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Regulars And Emotions

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I'm sure this may have been brought up previously but I just want to get the opinion of both the ladies and the gentlemen who contribute here. I have been punting for a while now and I have always seen a different lady everytime since I like variety and I don't like to start getting emotionally involved. Recently I saw someone who I really enjoyed my time with and have seen her again. Now this has put me in a bit of a worry since I want to keep on seeing her. I am now thinking whether I should quit now while I'm ahead as I am starting to like her. What is your take on this lads? And for the ladies, do you start feeling emotionally attached to a regular if you always have a nice time with them? Thanks for your opinions.

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If seeing an escort twice makes you happy, do it! We are not succubi: we will not steal your heart, or your soul. You may decide to give us your heart and soul, but that is a matter for you.

I'm a newbie and there is one client I hope to see again this week because he's cute, an amazing fuck & amazing company. There is also the ex-client whom I have 100s of friends & associates in common with. We see each other socially & sexually & no money changes hands. We split the bill etc.

The ex-client is the biggest risk because there are no clear or useful parameters. He is probably my ideal man. Yesterday he said love was predicated upon monogamy.

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I don't like to start getting emotionally involved. Recently I saw someone who I really enjoyed my time with and have seen her again. Now this has put me in a bit of a worry since I want to keep on seeing her. I am now thinking whether I should quit now while I'm ahead as I am starting to like her. What is your take on this lads? And for the ladies, do you start feeling emotionally attached to a regular if you always have a nice time with them? Thanks for your opinions.

I am the worlds worst probably at getting those "in lust" and "in like" feelings with some of those I see on a regular basis.

I only will see those that I like anyway though, so I suppose that is the way it should be.

I do not cross any boundaries though and never will do.

As long as you can keep a check on your emotions, I do not see any problem seeing a lady that you get on with socially as well as sexually.

If you know the way you are though, and have the fear you may become attached and you can not handle that, maybe it would be best to move on.

All the best.

Lucy :)

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I am the worlds worst probably at getting those "in lust" and "in like" feelings with some of those I see on a regular basis.

I only will see those that I like anyway though, so I suppose that is the way it should be.

I do not cross any boundaries though and never will do.

As long as you can keep a check on your emotions, I do not see any problem seeing a lady that you get on with socially as well as sexually.

If you know the way you are though, and have the fear you may become attached and you can not handle that, maybe it would be best to move on.

All the best.

Lucy :)

Excellent advice.

Especially if you are in another relationship --- MOVE ON.!

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Sound advice from Lucy. You have had commercial sex with this lady and she is not falling in love woth you. If you cannot handle this then move to another lady fast

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I'm sure this may have been brought up previously but I just want to get the opinion of both the ladies and the gentlemen who contribute here. I have been punting for a while now and I have always seen a different lady everytime since I like variety and I don't like to start getting emotionally involved. Recently I saw someone who I really enjoyed my time with and have seen her again. Now this has put me in a bit of a worry since I want to keep on seeing her. I am now thinking whether I should quit now while I'm ahead as I am starting to like her. What is your take on this lads? And for the ladies, do you start feeling emotionally attached to a regular if you always have a nice time with them? Thanks for your opinions.

If i find a good regular i keep going back as i have found punts can get better and better as she gets to know what i like and how i like it. I punt for sex so ensure i dont get emotionally entangled although i have a number of times over my 29 years punting. As long as you believe you have a grip on your emotions carry on is my advice, if you dont believe you have go elsewhere if it bothers you. :)

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I have had a few guys thinking they are in love with me I think they get caught up in the moment but a lot of this is due to guys having personal problems mainly at home and us girls are just a distraction from there problems.

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nothing wrong with regulars, in fact I recommend getting one or a few regulars: make for the best experiences.

and you seem to already realize the risks.

you can "like" a regular very much, but you should not let yourself get carried away.

both of you provide relief for eachoter: physical, emotional, and financial relief. that is all.

I had and still have several girls I consider "regular", but we are all very careful about the boundaries. Only very very few of my regulars know who I am or where I work, even after years of seeing eachother. Better safe then sorry.

Most girls will understand.

most punters learn.

All Good Fun,

Enjoy.

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For me, I see escorts for sex and sex only. If I want company, I have a wife. Therefore, I just cant see myself being emotionally involved with escorts. I may like an escort as a person but thats as far as it goes and added to that I hate being made to look like a fool.

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I'm sure this may have been brought up previously but I just want to get the opinion of both the ladies and the gentlemen who contribute here. I have been punting for a while now and I have always seen a different lady everytime since I like variety and I don't like to start getting emotionally involved. Recently I saw someone who I really enjoyed my time with and have seen her again. Now this has put me in a bit of a worry since I want to keep on seeing her. I am now thinking whether I should quit now while I'm ahead as I am starting to like her. What is your take on this lads? And for the ladies, do you start feeling emotionally attached to a regular if you always have a nice time with them? Thanks for your opinions.

PTP I think it is much more of a risk when you are relatively new to punting. But why not wait a few months, see other girls, then go back when you've cooled off ? I enjoy seeing regulars because it is a reliable and enjoyable punt.

Also as some have pointed out on this thread, just occasionally punting can develop into friendship but if it starts to go beyond that into a "relationship" it gets complicated very quickly. Personally I've never gone beyone the friendship level and even that has been incredibly rare. So it's worth being cautious.

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I think it is much more of a risk when you are relatively new to punting.

I hope so.

I fall in love with every girl I visit.

I am waiting for the day when I can enjoy things for what they are.

But for now,I can't help going back.

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So tell me what I see when I look in your eyes

Is that you baby or just a brilliant disguise

(Springsteen)

Just a disguise, mostly, and part of the game. Great service is good for business, generating return visits and recommendations. Savour and enjoy to the full your time with the elite WGs who are able to stimulate and pamper parts of the body and mind others cannot reach. But the boundaries are clear, so expect and hope for nothing outside of the period of paid companionship and you won't get troubled emotionally.

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I am relatively new myself to this very enjoyable pastime and this is my first post but funnily enough one of the things I enjoy about it is the commercial transaction that underpins it.

I realize expressing that in print can appear harsh and hard headed etc but its like that old saying, 'The difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money often costs less.'

I really do appreciate the implicit understanding that at the end of the day (meeting) we both walk away, we both (hopefully) have had a great time and can repeat it on the same terms again and furthemore (so reasuringly and professionally) my real life and indeed her real isnt going to be damaged or effected by all that 'falling in love' and emotions all over the place malarkey.

That doesnt mean, of course,that I dont have the highest regard for the women I have seen so far - I really do - I think they are fantastic women and I hope to see some on a regular basis. But I honestly dont want anything other than what is on offer in that moment we are together - I appreciate and value so much that once that is over we both can walk away.

That's been my experience so far - I think if that changed, I am hopeful Id have the good sense to bale out as life is complcated enough - I wouldnt want to make it even more complex!!

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Having feelings for the girl makes it so much better for me. Making love is so much better than having sex and I make love to my regular.

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the girls are all so damned beautiful and lovely who wouldnt fall a little bit in love , and when you have seen a regular the feeling grows a lot and the more you get to know eachother its like a bond, but i have no illusions that the girls are in love with me.

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In the Glasgow area there are so many fakes on the purple site and downright unsatisfactory punts that it is difficult to imagine having any form of friendship with working girls. I have found only a handful in the last five years since starting my hobby.

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In the Glasgow area there are so many fakes on the purple site and downright unsatisfactory punts that it is difficult to imagine having any form of friendship with working girls. I have found only a handful in the last five years since starting my hobby.

You need to get down here.

By way of example, Sumodan has just posted this over in the best asian thread;

"Really pleased to report, that Molly (Asian Supermodel, 007 or ACA) has totally and utterly left me with the stupidest grin on my face. I look for a genuine GFE, due to work and a lack of social life, and having seen some gems in the past, Molly has to be right up there. Totally and utterly genuinely sweet girl. Extremely tender and despite a lack of English in parts, enjoyed a really interesting conversation with her about many different subjects.

As is the case, everyone has different taste. She is a B cup (natural), she has a neat but reasonably full hedge down below, and performs services you would expect from a GFE. I would say that should you be like me and enjoy the tender GFE, like to listen, and just enjoy the company of a truly beautiful girl, then I'm sure you'd get the best from her. She definitely has a naughty side to her, as evidenced by her promises made to me when I next see her, but I would say alot of that was down to us clicking really well, and I simply cannot wait to see her again. I would point out that I have never, in around 12 years of sporadic punting, seen the same girl twice, but I am going to break the habit of a lifetime and see her again next month. I cannot deny that I am hideously smitten by her, and I hope that she maintains her positive attitude, and doesn't get ruined through fatigue".

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'Feelings' are inevitable if you're very physically attracted to the girl, she's great company, the sex is really good, you like her and everything just flows.

For me these are just the best punts.

Temporarily they're 'yours' and just enjoy them and their company to the fullest for the time you're with them...........and leave it at that

That's what I do anyway

I don't see anything wrong with or have any problems with some genuine feelings of warmth and affection towards a particularly liked regular.

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Due to the nature of our job emotions can run high. There is nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn't cross any boundaries. I see regular guys who I am very fond of and I am sure they feel the same about me. If the pressure of this is too much for you then you need to move on and see different ladies. However it would be better if you could get your head around it as seeing regulars and getting to know what each other likes can enhance the meeting and lead to memorable bookings.

Shelly

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The last two posts are right on the mark.

I have just got back from a 9 hour visit(it was ment to be 2!) with the most wonderful girl who I met for the first time two days ago. :wub: .

I now need to work on getting a proper perspective on our 'relationship' :):mellow::) .

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Just to add my twopenneth, but I am a bit besotted with Molly right now, but having read the thread about Thai girlfriends by Gibert2 helps put things into perspective, and maybe woke me up a bit.

I wish I had more time to find a long term partner, but I am married to my work. I am obsessed by my own company/work, and my occasional punting helps a lot.

If, for some bizarre reason, something should happen, then great. But I am managing my own expectations, ensuring that I don't stumble into something that I am not fully read up on. Fact is that I am better equipped to make my own judgements because of PN, which I have been reading for over 12 years now, and has been an invaluable resource.

For what it's worth, I can see no harm in striking up friendships with WG's, but at least read other punters' experiences to provide some balance.

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Having feelings for the girl makes it so much better for me. Making love is so much better than having sex and I make love to my regular.

Recognize that, and yes, "makeing love" is beautiful, and much more rewarding.

but you have to keep perspecitve,

the "makeing love" to a regular is still just VFM, the best possible VFM in the business, but still VFM, nothing more.

Y'all staysane now, dj'hear.

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For what it's worth, I can see no harm in striking up friendships with WG's, but at least read other punters' experiences to provide some balance.

They are not 'friends' they are selling sex to you. Any genuine friendship must be instigated by them and if you are still paying her for sex it is anything but a 'normal' friend relationship. I really feel for these girls at times and I'm as guilty as the next Punter. So many delusions and false justifications it is untrue.

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Recognize that, and yes, "makeing love" is beautiful, and much more rewarding.

but you have to keep perspecitve,

the "makeing love" to a regular is still just VFM, the best possible VFM in the business, but still VFM, nothing more.

Y'all staysane now, dj'hear.

This field report FR107955 by marksman69 shows another TOTALLY satisfied customer of London's oriental contingent.

No signs of any loss of 'perspective' in that report so marksman sets a good example I think.

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They are not 'friends' they are selling sex to you. Any genuine friendship must be instigated by them and if you are still paying her for sex it is anything but a 'normal' friend relationship. I really feel for these girls at times and I'm as guilty as the next Punter. So many delusions and false justifications it is untrue.

It depends a lot. Before I became an escort, I was a Sugar-Baby. Was I paid for sex? Pragmatically, yes. It's very different to seeing a client: Sugar-babies are called by their real names & share holiday & family photos. I'm sure it's possible to move from client to Sugar-Daddy.

I'm equally sure true love is possible between an escort & a client, but I agree that she'd have to make the first move.

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