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Married Punters; Do You Suffer From "the Guilt" After A Punt?!

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Because fuck do I! I'm young guy, 30, been married for 3 years. I do love my wife to bits, but god are we not on the same wave length sexually!

So for the past few years I have become a once a month punter, looking for a hardcore PSE service.

Now, whilst it's all going on, these punts are normally all brilliant, but almost as soon as I cum, it hits me! THE GUILT!!!! :(

I feel guilty for pounding a WG butthole and essentially "using" her, I get the mega guilt about how lovely and sweet my wife is and how she has no idea at all she's married to a sexualy freak! I feel guilty about what I could be spending the money on (ie: us!).

Damn do I feel guilt ridden after I'm done! So who else gets this?!

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Since you feel so guilty, go to individual conselling with RELATE and then take it from there - there are a number of possibilities and outcomes. You are not going to be able to live with this guilt for ever.

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In common with a lot of older punters, I no longer have sex with my wife- so no guilt at all.

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I only feel guilty after I've cum in her mouth. All other ejaculations are fine. For some reason, my brain tells me that spunking in a girl's mouth is very demeaning...... But I can't help it and love doing it. Weird eh?

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Because fuck do I! I'm young guy, 30, been married for 3 years. I do love my wife to bits, but god are we not on the same wave length sexually!

So for the past few years I have become a once a month punter, looking for a hardcore PSE service.

Now, whilst it's all going on, these punts are normally all brilliant, but almost as soon as I cum, it hits me! THE GUILT!!!! :(

I feel guilty for pounding a WG butthole and essentially "using" her, I get the mega guilt about how lovely and sweet my wife is and how she has no idea at all she's married to a sexualy freak! I feel guilty about what I could be spending the money on (ie: us!).

Damn do I feel guilt ridden after I'm done! So who else gets this?!

I have never been married as i dont believe in it but i have selfishly cheated on partners by punting and i dont feel guilty. I punt for sex and the variety i require but desire love and all that offers so want my cake and to eat it. Monogamy really sucks.

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it dpeends if u think love and sex are different things.

i do and therfore no guilt

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it dpeends if u think love and sex are different things.

i do and therfore no guilt

I agree it does and i do.

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You will be surprised how many guys are the same, as soon as they shoot are like pandas, (eats (daty) shoots and leaves) some trip over themselves to get out the place even though just a few mins before they could not get enough of you, it is guilt.

Either that or they suddenly sobered up :P

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Frankly no guilt.

Errr that's it

Uncle Pokey

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Because fuck do I! I'm young guy, 30, been married for 3 years. I do love my wife to bits, but god are we not on the same wave length sexually!

So for the past few years I have become a once a month punter, looking for a hardcore PSE service.

Now, whilst it's all going on, these punts are normally all brilliant, but almost as soon as I cum, it hits me! THE GUILT!!!! :(

I feel guilty for pounding a WG butthole and essentially "using" her, I get the mega guilt about how lovely and sweet my wife is and how she has no idea at all she's married to a sexualy freak! I feel guilty about what I could be spending the money on (ie: us!).

Damn do I feel guilt ridden after I'm done! So who else gets this?!

Feeling guilt would really depends on circumstances. If you are young with a young wife both sexually active then that is one thing. Being an older couple in a marriage where sex is a distant memory is another.

I am afraid there is no cure for the guilt you feel given what you describe. Some men are naturally more how to say, randy, sexually adventurous etc. It can be a curse. I sometime wish I did not think about sex so much.

The trouble is the more you punt the less interested you will become in sex at home. At some point you will have to strike a balance to make sure that your partner's needs are met too. A sexless relationship for a young couple is unlikely to last as the affection get drained from it.

I don't think you should feel that you are "using" an escort. To some extent they are using you to make a living. So you should not feel guilt for that.

Feeling guilt is not a bad thing and it may help you bring your punting under control and it can get out of control if you are not careful. It is like leaving a kid loose in a sweet shop.

Punting is a luxury and you should make sure that the money you spend does not financially impact your family. If it does then you know what to do.

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I find that the less the customer feels he is "using" me, the less guilt he has. If someone "pounded my butthole" (nice, I'd love to be married to you) I would also feel used and so would he. Try and treat the woman like a person too, or don't do it at all. A split personality like this is not healthy.

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I sympathise with your internal struggle, you're obviously a thoughtful & emotionally intelligent person. Good that you have unburdened yourself here, it will hurt if your guilt spills out at home. I think the guys that feel no remorse are either unfeeling & unemotional by nature or have learnt to suppress the guilt by justifying their actions in some way.

If the guilt becomes overwhelming, you might have to consider curtailing your PSE adventures, alternatively try to view it as 'outsourcing' the activities that aren't available at home, you might be able to compartmentalise it that way.

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It's pretty normal to feel some level of guilt if you love your wife. I do feel guilty at some level, but i rationalise it by saying we have sex only occasionally at home, so i would rather satisfy my needs outside than bring resentment into our relationship.

How you deal with it - only you can answer, but you need to get a handlle on it and quickly

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ORG83, let me ask you a question: do you feel guilty after a wank and do you feel you have betrayed your wife with the pornstars in your mastubatory fantasies?

No? Then think of punting as a "3D assisted wank" - works for me!

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guilt? a punter with a conscience !?? lol. j/k :yahoo: ;)

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You will be surprised how many guys are the same, as soon as they shoot are like pandas, (eats (daty) shoots and leaves) some trip over themselves to get out the place even though just a few mins before they could not get enough of you, it is guilt.

Either that or they suddenly sobered up :P

Yes I have known this happen once in a while. The eye contact ceases and without a backward glance or peck on the

cheek they are out of the building. I find it a little sad really but do not take in personally.

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I happens from time to time that a new poster pops up on here riddled with guilt, but I suggest to you that all the long-term posters on this board carry no such baggage. Are they deluding themselves? No, I really don’t think so. I’ve been enjoying this pursuit for ten years now and can honestly say it has never dwelt on my conscience. Perhaps venturer is right and we happy band are unfeeling and unemotional by nature. :eek:

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Guilt? No. When I walk out at the end of a good punt (and they've all been exceptionally good ones recently - thanks, Chloe) what I get are immediate withdrawal symptoms.

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You will be surprised how many guys are the same, as soon as they shoot are like pandas, (eats (daty) shoots and leaves) some trip over themselves to get out the place even though just a few mins before they could not get enough of you, it is guilt.

Either that or they suddenly sobered up :P

That might not be guilt, it could simply be embarrassment.

When I'm really horny I have no nerves and have no problem meeting a girl for the first time, stripping off and doing the deed, but after I've cum things can sometimes change. The sudden realisation that you're lying there bollock naked next to a complete stranger in a strange house, can be quite unnerving for me. It's not so bad after a second meeting thank god.

As for guilt, I have none. What we're doing is just a result of evolution and that pre-dates marriage, religion and other made up stuff by quite a bit.

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I do not feel guilty. But turn and turn around, some wgs go all remote and refuse eye contact as soon as the hour is over

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Yes I have known this happen once in a while. The eye contact ceases and without a backward glance or peck on the

cheek they are out of the building. I find it a little sad really but do not take in personally.

Now if I behaved like that, I would feel guilty!

During a punt I will always spend a little time chatting with the lady, and on leaving I will always warmly thank the lady concerned for the "great time and the kindness" she's shown me (even if it wasn't quite top-drawer). I still happen to think s*x is a very intimate experience, and it doesn't take much thought to express to the lady how grateful I am for her time.

Maybe I'm easy to please, but I've very rarely had a bad punt.

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I get the same feelings pretty much to the letter.

Punting is an addiction like gambling, drugs, or for some people work.

With that you get the highs with the anticipation as your heading over to the appointment, and then either elation or dissapointment as it either blows your mind or sometimes just your wallet.

As other posters have said only option is to quit or maybe take a compromise choice and go for a massage with happy ending. Then slowly increase your poison with a body to body, 4 hand, soap suds, etc until you find your comfort level.

Part of me wonders if the mrs knew I was blowing the equivelent of a family holiday every year whether she might be up for a bit more fun but another part of me thinks thats one question thats never going to get asked. Focus on that thought and the guilt soon dissapears.

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No guilt, I'm afraid. As mentioned above I look forward to the next time. On occasion I look at what I have spent and think that might have denied some family excitement/entertainment, but then get over myself. I punt at just over once per month and it is not a substitute for my relationship, just an addition. I certainly never had anything as erotic or sexy in my marriage as I get in the hour I pay for. Better than the emotional attachment of an affair, though clearly not as good as perfect fidelity. I'm not perfect, as Mrs BobJim always says!

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