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Paranoia- Do You Get It?

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So this morning I take a booking for 20 minutes time, I did ask the guy to give me a bit longer but he said he couldn't make it any later, he sounds nice and I agree. Rush around getting ready. He then calls me when he is on my road to confirm full address and where he could park. 15 minutes later he hasn't shown so I text and ask if he is lost, he replies telling me that the police are down my road and he has lost his bottle.

So, not only did I rush about for him I turned down an hour booking because I thought he was here. He has apologised saying seeing the police have put the wind up him. I have no idea if he means because he thought he was doing something illegal in seeing me or if he is just a dodgy person/has dodgy car or if indeed he was an idiot lets fuck off a whore type man.

Of course, we WGs have to accept clients have to cancel for various reasons, but really, this one has hacked me off. But, should I be more sympathetic to men who get paranoid? Have you bottled a booking for some reason?

Ladies- do you get paranoid over some clients and cancel them?

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Oh yes, I do get paranoid. When I was a newbie and met other escorts for the first time in my life, I was thinking "what's wrong with these women? They seem paranoid and suspective of everyone and everything". Now I've realized I've become like that myself. Better safe than sorry.

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So this morning I take a booking for 20 minutes time, I did ask the guy to give me a bit longer but he said he couldn't make it any later, he sounds nice and I agree. Rush around getting ready. He then calls me when he is on my road to confirm full address and where he could park. 15 minutes later he hasn't shown so I text and ask if he is lost, he replies telling me that the police are down my road and he has lost his bottle.

So, not only did I rush about for him I turned down an hour booking because I thought he was here. He has apologised saying seeing the police have put the wind up him. I have no idea if he means because he thought he was doing something illegal in seeing me or if he is just a dodgy person/has dodgy car or if indeed he was an idiot lets fuck off a whore type man.

Of course, we WGs have to accept clients have to cancel for various reasons, but really, this one has hacked me off. But, should I be more sympathetic to men who get paranoid? Have you bottled a booking for some reason?

Ladies- do you get paranoid over some clients and cancel them?

I've seen things like this mentioned in feedback, and also had a few 'reasons' (hesitate to use the word 'excuses') which aren't too dissimilar. Someone a few weeks back got 'held up' between car and my front door. I was tempted to send back "What at gun point?" but resisted temptation. I did however advise getting a girls address so close, then not making it to the door can make a chap look a tad suspicious.

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I know it's not much consolation to you if you've had this sort of no show but if these guys are first timers or real newbies please recognize that the first time you walk up to the parlour or the indie's front door is a massive step into the unknown and uncertain and very nerve racking. And if there was real presence of police it could put off even a hardened (no pun intended) veteran (Harriet's law and all that)

If they're just messing you about then it's disgraceful of course

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So this morning I take a booking for 20 minutes time, I did ask the guy to give me a bit longer but he said he couldn't make it any later, he sounds nice and I agree. Rush around getting ready. He then calls me when he is on my road to confirm full address and where he could park. 15 minutes later he hasn't shown so I text and ask if he is lost, he replies telling me that the police are down my road and he has lost his bottle. So, not only did I rush about for him I turned down an hour booking because I thought he was here. He has apologised saying seeing the police have put the wind up him. I have no idea if he means because he thought he was doing something illegal in seeing me or if he is just a dodgy person/has dodgy car or if indeed he was an idiot lets fuck off a whore type man. Of course, we WGs have to accept clients have to cancel for various reasons, but really, this one has hacked me off. But, should I be more sympathetic to men who get paranoid? Have you bottled a booking for some reason? Ladies- do you get paranoid over some clients and cancel them?

Always paranoid and suspicious of newbies to me. My trust has to be earnt and until it is i am on my guard in case of any unpleasantness. Having experienced a little unpleasantness over the years its the best way to be in my experience.

The incident you mention wouldnt of put me off unless i saw the police coming out of your place where that would ensure i went elsewhere.

I nearly bottled my first sex party out of fear but apart from that i never bottle an arranged punt, i am looking forward to having fun so no chance of me not turning up as agreed. :)

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I have been stupid and took a taxi (taxi!!) only a tenner but still...to an outcall. I had only texted before and realise how ridiculous this is with a new client. When I got there the address didn't exist. Ha ha, Silly me, lesson learnt! I can't understand (or maybe I can and that makes me cynical of everyone) why people want to mess with us like that. Maybe he was watching?! How sad is that.

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Absolutly, while I am for the most part by my nature a more trusting individual and do have the (somewhat) safety net of a professional lady not wanting to do anything to jepordise her career I am always cautious at the outset, even beyond initial meetings I'm still careful about exactly how much I open up especially after one memorable meeting where the young lady instructed me in the fine art of single-minded automobile vandalism. :huh:

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I'm very careful. wouldnt call it paranoid.

I was possibly more trusting in my 2nd year of participating in this hobby, but nearly got burned by some local jokers once, so now very very careful.

Indeed, Trust has to be earned.

And even then: it comes by foot but goes by sportscar (or internet speed).

And any doubt (even a misspelled name or a slip of the tongue on the phone, any doubt...) = out.

There will be other occasions... (but prolly not with the person who seemed to have lost my trust)

Most ladies understand: better safe then sorry.

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Yes, I get that trust needs to be earned, from both sides, we all have to be careful and listen to our instincts but how can that be earned when a guy is scared off by an innocently passing police car!!! Surely that kind of paranoia is unfair and unjustified!

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mebbe you girls get blase. just remember how scared you were the first time you did this and how ready to bottle it. I certainly was.

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My doctor diagnosed me with paranoia once.

Well, he didn't actually say it but I knew he was thinking it.

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The guy sounds like he was tightly wired anyway, rushing you for the booking, then rushing off at the slightest thing. Probably wouldn't have been the easiest booking had it gone ahead, at least to start with.

Hate to make you paranoid, but did you see the police in your road ? Do you know he really was there ? ...and not an address collector. I've had a few of those in the past, some driving past after getting my house number, some not being where they said they were when calling for my house number, so they never got my house number. I've moved now and no longer get drive by's as you can't drive by ;)

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Yes, I get that trust needs to be earned, from both sides, we all have to be careful and listen to our instincts but how can that be earned when a guy is scared off by an innocently passing police car!!! Surely that kind of paranoia is unfair and unjustified!

Yes it's stupid and really annoying, to say the least.

I got a text from a guy earlier this week who simply said that he had to cancel the booking because he'd bottled it. I had absolutely no problem with this. If you haven't done it before i can imagine it's nervewracking and I appreciated his honesty, but I can't abide those who are paranoid about coming into a hotel, or think I might have a gang of burly men behind the door waiting to rob them, or ask if my flat is 'discreet', or think that punting is illegal.

i know there are people out there who set up fake profiles for nefarious purposes etc, but I'd expect anyone coming to see me to have done at least some basic research about the legality of what they were about to do and about me.

I've had arguments with clients who assume all FRs are made up and others who assure me that it's illegal to pay for sex in this country. If that's what they think, then I'd rather they didn't make a booking than try to put the onus on me to reassure them that the police car driving down the road isn't on the look out for men on their way to have sex with a woman.

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15 minutes later he hasn't shown so I text and ask if he is lost, he replies telling me that the police are down my road and he has lost his bottle.

Say he was married and the police were doing door to door enquires or questioning passers-by he might have to give his name and address. He might be worried he could then get a home visit later.

I made an appointment to see someone new, arrived 15 minutes early and the area had 3 police cars outside the flats. I didnt know why they were there or which particular flat they were visiting. Luckily they left 5 minutes later. I wouldn't fancy the idea of walking past a few plod into a flat for a punt.

He should have let you know though.

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So this morning I take a booking for 20 minutes time, I did ask the guy to give me a bit longer but he said he couldn't make it any later, he sounds nice and I agree. Rush around getting ready. He then calls me when he is on my road to confirm full address and where he could park. 15 minutes later he hasn't shown so I text and ask if he is lost, he replies telling me that the police are down my road and he has lost his bottle.

So, not only did I rush about for him I turned down an hour booking because I thought he was here. He has apologised saying seeing the police have put the wind up him. I have no idea if he means because he thought he was doing something illegal in seeing me or if he is just a dodgy person/has dodgy car or if indeed he was an idiot lets fuck off a whore type man.

Of course, we WGs have to accept clients have to cancel for various reasons, but really, this one has hacked me off. But, should I be more sympathetic to men who get paranoid? Have you bottled a booking for some reason?

Ladies- do you get paranoid over some clients and cancel them?

Yes, I have these attacks of sheer paranoia from time to time, they seem to come in speights and are usually coupled with silly emails and then I get spooked.

I think I have bottled it when the guy has been perfectly genuine, but if I have refused someone because of a sixth sense kicking in or paranoia - what ever name you wish to hang on it - I won't see them at all even if they try to book again. The main thing is to have no regrets which I don't anymore. x

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I'd guess the guy bottled it not because of any police car but simply because he couldn't go through with the booking. It sounds as if all the rush you were put to was because having made a momentous decision (for him) he had to strike while the iron was hot, and he still came up short. For my first booking I'd been without for a few months, and that after decades of sex 'on tap', so even if Highway Patrol, ten-four and all, that had been parked outside, there's a good chance I'd have asked them to make room. :P

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He then calls me when he is on my road to confirm full address and where he could park.

Was he definitely on your road?

Is there any way of checking i.e looking out of the window to see he's actually there before you give the door number?

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Actually, I think he was genuine, he was outside because he said is it the flat that.... (gave a description) so am pretty sure he was here, he was going to call again once he was parked to get flat number so he didn't get full address. I didn't see any police about but that's not to say they weren't up the road where the parking is. I guess it was enough to unnerve him... Ironically I had a copper from the local nick later that day! No, I didn't ask if it was him up my road earlier!

Thanks for your responses, I guess it's just the nature of the business, men will get nervous... in the same way I will refuse to see a guy for no reason other than my instinct says no, even if I can't put my finger on why!

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Actually, I think he was genuine, he was outside because he said is it the flat that.... (gave a description) so am pretty sure he was here, he was going to call again once he was parked to get flat number so he didn't get full address. I didn't see any police about but that's not to say they weren't up the road where the parking is. I guess it was enough to unnerve him... Ironically I had a copper from the local nick later that day! No, I didn't ask if it was him up my road earlier!

Thanks for your responses, I guess it's just the nature of the business, men will get nervous... in the same way I will refuse to see a guy for no reason other than my instinct says no, even if I can't put my finger on why!

did u polish his truncheon?

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I went to a punt sometime this year and as I walked into the reception/foyer of an apartment block about six firemen came in behind me and shut down the lift and told everyone to stay where they were.

There had been a fire reported in the building and two fire engines were blocking the road outside No - one was allowed to come in or go out. I waited about 10 minutes and then complained to a officer that I had to get to the third floor. I was 10 mins into my hours booking . I didn't tell the firefighter that.

As they were draging some equipmemt in through the street door I bolted up the stairs when their backs were turned.

The door to the wg flat was open so I walked in [ I had visited before ] . She was hanging out of the lounge window waving at some firemen who were now on the roof.

The punt went ahead and when my time came to leave all the commotion had settled and I took the lift down to street level .

So , No paranoia with me then , my only fear was not getting to the girl ..

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did u polish his truncheon?

Oh yes! And asked him if he had his handcuffs with him! Sadly he didn't!

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