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On friday I had a punt lined up in the Chelsea area of London but I carried out my first cancelation. Now the reason for my cancelation seems a bit petty and I have a guilty conscience, I feel as if I let the girl down.

I found the girl on the other site, an english girl and only the third english girl I would have seen, she had lots of positive feedback. I phoned and arranged a meeting for friday lunchtime.

Friday, feeling good and perky, looking forward to the meeting. Getting ready to leave the house to catch my train up to London, I send a text confirming the meeting. Just arrive at the station when I get a text back from the girl, aaaargh, turn around and walk back home.

Why did I feel angry, deflated, fedup and just not fancying the punt at all, she called me BABE, something petty I know, which seems a small reason to cancel.

I ABSOLUTELY hate being called babe, another girl called me babe halfway through a punt and it went downhill so fast after that I could feel the G force. When I saw that word it was a spur of the moment thing, I didnt think, I just turned around and walked.

My excuse, I waited half an hour, called her and said my train had been canceled and there were other delays because of signal problems from the day before. Thursday was chaos out of Waterloo and Victoria, a lightning strike during a thunderstorm.

Anyway, as I said, it all seems a bit of a petty excuse now. The girl had lots of positive feedback on the other site, Ive since checked on here and she has 2 FR's, they aren't negative, just average and nowhere nearly as good as the other feedback.

Anyone else with a reason or excuse for canceling, petty or otherwise ? Im just waiting for the ladies to have a go at me :(.

Early last year, I raised a topic about things that turn you off, the reason being I had just been called babe. Ive done a search using babe as the keyword and cant find my post. Ive allso gone on to my profile and searched through my past posts and cant find it. There are 3 pages of posts which only go up to the middle of last year. So to those people who have a go at newbies, even when you do a search and you know what you are looking for, it isn't allways easy to find it.

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Well.....

I also detest being called "babe" and other such things like "hun" and "hunni", if I get messages off blokes who use these words I do not take things further with them as I would loathe to be called them to my face.

So you are not alone in thinking like that.

You say you had a meet that went down hill when the lady called you babe, so you obviously know the way you are, so I actually understand why you felt you needed to cancel.

It was a late cancellation, so not nice for the lady, but if you felt it was right for you not to go ahead, well fair enough.

Personally I would of told her why you did not wish to go ahead.

Honesty and all that.....

I am sure she will of thought you were a nutter, but at least it would of been the truth.

Lucy :)

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Sorry it is a petty reason to cancel the booking. She quite likely turned down other clients therefore lost out because of a word. If she had sworn repeatedly or said something truly awful then fair enough. You could quite easily have just said that you dont like that word or oooo please dont call me that and she would quite likely have been apologetic and not used it again...or cancelled your booking because she thought you quite likely a nitpicker.

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On friday I had a punt lined up in the Chelsea area of London but I carried out my first cancelation. Now the reason for my cancelation seems a bit petty and I have a guilty conscience, I feel as if I let the girl down.

At the end of the day, it's your money and you get to choose what (and what not) to do with it. If you were in a state of mind where going ahead with the punt would have been unenjoyable, then cancelling was probably right for you. Tough on the WG though.

Speaking as another person who detests terms such as babe and hun, I find it surprising your reaction to the words is so strong that you have to cancel. The words are endemic to the industry I find, especially with some younger girls. Basically I have taught myself to blank them out.

Clearly you have no intention of seeing the lady in the future, so I am interested in your reasons for making up a cock and bull story for cancelling rather than telling her the truth, bizarre though it is.

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Terms I detest are Babe/Babes, Hun, and Mate.

While the first two would not have the same effect on me as it did on the OP, the word mate would certainly get the same reaction from me!

When I see these words on the internet, I hear them in a screechy voice and pronounced as... bibe [babe] and mite [mate]

*shudders*

Not sure telling her the truth would have been a good idea in this case though. Telling her he'd missed his train somehow seems kinder...

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Well If you dont feel its right and got you pretty aired up about then it was probably better to cancel as you were no longer in the frame of mind to enjoy yourself. Never start a punt on a low and you already dislikling the girl...

I dont detest the girl using the word of Babe, hun, hunni. Its most likely cos she cant remember your name. (Im usless at remembering people names) so a babe, hun or hunni from a girl would work better than sir. Or her to try and guess your name and get it wrong "see you soon, john"... err its steve.. is there a mix up? Panic!..

I dont use babe, I sometimes use hun but only when Ive seen her a couple of times. Or hunni bunni or Love cup.. :D

Clearly you have no intention of seeing the lady in the future, so I am interested in your reasons for making up a cock and bull story for cancelling rather than telling her the truth, bizarre though it is.

Its easier than trying to get her angry or get a load of abusive texts back...

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Or you could have just said, please don't call me babe- I don't like that term.....

Cancelling is a rather overblown and thoughtless reaction - if it happened to you, would you rather no be given the opportunity to apologise and rectify a situation?

I hate being called babe too but if I dismissed every person who ever text it to me, I'd have missed out on some lovely people. I'll make a joke out of it and say please don't call me babe - I'm not a talking pig! Lol x

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Or you could have just said, please don't call me babe- I don't like that term.....

That would have set a tone and ruined the punt anyway. There is no way of rectifying something like this. The damage had already been done. There was no going back.

I hate being called babe too but if I dismissed every person who ever text it to me, I'd have missed out on some lovely people. I'll make a joke out of it and say please don't call me babe - I'm not a talking pig! Lol x

It's different for us though. We are being paid. We may well be able to overlook certain bugbears.

The OP however, is spending his hard earned cash. If something like 'babe' is a huge turn off for him, he has every right to walk away.

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On friday I had a punt lined up in the Chelsea area of London but I carried out my first cancelation. Now the reason for my cancelation seems a bit petty and I have a guilty conscience, I feel as if I let the girl down. I found the girl on the other site, an english girl and only the third english girl I would have seen, she had lots of positive feedback. I phoned and arranged a meeting for friday lunchtime. Friday, feeling good and perky, looking forward to the meeting. Getting ready to leave the house to catch my train up to London, I send a text confirming the meeting. Just arrive at the station when I get a text back from the girl, aaaargh, turn around and walk back home. Why did I feel angry, deflated, fedup and just not fancying the punt at all, she called me BABE, something petty I know, which seems a small reason to cancel. I ABSOLUTELY hate being called babe, another girl called me babe halfway through a punt and it went downhill so fast after that I could feel the G force. When I saw that word it was a spur of the moment thing, I didnt think, I just turned around and walked. My excuse, I waited half an hour, called her and said my train had been canceled and there were other delays because of signal problems from the day before. Thursday was chaos out of Waterloo and Victoria, a lightning strike during a thunderstorm. Anyway, as I said, it all seems a bit of a petty excuse now. The girl had lots of positive feedback on the other site, Ive since checked on here and she has 2 FR's, they aren't negative, just average and nowhere nearly as good as the other feedback. Anyone else with a reason or excuse for canceling, petty or otherwise ? Im just waiting for the ladies to have a go at me :(. Early last year, I raised a topic about things that turn you off, the reason being I had just been called babe. Ive done a search using babe as the keyword and cant find my post. Ive allso gone on to my profile and searched through my past posts and cant find it. There are 3 pages of posts which only go up to the middle of last year. So to those people who have a go at newbies, even when you do a search and you know what you are looking for, it isn't allways easy to find it.

Once i have selected the WG such a trivial to me thing wouldnt put me off, i really couldnt care less if i am called babe, hun, even dear on ocassion, it might just be how the WG speaks and she offers a good service, i would wish to find out.

I never cancel a punt as my modus is usually same day punting, i wake up fancy a punt and book, so i am primed and ready on that particular day, the next day i might not feel like it. If a punt goes tits up its ALWAYS the WG cancelling or lying to me that causes it and i then go to my plan B option. Fortunately thats a rare occurence.

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realted to this, im gonna start a thread of what we call each other when booking and during a punt.

cos babe and hun and hunni are horrid for me too. too american too :(

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That would have set a tone and ruined the punt anyway. There is no way of rectifying something like this. The damage had already been done. There was no going back. It's different for us though. We are being paid. We may well be able to overlook certain bugbears. The OP however, is spending his hard earned cash. If something like 'babe' is a huge turn off for him, he has every right to walk away.

Of course the OP can walk away if he so wishes, the point for me is that WG might of turned another punter down to see him so its cost her money one way or another all for calling him babe. Seems such a trivial thing to cancel a punt for in my opinion, but his money, his choice ultimately of course.

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see

re names to call each other...

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Of course the OP can walk away if he so wishes, the point for me is that WG might of turned another punter down to see him so its cost her money one way or another all for calling him babe. Seems such a trivial thing to cancel a punt for in my opinion, but his money, his choice ultimately of course.

Cancellations have to be taken in our stride when it comes to escorting. Very frustrating, but it has to be accepted as part of the job.

It's important to have a back up plan i.e. if someone calls, she can say "I'm expecting someone at __ o'clock, but should he not turn up, you are quite welcome to call me at that time to see if I'm still free"

While it sounds trivial to you, for him it was the tipping point. We all have our bugbears. Some are tolerable. Others not so.

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While it sounds trivial to you, for him it was the tipping point. We all have our bugbears. Some are tolerable. Others not so.

I totally agree with you.

A man has do to what he feels right for him.

I inwardly cringe when called such names and ask for the person not to use them (very politely of course), but often they are used to saying them so much they can't help themselves.

Of course it is not good for the lady to have a late cancellation, but as already said it happens in this world.

Lucy :)

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I don't like babe and I hate hun even more. But that's just trade talk and why take it personally. Yes - a petty reason for cancelling.

I had a wank before a punt once and cancelled as I no longer felt like it - surprise surprise - I did feel bad about that - so now I don't wank before a punt - problem solved.

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Terms I detest are Babe/Babes, Hun, and Mate.

While the first two would not have the same effect on me as it did on the OP, the word mate would certainly get the same reaction from me!

When I see these words on the internet, I hear them in a screechy voice and pronounced as... bibe [babe] and mite [mate]

*shudders*

I completely understand this with respect to terms such as "Babes" and "Hun" and so never use them.

However, It has never actually occurred to me until now that people might feel similar to the term "mate" because it's just such a natural part of the way I speak and doesn't in my mind have any negative connotations attached to it (whereas 'Babes' might).

Is there a common dislike of the term 'mate' by escorts? If so, I would very much like to understand the reason please (and no I don't think of the lady as a friend but during a little light hearted banter it's just a word I use to show I'm comfortable). I will have to make a conscious effort to stop myself using it in the future otherwise. :(

Edited by ynothgnis

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I completely understand this with respect to terms such as "Babes" and "Hun" and so never use them.

However, It has never actually occurred to me until now that people might feel similar to the term "mate" because it's just such a natural part of the way I speak and doesn't in my mind have any negative connotations attached to it (whereas 'Babes' might).

Is there a common dislike of the term 'mate' by escorts? If so, I would very much like to understand the reason please (and no I don't think of the lady as a friend but during a little light hearted banter it's just a word I use to show I'm comfortable). I will have to make a conscious effort to stop myself using it in the future otherwise. :(

Oh no! I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to offend you.

I personally don't feel there are any negative connotations attacthed to babes and hun. They are just words I dislike on a whole, just like the word 'mate' which I hear it as 'mite' in my head.

I feel it's a term that would be better suited when used between gentlemen to address one another.

Being a Northern lass, I'd never been referred to as 'mite' until I moved to London and was particularly surprised that women use it to address each other.

I doubt the word 'mate' is disliked by wg's in general though, so don't fret x

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I doubt the word 'mate' is disliked by wg's in general though, so don't fret x

Phew! And no offence was taken so don't worry about that. :)

Thank you kindly for the clarification, I was beginning to think I had been offending people without realising it!

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It would not matter to me if any of the above words were used and I would certainly not cancel an appoitment due to the same...

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Phew! And no offence was taken so don't worry about that. :)

Thank you kindly for the clarification, I was beginning to think I had been offending people without realising it!

lol Tony.

I don't find it offensive per se. It's just a bit of a turn off for me if I'm addressed as 'mate' by a gentleman [which has only happened once and that was over the phone]

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Have to admit your excuse for cancelling was lame. Its a bit like a child at primary school crying wolf over being teased in the playground.

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I don't like babe and I hate hun even more. But that's just trade talk and why take it personally. Yes - a petty reason for cancelling.

I had a wank before a punt once and cancelled as I no longer felt like it - surprise surprise - I did feel bad about that - so now I don't wank before a punt - problem solved.

Readopting that approach might save you a lot of money for your upcoming bout of dog ownership though Lancelot ;) .

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.... And people wonder why I refuse to take subsequent bookings from people who cancel. I'm very part-time, I don't work from home & cancellations mean I incur out-of-pocket losses.

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Its a pain when people cancel but surely the majority of the time it is unaviodable....or do I stand to be corrected LOL

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I don't like being called babe or hunni and words of those ilk too, but it's a minor irritant I put up with as part of the job- hell there are worse things to deal with by far. As far as clients go, I don't call them that either, but I would hate for a man to cancel because of something I had innocently said and in the OPs case I wished he had asked her not to call him babe and gone ahead with the booking. Nothing more annoying than timewasters like this! Although I do respect that a man has the right to spend his hard earned cash how he wants, it does seem a petty reason to change his mind.

Oh, I hate 'mate' too, I consider this what a man calls another man and it makes me want to say 'Do I look like a bloke?!'

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