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Ethnicity

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didn't really know what else to title this sorry. it's my first post here.

i'm asian and a lot of the guys that see me are asian...and they choose me because of the fact that i'm asian.

but then when they are with me they tell me how disgusted they are that an asian girl is doing this work. not all of them, but a lot of them. why would they choose an asian girl if they don't want to see an asian girl doing this work? it is very frustrating. i'm not religious...so it also annoys me when people assume i am. or when other asian people see me as 'shameful' or whatever :/

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Hi Nisha

It shocking to read something like this. The behaviour of these men is atrocious. Religion should be kept well out of this game. It should be a private matter for the gents to deal with. Not try and project their negativity onto you. I would feel terrible if someone made me feel that way. I'd jump off the bed/sofa/wherever and show them the door... I might even let them grab their clothes on the way out, but no promises :mad:

How did you deal with what they said to you?

I've been an escort for 10 years now. I see a lot of asian men [be they Indian/pakistani/japanese/chinese etc]. I can honestly say, I have never had anyone tell me they are disgusted by what I have chosen to do. Quite the opposite really. They think it's amazing that an indian woman has the guts to do this!

Prostitution will never sit well with some folk. They don't necessarily have to be religious to have a negative view on prostition. It is unacceptable amongst my community, so I don't show my face. Do you show yours?

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Ethnicity is a very tricky thing. Some people say it's self-defined, others say it's about belonging to a particular ethnic group.

Ethnicity & race are different. I'm not from the same ethnic group as Africans - historically & culturally we are too different. I have nothing against them & there are similarities, but we're different.

People make a lot of assumptions based on how they perceive your ethnic identity.

I went on a date with this idiot who reckoned he fancied black women, but would never marry one. I lit the blue touch paper & told him I empathised because I'd never marry a white man. The fool was upset, as though my comment was different to his.

Then I get it the other way: "oh, but you don't seem like the sort of black woman to date a white man". Then I tell them, I wasn't sure I was the sort of woman to date any man!

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didn't really know what else to title this sorry. it's my first post here. i'm asian and a lot of the guys that see me are asian...and they choose me because of the fact that i'm asian. but then when they are with me they tell me how disgusted they are that an asian girl is doing this work. not all of them, but a lot of them. why would they choose an asian girl if they don't want to see an asian girl doing this work? it is very frustrating. i'm not religious...so it also annoys me when people assume i am. or when other asian people see me as 'shameful' or whatever :/
Welcome to the forum Nisha. :) Its these guys that have the problem here, they come to you at the end of the day not the other way round. Its totally wrong to be spoken to like this but as to what you can do about it, i am not sure apart from not accepting bookings off them again. Sadly some people are ignorant and their views are unlikely to change. I hope it improves. www.saafe.info/ might be of help. :) Edited by smiths

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Nisha, my heart goes out to you, it really does, but I can't get my head around why these guys would want to see you if that's their opinion. They must have some really badly screwed up values. Ignore their hypocrisy and sexism and just do as you wish. They're the ones with the problem.

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Sounds like a giant case of double standards here. I sympathise with Nisha and hope that these idiots don't put her off her chosen path. Much good advice has been offered; I hope she takes it. Good luck to her.

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didn't really know what else to title this sorry. it's my first post here.

i'm asian and a lot of the guys that see me are asian...and they choose me because of the fact that i'm asian.

but then when they are with me they tell me how disgusted they are that an asian girl is doing this work. not all of them, but a lot of them. why would they choose an asian girl if they don't want to see an asian girl doing this work? it is very frustrating. i'm not religious...so it also annoys me when people assume i am. or when other asian people see me as 'shameful' or whatever :/

Theyre moronic and hypocritical assholes using you as a convenient scapegoat for their own feelings of shame, self loathing and inadequacy

In your situation who could blame you really for a 'no Asian men' policy, when as you say in your experience 'a lot of them' behave in this way ?

So called 'deeply religious' people so often have so many hangups when it comes to sex ........makes me even happier to be an atheist

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thanks guys, it's helped to hear all of your opinions on this.

Theyre moronic and hypocritical assholes using you as a convenient scapegoat for their own feelings of shame, self loathing and inadequacy

yeah....i agree

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Nisha, sorry to hear this is happening to you. I can't help but wonder why you keep getting this sort of man, especially in light of Jasmin not experiencing this kind of thing in ten years of escorting. I am not blaming you at all, but I wonder if there is something in your profile or website that means you are attracting this kind of man? If you want to PM me your link I'm happy to have a look for you. x

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I can honestly say, I have never had anyone tell me they are disgusted by what I have chosen to do. Quite the opposite really. They think it's amazing that an indian woman has the guts to do this!

As an enormous aside, when I was watching Four Rooms last week, they had someone bring on an antique dildo (originally owned by her grandmother.. eww).

Anyway - the host - Anita Rani - said on Twitter, as it was being broadcast that: "To all the Asians watching, it's not a dildo it's a rolling pin". (In my mind, that made it worse - and started me thinking about a dildo the size of a rolling pin. And then what Anita Rani might have got up to with a rolling-pin-sized dildo.)

I've always thought - what with the Karma Sutra and all, that people of Indian-asian type origin (as opposed to Chinese-asian/etc), would be very open/relaxed about sex? Is this not the case?

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thanks guys, it's helped to hear all of your opinions on this. yeah....i agree

Best wishes Nisha. :)

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As an enormous aside, when I was watching Four Rooms last week, they had someone bring on an antique dildo (originally owned by her grandmother.. eww).

Anyway - the host - Anita Rani - said on Twitter, as it was being broadcast that: "To all the Asians watching, it's not a dildo it's a rolling pin". (In my mind, that made it worse - and started me thinking about a dildo the size of a rolling pin. And then what Anita Rani might have got up to with a rolling-pin-sized dildo.)

I've always thought - what with the Karma Sutra and all, that people of Indian-asian type origin (as opposed to Chinese-asian/etc), would be very open/relaxed about sex? Is this not the case?

Lawd have mercy! People have the same idea about people from the Caribbean, Hispanics, Africans... In short all "exotic" people.

There is a strong social conservatism in the aforementioned groups, which affects sexuality. Those of lower social classes are a bit different.

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Hello Nisha,

I would also like to add my sympathies to you. I have seen this reported before, and you do see many profiles on the other site particularly where women from the Indian sub-continent especially state that they will not see asian men. I don't think you are alone although I appreciate that doesn't help you much.

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I could understand a tad more if they sent you a mail to say they are disgusted with what you do, but to book you, do the deed and then tell you that is just, well, lol

Numptys everywhere

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Lawd have mercy! People have the same idea about people from the Caribbean, Hispanics, Africans... In short all "exotic" people.

There is a strong social conservatism in the aforementioned groups, which affects sexuality. Those of lower social classes are a bit different.

Ah ok.

But people from the Caribbean do all drink Malibu and eat coconuts, right?

And Hispanics do all have the majority of features the same as this: http://hispanicfanatic.files.wordpress.com/2010/02/eva-longoria-eva-longoria-67524_1024_768.jpg right? (by which I mean the beauty, long dark hair, etc.)

Or has TV been lying to me all these years?

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@ nisha , You've had 66 visits on your profile in a little over 24 hours . That will tell you how many people are with you on this . Welcome to the forum

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Let's forget religion and just get on seeing ALL the ladies we can, of whatever race, nationality, size, shape or creed ?? ( naturally we all have our own preferences in the size and shape, department ! :D )

If she can hold an amusing conversation ( In English ! ) I find it helps, but I don't go to her to ask about her religious views, now do I ?

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Nisha

Cant you turn around and ask why there are there in the first place if they are disgusted by your profession ?

or on the same token express your disgust at them visiting a WG ?? LoL

I hope over time you would be able to separate the wheat from the chaff by reading people from when they contact you.

All the best

J

didn't really know what else to title this sorry. it's my first post here.

i'm asian and a lot of the guys that see me are asian...and they choose me because of the fact that i'm asian.

but then when they are with me they tell me how disgusted they are that an asian girl is doing this work. not all of them, but a lot of them. why would they choose an asian girl if they don't want to see an asian girl doing this work? it is very frustrating. i'm not religious...so it also annoys me when people assume i am. or when other asian people see me as 'shameful' or whatever :/

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Nisha Cant you turn around and ask why there are there in the first place if they are disgusted by your profession ? or on the same token express your disgust at them visiting a WG ?? LoL I hope over time you would be able to separate the wheat from the chaff by reading people from when they contact you. All the best J

In my opinion a WG has to be very careful with people she doesnt know, who knows how they might react if she challenged them this directly. They already show their bad attitudes by what they say to Nisha so i wouldnt recommend this course of action myself. Far better to refuse to take future bookings in my view, although obviously they could use a different number or email address if that determined. :)

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I'm asian myself and I never understood this, if it's so shameful, why would you even go and visit her? If you're disgusted by it then why visit WGs?

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In my opinion a WG has to be very careful with people she doesnt know, who knows how they might react if she challenged them this directly. They already show their bad attitudes by what they say to Nisha so i wouldnt recommend this course of action myself. Far better to refuse to take future bookings in my view, although obviously they could use a different number or email address if that determined. :)

Yes, I was going to make a very similar point, then I noticed the "LOL!" in the post. Maybe it was intended as a joke? :)

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wow i honestly did not expect this level of support. thanks guys, it means a lot.

Nisha, sorry to hear this is happening to you. I can't help but wonder why you keep getting this sort of man, especially in light of Jasmin not experiencing this kind of thing in ten years of escorting. I am not blaming you at all, but I wonder if there is something in your profile or website that means you are attracting this kind of man? If you want to PM me your link I'm happy to have a look for you. x

i work in parlours....which may be where the difference is. i am looking to move to escort work.
I would also like to add my sympathies to you. I have seen this reported before, and you do see many profiles on the other site particularly where women from the Indian sub-continent especially state that they will not see asian men. I don't think you are alone although I appreciate that doesn't help you much.
thanks, it does actually help a little to know i'm not alone with this.

I've always thought - what with the Karma Sutra and all, that people of Indian-asian type origin (as opposed to Chinese-asian/etc), would be very open/relaxed about sex? Is this not the case?

not really, haha. i wish. sex is generally not mentioned at all in india. in fact when my mum got married her mother gave her birth control pills and told her they were vitamins, lol!
You've had 66 visits on your profile in a little over 24 hours . That will tell you how many people are with you on this . Welcome to the forum
thanks, i'm literally blown away by the amount of support x
In my opinion a WG has to be very careful with people she doesnt know, who knows how they might react if she challenged them this directly. They already show their bad attitudes by what they say to Nisha so i wouldnt recommend this course of action myself.
yeah i'm generally rubbish at confrontations anyway. haha. i just get super angry, but don't really say anything. not good.

I'm asian myself and I never understood this, if it's so shameful, why would you even go and visit her? If you're disgusted by it then why visit WGs?
thanks, it's good to get a point of view from other asians.

thanks everyone for taking the time to respond xx

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There doesn't seem to be any link on Nisha's profile here to her web-site, so I can't see how she sets her stall up! I rather think that she needs to get some pro web-site building advice (even if it costs a couple of hundred quid) with a view to bringing in a different class of punter!

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I don’t see any mention of religion in Nisha’s post as the reason for advising her not to be a whore. It’s more to do with the close knit Asian community and the tendency to want look after their own. That said, I do find their behaviour hypocritical and unacceptable.

Many Indian escorts I have visited have told me they simply will not see Indian male clients due to the fact that they (not all of them) are controlling, hard to get rid of and always try to drive down the girls’ rates.

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wow i honestly did not expect this level of support. thanks guys, it means a lot.

i work in parlours....which may be where the difference is. i am looking to move to escort work.

thanks, it does actually help a little to know i'm not alone with this.

not really, haha. i wish. sex is generally not mentioned at all in india. in fact when my mum got married her mother gave her birth control pills and told her they were vitamins, lol!

thanks, i'm literally blown away by the amount of support x

yeah i'm generally rubbish at confrontations anyway. haha. i just get super angry, but don't really say anything. not good.

thanks, it's good to get a point of view from other asians.

thanks everyone for taking the time to respond xx

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Mine made it 102 visits to your profile and you have only been a member of this board for 24 hours, and obviously a welcome one, at that. You sound absolutely delightful and I wish you success, both in our 'hobby' and in dealing with some of the low-lifes that, sadly, every working girl is bound to run into from time to time. :)

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