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Would You Want To Know?

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Given the spate of recent threads discussing dating and falling in love with WGs, it seems to me that more and more often the boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable behaviour between client and escort are becoming blurred.

A couple of times I have felt real chemistry with a client, and wondered what would have happened had I met them under different circumstances. However, I always believed that old saying "it isn't the sex men pay for, but the walking away afterwards", so I said nothing to them about how I felt, because to me, it would seem very unprofessional to do so. Plus I figured if they were looking for a girlfriend they would be going on dates, rather than visiting escorts.

Occasionally though, I do find myself wondering what might have happened had I said something.

So, just out of curiosity, my question to the men on here is would you want to know if an escort 'fell' for you? Or would you consider it extremely unprofessional of her to say anything?

And to the ladies on here, I am sure you must have experienced something similar at least once or twice, so did you say anything or not? And if so, what were the repercussions?

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I would be surprised, but I wouldn't consider it a negative thing.

I'd always assumed that it would be more awkward for the client to say anything in a situation like this.

Did you ever drop any un/subtle hints?

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I would be surprised, but I wouldn't consider it a negative thing.

I'd always assumed that it would be more awkward for the client to say anything in a situation like this.

Did you ever drop any un/subtle hints?

God no. I would have been embarrassed to do so. I behaved with them exactly as I would with any other client.

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I told the Ex-Client that I thought he was probably my ideal man & he asked me out on a date.

I think it's ok for an escort to say that she likes a man - if they're both single. Getting a man into an affair is more complex, as he probably sees escorts to avoid an affair.

If a client starts feeling anything for me, he can keep his feelings to himself. I don't want to know.

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So, just out of curiosity, my question to the men on here is would you want to know if an escort 'fell' for you? Or would you consider it extremely unprofessional of her to say anything?

Weighing it up, I think I'd like to know. But then, personal circumstances would matter as well. In my case I'm single and haven't had a relationship for many years, so who knows, it could lead somewhere. If it's with a regular/returning client then there's already a sign that they probably feel comfortable with you and enjoy your company as well as the sex, so if you're also that comfortable with them, then being honest could be a good move. I think it would be a different case if the man is married for instance, as that could make things more awkward. At worst you end up feeling awkward, embarrassed and possibly lose a client, at best you could end up with a long term relationship, so you'd have to weigh up your feelings on the matter.

I think in this sort of situation the wg has to be the one to make the move. Having been on the receiving end of the service provided by escorts it can be very hard to distinguish it from the way that your lover acts in a relationship, so there's really no way of knowing if what you're seeing is just an act or something more real from the girl.

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A couple of times I have felt real chemistry with a client, and wondered what would have happened had I met them under different circumstances.

I think that of you meet someone quite often and spend long periods of time with them that you can quite easily develop some sort of "like" and "lust" feelings towards that person.

Call it chemistry or what ever.

And to the ladies on here, I am sure you must have experienced something similar at least once or twice, so did you say anything or not? And if so, what were the repercussions?

I have a couple of gentlemen who are sweet on me, and I am on them,

Maybe in another life things could turn in to another sort of relationship, but as I am very happily married and I hope they are too, things will stay the way they are.

I honestly feel I could not do this if I was not happily married, as I could quite easily fall in love with the special ones.

I will keep the boundaries in place that I have set myself.

In answer to the question asked about would I tell a bloke I was sweet on him and looking for more than client/escort relationship, for me personally I would not due the reasons above.

As most of the blokes are married anyway, I do not think they would be overly comfortable hearing such stuff anyway.

I should imagine a guy would be flattered though.....

Lucy :)

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Great thread OP, and plenty of interesting replies !

:)

Makes surprising reading that already a number of wgs have stated how easily they could fall for certain clients (if they allowed themselves to) and/or have developed feelings for one or two, or even considered the 'what ifs'.

A very refreshing change from reading the usual and so often drummed into us on here, by both wgs and a few punters alike, 'wgs are paid to create the illusion that they really like you and are turned on by you, youd better not mistake it for the real thing......etc' (of course this is normally the case and the 'genuine feelings' are clearly the exception rather than the rule)

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Speaking as someone who has yet to find a lady I visit regularly along with being single (and not having ever been in a relationship previously), I suppose I would want to know if I was regularly seeing her though to be honest I am pretty rubbish at deciphering subtle / nonverbal hints to the point that it would very likely go over my head short of her explicitly saying that she has indeed fallen for me (and even then would probably have some difficultly believing her).

Having said that, I would consider it unprofessional if I (or her) was in a relationship / marriage beforehand or if the lady in question was someone I have not seen often enough for her to justify her feelings for me, since I would probably find myself questioning her motivations upon her revealing her feelings towards me.

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Given the spate of recent threads discussing dating and falling in love with WGs, it seems to me that more and more often the boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable behaviour between client and escort are becoming blurred. A couple of times I have felt real chemistry with a client, and wondered what would have happened had I met them under different circumstances. However, I always believed that old saying "it isn't the sex men pay for, but the walking away afterwards", so I said nothing to them about how I felt, because to me, it would seem very unprofessional to do so. Plus I figured if they were looking for a girlfriend they would be going on dates, rather than visiting escorts. Occasionally though, I do find myself wondering what might have happened had I said something. So, just out of curiosity, my question to the men on here is would you want to know if an escort 'fell' for you? Or would you consider it extremely unprofessional of her to say anything? And to the ladies on here, I am sure you must have experienced something similar at least once or twice, so did you say anything or not? And if so, what were the repercussions?

It comes down to how good and realistic services like the GFE are nowadays in my view. So good that some are convinced there must be more to it than just a punt.

I would like to know and this scenario has happened agreeing not to take it any further mutually for various reasons. Punt, have fun and leave with no strings is ideal for me but with excellent WGs things can develop unexpectedly out of the blue in my experience. Unless your a robot or an emotional vacuum its natural to feel fondness or more towards those WGs who you like a lot. :)

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yes I think I'd like to know because if I decided to continue to see the lady the experience would be so much more intimate and natural

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Yes, I'd want to know. If she did say it though then I'd think that she was winding me up. I might start to believe her if she gave me my money back and bought me an expensive present. That would be nice.

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At one time I'd have said Yes but therein lies a heap of potential trouble and now it's a definite emphatic No!!!

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I think it's ok for an escort to say that she likes a man - if they're both single. Getting a man into an affair is more complex, as he probably sees escorts to avoid an affair.

If a client starts feeling anything for me, he can keep his feelings to himself. I don't want to know.

Can't say much fairer than this.

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I might start to believe her if she gave me my money back and bought me an expensive present. That would be nice.

I was very close to saying to one chap recently not to bother going back to leave the money in my mail box at the apartment.

We had both rushed out of my place as we had run way over time and I needed to get off, and he had not popped it in the place he knows where to put it in my apartment

He sent me a text 10 minutes later, and I was so close to telling him not to bother, but I did not.

The thing is once we stop taking the money the relationship has changed.

I for one would then be having an affair, and we all know the dangers of those don't we?!

It is our job in one way to make all guys feel special for the time booked for.

It is not just to make a guy return time and time again so we can take their hard/easy earned dosh off them.

We all get very intimate with each other, and if you see one another a lot, the feelings can slightly turn to a bit more.....

I strongly feel that as long as each person can keep a check on such feelings all can still be well for the paid relationship to work.

I have one guy who tells me he loves me and makes me want to tell me that I love him.

I do not love him though, so I will not.

He meets us as a couple too at times, we all socialise together.

He has told my husband that he loves me also.

This man is no fool and not a deluded punter at all.

He has a second wife who he dearly loves too and has sex with, but his life is quite conservative in all areas of it, work and home.

I am just the sparky person that he has fallen for and unlike anyone he has ever met before.

I know of escorts in my area who have had relationships with their clients, when they stopped taking the money.

Some have ended up getting hurt, some have ended up getting married!

Lucy :)

Edited by Lucy7

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And to the ladies on here, I am sure you must have experienced something similar at least once or twice, so did you say anything or not? And if so, what were the repercussions?

I don't have a problem with my visitors having feelings for me, as long as they are able to deal with those feelings.

If I do sense a gentleman is falling for me, I will approach the subject to ensure he knows where we both stand. If after the 'talk' I feel the gentleman wont be able to handle it, I will take the appropriate steps. Some men will accept the situation and will keep a check on those feelings and just enjoy the moment. I did have one gent who could'nt accept it. Took several years before he finally gave up.

If I have feelings for a gentleman, I won't tell him. This is because I don't have the time to invest in a relationship, nor do I want to be in a relationship of any sort while I'm escorting [despite being a very part time escort]

Sometimes, nothing needs to be said where feelings are concerned. You can just tell how a person feels about you. I'm sure they can tell how I feel about them too, but we just put up and shut up...

I am single because I'm an escort, and an escort because I'm single.

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This is a very difficult question to answer. I have had several WGS say "I love you" but of course they say that to everyone. But one was serious and...

I found it flattering.

I also found it scary.

The thing is I liked her but did not love her and did not want to take that step, so I didn't visit her again.

On the other hand several girls have asked me out on a friendly drink (and were friendly) and I think this is the best way to go. Take is slow.

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This is a very difficult question to answer. I have had several WGS say "I love you" but of course they say that to everyone. But one was serious and...

I found it flattering.

I also found it scary.

The thing is I liked her but did not love her and did not want to take that step, so I didn't visit her again.

On the other hand several girls have asked me out on a friendly drink (and were friendly) and I think this is the best way to go. Take is slow.

Theres a lot of things said during the punt, in the heat of passion, but its all harmless fun. Its all lines and likely said to everyone whose walked in...

Personally, I would like to know if there is feelings. Cos Im single, why not? Still just a guy and girl at the end of the day. might work, might not. Obviously as a punter, we have to keep our emotions in check all the time and not start thinking that a line or something said was real. Its not real. Its all said to the other clients. but dont let it put you off as its all part of the experience.

But if she asked if Id like to go for a coffee or unpaid visit just to meet up and no sex, etc. then Id probably take that as a hint. Obviously would never ask myself as Im the punter and its overstepping the mark and would get awkward if I mistook fake for real. So the ball is always in her court.

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I cannot see the harm in expressing true feelings....we all meet people we like (a lot) in various situations and locations...the key here is with the individual and whether they feel strongly enough to pursue it....it's something only the 2 people involved at the time can gauge but goodluck to those who go for it, afterall luck favours the brave...

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Occasionally though, I do find myself wondering what might have happened had I said something.

Many of us will be different but for my part I would be, in order of occurrence, a) totally amazed, B) thrilled in the extreme and c) worried that I wouldn't be able to run away quite as quickly as I would want to.

I would hold onto to the flattering memory, but would not go back since that is not why I was there.

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But if she asked if Id like to go for a coffee or unpaid visit just to meet up and no sex, etc. then Id probably take that as a hint. Obviously would never ask myself as Im the punter and its overstepping the mark and would get awkward if I mistook fake for real. So the ball is always in her court.

The fantasy gets in the way of reality, so much so that both the punter and the WG don't know what's real and what isn't. That's a very difficult barrier to break through.

Best thing to do is if you meet a WG who you're getting along very well with say jokingly "Hey, maybe next time we can go and have a drink together?" She might not say yes there and then (and she probably won't) but it gets the idea through. I once said this to a WG and she said no, but two punts later she said "...about that drink you mentioned?" although it will just be as friends.

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I have had several WGS say "I love you" but of course they say that to everyone.

I find this such a strange comment to make.

Why on earth would a lady who takes money for you sex say that to anyone let alone everyone?

Please educate me on this.

There must be some reason you think this way.

You must be very special for several ladies to say it to you.

Lucy :)

Edited by Lucy7

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There are (regular) clients I am more fond of than others, guys I have met who I have thought would be just my type in 'real life', but there is a still a line that shouldn't be crossed in my view. I already have a long term partner (albeit an open relationship so am therefore free to see other men if I wish) and being a WG adds to making it complicated to get involved in relationships. Most men can't deal with me in the long run a) being a WG and b ) already being in love with someone else so I don't let it happen. If a man wants to take me out he can pay for my time!

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Some take the words far to seriously, others do not.....

Within context it is fine....I love you can mean different things to different people...

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..I love you can mean different things to different people...

To my ex hubby it meant sod all...............well maybe it meant cook my food, do my washing and ironing, look after our kids, and go earn all your own money to provide for them and let me spend all mine on myself! :D

I digress......

Lucy :)

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