derrida

So I've Taken The Plunge

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Feeling nervous as hell, I recently booked an escort for the first time and am going to see her today. I'm a 24 year old virgin who is a little shy and I guess its been getting me down for ages. Like most people I would have preferred it to happen in a loving relationship with someone who really cares about me but I can't see that happening anytime soon. The one chance I had to be with a girl I got anxious as hell and went home because I felt that I didn't quite know what to do.

I'm not a a total social outcast but I guess my friends would say I am a little odd in a good way but when it comes to women that I like I tend to get really shy and feel embarrassed about being a virgin. The escort I've booked has really good reports which describe her giving a really good GF experience which is what I want I guess. Still looking forward to it though although slightly anxious.

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Hope it all goes well for you. Let us know how it goes

Good luck and good punting!

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Good luck derrida (or may I call you jacques ?), hope it goes okay. If you haven't gone already, I'd say three things. Firstly, don't set your expectations too high : just go with the flow and see what happens. Secondly, be prepared to be quite open about your feelings : these anxieties are often as much to do with expression and communication as anything else. And thirdly, don't be afraid of saying what it is that you want and when you want it : just be respectful when you're doing it. And talk ! In my experience one thing women do not like in these situations is guys who aren't prepared to make the effort to communicate. And your nerves are entirely natural, by the way.

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My advice would be not to go in with a big checklist of what you want to do, just keep it simple and spontaneous!

Good luck & have fun :D

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Well done, all the best. Let us know how it goes. Just think about how you will be losing your v and that should make you confident during the booking.

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Good luck , derrida , everyone on here is with you :):D

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All the best mate. I'm actually a tad envious of the wonderful road of discovery you have ahead of you. Oh to be a virgin again!

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Good luck , derrida , everyone on here is with you :):D

Yep, and the guy in the corner with the clip board taking notes is worldpunter!

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Derrida, just relax and go with the flow - good luck!

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Good luck to you Derrida

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Yep, and the guy in the corner with the clip board taking notes is worldpunter!

:D

Derrida, just relax and go with the flow - good luck!

haha

The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

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Feeling nervous as hell, I recently booked an escort for the first time and am going to see her today. I'm a 24 year old virgin who is a little shy and I guess its been getting me down for ages. Like most people I would have preferred it to happen in a loving relationship with someone who really cares about me but I can't see that happening anytime soon. The one chance I had to be with a girl I got anxious as hell and went home because I felt that I didn't quite know what to do. I'm not a a total social outcast but I guess my friends would say I am a little odd in a good way but when it comes to women that I like I tend to get really shy and feel embarrassed about being a virgin. The escort I've booked has really good reports which describe her giving a really good GF experience which is what I want I guess. Still looking forward to it though although slightly anxious.

I hope it goes or went well. :)

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

Don't bother about meaning. Just concentrate on fun.

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Don't bother about meaning. Just concentrate on fun.

Spot on Mr Bloom. :D

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

Well I guess now that you have an idea of what it's about, the expectations have shifted and a subsequent punt may be better?

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You've crossed the line, I think that's the key thing. I doubt most people's first time is anything that great. I didn't even cum on mine.

Edited by Vin DaLoo

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

Just relax and enjoy the experience Derrida - the first few times are a bit of a learning curve. We were all nervous once - and in fact still are after many years (see threads on this topic on this board). You'll soon get the hang of it. There's nothing wrong with booking a slightly longer session and having a chat / intimacy etc before you move onto full sex - escorts are fine with that. In fact many would prefer it. Don't be afraid to let her know what you are interested in at the outset. All the girls I have met have been great fun to talk to, be open with them and they will enjoy "showing you the ropes"! Have fun my friend......

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

Sounds a lot like my first attempt. The escort didn't help by mentioning that she'd just finished with a client before me, telling me not to touch her hair (!?) and then stopping me mid thrust to go for a wee (!?!?). I didn't happen for me either, and I could not cum. But it does get a lot easier and much much more enjoyable. I'd say try a few more times with different escorts before you decide.

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I'm a 24 year old virgin who is a little shy and I guess its been getting me down for ages. Like most people I would have preferred it to happen in a loving relationship with someone who really cares about me but I can't see that happening anytime soon. The one chance I had to be with a girl I got anxious as hell and went home because I felt that I didn't quite know what to do.

I'm not a a total social outcast but I guess my friends would say I am a little odd in a good way but when it comes to women that I like I tend to get really shy and feel embarrassed about being a virgin.

Christ you don't half sound a lot like I did at roughly your age.

It was people I worked with talking about sex all the time (almost entirely male company) that I found hardest. I didn't know what to say, or how to comment on stuff.

I was a late starter too. I was 23, when I first had sex - with a girl who was horny, but who I didn't really find attractive.

I had the same fears that I'd never find anyone, and they'd care about my lack of experience, etc.

What it took me many many years to discover is that you just do eventually find people. No matter how bad you think you might be with women, no matter how many times you think you've said something stupid, or not said the right thing, you'll still end up going-out-with/sleeping-with people.

And as for "can't see that happening anytime soon" - you'll be surprised where you end up meeting people. My last girlfriend came to look at a room for rent in the building I was living in. You just never know, when you'll end up attracted to someone who likes you too.

The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

Something that I found helpful about discovering escorts, is that it means you don't have to worry about sex so much. If you spend time with a girl you like, but it doesn't work out and you don't end up having sex..what does it matter? You can get sex whenever you want it, in the same manner you went about booking today.

When you see male friends (and you will, if you haven't already) jumping through a million hoops to please some total cow, in the hope they'll get to sleep with her.. you can feel a little bit smug that you don't need to do that, just to get sex.

That's what I found anyway.

Edited by asianfever

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Thanks for the comments guys, hopefully the nerves won't be as bad the next time. @asianfever; the constant talk about sex at work really didn't help although a few of them have booked escorts. But it was making me feel down, I felt I'd missed a rite of passage.

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I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

Fake intimacy can be acquired in exchange for the folding in Thailand, and boy are some of them good at that. Sometimes it must be for real. I'm not sure it's all down to them though. Maybe some of that reputation has more to do with factors such as the state of intoxication of their customers, myself included, and the unusual mental states you can end up in on holiday.

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

My first time was losing my virginity as well, I didn't come during sex in a half an hour booking I had to finish it off with my own hand in the end. You always hear about people coming within 5 minutes on their first time I wonder why I didn't and you took so long? I don't think it can be nerves because everybody is their first time? especially if it's with somebody you love you would feel more pressure to make it good.

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The escort was lovely and did all the right things but I just couldn't get in to it and took ages to cum. All felt a bit meaningless really but then I'm not sure what I was expecting. Nerves probably did get the better of me. I probably should have booked a longer time too, would have benefited from being able to talk more i think.

I ended up feeling bad for the escort as i probably came across like a frightened little boy as well as looking bored. I guess sex is sex and perhaps what I really want is the intimacy that comes from being with someone you really like/care about.

No surprise to me that this happened.

You just don't understand what paid sex is.

Few virgin first timers would fare better - if any.

It's no solution to your situation.

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I'm afraid my first punt ( many many years after losing my cherry though ) was quite the reverse. I'd picked a really lovely lady in a parlour and a bit of massage and some gentle hand action had me exploding in double quick time and I was too embarrassed to stay and see if a revival was on the cards :-(

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