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Seeing An Escort When You're Having Regular Sex Elsewhere

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

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You're a man, it's in your nature to spread your seed!

In seriousness, I think people stray for a reason- you need to figure out what it is- lack of affection, a niggle this girl isn't quite right, a fear of commitment...

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Some would say it's your evolutionary biological need to spread your reproductive seed...some would say it's the temptations of the fallen flesh...just think carefully about the consequences if you get found out...and do you really want to jeopardise something as beautiful as you already have??

I'm beginning to agree with those who contend that punting is an addiction, so perhaps you need to do some cold turkey to escape! Trouble is you aren't going to get much encouragement here, as we're mostly addicts and pushers!

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If she's the love of your life don't spoil it. Save your cheating for someone less special.

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

If you are in love and lust and the same time but still want to book an escort, then I think you have a problem on your hand, particularly if you have not been romancing for long.

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

If you think she really is the love of your life then you owe it to both of you to commit to it for a period of time (perhaps 6 months) and see if you can make it work.

Alternatively, what would you feel if she was shagging another bloke behind your back? If you are happy with that thought then maybe she is not the love of your life.

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Get some professional help if you can afford it. Say you are going to treat anxiety and talk about your addiction instead.

If sex is very good with your lady you should try it. Trust me.

Best of luck.

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl. Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

Indeed i have and i resolved it by punting with WGs i felt like punting with. I have no interest in getting over it, just doing more of it. Monogamy really sucks and isnt a practice i will be doing in this lifetime.

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Get some professional help if you can afford it. Say you are going to treat anxiety and talk about your addiction instead.

If sex is very good with your lady you should try it. Trust me.

Best of luck.

Agree!

Punting is for singles and for sexless marriages.

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt.

You should be ashamed of yourself ----------- seriously.

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Shame is not the answer. Asking for help is. It takes a lot of courage and is not easy...there is no use in feeling ashamed of an affliction you might have.

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First of all, those hypocrites trying to occupy the moral high ground over the OP should realise that people punt for a variety of reasons and though entitled to their opinion should not judge anybody else! It really p****s me off to hear these people go on like only their situation justifies punting.

Clearly every new relationship has a honeymoon phase and while I punt regularly now I hadn't started when I first started dating my wife, so I can't say for sure if I would have stopped punting had I already been doing so when we met. Might seem obvious but it's not. For me I don't have a loveless or sexless marriage, i punt for different reasons , punting fulfils a different need, and one I never catered to when I first met my wife, so had I been punting then maybe I would have stopped, maybe not.

For me I don't equate what I get from puntIng with what I do (or dont) from my wife, they are unrelated.

So it's possibly a bit like asking if you want to give up your Wednesday night with the lads when you get a new girlfriend? Maybe you do, maybe you don't but one isn't a substitute for the other necessarily. Doesn't mean you won't miss a night out with the lads when you're loved up with your new missus.

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You're a man, it's in your nature to spread your seed!

In seriousness, I think people stray for a reason- you need to figure out what it is- lack of affection, a niggle this girl isn't quite right, a fear of commitment...

I'm not sure I stray for any other reason than simple greed. The sex I have with my (very willing) girlfriend is great; very warm, close and affectionate, as well as extremely dirty and exciting. I have absolutely no reason to punt beyond a powerful, irresistible desire to know other women, in the biblical sense.

It may be on the lines of an addiction. Personally I just think it is purely a biological imperative which all men have (and many women too probably) to a greater or lesser extent. For those like myself, and I think possibly Mr Flouch, it is very strong, so we are born cheats.

I like women very much, and thoroughly enjoy getting to know the other women I fuck, in every sense of the word, but I am never in any danger of my emotions straying, just my cock.

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As an aside, and speaking as a woman not an escort now, if I was in a good relationship where my partner got all the sex (and type of sex) he wanted from me but still played away I’d be devastated. I would feel like even though I pleased him he still betrayed me, and for that I’d hate him with a vengeance. He would feel the full force of my wrath on his selfish arse. However, if for some reason we weren’t having sex at all (or rarely), or he was after things I just wouldn’t provide, then at least I could understand his reasons for going with other women. So, for me anyway, the man’s motives are a big factor on whether the relationship could ever be healed or whether I keep his pickled balls in a jar on my mantelpiece.

Flouch, I really hope you can get some help so you can feel satisfied with what you have as it’s too precious to risk losing isn’t it?

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I can't really understand why if it's a new relationship and the sex is great then why are you seeing other ladies?

Would it be Ok if he wasn't paying for it? I would suspect not.

As Lara says, as a woman this is a bit odd in my view.

Most men I see have either been married for years and have no sex, or are single.

I take no moral highground, just trying to understand.

Watch the film "Shame." Insightful.

Men ask why I don';t have a boyfriend, because a lot of men are like this, and I don't wnat to fall in love with someone who would do that (payed or otherwise) if I was their girlfriend (at the beginning at least!)

I would be careful to not chase sex and lose this woman...she sounds a diamond. Paid sex is just that, and to find a woman who is a good shag and a nice person too....you may not think monogamy is great, but surely she does? If she doesn't then that's even better. Whilst you can get all this free sex I would go with it.

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I'm not sure I stray for any other reason than simple greed. The sex I have with my (very willing) girlfriend is great; very warm, close and affectionate, as well as extremely dirty and exciting. I have absolutely no reason to punt beyond a powerful, irresistible desire to know other women, in the biblical sense. It may be on the lines of an addiction. Personally I just think it is purely a biological imperative which all men have (and many women too probably) to a greater or lesser extent. For those like myself, and I think possibly Mr Flouch, it is very strong, so we are born cheats. I like women very much, and thoroughly enjoy getting to know the other women I fuck, in every sense of the word, but I am never in any danger of my emotions straying, just my cock.

Same with me, wanting my cake and to eat it, lying and cheating is second nature to me and i have had nearly 30 years to practice at becoming good at it. To any of the moralists i couldnt care less what your views are on the matter, i do what suits me selfishly and without guilt, that went out the window many moons ago.

Like you Rimalot i punt just for sex, and my emotions are not in danger of straying as they did when i had an affair, what a mess that was, far far better to punt and be able to walk away with no strings attached.

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Same with me, wanting my cake and to eat it, lying and cheating is second nature to me and i have had nearly 30 years to practice at becoming good at it. To any of the moralists i couldnt care less what your views are on the matter, i do what suits me selfishly and without guilt, that went out the window many moons ago.

Like you Rimalot i punt just for sex, and my emotions are not in danger of straying as they did when i had an affair, what a mess that was, far far better to punt and be able to walk away with no strings attached.

I think the world is full of men like us, but not that many will own up to what they are in quite so frank and unashamed manner as we are prepared to do.

I don't think either of us pretends to be better than we are, we have just accepted our true natures and act accordingly. When you are a cheat then the best thing you can do is to be careful and discreet and not get found out.

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I think the world is full of men like us, but not that many will own up to what they are in quite so frank and unashamed manner as we are prepared to do. I don't think either of us pretends to be better than we are, we have just accepted our true natures and act accordingly. When you are a cheat then the best thing you can do is to be careful and discreet and not get found out.

Agreed.

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It might be fear of commitment, or just that I'm used to fucking lots of different girls. I'm not punting now, but I do have an urge to fuck other girls.

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I'm not moralising, just trying to understand why with a new girl you need to punt...it's not stale yet.

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I'm not moralising, just trying to understand why with a new girl you need to punt...it's not stale yet.

Maybe he has just got into the habit of paying for it.

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Why dont you have experience of couple having sex with punt/bisexual. Thats what most guys do when they love their girlfriends.

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I'm wondering whether other people have been in similar situations. I'm currently seeing the love of my life, and the sex is regular (to the point of being constant). Yet, I'm still thinking about a booking a punt. I'm not sure exactly why I feel like doing so - the sex with this girl is great - passionate, intense, and varied. Far better than any punt I've had. But there's this little part of me that wants to fuck another girl.

Anyone else had a similar experience? How the hell do you get over it?

Flouch, I'm not taking the moral high ground here, but I believe you must have an addiction to punting and you need to seek help however difficult that may be. If your current partner is "better than any punt you've ever had", and the sex is still as fulfilling as you say, why go and punt when you're fairly sure it won't be as good? You should be making the most of your current blissful situation with "the love of your life". As others have said, there will be issues making you want to punt that need addressing. Also, punting would seem a tragic waste of money when you get a better experience at home for free!

I had the opposite situation, the sex with a very select few (3 or 4, 1 in particular) escorts was better than any I'd had with my wife, which is a difficult situation to come to terms with!

Trust me, in time the intimacy with your current partner will go downwhill in quantity, quality and variety. Perhaps you'll marry her? That will really fuck it up. Sorry, I'm a cynical son of a bitch especially at the moment, but it's bound to be true to a certain extent, depressing though it is. Once that happens, you'll have a reason to punt. In the mean time, I urge you to make the most of what you have - it's something many gents on here (myself included) would give their right arm for.

I wish you well whatever you decide to do.

V.

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Why dont you have experience of couple having sex with punt/bisexual. Thats what most guys do when they love their girlfriends.

I love my wife very much (honestly), but if I suggested that we try an FFM at some point (paid or otherwise), I'd be sleeping in a grotty B&B by the end of the week. I can't believe that "most" guys who love their gfs suggest a threesome lol.

Welcome to the boards by the way :-)

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