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Married Punters - What's In Store For The Future?

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Following on from my recent revelation at being caught out - I would like to put this question out to the board's married/attached punters who indulge this questionable activity in secret.

Namely - for those of you who see yourself single in the near or distant future (as I do) - how do you see yourself moving forward in your sex lives? Do you see yourself continuing to pay for sex? Find the relationship you always wanted? Live a single and free life? And to what extent do you think that those years of seeing prostitutes will affect the years of future freedom?

As for me - I see myself much bolder in the future - taking more chances and acting decisively when there are opportunities. I see myself raising my standards to what I really desire and achieving it. I do not see myself in a long term relationship. I can also say that my experiences with prostitues has helped me enormously with expressing my desires openly and would hope that would reap future benefits in any sexual relationship. I do see myself paying for sex in this supposed future - I expect with that degree of freedom which i do not possess now, that is inevitable - like a child let loose in a candy store. But I have hopes that would soon pass.

So - your comments please.

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Hi, Lancelot. Do you see yourself as going to be made to become single in the future as a result of your recent incident, or is this something that you've been planning anyway - perhaps staying in a marriage you're not happy in until your children have grown-up and left home?

For myself, you may have seen that I've been thinking a lot about this recently. Kind of using the forum as a group counsellor to 'talk out loud' about some internal concerns! If I were single, and could still afford it, then I've no doubt that I'd continue to see WGs unless I began another relationship. I've no desire to become single and would hope that my wife and I can reboot our sex life eventually (I'm looking into the counselling that's available through Relate and the NHS), but I will probably continue punting until that happens. Taking the punge to start seeing escorts, when you can find the right lady(ies) for you, has made me realise just how much I miss marital intimacy. To be honest, I'd find it a bit difficult to give up punting now, unless it was replaced by a real-world sexual relationship with the woman I love.

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Hi, Lancelot. Do you see yourself as going to be made to become single in the future as a result of your recent incident, or is this something that you've been planning anyway - perhaps staying in a marriage you're not happy in until your children have grown-up and left home?

Either scenario though more likely that I will walk away when I see that certain obligations no longer exist.

In your situation - if you still feel that essential attraction to your wife - I would do everything possible starting now to re-boot, as you put it.

I know of one other p/net forum member who has a wife he is otherwise happy with - except she has gone cold on the sex and I think that with a change of behaviour on his part - she would come around to his way of thinking as I believe that all women will respond accordingly to being treated in a close loving and romantic way IF there are no strings attached.

In my case it's different as I cannot live my life restricted to the woman I have married.

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a converse of this. I am single but hope not to be one day. Punting has made it harder for me to remain in relationships. I now want to explore my sexual limits, but find most girls are closed to the idea. I'm not talking about anything outlandish such threesomes or bdsm, but what I class as normal now e.g. anal, cim, rimming, roleplaying and uniforms etc, i have found girls are very conservative and think I am sick and perverted for suggesting such. Hence, that relationship is culled quickly.

I won't entertain the idea of having a relationship and seeing WG's on the side as deception does not rest well with me, however i judge no one else as circumstances are different for everyone. I even started to contemplate having a relationship with a WG so I could get the best of both worlds, despite the obvious conflicts. That, I know is a bad idea.

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a converse of this. I am single but hope not to be one day. Punting has made it harder for me to remain in relationships. I now want to explore my sexual limits, but find most girls are closed to the idea. I'm not talking about anything outlandish such threesomes or bdsm, but what I class as normal now e.g. anal, cim, rimming, roleplaying and uniforms etc, i have found girls are very conservative and think I am sick and perverted for suggesting such. Hence, that relationship is culled quickly.

I won't entertain the idea of having a relationship and seeing WG's on the side as deception does not rest well with me, however i judge no one else as circumstances are different for everyone. I even started to contemplate having a relationship with a WG so I could get the best of both worlds, despite the obvious conflicts. That, I know is a bad idea.

Why?

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why is it a bad idea ? As I imagine I would have difficulty reconciling the conflict between relationship with the career choice.

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Is this another time travelling thread ?

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Mrs. Bloom and I have been married for thirty years.

If this should come to an end - for whatever of the various possible reasons - I would have no intention of setting up any other stable relationship with a woman. I would certainly miss Mrs. Bloom, but I wouldn't want to start all over again, and I think the affection from members of my family would be enough for that side of things. Working girls would take care of the rest.

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Either scenario though more likely that I will walk away when I see that certain obligations no longer exist

In my case it's different as I cannot live my life restricted to the woman I have married.

May i ask why ? It takes two to make a marriage work and if your wife has "gone off" sexual intimacy maybe that could be your fault???

Gentlemen come to see us ladies cos they like the exicitement of extra marital sex and most probally the things they DONT ask from thier wives !

Your wife will forgive you but as has already been said wont forget

Take a good look at what you will lose if you allow yourself to become selfish to your "needs" If you love her then sort it out xxxxx

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Mrs. Bloom and I have been married for thirty years.

If this should come to an end - for whatever of the various possible reasons - I would have no intention of setting up any other stable relationship with a woman. I would certainly miss Mrs. Bloom, but I wouldn't want to start all over again, and I think the affection from members of my family would be enough for that side of things. Working girls would take care of the rest.

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May i ask why ? It takes two to make a marriage work and if your wife has "gone off" sexual intimacy maybe that could be your fault???

Oh yes, it's usually the man's fault :rolleyes:

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Mrs. Bloom and I have been married for thirty years.

If this should come to an end - for whatever of the various possible reasons - I would have no intention of setting up any other stable relationship with a woman. I would certainly miss Mrs. Bloom, but I wouldn't want to start all over again, and I think the affection from members of my family would be enough for that side of things. Working girls would take care of the rest.

This would be me, I've had a couple of dates, but I really find I'm quite content ith my own company, plus I ve a wide circle of friends and interests, if I need to get intimate I'm quite happy to pay.

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Oh yes, it's usually the man's fault

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Oh yes, it's usually the man's fault :rolleyes:

I did say it takes two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :angry:

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Have you considered that future partners might also find out about your punting, perhaps by virtue of the helpful efforts of your current partner?

Maybe the grass is not greener on the other side.

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I could think about being single and spending as much as I want on current WGs. That is one option.

I think I like company in my house though. (puts shield up for possible arrows) I would be tempted to get a Thai bar girl to move here with me for a bit. They all seem up for it. I have an aquaintance who did this - it worked out well for him at least over the last 3 years.

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I did say it takes two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :angry:

It takes two to have sex, it only takes one to go off it so that it doesn't happen.

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It takes two to have sex, it only takes one to go off it so that it doesn't happen.

Crikey, that's succinct!

True, though :(

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It takes two to have sex, it only takes one to go off it so that it doesn't happen.

Well said squire!

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I've no intention of leaving my wife, but if she left me and I found myself on the market again my experience punting would certainly make me more confident sexually with new partners, though I'd have to be careful not to use any punting terminology - asking "do u do OWO" might not go down too well!

Another thing is having been with quite a few women now thru punting, I have a better idea of what my physical/sexual checklist is for a new partner too.

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I've no intention of leaving my wife, but if she left me and I found myself on the market again my experience punting would certainly make me more confident sexually with new partners, though I'd have to be careful not to use any punting terminology - asking "do u do OWO" might not go down too well!

Leaving an envelope of £20 notes on the dresser is a no-no too

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If I found myself single, I think I'd immediately head straight to Thailand for at least a month. And then maybe somewhere in Latin or South America for another month..

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