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Can Someone Explain This Escort's Bizarre Behaviour

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I arranged to meet an escort yesterday afternoon. We had swapped emails and as she only did outcall I booked and paid for a hotel room. I spoke to her at about 10 am to confirm that everything was OK and double checked she had the address etc and looked forward to meeting her at 3pm. I picked up the room key at 2, had a shower and waited. At about 2.30 I got 2 text messages saying that she "freaked out" and couldn't go ahead and meet. The texts were rather garbled. I tried calling her but the calls went straight to voicemail.

Since it was clear that she wasn't going to turn up, I left and went back to my office where I picked up the following email from her:

"I just want you to know that I am very sorry for what I did and how I let you down. What's happened is this:

I got ready for our date and then I just got a cold feet.

I haven't been working since end of November (apart from a dinner meeting few days ago). I've been traveling, chilling and enjoying my time.

I feel I am not as fit as I was when I had my pictures done (last ones few months ago) and you won't like me. :(

Please, accept my apologies.

I just hope I didn't spoil your all day and that you will find some nice lady

who will come to see you at the apartament.

Please, forgive me for freaking out.

Best regards"

I didn't bring my laptop with me - why would I - so I had no quick way of arranging another lady to come and see me and in any case I was so p***d off that I wasn't really in the mood.

Obviously it is nice for her that this escort has been travelling etc. Maybe with the benefit of hindsight I should have been a bit suspicious of her profile as she charges only £100/hr, but she has excellent feedback on the other site and she sounded really confident and comfortable about meeting me when we spoke just 4 hours earlier. I guess that money means nothing to her as she makes no mention of the fact that of course I paid for the room.

I am reluctant to name and shame as reading between the lines I can infer that she has "problems" although I hope that she doesn't do this to another punter.

I'd be interested to know if others have had similar experiences and also what the ladies think about this episode.

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Her feedback....... if what she is saying is correct, her fb, although good, would have all been for pre-Nov.

Did you not spot that when you were checking her fb?

Whislt most people do pile on some weight at Christmas time, she appears to suggest that she turned from a size 10 into an obese WG??

WOuld this not suggest that perhaps the photos were photoshopped, in some way?

It may have been worthwhile mentioning it to her that you lost out on booking a room for the meeting and wait for her response.

Just my initial thoughts.

CT

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Ouch! Just a tad unprofessional! :( I too would mention the cost of the hotel room and the fact that she only gave you half an hours notice before the appointment was due to take place leaving you with not a great deal of chance to cancel the room!

It's impossible to read between the lines to try and work out why in the space of 4.5 hours she just freaked out, I suppose it can happen after a break from the role but hasn't happened to me thankfully!

All I can suggest is email her to explain how her actions affected you and see if she can come up with a suggestion before you leave any kind of feedback or rule her out completely.

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I arranged to meet an escort yesterday afternoon. We had swapped emails and as she only did outcall I booked and paid for a hotel room. I spoke to her at about 10 am to confirm that everything was OK and double checked she had the address etc and looked forward to meeting her at 3pm. I picked up the room key at 2, had a shower and waited. At about 2.30 I got 2 text messages saying that she "freaked out" and couldn't go ahead and meet. The texts were rather garbled. I tried calling her but the calls went straight to voicemail.

Since it was clear that she wasn't going to turn up, I left and went back to my office where I picked up the following email from her:

"I just want you to know that I am very sorry for what I did and how I let you down. What's happened is this:

I got ready for our date and then I just got a cold feet.

I haven't been working since end of November (apart from a dinner meeting few days ago). I've been traveling, chilling and enjoying my time.

I feel I am not as fit as I was when I had my pictures done (last ones few months ago) and you won't like me. :(

Please, accept my apologies.

I just hope I didn't spoil your all day and that you will find some nice lady

who will come to see you at the apartament.

Please, forgive me for freaking out.

Best regards"

I didn't bring my laptop with me - why would I - so I had no quick way of arranging another lady to come and see me and in any case I was so p***d off that I wasn't really in the mood.

Obviously it is nice for her that this escort has been travelling etc. Maybe with the benefit of hindsight I should have been a bit suspicious of her profile as she charges only £100/hr, but she has excellent feedback on the other site and she sounded really confident and comfortable about meeting me when we spoke just 4 hours earlier. I guess that money means nothing to her as she makes no mention of the fact that of course I paid for the room.

I am reluctant to name and shame as reading between the lines I can infer that she has "problems" although I hope that she doesn't do this to another punter.

I'd be interested to know if others have had similar experiences and also what the ladies think about this episode.

Sorry to hear about this. I dont do Outcalls nowadays but i have been let down although fortunately not for a long time when i have got to the WGs place to find no answer to her door and/or phone. Apart from the travel cost i havent coughed up for a hotel room though so i would be annoyed if it were me and i would warn other punters.

Who knows if her excuse is true or that a regular rang after you for example. She clearly should of been certain when accepting your booking and if her excuse is true only got back into it once comfortable to do so. The lesson is either dont book hotel rooms unless the WG is a trusted regular or take your laptop or have an internet phone with you to hopefully arrange a last minute booking if need be. In my experience what a WG charges isnt relevant to how good she is, thats down to her attitude, if that is good she will be good at whatever rate she charges.

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maybe she is telling the truth, it is nerve wracking to start this job, if you take a long break it is just as nerve wracking, especially if she thinks she falls below par compared to her pictures...she shouldnt have made the booking but there is no reason to assume she is lying.x

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I think the best thing is to just chalk it down to experience and move on.

The hotel and wasted time are a shame but at least she emailed you!

In the late nineties I lived alone in a London flat and used to have an outcall visit a couple of times a month. I used to find a good 20-30% were no shows, with their phones subsequently turned off.

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I arranged to meet an escort yesterday afternoon. We had swapped emails and as she only did outcall I booked and paid for a hotel room. I spoke to her at about 10 am to confirm that everything was OK and double checked she had the address etc and looked forward to meeting her at 3pm. I picked up the room key at 2, had a shower and waited. At about 2.30 I got 2 text messages saying that she "freaked out" and couldn't go ahead and meet. The texts were rather garbled. I tried calling her but the calls went straight to voicemail.

Since it was clear that she wasn't going to turn up, I left and went back to my office where I picked up the following email from her:

"I just want you to know that I am very sorry for what I did and how I let you down. What's happened is this:

I got ready for our date and then I just got a cold feet.

I haven't been working since end of November (apart from a dinner meeting few days ago). I've been traveling, chilling and enjoying my time.

I feel I am not as fit as I was when I had my pictures done (last ones few months ago) and you won't like me. :(

Please, accept my apologies.

I just hope I didn't spoil your all day and that you will find some nice lady

who will come to see you at the apartament.

Please, forgive me for freaking out.

Best regards"

I didn't bring my laptop with me - why would I - so I had no quick way of arranging another lady to come and see me and in any case I was so p***d off that I wasn't really in the mood.

Obviously it is nice for her that this escort has been travelling etc. Maybe with the benefit of hindsight I should have been a bit suspicious of her profile as she charges only £100/hr, but she has excellent feedback on the other site and she sounded really confident and comfortable about meeting me when we spoke just 4 hours earlier. I guess that money means nothing to her as she makes no mention of the fact that of course I paid for the room.

I am reluctant to name and shame as reading between the lines I can infer that she has "problems" although I hope that she doesn't do this to another punter.

I'd be interested to know if others have had similar experiences and also what the ladies think about this episode.

I have just read this, and while I feel sorry for you, my heart and soul go out to this lady. Please, please do not name her. This biz is fab when everything is going well, but when things go wrong as they can do for whatever reason you can name........ a girl can feel stifled by life itself. Persevere with her and see her when she is ready. She sounds perfectly human to me and someone I would like to give a shoulder to.

Bless.

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I think for everyones sake it would be better for you to name and shame because if you dont there is no way other punters can protect themselves.

You spent a lot of time and money preparing including paying for a hotel, I don't think you should just take it on the chin like a sucker.

If it was you wasting her time, your number would be blocked and given to her friends to block too. You would get negative feedback too.

If someone is dishonest enough to put very old pictures up to lure you then blow you off at the last minute at your expense then you need to name them.

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Sarah, you are as ever "The Fluffy One". Your empathy knows no bounds. Good on ya!

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Sarah, you are as ever "The Fluffy One". Your empathy knows no bounds. Good on ya!

I am a watcher of life and everything that life throws at you, and Lord knows I have had enough shite thrown at me to bury me :)

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All I can suggest is email her to explain how her actions affected you and see if she can come up with a suggestion before you leave any kind of feedback or rule her out completely.

Agreed, this is another one of those where the booking should never have been accepted but there's nothing to suggest any deception or malice on her part so at least give her a chance to make amends.

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I'd be interested to know if others have had similar experiences and also what the ladies think about this episode.

First, she makes you think she is something she isn't over the phone i.e confident and eager to meet. Then she cancels the booking at the last minute. Then she directs all your calls to voicemail.

If she has personal problems, she shouldn't be doing this job. Escorting is not for someone who has confidence issues or other underlying problems.

It angers me a great deal when I read posts such as this. She cost you time and money.

While I have all the sympathy in the world for people who have problems, I have little or none for those who drag others down with them. If she's got issues, she needs to take time out.

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I have just read this, and while I feel sorry for you, my heart and soul go out to this lady. Please, please do not name her. This biz is fab when everything is going well, but when things go wrong as they can do for whatever reason you can name........ a girl can feel stifled by life itself. Persevere with her and see her when she is ready. She sounds perfectly human to me and someone I would like to give a shoulder to.

Bless.

I agree with Ms Summer's comments here. We can never know what has been going on in this girl's life to cause this fickle behaviour, but at least she did send the email.

I've been let down by one of my regulars a few times just recently (though not incurring the cost of a hotel room), and it's obvious from speaking/ texting with her that she's going through a very bad time and is quite vulnerable. Whatever inconvenience she's caused me (which isn’t much cos I’ve always got other regulars & agencies on back-up) I just want her to know that I’ll be there if she needs some emotional support.

We can all have bad days.

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Similar experiences?

Like Smiths I have travelled long distances, only to find punt cancelled at very short notice.... sometimes with explanations much less "convincing" than one you received, or even no explanation at all. In theory irritating, but in practice I don't work anymore so I can take it equably.

It must be profoundly vexing for you, the money and time adds up to a considerable investment. (I assume you wanted to see specific lady, and therefore moving to a "plan b" would have been a waste of time.)

But strangely I do find myself agreeing with Sarah. I wouldn't name and shame.... gut feeling is that woman has given a true account of why she didn't meet. Indeed, I probably wouldn't have started a thread on it. But... I would have told woman I had booked a room, travelled a long way, wanted to see her specifically and so didn't see another woman.... and tell her you wished she had turned up.That way if in a few weeks she's back on form she might offer a hefty discount from normal rates. (Or not as case may be. Or... of course... you might not want to consider a future meet anyway.)

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FWIW I agree with Sarah, jackdaw, et al. and would not name 'n' shame in this case.

On a specific note, a new member above referred to "very old pictures" - I don't think those where the 'last ones [were taken a] few months ago' would, ever, qualify as that.

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I would not name and shame just yet, but give the lady the chance to redeem herself. Tell her you have spent £?? on a wasted hotel booking, you have also arranged travel, time away from work, excuses at home etc and suggest a meeting at her place to see if she offers you the chance to recoup your investment. If she declines, then that is the time to name and shame. She is definitely a TW by that stage.

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I would not name and shame just yet, but give the lady the chance to redeem herself. Tell her you have spent £?? on a wasted hotel booking, you have also arranged travel, time away from work, excuses at home etc and suggest a meeting at her place to see if she offers you the chance to recoup your investment. If she declines, then that is the time to name and shame. She is definitely a TW by that stage.

Erm, is it me or does that sound just a tad creepy?

"Give me a freebie at yours, or I'll be writing you a bad FR" :huh: .

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Unfortunately it occurs the other way. Escorts book a hotel and then the clients don't turn up having made, what would appear to be, firm bookings. I suspect in this case the lady is telling the truth and that it would be unkind to "name and shame" for just this one event.

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I wouldn't name or same her, even if I had spent money on a hotel. Afterall we are punters, and men who place bets on horses and in a casino are known as punters - so we are gamblers. We take a chance and on some occasions it dosn't work out. We have all experiecend losing punts.

She seems quite genuine, altough or course I could be wrong. I have done similer things myslef, pulling out at the last minute for job interviews etc. So if you fancied her and liked her it might be worth giving her another try as an incall so at worst you only waste the cost of the journey if she changes her mind again. It could result in a great punt if when meeting her she wants to show you her appericiation of your sympathy and understanding.

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Erm, is it me or does that sound just a tad creepy?

"Give me a freebie at yours, or I'll be writing you a bad FR" :huh: .

Nowhere in paul's post do I see the word freebie being mentioned or any suggestion of threatening bad feedback, both of which would gaurantee a shit punt if it even happened, however the OP is out of pocket the money he spent on that hotel and time he wasted on going down to see this lady, and the onus is now on her to make it up to him, which to my mind means she provides the venue for the next meeting and the price/time offered reflects the cost of his hotel.

I wouldn't name or same her, even if I had spent money on a hotel. Afterall we are punters, and men who place bets on horses and in a casino are known as punters - so we are gamblers. We take a chance and on some occasions it dosn't work out. We have all experiecend losing punts.

She seems quite genuine, altough or course I could be wrong. I have done similer things myslef, pulling out at the last minute for job interviews etc. So if you fancied her and liked her it might be worth giving her another try as an incall so at worst you only waste the cost of the journey if she changes her mind again. It could result in a great punt if when meeting her she wants to show you her appericiation of your sympathy and understanding.

We are not gamblers, we are customers, the ladies are service providers, and where the service is bad or doesn't happen despite cost incurring enabling actions (in this case the hotel booking) then naming and shaming is the proper response, the only reason I've advocated not to do so in this case so far is that the lady did contact the OP (albeit very last minute) with a wholly plausable explanation, as stated the onus is now on her to make amends, if she does great, if not I want to know who she is so I don't waste my time or money on possibly trying to book her.

All this said if her personal issues are such that she's completely quit escorting then none of this matters and best of british to her.

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Nowhere in paul's post do I see the word freebie being mentioned or any suggestion of threatening bad feedback, both of which would gaurantee a shit punt if it even happened, however the OP is out of pocket the money he spent on that hotel and time he wasted on going down to see this lady, and the onus is now on her to make it up to him, which to my mind means she provides the venue for the next meeting and the price/time offered reflects the cost of his hotel.

Porker Paul: "...and suggest a meeting at her place to see if she offers you the chance to recoup your investment. If she declines, then that is the time to name and shame."

Hmm. Maybe I misunderstood the post?

Anyways, let's hope she's ok and gets herself sorted.

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Porker Paul: "...and suggest a meeting at her placeto see if she offers you the chance to recoup your investment. If she declines, then that is the time to name and shame."

Hmm. Maybe I misunderstood the post?

I'll give you it could be read either way, I read it as the offers is hers to make or not, not that the OP goes in demanding

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I would think it would be better to see if she is still actually taking bookings before you name and shame. I know there is always a frantic clamour for name and shaming but if this lady has stopped taking bookings then her reason is genuine, and perhaps she was feeling confident when she took the booking but literally at the last minute crapped her pants with nerves. If she has stopped taking bookings then why name and shame her and ruin her return if she is taking a further month or two off to get back into shape. Its okay for guys to say a few pounds doesnt make any difference but to some people it does. Perhaps she has work clothes that she never wears in normal life and upon dressing just before the booking she realised that she was popping out at the seems and felt fat and horrible, it would surely have been an awful punt anyway if she felt like this going in. Sorry but despite this being a profession and girls having to be all professional and all that we are still people and human error and judgement is sometimes genuine not a total deliberate piss take out of the client for no reason other than to be a female tosser.

Do we name and shame every client on here who cancels a booking last minute or just doesnt even bother to show up, it wastes out time and money and to some indies, they have travelled a long distance for that booking and gone to considerable outlay to fulfill the clients fantasy. Are there puning names/forum names and punting numbers slammed all over the forum...me thinks not and if they were the very people who are clamouring every time for a name and shame of the girls would be screaming in horror at the indignity of a punter being named and shamed with reasons such as...perhaps he has a genuine reason, why make him look like a twat online etc

OP.. take a deep breath, find out if she is still takeing bookings. Perhaps send her an email enquiring as to wether she is no longer working and if not will she be returning soon etc..see what comes of it first.

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I would think it would be better to see if she is still actually taking bookings before you name and shame. I know there is always a frantic clamour for name and shaming but if this lady has stopped taking bookings then her reason is genuine, and perhaps she was feeling confident when she took the booking but literally at the last minute crapped her pants with nerves. If she has stopped taking bookings then why name and shame her and ruin her return if she is taking a further month or two off to get back into shape. Its okay for guys to say a few pounds doesnt make any difference but to some people it does. Perhaps she has work clothes that she never wears in normal life and upon dressing just before the booking she realised that she was popping out at the seems and felt fat and horrible, it would surely have been an awful punt anyway if she felt like this going in. Sorry but despite this being a profession and girls having to be all professional and all that we are still people and human error and judgement is sometimes genuine not a total deliberate piss take out of the client for no reason other than to be a female tosser.

Do we name and shame every client on here who cancels a booking last minute or just doesnt even bother to show up, it wastes out time and money and to some indies, they have travelled a long distance for that booking and gone to considerable outlay to fulfill the clients fantasy. Are there puning names/forum names and punting numbers slammed all over the forum...me thinks not and if they were the very people who are clamouring every time for a name and shame of the girls would be screaming in horror at the indignity of a punter being named and shamed with reasons such as...perhaps he has a genuine reason, why make him look like a twat online etc

OP.. take a deep breath, find out if she is still takeing bookings. Perhaps send her an email enquiring as to wether she is no longer working and if not will she be returning soon etc..see what comes of it first.

Good advice, Chloe.

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I'll give you it could be read either way, I read it as the offers is hers to make or not, not that the OP goes in demanding

My intention was to leave it open for her to apologise to the OP, and then see if she offers him a discount, gives him a longer time or just ignores the previous booking. I think he will know by then if she is genuine or not.

I made no mention of a bad FR. That's up to the OP after the second visit.

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