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In Defence Of Those Who Discard............

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For me making a booking involves putting many things in place and telling not a few fibs

Work

Wife

Transport

Me well scrubbed up

Cash

Punting phone charged & in credit

Once I have things organised and the fibs told, then any changes would involve lies on top of lies, and the punt just getting too complicated

If there was any last minute hitch or potential breach of my well laid security plan I would cancel my punting plans at the last minute.

If I ever got caught out my life as I know it would finish - painfully

To date I have never needed to cancel a booked visit

But please ladies understand that for some of us however genuine things can happen.

As to rebooking I know that for me if I had let down a lady once I would feel to embarrased to book with her again.

So ladies I understand there are time wasters out there and that you have bills to pay

But I hope you can appreciate things from our side.

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For me making a booking involves putting many things in place and telling not a few fibs

Work

Wife

Transport

Me well scrubbed up

Cash

Punting phone charged & in credit

Once I have things organised and the fibs told, then any changes would involve lies on top of lies, and the punt just getting too complicated

If there was any last minute hitch or potential breach of my well laid security plan I would cancel my punting plans at the last minute.

If I ever got caught out my life as I know it would finish - painfully

To date I have never needed to cancel a booked visit

But please ladies understand that for some of us however genuine things can happen.

As to rebooking I know that for me if I had let down a lady once I would feel to embarrased to book with her again.

So ladies I understand there are time wasters out there and that you have bills to pay

But I hope you can appreciate things from our side.

Absolutely but if a guy explains and then rebooks, and does make it I'm sure most ladies would be more than welcoming. I have had the "I'm sure you must have me down as a timewaster, so I'll leave you alone", when all I'd like to happen is the guy rebook as he originally intended to meet, and if genuine there is no problem.

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Sometimes I book a week in advance, but suddenly overnight I get unwell, usually pick up a cold, or come out in a cold sore, so I cancel appointment, but have always reschedule booking, and have met the girl later on

Now I never have had any problems in cancelling, and the escort has been very understanding

There was one occassion 9 yrs ago, had to cancel booking because my uncle had died, and with the same girl a few months later, same thing again, my other uncle had died, both were brothers, 83 yrs old, and 89 yrs old. The 89 yr old died first, and the younger brother 83 yr old seemed to lose the will to live, after we told him his brother had died :( :( :( :(

The escort was able to check the papers and she was able to confirm my story, infact when I went to see her next, it was very special for me, it was more of cuddles, and sympathy, which I welcomed :):wacko::)

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The escort was able to check the papers and she was able to confirm my story, in fact when I went to see her next, it was very special for me, it was more of cuddles, and sympathy, which I welcomed :):wacko::)

See! there are some golden hearted girls around :wub:

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These girls should be advertised and celebrated (if she welcomes her name being shared of course)

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I think most of us girls on here are professional and intelligent enough to know that things come up and that work and family take precedent over a punt and of course people die, get ill, have accidents and so on. We truly accept this and are sympathetic to a degree to the plights of secret punting. I would happily make another booking with someone who had let me know he couldn't make it.

The problem I suspect most girls have is when no communication is made to cancel the booking. You sit there in your fancy pants and noone shows. :(

There are few things that stop someone sending a 30 second text I would have thought. Someone who just doesn't show up gets a black mark in my book. If they then call after with an apology then they would get one more chance. At the end of the day we have to safeguard our own business, most of do this to pay our bills (not just to get new shoes and fancy holidays!) so a decision has to be made on how to treat someone who doesn't show up, after all we could have turned down other clients to accommodate a booking that then doesn't show up.

If someone cancelled and then didn't rebook I would assume them a timewaster- I guess I never thought a guy would be embarrassed to try again. Such sensitive souls some of you are!

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…As to rebooking I know that for me if I had let down a lady once I would feel to embarrased to book with her again…

Even if the lady says, “No problem, thanks for letting me know, hopefully meet you another time”? Surely that’s saying I “forgive” you, and it’s an invitation to rebook? Whenever I get a cancellation I always assume it’s genuine until they fail to rebook. Then, like Lydia, they get labelled timewasters.

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I think most of us girls on here are professional and intelligent enough to know that things come up and that work and family take precedent over a punt and of course people die, get ill, have accidents and so on. We truly accept this and are sympathetic to a degree to the plights of secret punting. I would happily make another booking with someone who had let me know he couldn't make it.

The problem I suspect most girls have is when no communication is made to cancel the booking. You sit there in your fancy pants and noone shows. :(

There are few things that stop someone sending a 30 second text I would have thought. Someone who just doesn't show up gets a black mark in my book. If they then call after with an apology then they would get one more chance. At the end of the day we have to safeguard our own business, most of do this to pay our bills (not just to get new shoes and fancy holidays!) so a decision has to be made on how to treat someone who doesn't show up, after all we could have turned down other clients to accommodate a booking that then doesn't show up.

If someone cancelled and then didn't rebook I would assume them a timewaster- I guess I never thought a guy would be embarrassed to try again. Such sensitive souls some of you are!

It's not always the money in my eyes, often a regular or other client might have indicated they'd also like to see me-I've said "Sorry already booked" and they've gone away disappointed. At the same time as asking for confirmation, I also request to let me know asap if you can't make it. Some do, some don't. Best one I've had is someone get waylaid between car and front door, worst one was sun came out so I won't be coming closely followed by I'll come when it's not raining. Err in my neck of the woods rain is pretty common!

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See! there are some golden hearted girls around :wub:

She certainly was, she had a heart of gold, didnt go for sex in the end, just cuddles and talk, with oral at the end

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These girls should be advertised and celebrated (if she welcomes her name being shared of course)

she retired a few years later

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For me making a booking involves putting many things in place and telling not a few fibs Work Wife Transport Me well scrubbed up Cash Punting phone charged & in credit Once I have things organised and the fibs told, then any changes would involve lies on top of lies, and the punt just getting too complicated If there was any last minute hitch or potential breach of my well laid security plan I would cancel my punting plans at the last minute. If I ever got caught out my life as I know it would finish - painfully To date I have never needed to cancel a booked visit But please ladies understand that for some of us however genuine things can happen. As to rebooking I know that for me if I had let down a lady once I would feel to embarrased to book with her again. So ladies I understand there are time wasters out there and that you have bills to pay But I hope you can appreciate things from our side.

Its letting the WG know your cancelling thats essential, if you encounter a problem on the day then you can only give the notice you can give. I cant recall the last time i cancelled, i did flag a car down when mine wouldnt start and offered the driver cash to get me to a punt so in the scheme of things getting my end away comes high up my list of priorities, so cancelling is a very rare occurence.

I punt in good faith so would inform a WG if i cant make it as i would expect her to inform me if she couldnt.

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The essence, for guys, is to give as much notice as possible, it seems to me. The reason is less important, but the lesson I take from this is to re-book to confirm my credibility. I am glad that the ladies see the re-booking as a sign of "good intentions"! I must admit that when I start out on a punt my intentions may be slightly less than "good". :rolleyes:

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I know exactly where the OP is coming from. It can be very hard to even cancel a booking if your wife decides to tag along with you at the last minute, on your trip to wherever. It's not like you're going to be able to pull over and get your punting phone out to text someone.

It works both ways though, I had a girl cancel last minute when her mother turned up at her flat. People should be more understanding on both sides, this is not a trip to the dentist we're talking about.

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We are all human and sometimes things happen that we have no control over so its good to keep an open mind when things go wrong on either side and give the benefit of the doubt. The fact that the appointment is cancelled properly is good, I'm more likely to label people timewasters when they fail to let you know and become a no show.

Shelly

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I've bailed on a couple of punts becuse the wifes "womens sense" kicked in and she thought I was upto something. For example I had to work on a Saturday out of town it's normal and although I didnt need to work this day (punt booking) she decided she wanted to come. I tried to put her off as the town was crap for shopping but I could see the more I resisted the more she pushed. I saw the signs and changed and said she was welcome to come along. At that point she changed her mind.

Lesson is be prepared to bail on the punt if her indoors is susspicious often it's just some test and you'll be able to punt anyway.

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I don't know how you guys do it. I only punt when I'm single because I can't lie for shit. :)

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Nowdays, I tend to plan punting meetings during the day, as it's less suspicious than 'disappearing' for a few hours one evening or being late home - all behaviour traits that can stir suspicion.

As may daytime can be very much my own in respect of planning/visiting genuine business clients, slipping a one hour session in the late morning or afternoon is not a problem.

That said, I do make contingency plans, and that I cant answer the mobile means I am either driving (dont do hands free) or with a business client. Either way I check, double check and check again my tracks are covered, and never return home fresh from the shower. If that's a liklihood, I'll have a 15-20 jog or workout to make me sweaty ! Or turn the car heating up.

What is probably odd is that some business calls mean an overnight in a hotel somewhere, but I've never bothered to book a WG for an hour or two, and cant fathom out why !!

In the lead up to Christmas, I was in Leeds for a formal dinner and overnight, and had a girl booked, but the window of opportunity gradually diminished, and I cancelled, but I dont think she was convinced by my feeble reasons. I also cancelled as I cant perform well when I am part pissed. I dont like bailing out of a planned meeting, but if timescales shorten or other factors change and I consider my actions being more risky, then I have no compulsion about cancelling.

The OP asked about cash. Although I have access to my own funds, I tend to 'accumulate' cash through the month through normal ATM withdrawals so as not to create unusual behaviour, so only need a top up tom complet the fee. Plus my bank and mobile account are all operated online, so cant be accessed by anyone else.

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