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Paranoid First Timer!

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Hi everyone. I've been on the verge of having my first punt (GFE) for months now but there is just one thing holding me back. I'm married (8 years) however the sex is virtually non-existent. My wife and I have only ever had sex with one other person before we were married. Basically I'm worried about get oral herpes from an escort as this would be a rather obvious visual giveaway that I've been unfaithful.

Am I being paranoid and what are the chances of this happening? Please help I know I sound rather pathetic.....

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I wouldn't worry about it. I was in a similar situation to you. I've probably had 80+ punts over the last 8 years with 70+ different women and never got anything.

If you are (understandably) concerned about picking something up then stick to safe sex practices i.e. condom for oral as well as (obviously) intercourse.

It's a big step to take though, and once you've crossed that line there's no undoing it; is your marital situation really irretrievable?

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OWO is a risk (one that is ignored by many foolish punters). HSV gives you herpes and HPV can give you cancer. There is a vaccine for HPV.

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I would put your mind at rest and use a condom for oral sex (and obviously full service). That way, you can have a nice time and not be worried. There is always a risk with these things so why take it...if you are concerned, minimise the risk. All the best!

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Hi everyone. I've been on the verge of having my first punt (GFE) for months now but there is just one thing holding me back. I'm married (8 years) however the sex is virtually non-existent. My wife and I have only ever had sex with one other person before we were married. Basically I'm worried about get oral herpes from an escort as this would be a rather obvious visual giveaway that I've been unfaithful.

Am I being paranoid and what are the chances of this happening? Please help I know I sound rather pathetic.....

Can we just be quite clear... Herpes Simplex 1 is the virus that causes Cold Sores. "In the UK at least, prevalence of antibody to HSV-1 increases with age until about 5 years, then stabilizes until around 15 years old, suggesting that, as has been shown in the Dutch study, sexual transmission is becoming increasingly important as a route of transmission for this virus." Vyse A, Gay N, Slomka M et al. The burden of infection with HSV-1 and HSV-2 in England and Wales: implications for the changing epidemiology of genital herpes. Sex Transm Infect 2000;76:0–4.

There is every possibility that you, and / or your wife already have the HSV1 virus, as the first flare up is the most severe and subsequent recurrences are far more minor. Not punting is not a fail-safe way of avoiding the virus. Why not go to a GUM clinic and discuss your concerns there? I would be more concerned about your ability to use a condom properly & they will check you know how to use them properly - few people do.

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I would put your mind at rest and use a condom for oral sex (and obviously full service). That way, you can have a nice time and not be worried. There is always a risk with these things so why take it...if you are concerned, minimise the risk. All the best!

This is good advice for your first punt . As you get more relaxed you can move on to owo later . You can also convince yourself that you weren't really being unfaithful . [ it was only Bill Clinton type of sex , honey ]

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The OP is right to ask such questions and also weigh up the risks he is willing/not willing to take. I would be more concerned with crossing the line into seeing prostitutes. Once we cross that bridge - married life will never be the same again.

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Hi everyone. I've been on the verge of having my first punt (GFE) for months now but there is just one thing holding me back. I'm married (8 years) however the sex is virtually non-existent. My wife and I have only ever had sex with one other person before we were married. Basically I'm worried about get oral herpes from an escort as this would be a rather obvious visual giveaway that I've been unfaithful.

Am I being paranoid and what are the chances of this happening? Please help I know I sound rather pathetic.....

The incidence of Simplex virus in the population is about a third ... it is extremely common and you can get it from anyone, not only that an out break can occur decades after the original infection. A mouthsore is not a telltale that you have paid for sex.

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OWO is a risk (one that is ignored by many foolish punters). HSV gives you herpes and HPV can give you cancer. There is a vaccine for HPV.

Wrong -there are vaccines for SOME HPV strains. Not all of them.

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Only thing I ever caught was body lice from my very first punt 20 years ago. I'd avoid a hairy girl.

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