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Bjs / Hjs Just Don't Do It For Me :(

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I have never in my life come when a girl has given me a blowjob or a hand job.

In fact I'd go so far as to say I find myself hoping the girl I'm with won't offer to do either. If she does, I accept merely out of politeness.

Does anyone else feel this way or am I a freak?

I can't really put my finger on why this is but I guess it's a combination of:

1) Women, understandably, struggle to get the right grip/speed on the wee man when giving a hand job. I don't know if I'm picky but if she grasps me just a little too hard I find it uncomfortable. Also, the women I've been with tend to wank me too fast and with too much "enthusiasm". On occasion I've practically begged the woman to stop in as nice a way as possible. I'm not placing blame on women for this. They can't feel the sensation that I'm feeling so they have no way of knowing unless I give a running commentary - which I'd also find off-putting.

2) A part of me always feels a woman giving a BJ is demeaning for her. I guess, in a way, that's the intended appeal of it.

3) The sound of a woman slurping/gagging on me is just not good.

4) A BJ or HJ is never going to feel as good as good old fashioned sex! I find myself thinking, "Instead of doing this, we could be having sex. I could be pressed against you, feeling your naked breasts against me. Instead I'm lying here looking up at the ceiling while you do to me what I've been doing most my life, but just much better at it (a HJ not a BJ)."

5) The simple fact that this has become a stigma for me now is probably half the reason I can't enjoy it. I'm anticipating things: Please don't let her be a "yanker"!

Has anyone else been through this and found a way to enjoy it? Or any other suggestions? I guess one option is to book an escort with the sole intention of helping her get it just right. Maybe watch some porn as she wanks me. Ugh...but then why do that when we could be having sex!?

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I’m a big fan of both and class them as an essential part of foreplay. Everyone’s different though, just depends on what floats your boat.

Technique is definitely important though, some girls are good some are bad. I’m sure it’s the same for the girls on here, some blokes are good at foreplay some are bad.

Lucky for me most of my past (and present) experiences have been pretty darn awesome :)

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Why not, just have sex?

I am surprised how little sex I have, as an escort. Lots of clients love having blow-jobs & cum that way.

All clients are different.

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All you guys are different, what one wants can be so different to the next.

I would suggest to the OP that if you are not bothered to having blowy or a hand job, and you do not want the lady to gabble on at you, take a bit of control with what you do in the meeting yourself.

With respect to you, I can not understand why you will just lie there having sexual acts performed on you if it is not what you are after.

If you want to fuck like a bunny, well just do it man!

I met a man yesterday who was new to me, and he wanted to fuck fuck fuck for 95% of the time.

Now I can go like the clappers, but even me got a bit shagged out.

I pushed him on his back and gave him a few blowys just so I could have a rest!

Take charge man, get what YOU want!

Lucy :)

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All you guys are different, what one wants can be so different to the next.

I would suggest to the OP that if you are not bothered to having blowy or a hand job, and you do not want the lady to gabble on at you, take a bit of control with what you do in the meeting yourself.

With respect to you, I can not understand why you will just lie there having sexual acts performed on you if it is not what you are after.

If you want to fuck like a bunny, well just do it man!

I met a man yesterday who was new to me, and he wanted to fuck fuck fuck for 95% of the time.

Now I can go like the clappers, but even me got a bit shagged out.

I pushed him on his back and gave him a few blowys just so I could have a rest!

Take charge man, get what YOU want!

Lucy :)

So you made him lie there having sexual acts performed on him that were not what he was after???

:wacko:

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What Lucy and Lara said!

However if you want to 'get over' this thing then why not book an escort (maybe a regular if you have one) and tell her exactly what you told us above and give her instructions on how you like to be tugged/sucked and see if she can change things for you. I know if a regular of mine told me this I'd be thrilled to take on such a challenge! I good WG will moderate her technique to suit her client, thing is most of us aren't mind readers!

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So you made him lie there having sexual acts performed on him that were not what he was after???

:wacko:

:D He was wanting other stuff, but he was more up for shagging, hence me saying 95% of the time.

I know how to read a man now and what his preferences are.

Lucy :)

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Interesting post from the OP and quite brave to admit it. I can relate to the hj bit as I think it's quite a skill for a lady to get this right but those that do give me a mind blowing wank!

As for oral, I think in civvie street women are often too repressed to try giving or receiving but I cannot for the life of me understand why they wouldn't enjoy a nicely done but of O on them. But for me the feeling of being BJ'd is sublime and the lovely warm release of CIM is fantastic

But I certainly wouldn't give up the wonderful intimacy of face to face sex for any of these

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I must admit, when either are done well during foreplay and/or immediately after I have enjoyed Daty, I get tempted into letting them carry on in the hope I can later achieve a 'second cuming'!

Certainly, if I had to choose between a jump on and off quickie, or a few minutes RO followed by a rapid BJ/HJ the latter would win out every time.

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Also, the women I've been with tend to wank me too fast and with too much "enthusiasm".

Ahhh - that would be the techno-wank. Had plenty of those when I was in my teens - having the poor chap pummelled roughly and vigorously by inexperienced gfs. At the other end of the spectrum, of course, you have the mellow jazz-wank, which is so slow and frictionless, you almost fall asleep ;)

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Sometimes I actually prefer the build up of HJ and BJ before sex and many times if its good and Cim is thrown in.....then sex usually doesnt happen lol I guess different things will get us going in the same way we each have our 'type' of wg etc

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Sometimes I actually prefer the build up of HJ and BJ before sex and many times if its good and Cim is thrown in.....then sex usually doesnt happen lol I guess different things will get us going in the same way we each have our 'type' of wg etc

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I adore both hjs and bjs and sometimes punt just to enjoy both without the sex

in fact my strongest orgasms have come from astonishingly good bouts of owo

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I have never in my life come when a girl has given me a blowjob or a hand job. In fact I'd go so far as to say I find myself hoping the girl I'm with won't offer to do either. If she does, I accept merely out of politeness. Does anyone else feel this way or am I a freak? I can't really put my finger on why this is but I guess it's a combination of: 1) Women, understandably, struggle to get the right grip/speed on the wee man when giving a hand job. I don't know if I'm picky but if she grasps me just a little too hard I find it uncomfortable. Also, the women I've been with tend to wank me too fast and with too much "enthusiasm". On occasion I've practically begged the woman to stop in as nice a way as possible. I'm not placing blame on women for this. They can't feel the sensation that I'm feeling so they have no way of knowing unless I give a running commentary - which I'd also find off-putting. 2) A part of me always feels a woman giving a BJ is demeaning for her. I guess, in a way, that's the intended appeal of it. 3) The sound of a woman slurping/gagging on me is just not good. 4) A BJ or HJ is never going to feel as good as good old fashioned sex! I find myself thinking, "Instead of doing this, we could be having sex. I could be pressed against you, feeling your naked breasts against me. Instead I'm lying here looking up at the ceiling while you do to me what I've been doing most my life, but just much better at it (a HJ not a BJ)." 5) The simple fact that this has become a stigma for me now is probably half the reason I can't enjoy it. I'm anticipating things: Please don't let her be a "yanker"! Has anyone else been through this and found a way to enjoy it? Or any other suggestions? I guess one option is to book an escort with the sole intention of helping her get it just right. Maybe watch some porn as she wanks me. Ugh...but then why do that when we could be having sex!?

If you dont want to receive a particular thing then dont, why you go through with it out of politeness when your paying is a puzzle to me. I enjoy BJs and being wanked and come when i am ready to do so. My suggestion is do what YOU DO LIKE doing instead of things you dont.

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Sometimes I actually prefer the build up of HJ and BJ before sex and many times if its good and Cim is thrown in.....then sex usually doesnt happen lol I guess different things will get us going in the same way we each have our 'type' of wg etc

Same here, for me shagging isnt always of interest, DFK, OWO and RO, perhaps CIM is more than sufficient. :)

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All you guys are different, what one wants can be so different to the next. I would suggest to the OP that if you are not bothered to having blowy or a hand job, and you do not want the lady to gabble on at you, take a bit of control with what you do in the meeting yourself. With respect to you, I can not understand why you will just lie there having sexual acts performed on you if it is not what you are after. If you want to fuck like a bunny, well just do it man! I met a man yesterday who was new to me, and he wanted to fuck fuck fuck for 95% of the time. Now I can go like the clappers, but even me got a bit shagged out. I pushed him on his back and gave him a few blowys just so I could have a rest! Take charge man, get what YOU want! Lucy :)

Excellent advice Lucy. Its astonishing the number of punters who post on here about doing things out of politeness that they dont particularly enjoy. I punt to enjoy myself, great if the WG does too but i must get certain services or it will be a bad punt and i wouldnt do something i dont enjoy out of politeness. :)

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Why not, just have sex?

I am surprised how little sex I have, as an escort. Lots of clients love having blow-jobs & cum that way.

All clients are different.

So do clients just come to you for hj/bj and then leave without asking for sex? Don't you find it sometimes rude or offensive sometimes if they don't want to have sex? lol I want to just go to an escort just for that but I think they might take it the wrong way if I say I don't want sex, just a quick bj.

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Why not, just have sex?

I am surprised how little sex I have, as an escort. Lots of clients love having blow-jobs & cum that way.

All clients are different.

Having a bout of really bad back problem and not wanting to risk more damage or the embarrassing (but maybe mythical) having to be stretchered of the job, I hadn't punted for 6 weeks.

Now normally I'm with the guys who regard penetrative sex as the main course and the rest just as starters, but then I thought of a lass who is a total sex specialist. She kept me on edge with massage, licking and then prostate massage with fingers and vibrators until I finally exploded what felt like gallons. We had even run over time but I was still able to put me own socks on AND tie me shoe laces!

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+1

I adore both hjs and bjs and sometimes punt just to enjoy both without the sex

in fact my strongest orgasms have come from astonishingly good bouts of owo

For me, there is no way I would go through a punt without sex. It is the main event.

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Why not, just have sex?

I am surprised how little sex I have, as an escort. Lots of clients love having blow-jobs & cum that way.

All clients are different.

I refer to my post on SPs doing things that are not the 'norm': I guess most men get straight sex with their partners, but some/most need to turn to SPs for BJs, especially if it involves cim.

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Cheers for the feedback all.

As for the questions, "Why do it if you don't want it?". I guess the answer would be that a part of me is hoping that I'll come across a girl that just gives an amazing blow/hand job and I'll then realise what all the fuss is about. I suppose I feel like I'm missing out on something that has such a high regard amongst most people. And I'm pretty bad when it comes to feeling like I'm missing out on something, which is the main reason I punt! Far too many sexy escorts and not enough money to see them all!

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I'm not a big fan of hj/bjs either. I usually lie down for a kiss and a cuddle and a fondle, and then some oral on her, by that time, I'm usually ready to roll on the condom. I often find oral too intense, or a turn-off if it's too slurpy/noisy.

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I have never in my life come when a girl has given me a blowjob or a hand job.

In fact I'd go so far as to say I find myself hoping the girl I'm with won't offer to do either. If she does, I accept merely out of politeness.

Does anyone else feel this way or am I a freak?

I can't really put my finger on why this is but I guess it's a combination of:

1) Women, understandably, struggle to get the right grip/speed on the wee man when giving a hand job. I don't know if I'm picky but if she grasps me just a little too hard I find it uncomfortable. Also, the women I've been with tend to wank me too fast and with too much "enthusiasm". On occasion I've practically begged the woman to stop in as nice a way as possible. I'm not placing blame on women for this. They can't feel the sensation that I'm feeling so they have no way of knowing unless I give a running commentary - which I'd also find off-putting.

2) A part of me always feels a woman giving a BJ is demeaning for her. I guess, in a way, that's the intended appeal of it.

3) The sound of a woman slurping/gagging on me is just not good.

4) A BJ or HJ is never going to feel as good as good old fashioned sex! I find myself thinking, "Instead of doing this, we could be having sex. I could be pressed against you, feeling your naked breasts against me. Instead I'm lying here looking up at the ceiling while you do to me what I've been doing most my life, but just much better at it (a HJ not a BJ)."

5) The simple fact that this has become a stigma for me now is probably half the reason I can't enjoy it. I'm anticipating things: Please don't let her be a "yanker"!

Has anyone else been through this and found a way to enjoy it? Or any other suggestions? I guess one option is to book an escort with the sole intention of helping her get it just right. Maybe watch some porn as she wanks me. Ugh...but then why do that when we could be having sex!?

For me sex with a condom is never going to feel as good as bareback or owo and if a lot of guys are like me that's one why WGs will see a lot of men preferring BJs. Sometimes I can't come at all as hard as I try with covered sex.

I also have the problem it's not often a WG or any girl knows the right speed and grip for a HJ and when seeing a WG I usually have to ask for it softer. Same with the running commentary, it's too much for a first meeting with a WG. Not a moan because it's not easy to get it right and each guy will like it differently. With a girlfriend or longer booking/regular WG it will be worth it to show what I like though.

I don't see BJs as demeaning if they are given willingly, love the sound of some slupring (gagging would be nice if the girl is into that but haven't had that happen). I like BJs and good old fashioned shagging both but in a different way.

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Hey if you dont like just normal bjs have you tried asking about the mint trick? I have seen a client who told me he cant stand bjs and i was like the wg obviously was doing it wrong and asked if i could show him how i do it :P now he <3s them.

Know those listerine mint strips you can get? If u put one of them on your tongue before you suck the guy off he will get a tingling sensation which apparently is an amazing feeling (you xan also use popping candy) .... Anyway thats just an idea you can try before writting them off all together :)

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An oily handjob (if done properly) is pure heaven and will make you cum!

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I reckon he dont like either is because all the women that have tried to give him a bj or hj just sucked (not in a good way) at doing so and due to bad experiences he just dont enjoy it anymore :(

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