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Hello to all. I joined PN in August 2010 and this punting lark has been on my mind a lot between now and then. I've now made a booking with someone I like the look of. The thing is, I'm rather nervous to say the least. I'm 34 and not new to sex but I am married so of course don't do it as much as I'd like. In particular, I'd appreciate advice from experienced punters on taking the plunge. I'm sure I'll enjoy it!

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What is it in particular you'd like advice on?

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we were all new to this once. I was crapping myself the first time, but once it started it was fine. Just go for it, it will be fine!

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Hello to all. I joined PN in August 2010 and this punting lark has been on my mind a lot between now and then. I've now made a booking with someone I like the look of. The thing is, I'm rather nervous to say the least. I'm 34 and not new to sex but I am married so of course don't do it as much as I'd like. In particular, I'd appreciate advice from experienced punters on taking the plunge. I'm sure I'll enjoy it!

Hopefully the WG you have chosen is honest and will offer you a good service. My advice is to decide beforehand what you want to do sex wise rather than wasting time deciding while their and clearly communicate your desires to her within the services she offers of course. Nerves are natural but relax and enjoy yourself. I hope it goes well. :)

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I was terrified my first time, I could barely speak. I just threw myself in there and hoped for the best. I learnt that nothing cures nerves like an orgasm :) Left with a smile on my face.

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Hello to all. I joined PN in August 2010 and this punting lark has been on my mind a lot between now and then. I've now made a booking with someone I like the look of. The thing is, I'm rather nervous to say the least. I'm 34 and not new to sex but I am married so of course don't do it as much as I'd like. In particular, I'd appreciate advice from experienced punters on taking the plunge. I'm sure I'll enjoy it!

Marmite, this is a massive step to take and it will change the rest of your life to a lesser or greater extent.

The single most important thing is not getting caught. TBH, the sex will probably be a secondary consideration on your first punt. Your biggest concern will be wondering how you can leave your house reasonably clean, disappear for a couple of hours, return with a hundred quid less, clean yourself up, and face the wife as if you've just popped out to get some tile-grout.

Trust me, this takes thought, pre-planning and balls of the highest order. If you get a good shag as well, even better, but it might not be your highest priority on the first outing.

I'm happy to expand on this if you wish (though my wife is prowling about as I type!)

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What is it in particular you'd like advice on?

Just anything to do with making the first time as enjoyable as possible.

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Don't worry too much about whether your first punt goes good or bad, just think of it as a punting initiation ceremony that has cost you £XX.

Good or bad, you will find all your subsequent punts will be far far better.

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Thanks Reverend Dick. I will take these words of wisdom on board.

I would not want to get caught so would never do it in my own city. I'm a couple of hours from London by train so would only ever plan to do it there (I'm in London every couple of months on average). I do overnight stays in London so leaving the house/getting back is only really to a hotel on my own, which I think will help solve one problem.

The money issue is a serious consideration but I have a bit of side income from consultancy work (and a separate account) that should take care of this. For the last 18 months I've thought about the logistics and - I hope - have it covered, but we'll see. I even got a separate punting phone today which will remain in my office.

Obviously I'd never want my wife to find out (she is lovely) but I get the feeling that this punting malarky is something that I might not be able to do without if I start. I'm not taking it lightly and of course I might back out in the end but hopefully not.

Thanks a lot for the advice.

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Make sure she has some field reports on here first.

J

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Thanks Reverend Dick. I will take these words of wisdom on board.

I would not want to get caught so would never do it in my own city. I'm a couple of hours from London by train so would only ever plan to do it there (I'm in London every couple of months on average). I do overnight stays in London so leaving the house/getting back is only really to a hotel on my own, which I think will help solve one problem.

The money issue is a serious consideration but I have a bit of side income from consultancy work (and a separate account) that should take care of this. For the last 18 months I've thought about the logistics and - I hope - have it covered, but we'll see. I even got a separate punting phone today which will remain in my office.

Obviously I'd never want my wife to find out (she is lovely) but I get the feeling that this punting malarky is something that I might not be able to do without if I start. I'm not taking it lightly and of course I might back out in the end but hopefully not.

Thanks a lot for the advice.

If you go ahead, you will also need to think about the health risk to your wife. Fortunately, the good Reverend has extensive experience in pathology and microbiology, so I've been able to protect my wife from infection. I don't use condoms with my wife.

This is a very important point.

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Sorry if my previous post was a bit of a downer... best to be safe.

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Just anything to do with making the first time as enjoyable as possible.

My advice would be to choose a more mature escort rather than one of the "porn star" type. Tell her you are new to the sport and, if she is any good, she will give you a good time. Don't, whatever you do, try to pretend to know it all. She will see through you in 5 seconds.

Good luck, and don't forget to tell us all the dirty details!

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Hello to all. I joined PN in August 2010 and this punting lark has been on my mind a lot between now and then. I've now made a booking with someone I like the look of. The thing is, I'm rather nervous to say the least. I'm 34 and not new to sex but I am married so of course don't do it as much as I'd like. In particular, I'd appreciate advice from experienced punters on taking the plunge. I'm sure I'll enjoy it!

That's a long wait! My tips would be a) time management - give yourself time to get to your appointment and, just as important, to get back to normal life after your appointment, Worrying about time can really screw things up. B) if needed, 1 (one) small drink to help calm any butterflies and c) if asked if your first time, tell the truth. If you've chosen well and your lady is experienced, your lady will cater for any 1st time nerves. Enjoy.

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I cacked myself (not literally!) the 1st time, now can confidently take on & direct a young 20s duo.....happy days!

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If you can find my posting "A Day In The Life" you may pick up some dos and don'ts.

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I can relate to this - funnily enough I have just started going to massage parlours (third time today) though my reason may be a bit different - Ive never been that confident sexually (having only had several long term partners) and on many occassions have taken a girl Ive met at a nightclub or bar only to find nerves have made me unable to perform - super embarrassing!

So the plan is to spend as many occassions with WG's to 'cure' or get over the whole nerves thing regarding sex basically!

Im not sure if this will work but the two girls Ive been with so far have been wonderful - I was open and upfront about this and they both took their time to make me feel at ease and relaxed. Like I said I dont know how effective this will be as therapy but sure is a hell of a lot of fun!

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We were all new once to punting mate. My list in no particular order

1. Tell her it's your first time

2. Pick an older Escort with lots of positive reviews

3. Have 1 or 2(max) drinks beforehand to calm the nerves

4. Lots of banter and kissing before the act

5. Go for a longer appointment so you can relax with her

6. Don't pressure yourself re: the sex and how good it "should" be

7. Try and build up a rapport before the actual meeting so it feels date like

Like you i'm married and it took me a long while to cross that line, once you do then yes it's something that will

Change your life. You're not the first married manto see an escort and you won't be the last!

Enjoy!!!!

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So the plan is to spend as many occassions with WG's to 'cure' or get over the whole nerves thing regarding sex basically!

This was foremost in mind when I started too. I had all sorts of insecurities about sex and was very nervous. Seeing WG's definitely cured me. When I stopped seeing WG's and got myself a girlfriend I found I was *much* more relaxed about sex, hangups gone, brilliant.

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Looking back on first times is always amusing, I walked to my first booking, about 2 miles on a freezing December day, so I was wrapped up warm, got to the flat, she had the heating up full blast, combine that with first time nerves and I darn near melted into a puddle on the floor, I was quite literally sweating like a horse!

She saw this,turned th heating down, got the shower running, left me to it and then sat me down in front of a massive fan to cool me down for a good 5 minutes before the main event got underway.

You'll be pleased to know it gets easier, now it's like popping to the shops for a pint of milk, only sexier....

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Don't spend an hour or more in the pub getting up some Dutch courage.That would be a big mistake. Go sober!!

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And to echo previous comments, book a longer appointment. If you've built it up in your head before getting there you are likely to ' go off' fairly quickly, if you follow my drift, you can then relax a bit, get your breath back, chat to the girl and then enjoy a much more relaxed round 2.

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I was really nervous my first time as I had no real idea what to expect.

Was actually shaking a little bit during the initial massage and she commented on this asking if it was my first time sexually. No, but first time I'd rung up an agency or done anything like that.

Got easier once a bit of foreplay started although found it hard to get hard due to nerves. Took a little while but settled down and after a bit of RO, went with the flow.

Still get nervous now as unless it's someone I've been with before, I've not always a real idea of what she looks like, whether I'll offend her by doing a certain something, personal hang-ups regarding things like "will it get hard enough when it should; do I look / smell good and measure up to the last person she saw; hope I don't finish too soon etc".

That said, never had a problem going off too soon.......complete opposite usually - probably a subconcious thing where I want to pleasure the woman first and then think about myself.

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For a newbie the best advice I can add to what's already been given in this topic is this, Most of the things you worry about 1st time wont actually happen. They are a possibility but research and plan and you'll have no problems 99% of the time.

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