misterme

Anyone ever "fallen" for a WG

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

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Solution is simple, never see her again, otherwise you'll be hooked

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

Look at Miss Daniella's 'Love, Love, Love' thread that was running here a few weeks ago......

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I know how you feel,it can happen very easily, especially if you've been seeing the lady for a while.

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This topic has been done to death.

I bet you think strippers like you too, right?

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Yes, of course, but even so, with both eyes open,

"yes!"

(And I think she's both slightly touched, and much amused!)

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

The next time you go to see her, don't take any money with you, and then see how much she really likes you.

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The next time you go to see her, don't take any money with you, and then see how much she really likes you.

As the OP has not stated the lady has reciprocated those feelings he has expressed here, I would imagine she will tell him to do one. It is an very annoying aspect of being good at your job, clients forget the work part and imagine you are truly interested. I've experienced this phenomena and heard this story from my friends and collegues hundreds of times. Unless the lady approaches you I would not push it unless you want to look like a dick and chance being barred as a customer.

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Sorry Misterme, you're not going to get much sympathy on this board, a lot of guys have a tale or two of woe, and the girls dont like it much either. Falling for a WG is a rite of passage, which is a good thing in the long run, but if you're even just a bit emotionally unstable you can get a very rough ride, in fact it can fuck your head up completely. Why do you presume you have a connection - Have you talked about it ? If not its almost certainly in your imagination, so you need to wise up and quickly, because the road your heading down leads only to pain and dispair, just wait till you find a lurid field report on her by some other punter, ouch, that can really hurt, believe me !

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Tread carefully is all I can say, been there once didn't like it.. Pulled up just before I hit the ground...a total head fuck...connection may well be there but why wouldn't it, unless the wg is a total robot. My advice is to take what you can from the time you are together and leave it there..... Not saying that it's not a meaningful connection but for you're own sake remember what you are to each other. In my case the Wg is still the only one I see and I would say we are friends but I've cleared my head enough now to get round the fact that she may well think I'm a great client or even a nice guy but that's as far as it goes... I would really like to be proved wrong but....

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Misterme, based on you're post on the "how regular is regular" thread you probably know the real answer. Did you go for dinner with her yet?

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

Ignore that lot.

People meet through all walks of life. A lady could be working in the local sweet shop. You are a customer. You like her. You ask her out. Normal. So why should meeting a WG be any different.

If she feels the same way about you, you will know, just by how she looks at you, holds you, kisses you, etc. .

There are many ways to approach this. You could come straight out with it and tell her how you feel. Then you will know.

Or you could carry on just paying her for a bit longer and see how things develop. If she really likes you she should really stop taking your money.

If you both became an item, could you cope with her being a WG? She may want to stop after meeting you, but may not be able to afford to. Many girls like earning their own money too.

Then the next phase is getting to know her outside the bedroom but if you have already clicked then you could have fun times together like cinema, a companion at family events, getting a take away to share, all those things that you miss out on by being single.

To sum it up, there is no reason why things cant work out between you and this lady. I wish you all the luck in the world. Dont go looking for FRs on her if you do get together though. Hope it works out for you.

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Your situation tends to lead to pain, best option is go and see another WG.

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Your situation tends to lead to pain, best option is go and see another WG.

Not always. I know a punter who had 2 WGs as girlfriends, not both at same time, then married one.

At least if the girl says no he can move on. But he has to give it a try FFS.

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Not always. I know a punter who had 2 WGs as girlfriends, not both at same time, then married one.

At least if the girl says no he can move on. But he has to give it a try FFS.

LOTM your story is, imho, most unusual; don't raise this guys hopes, chances are his feelings will not be reciprocated.

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

Well, yes, when I was younger, in my twenties, I did fall for a couple, and it did kind of screw me up a little, but it was all in my head.

However, more recently, about seven years ago, I did actually fall into a proper relationship with a w/g for about four months. She was kind of an unusual w/g: she was Japanese, and I think she was actually escorting in order to meet the right 'Westerner'. I can honestly say that it was her that contrived to extend our relationship beyond our first professional encounter, and I went along with it. She was cute, funny, and a little crazy; I have fond memories of her.

These days, however, I'm very careful, even though I know this is unlikely to happen again. I like the girls I see professionally to be friendly, and basically nice people, but I want the relationship to stay purely professional, which is one of the reasons, I think, that I rarely go back to see the same girl twice, even if she gave me an absolutely fantastic time. Complications kind of defeat the object of using the services of a w/g.

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Go to JJB's, buy a pair of running shoes and run as fast as you can for as long as you can in the opposite direction. Pick up some speedos too as you will eventually hit the coast. Keep going until you hit land again (best to head south or east), apply for asylum, change your name, live as a recluse and never return to the UK.

Alternatively, sue her for all the consequential losses these situations produce as I'm sure this effect was not advertised. If you were looking for love, you don't have a leg to stand on. If all you wanted was a shag and ended up like this you could achieve a landmark victory for all us silly boys that have been there.

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LOTM your story is, imho, most unusual; don't raise this guys hopes, chances are his feelings will not be reciprocated.

Not raising his hopes. But he has no reason not to approach a girl that he likes.

Do any of you remember the 36gg, slim size 10 blonde from Seven Kings? She is now with a punter. She no longer works herself but opened her own place.

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I have told her I have feelings for her:eek:

She either thinks im a mug punter or she does actually like me in a simular way. I say this cos she has told me she likes me and that im "special" "different" When we met it was NO kissing, now she is kissing me.

Yes she said we can go out some time.

I am fairly new to all this and this is something I really did not want to happen. But being newish does also make me think that perhaps I am a mug and need to wise up sharpish.

She is not independent as such as she works in a flat with a couple of other girls. Not sure how the rules are in these places but I would not insult her by expecting sex for free! She has told me she has only been doing this a few months as she has debts to pay in her country. PL.

I did go and see a couple of absolute stunners since- and I could not finish off:confused: Im 30 ish so this has NEVER been a problem before.

Should I just stop seeing this girl now??? I don't want to...

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As the OP has not stated the lady has reciprocated those feelings he has expressed here, I would imagine she will tell him to do one. It is an very annoying aspect of being good at your job, clients forget the work part and imagine you are truly interested. I've experienced this phenomena and heard this story from my friends and collegues hundreds of times. Unless the lady approaches you I would not push it unless you want to look like a dick and chance being barred as a customer.

Sounds harsh but that's the kind of bucket of cold water the OP needs. Misterme, you need to wake up and smell the coffee my friend, the best thing to do would be to take a break from seeing this girl until the feelings wear off. If you come to a meeting with all these confused emotions then you're going to end up spoiling the fun and not enjoying the visit, which is kind of the whole point right?

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I have....

She is sooo nice, not the best looker but we have a erm, connection?

Anyone else had feelings that they should not have had? Whats the best thing to do?

Always thinking bout her, not interested in seeing other wg.

Help!

Hi Misterme,

I think you should see other wgs to see how you feel. At the end of the day- it's a job for her, and unless you know her outside of this 'zone' then you won't know if you genuinely feel for her the way you do- or if the feelings from her are reciprocated.

I agree with LadyM, of course things could work out between wg/client- people meet in all walks of life everywhere, it would take two 'open' minded people. FGS, don't listen to the pessismists. You don't know if you don't try hon.

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Go to JJB's, buy a pair of running shoes and run as fast as you can for as long as you can in the opposite direction. Pick up some speedos too as you will eventually hit the coast. Keep going until you hit land again (best to head south or east), apply for asylum, change your name, live as a recluse and never return to the UK.

Alternatively, sue her for all the consequential losses these situations produce as I'm sure this effect was not advertised. If you were looking for love, you don't have a leg to stand on. If all you wanted was a shag and ended up like this you could achieve a landmark victory for all us silly boys that have been there.

What an absolute load of bolox!!!

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What an absolute load of bolox!!!

Thank you, I'm touched! He did mention BTW that she's a bit of a minger, maybe he should hold out for a better looking one?

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Thank you, I'm touched! He did mention BTW that she's a bit of a minger, maybe he should hold out for a better looking one?

He didn't say she was a bit of a minger. He said she wasn't the best looker.

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Ignore that lot.

People meet through all walks of life. A lady could be working in the local sweet shop. You are a customer. You like her. You ask her out. Normal. So why should meeting a WG be any different.

Whilst I think you are right to point out that relationships between Punters and WGs can and do happen, it is very different to the sweet shop scenario that you describe.

The very nature of a punt, particularly the GFE type, is to simulate a scenario in which two people are mutually attracted and express their desires for each other through sex. This can easily lead to a punter getting confused about whether it's real, or if it's Memorex (remember that one? LOL). Particularly so if the WG is good at her job.

I would say that unti a WG suggests going outside the normal boundaries of the client/WG relationship (i.e. meeting up without payment), then assume that everything that occurs is purely because you are paying.

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