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Fingers Up

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One of the really nicest things that can happen during sex IMHO is when one is allowed to get those fingers up a pussy. It's just so intimate and warm and messy and NICE, and very often the girl loves a finger fucking too. I think it's because it's about receiving - and giving - full, unreserved access to the girl's lovely body.

It was my first sexual activity all those years ago, long before I ever had full sex, and I still love it. WHEN I can get it. Which is by no means always, even in a long-term relationship. Even though of course I am careful to keep those nails short and smooth, and to be careful in there.

It seems a very sensitive subject - the last barrier to go as it were - and no girl ever lists it among her services. I am also reluctant to ask about it if I can talk to or write to the girl beforehand, as I'm sure it will turn her off, even though she may actually allow it in the heat of the moment. And it's seldom mentioned in reviews.

But if I see in a review that she doesn't allow it, that's enough to stop me visiting that girl.

I'd be very interested to hear from wgs on their views and experiences on this topic.

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It seems an odd thing not to allow in my opinion...

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I can see that you list fisting, Lydia, proving me wrong!

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It seems an odd thing not to allow in my opinion...

It is a thing many working girls do not allow in my experience

And yes nails well kept and no cuts on hands,

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I guess it's one of those things that done right it can be lovely and done wrong it can be awful! Being scratched is not good and for many perhaps not worth the risk. You clearly look after your hands and finger nails but not all gentlemen do. I find it much, much easier to orgasm if I have a finger or two inside me while I am being licked and a good g spot massage can be amazing. I also love being fingered while I am being buggered - that just feels amazing!!

I also enjoy fisting but I don't actually list it as a lot of gentlemen are of the opinion that if you do then you have a pussy like a bucket! I once had a gentleman express his astonishment at how quickly I'd recovered in 'size' after he'd fisted me; and then decided to slip inside me. I don't think a lot of people realise quite how adaptable we ladies are and; what a slow and essentially gentle process fisting is - it most certainly doesn't just slip right up there!!

My most treasured fisting memory is of a couple that I used to see. We both loved being fisted and he'd don rubber gloves to ease friction, lube up and fist us both at the same time while we played with our pussies. He'd twist and move inside us and we almost always came at the same time. Ahhhh good times! :D

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Well I am gob smacked to read that it is off the menu as such.

I would of thought all would allow it.

Mind you I once thought all men must of got to a certain age and would of had a blow job when driving their car.

I have read a couples profile in my area recently, the woman does not allow kissing, oral on her and will not do it on a bloke either, also no fingers, but still a few guys have booked them......why?

Lucy :)

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It is a thing many working girls do not allow in my experience And yes nails well kept and no cuts on hands,

Many EE WGs dont allow fingering in my experience or if they do its through a condom on my finger/s, i cant recall a Brit WG who didnt allow it though.

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I haven't been refused it, and find its a natural part of a RO session for me, I love to get my fingers into play while I'm going down on a girl. I try to remember to trim my nails the day before a punt, to give any rough edges time to smooth, and always ensure my hands are clean before getting there. Surely that's just common courtesy? (though I know that common courtesy, like common sense, is remarkably uncommon these days!)

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It's understandable . Long finger nail could result in a few days off work . In my own experience a finger up the bum from a beautiful girl with long nails had me going to see a Doctor a few days later . Luckily I wasn't shy to tell him what happened [ and no , he didn't ask for her phone number ]

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[ and no , he didn't ask for her phone number

You are inimitable Worldpunter!

Perhaps I should put the question to wgs like this: "Should I ask about it beforehand? Might they be inclined to say no whereas they would have allowed it if I hadn't said anything?"

Lovely story Secretlife! So nice to hear about what makes girls happy!

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Can't recall being told no! A couple did not seem enthusiastic so I desisted.

As an activity I love it. It is a reminder of earlier less complicated day when, as a callow youth, this was seen as the pinnacle of sexual endeavour! Indeed I had one gf who's main rule was that we could not be both undressed at the same time! So massage and fingering were all that were on offer and, looking back, it seems that at the time that was very pleasant.

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Much as I love this (the sensation of being penetrated generally just does it for me -- I don't know whether it's psychological or what), I usually get anxious when a punter starts trying to poke about with his fingers.

1. He will probably have touched his own bits at some point during the appointment, and therefore we've potentially got some risk from that angle (paranoia!).

2. Even if there's nothing STD related to worry about, people's hands are generally filthy and I don't know how thoroughly he's washed them or cleaned under his fingernails. So bacteria's being introduced into the vagina.

3. Some punters take great care to ensure their nails are smooth; others definitely do NOT. Ow.

4. It can often be quite chafing if there's not enough lubrication.

5. What exactly are you looking for up there? Yes, that's my cervix -- could you stop prodding it? It doesn't do tricks. :D

6. Suggesting a condom on the fingers is all well and good, but it doesn't seem to be standard practice except with girl on girl during duos. And I've had several occasions where I've not been asked whether it was okay before fingers came into play -- they were just in there. Not cool.

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Perhaps I should put the question to wgs like this: "Should I ask about it beforehand? Might they be inclined to say no whereas they would have allowed it if I hadn't said anything?"

I have seen this question posed elsewhere on the board about various things: 'Don't ask her, just do it and she won't object'. Consent doesn't go away just because you fail to ask the question. Ask yourself very seriously: should you do something to someone else's body when you haven't asked them if it's okay, particularly when the reason you haven't asked is because you think they'll say no?

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Thanks Rose, very illuminating.

On the consent question, I don't ask a girl whether I can kiss her or not, either IRL or on a punt! I just try gently and see whether it goes or not. Wgs will be very quick to stop my fingers if they don't want them in there, but they might be reluctant to give a blanket permission before they know me at all.

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It's understandable . Long finger nail could result in a few days off work . In my own experience a finger up the bum from a beautiful girl with long nails had me going to see a Doctor a few days later . Luckily I wasn't shy to tell him what happened [ and no , he didn't ask for her phone number ]

Argh!!! Oh dear. I've always got quite squeamish when I am watching porn and girls with really long fake nails have been playing with each other, especially if they are fingering each other, or if a girl with long finger nails fingers a mans bum. OUCH!!!

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Consent doesn't go away just because you fail to ask the question. Ask yourself very seriously: should you do something to someone else's body when you haven't asked them if it's okay,

I can't say that I've ever specifically asked if this ways ok with a girl, but whenever meeting someone for the first time I try to make it clear that it's important to me that they are comfortable too, and that they should stop me if they don't feel comfortable at any time (after all, it's not always easy to remember exact lists of likes and dislikes in the heat of the moment), and the girls I've seen have been happy to do just that, and it's not caused an issue at all. Of course you shouldn't be doing something to someone else's body if they aren't happy about it.

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'Fingering'. Its not a very nice term really, is it?

Its not on ladies profiles because its not a listed 'like'. I did e-mail the purple site and ask, but...

For me, fingering is critical during a meeting, two, maybe three trimmed, clean and well lubricated finger, stimulating the g spot.

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For me, fingering is critical during a meeting, two, maybe three trimmed, clean and well lubricated finger, stimulating the g spot.

^^^ What he said ^^^.

One of my issues is that I'm not very verbal during sex (I'm not silent, it's just not words!!) and I can be absolutely dying for a finger or two to be added during oral and just can't bring myself to blurt it out!

A lot of guys don't use their fingers and now I realise it may be because a lot of girls don't allow it... perhaps I should stress on my site that I like it.

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For me, fingering is critical during a meeting, two, maybe three trimmed, clean and well lubricated finger, stimulating the g spot.

Precisely, preferably while licking her clit at the same time, which has always gone down well when I've tried it:) one of my favourite things that!

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I've met quite a few girls who are uneasy about letting gents play with their ladybits

One I remember told me that it was simply a line she wouldn't cross as for her it was more intimate than sex so therefore it was reserved for her boyfriend

A few girls have also said to me that even though a gent may have perfectly manicured fingers they can never be sure how clean they are. For example, there are many blokes around that I'm sure aren't overly fastidious about cleaning their hands after going to the gentlemans room. I see it all the time when I travel with work and have to visit services on the motorway, blokes who drain the snake and then either just walk straight out or at most just pass their hands under the cold water for a second and then dry them on the back of their jeans.

Face it lads, if you thought someone might have the splashback from every pish they had had that day, would you want them to stick their fingers in your mouth or any other part of you?

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It sounds like all the objections to fingers up should be met if one uses a condom?

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It sounds like all the objections to fingers up should be met if one uses a condom?

Doesn't seem quite the same though, does it?

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It sounds like all the objections to fingers up should be met if one uses a condom?

If not that how about a boxing glove ..... ? ;)

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If not that how about a boxing glove ..... ? ;)

That would be greedy - 4 fingers at the same time!

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I remember the first time I tried RO with a wg. I'd read about it being possibly a health risk, and ordered on the internet something called a glide dam to do it through - sort of sheeet condom. I quickly learned from the girl's amazement that that was NOT normal!

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