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The other day, I booked a lady very new to escorting . She does not openly advertise on my local board but does so quietly through private messaging. ( I know it can be annoying but please do not ask me for her details as I have promised not to share same ). I asked her for pictures and she sent them to me by email -- stunning -- so much so that I worried were they real. I 'googled ' the pics and low and behold up comes her own personal site, nothing whatsoever to do with escorting.

Anyway, I ask her age and she tells me 24. She tells me she is just doing a bit of part time escorting to supplement her income.I believe her. I make the booking. I am somewhat nervous about this meeting as I know that she is not a professional escort and is new to this. Booked a hotel room and did my best to make it welcoming for her. Knock comes on the door - holy f**K , this girl is petite , classy and gorgeous, I mean really gorgeous. She seemed a bit shy but nice and we opened a bottle and chatted a bit. I think I dealt with the paper work and then she said that she had forgotten condoms.( No problem, I went out and got some.)

This girl is really beautiful. I asked her to remove her red lipstick, . She said she wasnt wearing any, her lips are that naturally red !! sHE lokked younger than 24 and I queried this and admitted she was 21. She didnt look a day older.In herl ead up email exchanges, she asked a number of times for what 'special requests ' I might have. She wasnt taliking about clothes. She explained that one client only asks her lie still while he caressess her . She says she offers submissive.Anyway, I had no special requests and wanted at least as a first booking, a bog standard approach.

This young girl came at me full on. She had no inhibitions whatsoever and took the lead in many situations. During the booking, she gave the deepest, freeset , full on DFK that I have ever experienced. She approached the other services just as freely and enthusiastically. I was dumbfounded. I had expected to be sort of 'looking after ' her, whilst it ended up nearly being the other way around.

I really fancy this girl and have no doubt that due to her confident and free spirited attitude that this is a lady that I could perhaps explore different things with. But then another part of me nags me and says,' you are the mature one here ( yeah right !! ) and more than twice her age'.She is a young lady-- so do I have a responsibility to make sure that whatever we do is just the simple ordinary 'civvy street ' type activiies, so that in the future she does not look back and think that she was 'used/ abused ' , taken advantage of , by a much older man who should have known better ?

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it sounds like she knows her own mind, and knows what she is comfortable doing. i do however think it's really good that you are thinking about her and the effect it may have on her as well. maybe you could tell her this? ask her if she is definitely okay with doing all those things. that way you have done everything you can to help, and the rest of responsibility/decision lies on her shoulders.

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The other day, I booked a lady very new to escorting . She does not openly advertise on my local board but does so quietly through private messaging. ( I know it can be annoying but please do not ask me for her details as I have promised not to share same ). I asked her for pictures and she sent them to me by email -- stunning -- so much so that I worried were they real. I 'googled ' the pics and low and behold up comes her own personal site, nothing whatsoever to do with escorting. Anyway, I ask her age and she tells me 24. She tells me she is just doing a bit of part time escorting to supplement her income.I believe her. I make the booking. I am somewhat nervous about this meeting as I know that she is not a professional escort and is new to this. Booked a hotel room and did my best to make it welcoming for her. Knock comes on the door - holy f**K , this girl is petite , classy and gorgeous, I mean really gorgeous. She seemed a bit shy but nice and we opened a bottle and chatted a bit. I think I dealt with the paper work and then she said that she had forgotten condoms.( No problem, I went out and got some.) This girl is really beautiful. I asked her to remove her red lipstick, . She said she wasnt wearing any, her lips are that naturally red !! sHE lokked younger than 24 and I queried this and admitted she was 21. She didnt look a day older.In herl ead up email exchanges, she asked a number of times for what 'special requests ' I might have. She wasnt taliking about clothes. She explained that one client only asks her lie still while he caressess her . She says she offers submissive.Anyway, I had no special requests and wanted at least as a first booking, a bog standard approach. This young girl came at me full on. She had no inhibitions whatsoever and took the lead in many situations. During the booking, she gave the deepest, freeset , full on DFK that I have ever experienced. She approached the other services just as freely and enthusiastically. I was dumbfounded. I had expected to be sort of 'looking after ' her, whilst it ended up nearly being the other way around. I really fancy this girl and have no doubt that due to her confident and free spirited attitude that this is a lady that I could perhaps explore different things with. But then another part of me nags me and says,' you are the mature one here ( yeah right !! ) and more than twice her age'.She is a young lady-- so do I have a responsibility to make sure that whatever we do is just the simple ordinary 'civvy street ' type activiies, so that in the future she does not look back and think that she was 'used/ abused ' , taken advantage of , by a much older man who should have known better ?

Its her responsibility to advertise the services she is prepared to offer in my view. A punters responsibility is to be clean, respectful with the agreed money and only proceed if she seems happy to do so. If a WG seems unhappy or uncomfortable with a particular service the last thing i wish to do is do it anyway. Thats no fun at all, i want her to be seemingly fine with things. :)

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I assume that she has entered into this scene in full control of her faculties. If you suspect otherwise you should drop her now.

You could try to establish if there are any other motives or pressure behind her actions and if she is as free from pimping as you currently believe, then go ahead and enjoy meeting her. I would imagine that there are many girls in civvie street doing just what she does with their boyfriends so don't worry that you will be corrupting her morals or affecting her future sexual habits.

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Truthfully, our responsibilities end with turn up on time, be clean, respect boundaries, be pleasant, leave on time and be discreet with any personal details you might accidentally learn. You are not her guardian and she most probably neither needs nor wants a white knight.

This girl is 21 and is more than old enough to be making her own decisions about who she sees and what she does with them. You seem a nice guy. If she is going to be seeing men for money, why not yourself who at least seems to have her best interests at heart? She'll have an idea of how many guys per week she wants to see and if she is as beautiful as you say, she'll definitely find the customers. Why shouldn't one of them be you, as long as you stick to the standard escort/client relationship and services she is comfortable providing.

On the other hand, if your OP is a coded way of saying should I try and start a relationship with this girl, then that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Assuming that's not what you are asking, I would definitely advise her of her privacy vulnerability re the photos for a start and then book her again for another session.

If you feel yourself falling for her, run for the hills for both of your sakes.

Best of luck (you lucky dog)

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.She is a young lady-- so do I have a responsibility to make sure that whatever we do is just the simple ordinary 'civvy street ' type activiies, so that in the future she does not look back and think that she was 'used/ abused ' , taken advantage of , by a much older man who should have known better ?

Truthfully, our responsibilities end with turn up on time, be clean, respect boundaries, be pleasant, leave on time and be discreet with any personal details you might accidentally learn. You are not her guardian and she most probably neither needs nor wants a white knight.

This girl is 21 and is more than old enough to be making her own decisions about who she sees and what she does with them. You seem a nice guy. If she is going to be seeing men for money, why not yourself who at least seems to have her best interests at heart? She'll have an idea of how many guys per week she wants to see and if she is as beautiful as you say, she'll definitely find the customers. Why shouldn't one of them be you, as long as you stick to the standard escort/client relationship and services she is comfortable providing.

On the other hand, if your OP is a coded way of saying should I try and start a relationship with this girl, then that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Assuming that's not what you are asking, I would definitely advise her of her privacy vulnerability re the photos for a start and then book her again for another session.

If you feel yourself falling for her, run for the hills for both of your sakes.

Best of luck (you lucky dog)

I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

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I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

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I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

Do whatever she's comfortable with. As a 22 year old, I find your question a bit patronising. I've had more sex in the last year than most people have in their lives. Who's to say she's not the same? Sex is not corrupting, or bad, and if she sets her own boundaries and you respect them, then I imagine she'll be fine. She's a consenting adult.

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Truthfully, our responsibilities end with turn up on time, be clean, respect boundaries, be pleasant, leave on time and be discreet with any personal details you might accidentally learn. You are not her guardian and she most probably neither needs nor wants a white knight.

Agreed. :)

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I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

(Ooops, I posted without typing LOL)

I had pretty much set my personal boundaries by the time I was about 17. Through the years I've explored other things, some I liked, some I didn't, thus setting other boundaries as I went though life.

At 21, and from what you wrote, this lady seems to know what she wants and likes, she may have 7 or more years of sexual experience behind her, she seems well aware of her boundaries.

Your paragraph: "This young girl came at me full on. She had no inhibitions whatsoever and took the lead in many situations. During the booking, she gave the deepest, freeset , full on DFK that I have ever experienced. She approached the other services just as freely and enthusiastically. I was dumbfounded. I had expected to be sort of 'looking after ' her, whilst it ended up nearly being the other way around" speaks volumes - this lady knows what she likes and wants! And let you have it! LOL!

So while you have a responsibility to be respectful to all ladies, and respect all boundaries, I'm sure this particular lady knew exactly where hers are ;)

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I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

Aha, apologies for being dense.

I think I'd qualify your final sentance. If she is willing and keen to do it then go for it. If she seems reluctantly prepared to do it, then slow down and try something else.

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I'm 23, and my advice is:

1) Don't ask her any questions you wouldn't like her to ask you. "Do your parents know what you're up to?" Is a good example. "Where do you study?" should get "Where do you work?"

2) Respect her decisions. Let her set her own boundaries.

3) Other WGs will offer her a great deal of support & guidance. Never underestimate the Sisterhood!

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I have no problem seeing her again, that was not my question. My question was to do with the type of services to engage in. My guess is that as a 21 yo may not know what her boundaries are or where those boundaries should be.Should I not be setting those or should I just go on the basis that if she is prepared to do it, then do it ??

Your a nice guy mate as this shows but a 21 year old adult really is responsible for herself if working freely, if she advertises and confirms she offers xyz then unless you feel upon meeting her she isnt comfortable my advice is do it and enjoy yourself which is what punting is all about, or it is for me anyway. Whether you should set boundaries yourself is a matter for you and how you think, if its on offer and the WG confirms that in person then i have no qualms indulging personally.

You continue with very interesting, thoughtful and sometimes deep threads, please keep them coming, i like you scenario posings, its all so very simple a pastime for me so its great to read anothers perspective. ;):D

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I'm 23, and my advice is:

1) Don't ask her any questions you wouldn't like her to ask you. "Do your parents know what you're up to?" Is a good example. "Where do you study?" should get "Where do you work?"

2) Respect her decisions. Let her set her own boundaries.

3) Other WGs will offer her a great deal of support & guidance. Never underestimate the Sisterhood!

She actually told me by pm what she does but I think didnt realised the power of the internet and that her pics led me straight to her own civvy street website. I dont think she knows any other WGs. Anyway, if she will see me again, I will be happy to take it easy with her and let me make the running as to her boundaries. It is just so awesome being with her at all in the first place.

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Your a nice guy mate as this shows but a 21 year old adult really is responsible for herself if working freely, if she advertises and confirms she offers xyz then unless you feel upon meeting her she isnt comfortable my advice is do it and enjoy yourself which is what punting is all about, or it is for me anyway. Whether you should set boundaries yourself is a matter for you and how you think, if its on offer and the WG confirms that in person then i have no qualms indulging personally.

You continue with very interesting, thoughtful and sometimes deep threads, please keep them coming, i like you scenario posings, its all so very simple a pastime for me so its great to read anothers perspective. ;):D

She is working freely,I am happy about that but she doesnt advertise at all , so I have no idea what her services are as such. She is just a young lady doing this as an aside. If I get the chance again, I will just take it easy again with her.

thank you Smiths for your comments on the scenario posting. Obviously, I cant post about these things on my local board. These are all reasonably simple things, I dont do anything wild but anything I post about is true and real. It wouldnt interest me otherwise. :)

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What is your local forum?

I want to join to see what goes on there......

Lucy :)

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She actually told me by pm what she does but I think didnt realised the power of the internet and that her pics led me straight to her own civvy street website. I dont think she knows any other WGs.

I would be surprised if a 21 year old does not know the power of the internet, they are way more clued up than us older ones about the net in general.

Why did you feel the need to research her and find her own civvy street web site though?

If she is on a local sex site forum she will probably have PM ladies buddies that she can ask for help or advice.

A few forums have ladies sections as well, that men can not view.

Lucy :)

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I am not sure what the issue is here, she is a 21 year old prostitute, or is it because she does not have a website and has other interests outside of being a prostitute you do not see her as one? Many prostitutes only use prostitution as a way of funding other interests/study, is this really any different? You seem to be going a bit soft in your old age :P

She has probably been sexually active since at least 16 which is at least 5 years sexual experience and has probably tried everything there is to offer, I know I had at that age :)

I cannot see the difference between this girl and any other 21 year old prostitute of which there are many :)

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As Kantos Kan has said, I would definitely warn her about the ease with which you found her website from the photograph she sent you. She does need to be aware that she should send photos only to people with whom she is willing to share this knowledge.

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Hi, all.

When I saw Valery of Hot-Collection this week I was conscious of the nearly 40 years difference in age beteeen us and checked before booking that she would be comfortable with that. When I met her I asked if she had been asked and she had not. So I said that if she had any issue that I would just talk to her but received the reply "Come on, I don't have a problem." In fact, she was so great to talk to that we spent a lot of time just talking.

I may not be alone in wanting to be sure that I only ask a lady to do what she feels comfortable with and not more. With independents it is easier because one can enter into a discussion before the meeting. That is how I discovered that, for example, 25 year old Nataly has broader horizons than I do. Nevertheless, I feel obliged to check.

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As Kantos Kan has said, I would definitely warn her about the ease with which you found her website from the photograph she sent you. She does need to be aware that she should send photos only to people with whom she is willing to share this knowledge.

I certainly agree. :)

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I would be surprised if a 21 year old does not know the power of the internet, they are way more clued up than us older ones about the net in general.

Why did you feel the need to research her and find her own civvy street web site though?

If she is on a local sex site forum she will probably have PM ladies buddies that she can ask for help or advice.

A few forums have ladies sections as well, that men can not view.

Lucy :)

Research and cleanliness make for better meetings IMHO Lucy. :D

As Kantos Kan has said, I would definitely warn her about the ease with which you found her website from the photograph she sent you. She does need to be aware that she should send photos only to people with whom she is willing to share this knowledge.

Even an Old Fart like me can usually find nice Ladies via the internet !

A 21 year old is probably much more savvy about these things than I am, so should know what she's doing, particularly if she has her own web-site.

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What is your local forum?

I want to join to see what goes on there......

Lucy :)

If I told you I would have to kill you !! :D

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I would be surprised if a 21 year old does not know the power of the internet, they are way more clued up than us older ones about the net in general.

Why did you feel the need to research her and find her own civvy street web site though?

If she is on a local sex site forum she will probably have PM ladies buddies that she can ask for help or advice.

A few forums have ladies sections as well, that men can not view.

Lucy :)

Then all she had to do was send me the link to her site and not bother sending me photos at all.?

I researched her because, as a non-advertising escort , she could have sent me photos of anyone. The photos were so fab, I would have wagered that they were not hers and that a search would have shown them to be of some Italian model or something. I then would have confronted her. However, the photos were indeed of her and the search led me straight to her site.

Perhaps I differ from some people on this. I have read escorts and others saying things like " just find a hot girl and away you go ". Personally, a lot of the time, picking any hot girl just doesnt do it for me.I like to look for a lady with something a little different, a twist. Perhaps that is why I find myself in slightly unusual situations sometimes. The brain is the biggest sex organ, so if I can associate the lady with different or unusual circumstances, then this increases my interest and the excitement. It is not always about the prettiest lady !! :D So, it can make the whole experience far more enjoyable if you have some backgrounf info or understanding rather than just the info on the profile.!!

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I am not sure what the issue is here, she is a 21 year old prostitute, or is it because she does not have a website and has other interests outside of being a prostitute you do not see her as one? Many prostitutes only use prostitution as a way of funding other interests/study, is this really any different? You seem to be going a bit soft in your old age :P

She has probably been sexually active since at least 16 which is at least 5 years sexual experience and has probably tried everything there is to offer, I know I had at that age :)

I cannot see the difference between this girl and any other 21 year old prostitute of which there are many :)

Thats confidential information and not to be shared !! :D

Seriously though, not alone is this lady very young but she is brand new to escorting and therefore potentially vunerable. If she has been escorting for a year or so already, then I would be far less concerned. If her very first experiences are to shape her views on men who pay for sex , then I would like them to be good ones ! I am sick of hearing stories about punters who mistreat prostitutes.In addition these people tarnish the rest of us and we all suffer to some extent as a consequence.

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