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Sexy As Hell But No Conversation Skills?

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Just had a good punt with a sexy petite redhead and she was incredibly hot physically but mentally she seemed either "shy" or just a bit distant. She was British so there was no language barrier, just seemed quite cold and it was me trying desperately to fill in the silences of the conversation. It was her first booking of the day so I was expecting her to be pretty sparky? In the sex department she certainly delivered so no complaints there...

  • Maybe I have just been spoiled by my visits to my regular who is both an excellent conversationalist and epically attractive?
  • Do WG's and fellow punters consider social skills important parts of the repertoire?
  • Would you return to a WG you "clicked" with mentally over someone else who was hotter physically?

Note: I said "Just had a good punt" I'm certainly not complaining, just making an observation of what takes a good punt into a GREAT punt!

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I'm with you on this totally.

One appointment I had springs to mind, she was stunning. Blonde, 36FF, slim, tall and no complaints about the service at all.

But the conversation was a struggle, to the extent where that was the only reason I didn't make any furthter bookings with her.

On the other hand, I've had a number of thoroughly enjoyable meetings with a lady who is still very attractive, although not in the same league as the lady mentioned above.

The difference being that I enjoyed our time together even while we were talking, either straight after she arrived, or in-between getting fruity. In a strange way it makes me feel less like I am paying for it!

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I think you have described perfectly, exactly what it is that makes me keep returning to 'my' regular Lady. It's just that little extra something defined by 'clicking' and the social intercourse to go with the naughty stuff. That's my definition of a Great 'punt' !!

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I consider social skills to be very important when visiting an escort. I'd say that they also affect the non-verbal interaction that you have as well. Primarily there has to be physical attraction, but whether or not I return to a WG is greatly influenced by how we've "clicked" (or how she's made me feel like we've clicked ;) ).

If I feel that I actively like a girl, rather than just thinking that she's good-looking, then I find that makes her more phsically attractive to me anyway.

Out of curiosity, Sweexy, was there much of an age difference between you and the girl you visited? I've found this can make things a little awkward, conversation-wise.

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Out of curiosity, Sweexy, was there much of an age difference between you and the girl you visited? I've found this can make things a little awkward, conversation-wise.

We were actually the same age to the year. If her profile is accurate of course.

Now that you mention it, perhaps it was the opposite and she was concerned that me being the same age might make it more likely for us to bump into each other "in the real world"? May have assumed we would go to the same Uni, pubs, clubs or restaurants?

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The difference being that I enjoyed our time together even while we were talking, either straight after she arrived, or in-between getting fruity. In a strange way it makes me feel less like I am paying for it!

Spot on hcfc - i've been out for dinner & drinks several times now with a regular & whilst i understand that that is not for everyone, it has always been very easy to pass that time (too quickly unfortunately) because of how well we get on both socially & sexually. The flirting during that social time also adds greatly to the fun to follow ;)

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I think you have described perfectly, exactly what it is that makes me keep returning to 'my' regular Lady. It's just that little extra something defined by 'clicking' and the social intercourse to go with the naughty stuff. That's my definition of a Great 'punt' !!

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Social skills are definitely very important for a good wg. Shyness is OK perhaps at first, but "distance" and "coldness" are definitely not, at least not for a serious independent. Your lady sounds like an excellent prospect for a parlour quicky, but less so for an independent. Perhaps some perserverence will bring out her warmer side if she has one - that's a judgement a punter will need to make.

To answer the main question, which if I understand you correctly is "What's most important, physical or mental attractiveness?", it's a compex equation, character versus looks, and there are a million shades and personal preferences to consider. I'd go for attitude over physical attributes every time (unless the balance is ridiculous - charming but physically repulsive). But one man's idea of a great attitude (or body) isn't necessarily the next man's.

It's like buying tyres, what's important to you? Price, grip (wet, dry), longevity, noise? Just so many things to consider. Why is life so complicated? So full of imponderables? What's the perfect wg? Where are my socks?

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I love meeting girls who have good conversation skills and something interesting to say but I do find I struggle to multi-task, engaging brain into deep conversation mode seems to disengage it from sex mode and it can take a while to get back there.

I think the best is a brief get to know you chat, then move onto the action with just sexy talk and then at the end enjoy the afterglow and put the world to rights.

Saying that, I wouldn't mind a lady who looks and performs but doesn't say too much, as long as she let me know by knowing winks, smiles and glances and the odd comment that she was interested. I can think of a girl like this, Polish Nika at LMP, who is a bit shy and maybe self-conscious about her English, but just gets on with the action in her own subtly sexy way, she never fails to push me over the edge.

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It's like buying tyres, what's important to you? Price, grip (wet, dry), longevity, noise? Just so many things to consider. Why is life so complicated? So full of imponderables? What's the perfect wg? Where are my socks?

Jean you must have a serious car with some serious tyres :)

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Just had a good punt with a sexy petite redhead and she was incredibly hot physically but mentally she seemed either "shy" or just a bit distant. She was British so there was no language barrier, just seemed quite cold and it was me trying desperately to fill in the silences of the conversation. It was her first booking of the day so I was expecting her to be pretty sparky? In the sex department she certainly delivered so no complaints there...

  • Maybe I have just been spoiled by my visits to my regular who is both an excellent conversationalist and epically attractive?
  • Do WG's and fellow punters consider social skills important parts of the repertoire?
  • Would you return to a WG you "clicked" with mentally over someone else who was hotter physically?

Note: I said "Just had a good punt" I'm certainly not complaining, just making an observation of what takes a good punt into a GREAT punt!

Of course you cant know for definite that it was her first booking of the day, she might of had a bad booking before you for all you would know.

Fancying a WG is the initial lure but only one aspect of what i require, i also require a great attitude, being seemingly friendly and enthusiastic so being able to chat is important to me but not essential and offer the services i require.

What makes ALL my punts great is when we click and get on well, it can be with a WG who doesnt speak good English but does have a great attitude, its impossible to pre-determine this clicking factor till we meet, and when it happens if still available this is regular territory.

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Social skills are definitely very important for a good wg. Shyness is OK perhaps at first, but "distance" and "coldness" are definitely not, at least not for a serious independent. Your lady sounds like an excellent prospect for a parlour quicky, but less so for an independent. Perhaps some perserverence will bring out her warmer side if she has one - that's a judgement a punter will need to make.

To answer the main question, which if I understand you correctly is "What's most important, physical or mental attractiveness?", it's a compex equation, character versus looks, and there are a million shades and personal preferences to consider. I'd go for attitude over physical attributes every time (unless the balance is ridiculous - charming but physically repulsive). But one man's idea of a great attitude (or body) isn't necessarily the next man's.

It's like buying tyres, what's important to you? Price, grip (wet, dry), longevity, noise? Just so many things to consider. Why is life so complicated? So full of imponderables? What's the perfect wg? Where are my socks?

Excellent post Jean. Very funny and uncannily accurate

Who knows? But shyness (from either party) is fine but coldness...get out of here!

The socks are washed and with your shirts!

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as per title "good sex, but no conversation"

If the sex is really good, there is probably a good deal of intelligence, cunning if you like, in her head anyway.

I've had a few cases like that in and outside UK:

no good language-skill/connect, but really good sex.

Even on overnights.

It comes down to "attitude" and respect, (from both sides!)

If she refuses to connect, keeps a barrier, and just want to get the job done, then the meet will go miserable.

But if she is out to "perform", e.g. to make you have a good time,

(and she is able to "read" you to some extend, e.g. detect what you like and where your limits are)

then the meeting will go just great !

Had some Very good Meets with little conversation, to some, I would go back Straight away !

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A balance as ever is needed really.

This came to mind, even though it's the wrong way around.

Lucy :)

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Conversation is vital to me, and friendliness is an attribute I look for in a girls profile. I've had some great chats with the wgs I've seen, on a wide range of subjects, and have discovered that some have some really surprising interests outside of their work. The chat helps me to relax (I'm very nervous) and then I can enjoy myself.

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Been here exactly and anxious not to repeat. A girl who can't hold a conversation and engage my mind isn't sexy to me. She could be the most physically attractive woman in the world but it just won't work for me now. Had a punt this week with a great girl, not the best looking by any stretch, but sexy as hell because we actually got on really well. The fact that she had put on a few unflattering pounds (but so have I) was outweighed by her ability to engage my brain and I ended up shagging someone I really liked, rather than someone I merely fancied.

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...and I ended up shagging someone I really liked, rather than someone I merely fancied.

That's what I hope will happen when I'm trying to decide who to visit, it's absolutely the best outcome for me.

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Good social skills really make a punt. I had a threesome last year with Megan and Olivia from Leeds and they were really friendly and chatty - it was a mindblowing experience and really helped by their demeanour. Earlier this year I saw a girl in London who was a bit distant and it was really awkward. I didn't enjoy it one bit and made me consider giving up punting. I decided that I had to be a bit more careful in future and pay attention to good feedback.

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Clients are just going to complain!

If you have good conversation skills, someone will complain that they're having too much fun talking to you when they're meant to be shagging you. It's not like you can tell him off for only booking an hour.

If you don't say anything, a client will complain. Perhaps she's a good conversationalist who got told off.

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Spot on, Lara. Any comments on the conversational skills of the clients? All of the resonses so far blame the girls and don't take into account the punters' own inadequacies.

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Spot on, Lara. Any comments on the conversational skills of the clients? All of the resonses so far blame the girls and don't take into account the punters' own inadequacies.

The worst type of meeting for me is a man who for what ever personal reason he has, can not hold even the basic convo.

Lies there with a stiffy, so I presume he is happy enough, but not an utterance comes out of his mouth.

No talking at all, no little noises....nothing.

It is like performing sex with a plank of wood!

Never good.

I then go home without a smile on my face!

Lucy :)

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I met an English girl the other week who didn't talk too much - a bit of dirty talk at the start of the meet, functional chat during, no chat/cuddle between rounds (she initiated a second round almost straight away though), and then some polite small talk at the end. I actually found it quite refreshing as I can find small talk a bit of an effort.

I met another English girl a few weeks earlier on a half hour meet who started with a massage. As she was rubbing her tits all over me she continued a generic getting to know you conversation, and I found it almost off putting, it almost felt more distant than if she had been silent. Is there a polite way of telling a girl "I just want to enjoy your company, I'm not really one to talk right now?"

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Yes, it works both ways, However stunning a man is if he has nothing to say he becomes considerably less sexy. Some of my hottest times have been with men who have been fascinating, interesting and witty but very ordinary looking. Of course the mysterious chemistry thing plays a huge part in it too.

The toughest clients are the ones who book for an hour and ask for the GFE experience, which in my book does involve conversation and then when they arrive can't get two words out of them.

I have no problem with chaps who just want to come and get straight down to the action without any chit chat though. In fact that fast furious session can be incredibly erotic and I like the mix of chatty and non chatty clients, but the ones who struggle with conversation or are incredibly boring can be hard work.

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  • Do WG's and fellow punters consider social skills important parts of the repertoire?
  • Would you return to a WG you "clicked" with mentally over someone else who was hotter physically?

I would say Yes to both of the above. However it should be remembered that chemistry is never the same between different people so you cant assume that every punter or every wg will able to strike up convo easily etc some people are more outgoing than others, same goes for shyness etc

Some guys are happy to have a quick wham bham with minimal chat but I like convo and the GFE part of being with a wg so always make an effort to get things going with chat...unless the girl is really difficult to speak to or just wont respond!

in saying all the above Ive seen wg;s outside the UK who cant utter a word of english yet had a mindblowing experience with them...where there's a will, there's a way!

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Clients are just going to complain!

If you have good conversation skills, someone will complain that they're having too much fun talking to you when they're meant to be shagging you. It's not like you can tell him off for only booking an hour.

If you don't say anything, a client will complain. Perhaps she's a good conversationalist who got told off.

Nah, that's too much of a generalisation Lara. Some girls are great at chatting, some aren't. Some guys want a good natter on a booking and some don't.

Myself, it all depends on the mood. Some days I fancy a starightforward hour of sex with little in the way of small talk. Other days, I fancy getting to know the girl I am going to have sex with before we get down to it. For instance, yesterday I had a great 2 hour social time, 2 hour private time booking with a lovely young lady who was new to me and came away feeling on top of the world. Next time, despite her being a brilliant conversationalist, I might opt just for the private time. That's the brilliant thing about this game we play.

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