladies let's be having your views too!

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At this point in time I have no interest in a relationship. That doesn't mean I want to miss out on sex though. Did that for a fair amount of time before I said enough was enough.

Rather than the rather hit and miss expensive affair of going out to "pull" girls, I'd much rather go the route of being guaranteed sex when I feel like I want it. The fact that you can also choose what sort of girl, and I have pretty varied tastes, is a big bonus.

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I echo Smiths and BillGoldberg, I pay for sex so I can fuck lots of different women, without the danger of getting caught which normal philandering would involve.

Added to what you've stated above and also due to the fact that for the past few months Mrs matrix is always tired, therefore I will be punting more this year or else i will go mad.

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As a lady (well, sort of, more tramp!) in my experience most men I see are not socially inadequate at all. Most punt for the reasons given above- sexless relationships, they want something not offered at home, single men who do it because they don't want a girlfriend or the hassle of picking someone up.

Of course I have seen men who are incredibly shy and socially awkward and have probably not had any luck with women because of this. I like that I can give men like this pleasure, although I do think it's a shame if a man ends up relying on escorts for not only sex, but female company and not focussing on getting out there, combating their shyness and meeting a 'real' woman for a relationship because that is what they ultimately want.

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.... in my experience most men I see are not socially inadequate at all. I do think it's a shame if a man ends up relying on escorts for not only sex, but female company..

I think you put it perfectly well for me Lydia.

I am in a great married relationship with Auntie. There's just no sex there. So a punting I go when I feel the need.

Err that's it.

Uncle Pokey

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I think you put it perfectly well for me Lydia.

I am in a great married relationship with Auntie. There's just no sex there. So a punting I go when I feel the need.

Err that's it.

Uncle Pokey

Uncle Pokey you and I alike ... and I would think there are a good few others in our age group who appreciate the therapy.

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Socially inadequate- I don't think so, though maybe that should be for others to judge. Someone who prefers to be in no relationship rather than stay in a bad one, yes, and so a WG means sex when not in a relationship.

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One woman I became friends with at a parlour I used to go to, where there was massage and HR with no sex, told me that married men went there to stop themselves having affairs.

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One woman I became friends with at a parlour I used to go to, where there was massage and HR with no sex, told me that married men went there to stop themselves having affairs.

Yes, you're right. I think that WGs are a safe option for men who want something outside the marital bed.

Us WGs won't turn up on the doorstep or start demanding we leave your wife or blab to people and we don't mind when you stop seeing us.

If a WG does this she is doing.it.wrong.

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Yup, socially inept which is why I punt.

Actually it's difficult to maintain that line anymore; it used to be true about 4-5 years ago but I've grown alot since. It seems more with me "unable to get a girl I fancy, so punt". I can get a gf but I've not really liked them in the past. I think my standards are way too high. I don't even use them for sex most of the time, it's just nice to have 'intimate company'. It's probably very sad to the outsider but it makes me happier than I otherwise would be.

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I smirk at the subtle insinuations by coworkers that I must be bitter due being single and thus not getting any when in the previous breath, these same colleagues were moaning about wifey, children and homelife!.

I have high standards when it comes to women, but nothing to offer. Hence why I punt.

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Great marriage, beautiful wife, great sex life, but greedy bastard who likes oriental girls. My wife is an English Rose btw.

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I'm sorry, who am I supposed to be inferior to? ~The guys who go with their mates every Saturday to watch footie and drone on about it the rest of the week? The men who dominate the christmas office party, shag married women and boast about it afterwards? The guys who get pissed, take huge quantities of pills and dance all weekend and bop to rap crap?

Or do Y feel inadequate when in restaurants and the load mouthed louts on the next table spending their bonuses verbally abuse the waitresses and guffaw when she blushes?

I only feel inferior and inadequate to the guys who live within a bus drive of the lovely Xenia.

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I'm sorry, who am I supposed to be inferior to? ~The guys who go with their mates every Saturday to watch footie and drone on about it the rest of the week? The men who dominate the christmas office party, shag married women and boast about it afterwards? The guys who get pissed, take huge quantities of pills and dance all weekend and bop to rap crap?

Or do Y feel inadequate when in restaurants and the load mouthed louts on the next table spending their bonuses verbally abuse the waitresses and guffaw when she blushes?

I only feel inferior and inadequate to the guys who live within a bus drive of the lovely Xenia.

Hmmm....... Nice one Less!

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