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Excuses On A Dinner Date

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So you're with a WG having dinner.

Let's assume you're a fair bit older, she's obviously young and glamorous.

You've gone somewhere that you're unlikely to run into anyone you know (natch).

But then you see someone from work etc, who knows you are married You'll either have to introduce the girl you are with, or come up with a suitable explanation a few days later.

So, excuses to the ready boys. Suggestions?

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So you're with a WG having dinner. Let's assume you're a fair bit older, she's obviously young and glamorous. You've gone somewhere that you're unlikely to run into anyone you know (natch). But then you see someone from work etc, who knows you are married You'll either have to introduce the girl you are with, or come up with a suitable explanation a few days later. So, excuses to the ready boys. Suggestions?

Days later where it isnt putting the WG in a position of going along with a lie which she might not be comfortable doing you could say she was a niece. On the spur of the moment dont say anything is my advice unless agreed by the WG.

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Not knowing whom you've seen, how could we know the excuses?! You'd use different excuses with your family, to those you'd use with colleagues, friends or neighbours

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I would say I am interviewing her for a position within my company . It's not unusual for me to have dinner with a prospective employee .

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I would say that she was a client or business contact and laugh off any further questions by saying we were discussing confidential issues (could be about a job interview etc - it depends on what type of job you do as to what type of excuse might work - I always have some sort of story up my sleeve because it is bound to happen sooner or later). If you are super confident you could of course make a joke of it and make out that you have been caught out having an affair/on a date etc. That takes a lot of balls!

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Not knowing whom you've seen, how could we know the excuses?! You'd use different excuses with your family, to those you'd use with colleagues, friends or neighbours

I posted the thread because I'm struggling to think of what to say that would sound plausible to a work colleague in that situation, so any ideas that sound plausible would be helpful frankly.

I'd thought of the "this is my niece" idea but I remember a film or book where it was an open secret that this older guy had a succession of "nieces" who were just girls he was shagging, so don't think that would help.

I think the interviewee/business contact idea might have some mileage.

Any other suggestions gratefully received.

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I posted the thread because I'm struggling to think of what to say that would sound plausible to a work colleague in that situation, so any ideas that sound plausible would be helpful frankly.

Any other suggestions gratefully received.

I wonder if Gav has already been fingered and is deep in the brown stuff. I sincerely hope not.

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Days later where it isnt putting the WG in a position of going along with a lie which she might not be comfortable doing you could say she was a niece. On the spur of the moment dont say anything is my advice unless agreed by the WG.

Yes, I think the key is to be prepared. Think of your excuses beforehand and discuss/agree them with the lady. Otherwise, unless you're a gifted bullshitter, say as little as possible!!!!

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Taken this risk - in public with a WG where I could be seen. Was part of the fun I suppose...another thread.

I did think of what I'd say in advance and the main answer was someone I worked with. The back up was a neighbor. Depended on who we met. I warned the WG that this could happen and she was well up for it. We didnt meet anyone. She did bring it up again later and this made the evening special. Hmmm... I must call her soon.

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What's wrong with her being a friend of the family, or a school-friend's student daughter? I've had dinner with a lot of my parents' friends, by myself. My parents have dinner with each other's friends too.

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Yes, I think the key is to be prepared. Think of your excuses beforehand and discuss/agree them with the lady. Otherwise, unless you're a gifted bullshitter, say as little as possible!!!!

Agreed and highlighted the important part, from experience there's nothing worse than the question being asked, you answering and her turning around and undercutting you

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I would think this has probably happend to quite a few girls and so they would know that at tricky situations like this to keep quite and follow your lead

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Please don't sit there on any dinner date loudly explaining why you chose your lady for the evening, if discretion is high on your own agenda(not to mention that of the WG too). I've had this experience whilst sat not too far from people who could have been involved in business in the area, and even once a former client who was eating in the same restaurant. Obviously I did try and steer the conversation around into a safer topic, but the guy had already quite nicely put his own discretion at risk all on his very own.

THINK!

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Something similar happened to me recently. I was having lunch with a younger (married) girlfriend (not a WG), when a couple of her workmates approached and greeted her. Without blinking, she introduced me as her father-in-law. A crisis was averted, but what added to the frisson was that my girlfriend is black - presumably she knew that her workmates were aware that her's is a mixed race marriage. I have also in the past been successfully introduced, when out with a previous girlfriend and girlfriend's student daughter, as student daughter's godfather. If you're worried, it's best to have agreed in advance what story to tell - without going into details I've more than once said, if we meet anyone, I'll say you're an estate agent doing a valuation......

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Something similar happened to me recently. I was having lunch with a younger (married) girlfriend (not a WG), when a couple of her workmates approached and greeted her. Without blinking, she introduced me as her father-in-law. A crisis was averted, but what added to the frisson was that my girlfriend is black - presumably she knew that her workmates were aware that her's is a mixed race marriage. I have also in the past been successfully introduced, when out with a previous girlfriend and girlfriend's student daughter, as student daughter's godfather. If you're worried, it's best to have agreed in advance what story to tell - without going into details I've more than once said, if we meet anyone, I'll say you're an estate agent doing a valuation......

That's ok unless the other person starts asking detailed questions about the valuation!

I'd just go with friends of friends, or we met at a xyz social/meeting/go to the same gym/club/pub whatever. Most of the time people actually won't ask, and if you look shifty or lose you lines it could then invite query. Look 'normal' is all I say, people probably won't give a toss!

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How about not dining in an area where you're known?

However, if you must do, then I'd go for, "Have you met my social worker?"

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So you're with a WG having dinner.

Let's assume you're a fair bit older, she's obviously young and glamorous.

You've gone somewhere that you're unlikely to run into anyone you know (natch).

But then you see someone from work etc, who knows you are married You'll either have to introduce the girl you are with, or come up with a suitable explanation a few days later.

So, excuses to the ready boys. Suggestions?

Simple,do a {Shaggy}="was'nt me"

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How about not dining in an area where you're known?

However, if you must do, then I'd go for, "Have you met my social worker?"

Or carer?

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What's wrong with her being a friend of the family, or a school-friend's student daughter? I've had dinner with a lot of my parents' friends, by myself. My parents have dinner with each other's friends too.

Thanks - this one works best for me.

And thanks to all for their replies.

No I haven't been caught out (yet) and I don't go to restaurants with a WG where it's likely I'll run into anyone I know, but once I ran into friends unexpectedly in a restaurant on the other side of the world, so just 'cos you're off home turf doens't mean you are 100% safe.

Also on Strawberry's comments about what to say I couldn't agree more - having once had a dinner date with a WG who early on said, quite loudly, "SO HOW LONG HAVE YOU USED ESCORT AGENCIES?". The booking went downhill from there...

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Thanks - this one works best for me.

The booking went downhill from there...

I assume that doesn't mean"into a very satisfactory bout of mutual oral affection"

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excessive explanations always seem to make people look more guilty, in my opinion anyway. On the occasions I've been seen by friends when on a dinner date with a working lady, my comment has always been along the lines of me briefly introducing her to whoever I meet with a simple "this a friend of mine", and introducing her by name.

However, I only spend time with WG's when I'm single anyway, so dont tend to bother going to all the lengths that attached guys have to, such as fake names, other excuses etc.

But, I cant deny I'm a big fan of the "minimal explanation=minimal guilty appearance" theory.

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