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Anyone Ever Take A Gift Along To An Independent?

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I have an appointment on Monday and was considering taking some flowers, which will hopefully prove to be a good icebreaker.

Does this sort of gesture usually go down well, or can it backfire sometimes?

Thanks

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Flowers/gifts are ok but make sure the place she works from has no noisy neighbours, as ppl may start asking questions. i saw an 'indy' once and she told me only small gifts were ok as they were more discreet.

So yes flowers are ok, but don't make an habit of it if she becomes a regular due to neighbours, also look at the expression on her face when you do so it will say a lot.

hope this helps.

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I would check with your chosen lady, as this may not help with descreation in her neighbourhood x

karryxxx

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Flowers dont seem popular (presumably, so many different men bearing flowers is hard to explain away) - wine seems ok, or in my case a regular going to Oz appreciated my Claris sun screen

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Indeed, a procession of men carrying bouqets would stand out. The general understanding is that if a gift is brought, chocolates are better bet. Some ladies express preferences on their website. Gifts are pleasant of course, but a gift is not necessary, particularly on the first visit. ...A warm smile is a good icebreaker. karryescort's advice is sensible I think.

@Williams, that's a cool thoughtful gift! =]

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Thank you, I hadn't thought about the neighbours issue!

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I would avoid flowers as they are very obvious on your way in, and if too many of her neighbours see lines of men with floral tributes they will either think there is a funeral going on (and therefore a wake to be enjoyed) or a "lady of ill repute" working there.

A bottle of wine, box of chocolates or something similar is much more likely to be appreciated. Even a special bar of soap from an upmarket soap shop.

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The gifts I have given working girls have often gone down well but had no influence on the service (as it were). What I'd advise here is "do whatever you want." If you would like to give her a gift, then go for it, it will most likely be graciously received. Subtle gifts work better, except in Amsterdam when no one cares either way and the neighbours are also working girls.

I've been tole before, "that's un necessary but thank you." She was clearly delighted but wanted to impress upon me that it wasn't an expectation. I don't see her very often though so I like to give her something nice.

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I have an appointment on Monday and was considering taking some flowers, which will hopefully prove to be a good icebreaker. Does this sort of gesture usually go down well, or can it backfire sometimes? Thanks

I would only take a gift if punting with a great regular myself but as others have said flowers arent discreet. A gift cant hurt if genuinely given with no strings.

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I have an appointment on Monday and was considering taking some flowers, which will hopefully prove to be a good icebreaker.

Does this sort of gesture usually go down well, or can it backfire sometimes?

Thanks

Hi there,

I can only speak for myself here but as an independent which is what your topic is about I feel I can perhaps say one or two things.

Don't tip me. My fee is more than enough and I get to keep all of it. Tip your parlour girl or your agency girl because they have to hand over a fee to someone else.

I love to receive flowers. I adore them and find they are a rather nice ice breaking gesture and it shows me the guy wants things to go well.

If you are now unsure about this, why not drop a text to the girl or an email, and ask her if she likes flowers?

Chocolates are nice, but I won't eat them since I am watching my figure. I give them away to my children.

A car is always acceptable but I would like to choose the colour :)

Joke

x x

Hope this helps and also hope you have a bloody good time !

Edited by Sarah Summers

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A car is always acceptable but I would like to choose the colour :)

Hope this helps and also hope you have a bloody good time !

What colour Mercedes should I bring next time? :P

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A friend of mine had one very generous gift from a regular - he bought her a house!!!

Just thought i'd share :)

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I wouldn't generally take a gift to a lady I was seeing for the first time unless there were special circumstances (say she had needed to make a special effort to see me or I had had to cancel an earlier appointment with her). I would be more willing to take a gift to a regular but, even there, I would only be doing it if there was some special occasion or justification.

I do feel chocolates are a safe choice, plus you will often get to share them. (Presumably wine offers the same advantage but I do not partake of the devil's nectar.)

The last time I took a gift to a lady was because our previous meeting had been particularly memorable and I wanted to say thank you for that. I did choose a box of chocolates. I was tempted to buy a heart-shaped box but did wonder if that would be liable to misinterpretation as me trying to suggest our relationship was more significant than client and SP so I just went with a standard rectangular box and one that could fit in my bag in case of those theorised nosey neighbours that have already been mentioned.

Presents might seem like a nice idea but can be a bit of a minefield.

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Don't.

It's about the money

Give the gifts to your wife, friends

I've seen a lot of punters gifts to girls over the Xmas period. M&S seemed popular, the little black boxed jewelry or accessories. The girls know they are £5.99 and won't wear them. You might say its the thought that counts but it doesn't much

Unless its a good present don't give it. She's no more likely to wear a £5.99 charm bracelet than any other woman

There has been a thread on this before where one guy was investing in bulk in cheap plastic watches down the market to hand to girls. Stop it , that's why you haven't got a girlfriend.

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Hi there,

I can only speak for myself here but as an independent which is what your topic is about I feel I can perhaps say one or two things.

Don't tip me. My fee is more than enough and I get to keep all of it. Tip your parlour girl or your agency girl because they have to hand over a fee to someone else.

I love to receive flowers. I adore them and find they are a rather nice ice breaking gesture and it shows me the guy wants things to go well.

If you are now unsure about this, why not drop a text to the girl or an email, and ask her if she likes flowers?

Chocolates are nice, but I won't eat them since I am watching my figure. I give them away to my children.

A car is always acceptable but I would like to choose the colour :)

Joke

x x

Hope this helps and also hope you have a bloody good time !

Wow !! Do you ever think before you post. Every possible chance you get you mention you are an Indie and slate parlour girls. Parlour girls are doing just fine thank you and probably need the tip less than most. I am sure as pleasant, polite girls they will be more than happy to receive a gift. they also will not have the problem of nosey neighbours wondering who the stream of men arriving with flowers are but the main thing is that whilst yes indeed they do pay an amount to the agency most have worked it out that they are better off than paying rent on a flat along with all the bills, phone bills, advertising, websites, wasted time on cancellations, etc. They also have time to do other jobs as most have only to work 1 or 2 days a weeks whilst some are spending every spare hour drumming up business on forums spouting off their opinion like it is Gospel. They don't have to be available 24/7 or deal with any of their calls, emails, problems just go to work and accept gifts, pay their fees and then count out how much better off they are than dedicating themselves to this 7 days a week.

As for the OP why do you feel the need to take a gift ? It is a nice gesture and of course chocs, wine, books etc are always nice but wouldn't it be nicer to wait until the next time you see her it would feel more like a gift of appreciation on that occasion.

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I had a client recently who I really hit it off with. We had an intense BDSM session, but also a nice chat and a cup of coffee afterwards. During the course of our chat, the subject of Bill Hicks came up. He is my hero. If you dont know who he is google him.

Three days later, I recieved a box from Amazon. 2 mugs with Bill Hicks prints on, and a message saying 'thanks for the coffee'.

I was touched beyond words. The thoughtfullness of that, the sweetness, and also it meant something to me personally. Anyone can buy flowers, and its a nice gesture, but as Annabellas says to get a gift after, well it makes a girl feel really, really special.

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I have an appointment on Monday and was considering taking some flowers, which will hopefully prove to be a good icebreaker.

Does this sort of gesture usually go down well, or can it backfire sometimes?

Thanks

I posted a topic on this a while back....check "EVERYONES A WINNER"..posted 24th november

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I will be thrilled with flowers despite what the others have said! I always think it is really sweet for a guy to bring something along.

I had a man just before Christmas who bought a very nice bottle of wine. As it was early I only had a small glass, he had a glass and then when he left he said 'Oh can I take the rest of the wine' and took it away with him! I was slightly bemused by that one!

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Wow !! Do you ever think before you post. Every possible chance you get you mention you are an Indie and slate parlour girls. Parlour girls are doing just fine thank you and probably need the tip less than most. I am sure as pleasant, polite girls they will be more than happy to receive a gift. they also will not have the problem of nosey neighbours wondering who the stream of men arriving with flowers are but the main thing is that whilst yes indeed they do pay an amount to the agency most have worked it out that they are better off than paying rent on a flat along with all the bills, phone bills, advertising, websites, wasted time on cancellations, etc. They also have time to do other jobs as most have only to work 1 or 2 days a weeks whilst some are spending every spare hour drumming up business on forums spouting off their opinion like it is Gospel. They don't have to be available 24/7 or deal with any of their calls, emails, problems just go to work and accept gifts, pay their fees and then count out how much better off they are than dedicating themselves to this 7 days a week.

As for the OP why do you feel the need to take a gift ? It is a nice gesture and of course chocs, wine, books etc are always nice but wouldn't it be nicer to wait until the next time you see her it would feel more like a gift of appreciation on that occasion.

Are you mad? I have the utmost respect for parlour girls! They do deserve a tip IMHO Any girl who has to stump up a fee to a third party deserves a tip !

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I gave a girl flowers once coz i had such a good visit the first time. She appreciated them and got me a gift when i saw her on my birthday. I didn't expect anything so it was a lovely suprise.

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I've taken a small gift to some of my regulars. Han

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Don't.

It's about the money

Give the gifts to your wife, friends

Excellent advice, I have sometimes taken along a bottle of wine but only for girls I have seen on a regular basis.

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I love getting flowers! What I find is quite common is perfume from my ** interview. I'll always use it and it's nice to see they've read my profile thoroughly. That or charms for my Pandora! X

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Are you mad? I have the utmost respect for parlour girls! They do deserve a tip IMHO Any girl who has to stump up a fee to a third party deserves a tip !

If you have the utmost respect why single them out as if they are a sub class every time you can. They are happy doing what they do or they would not be doing it just as a lot of Indies on here cut their teeth in parlours. they did it because at the time it worked for them I sure they didn't need someone telling people to tip them as they need it more than someone who pays all her own rent,bills, advertising,security, receptionist and has to sit by their phone 24/7 and maintain a website and a certain level of interest.

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