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Hi all. So, for the last 48hrs I've been in hell and utterly depressed - please bear with me! I had a 2hr outcall to my place, kind of last minute just for some fun on Friday night. I cleaned the house, bought her flowers and drinks, lit some candles, and had some music on. Nice and relaxing for both of us hopefully. I picked her up from the station - a lovely young blonde polish girl (i'm fairly young too) who spoke perfect english. As soon as I got a good look at her back at my place, I knew I was in trouble. I'm sure most guys out there have their idea of a perfect girfriend, well imagine her standing in your lounge with a lovely smile on her face and then you go up stairs...

From then on it just got worse/better. We connected physically and mentally, she's totally my type, she looked interested when I said my brother had been seeing a Slovakian girl for 2 years, and she seemed to reciprocate these things- even saying things before I did. Sizzling was not the word, she was spectacular and I feel haunted. TBH it's almost not a nice feeling. Especially as I'll be able to see from reviews that she may have seen other men, although she said it's more of short-term financial thing as she hopes to start another job soon. I digress. My problem is, while the sex was amazing, it was the conversation, laughter and touchy feely stuff that really got to me. It felt exactly like the first or second time with a good girlfriend. I've had plenty of girlfriends and seen more than one escort of varying types to know that I shouldn't be feeling this. She even text me after the meeting to say she'd forgotten her flowers and to thank me for an amazing time. :unsure:

So, I'm not going to arrange a similar meeting as I think I'd fall to pieces, but what I want to do more than anything is just talk to her face to face? Does this make sense? Even if it's to say 'I'm sorry, I'd love to be a regular but I'm in grave danger of falling head over heels for you'. It's a crazy situation, and if I could go back and wipe my memory and never have met her I feel I would. I'm even prepared to pay to see her just so we can go for lunch or something. At least then I could just focus on the conversation and see if the feeling was mutual, or if I'm being a complete idiot and need a slap. I'd been thinking about quitting the scene after a very short innings anyway, but to be honest, I never, ever want to feel like this again, so that decision may have been made for me this weekend! :eek:

Any advice much appreciated!

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I can relate to that. It was a similar situation with the Ex-Client I dated.

You made a 2-hour booking, but how long did she stay? Does she work for an agency, or is she an indie? An indie on an evening outcall can stay as long as she likes, if she only stayed 2-hours, she's probably just good at her job.

There are clients I enjoy talking to & have a great rapport with, but I am in no danger of falling for them. Often it's their age, the fact that they're married etc.

I would generally advise you to allow her to make the first move. Seeing her on a paid social basis is messy, if you're falling for her.

As you appear to have strong feelings for her, invite her on a date. Do not try to get her into your bed until at least the third date. You have to be clear that you want her, not just her body.

Finally, can you handle her job?

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I can relate to that. It was a similar situation with the Ex-Client I dated.

You made a 2-hour booking, but how long did she stay? Does she work for an agency, or is she an indie? An indie on an evening outcall can stay as long as she likes, if she only stayed 2-hours, she's probably just good at her job.

There are clients I enjoy talking to & have a great rapport with, but I am in no danger of falling for them. Often it's their age, the fact that they're married etc.

I would generally advise you to allow her to make the first move. Seeing her on a paid social basis is messy, if you're falling for her.

As you appear to have strong feelings for her, invite her on a date. Do not try to get her into your bed until at least the third date. You have to be clear that you want her, not just her body.

Finally, can you handle her job?

I can tell you know from the tone of the OP, that were he to date this girl for any length of time, her 'job' would drive him crackers !! Lets see if I'm right ? :D

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I had exactly the same feeling with a girl I wrote about on an earlier thread. I will say who she is now - foxyella of cambridge - fabulous girl.

I also thought she liked me and we clicked had an amazing laugh etc.

Then I saw a ton of feedback coming her way and I straightened out my thoughts.

You've got to avoid the delusions with this hobby. It may happen once in a blue moon that wg and punter form a relationship but I would not bank on it.

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A "last minute" outcall who let you drive her to your house from the station on a first meeting?

Wow. Brave girl.

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Talk to her straight if you need to say something.But be prepared for it to be the last time you see her.

Get it off your chest,and live with what happens. :)

Take it easy. :)

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Talk to her straight if you need to say something.But be prepared for it to be the last time you see her.

Get it off your chest,and live with what happens. :)

Take it easy. :)

I was going to post almost exactly what Ringo just did

You should call her and tell her exactly how you feel. You only live once and who knows, she may have genuinely felt something too

But dont be too surprised if you get the 'its just my job' line

She may be able to generate the same kinds of rapport, intimacy and passionate sex with plenty of other punters, which simply makes her rather excellent at what she does

It could lead to a wake up call that you need or it could lead to something far more interesting if what youre feeling was in any way truly reciprocated by her

You'll only truly know once you speak to her openly and candidly about this

Good luck, but im far more inclined to expect that this will lead to some disappointment on your part, but either way you need to go for it

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"she may have seen other men" . Fucking brilliant. I can't improve on that. That will keep me going all day.

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See other escorts for a few months, and then see if you still feel the same way.

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See other escorts for a few months, and then see if you still feel the same way.

Eh?

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I'm even prepared to pay to see her just so we can go for lunch or something. At least then I could just focus on the conversation and see if the feeling was mutual,

That's just nuts!!! :eek: You still would have no idea if she was just being nice because she is getting paid!! Ask her for a social meet without her getting paid, see what she says. It's the only way you'll know ;)

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Eh?

I was saying that the guy should see other escorts, and then see if the one he is on about is all that special.

They all provide something special in certain ways, one of the points in being a punter, is not to take what is said seriously, or get too involved.

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I had exactly the same feeling with a girl I wrote about on an earlier thread. I will say who she is now - foxyella of cambridge - fabulous girl.

I also thought she liked me and we clicked had an amazing laugh etc.

Then I saw a ton of feedback coming her way and I straightened out my thoughts.

You've got to avoid the delusions with this hobby. It may happen once in a blue moon that wg and punter form a relationship but I would not bank on it.

this, with bells on.

OP- it may be healthy to imagine that, as good as this girl sounds, you're probably far from being the only one to emerge from meetings with her with feelings of this type.

this forum was very useful to me when starting out in this hobby. at first when i read threads and posts similar to the OP's, I felt faintly embarrassed on the posters' behalves, like 'how could they be so delusional falling for a WG assuming their feelings were reciprocated, etc'.

the first time i met with a WG who inspired similar feelings in me, then I understood much better how posters could come from the OP's perspective. however as i had already seen people making such 'mistakes', it was easier for me to think to myself 'hang on, do you really think you're the only one who meets this girl and thinks there's some kind of special connection between you', and, in lancelot's words, avoid what is obviously a common delusion. i think i was fortunate to have that perspective from other people's posts on here, and it stood me in good stead. reading the feedback of others is an excellent corrective to these kind of delusions, again i agree with lancelot.

i have to say though what a shame it is that what was obviously a good meet has inspired such 'hell' and 'depression' and 'if i see her again i'll fall to pieces'. at the risk of sounding harsh, those words sound a little overblown to me, I mean, 'hell'? jesus, man, you just met with and had sex with a gorgeous woman, and you're using the kind of phrases I'd normally associate with kidnapping ordeals or bereavement or the infamous conditions on the French penal colony Devil's Island or being trapped in a lift with James Corden for 24 hours. any 'hell' is simply what you are giving yourself, here, it seems to me, simply by virtue of the fact that if you can turn a brilliant 2 hour punt into a reason for being depressed, man, you don't exactly sound like the 'glass half full' type...... i mean, do you tell any of your mates about your punting? i can only imagine my mates' response, 'I had 2 hours of passion with a beauty, god I'm in hell now', 'oh yeah, i really feel for you man, that must be tough, we're with you man....'

forgive me if I'm being too blunt but is there just a chance you have got this just a little bit out of perspective?

or lets just say you've got it in totally the right perspective, you just met the potential love of your life but she's a prostitute. the endgame seems to me to be either (1) you sack up and try to pull her, or (2) forget about it and move on.

if (1) either she says 'yes', great, in which case either (a) she gives up working as a prostitute great, or (B) she doesn't give up working, in which case I will bet anyone at evens your emotions will be even more depressed and hellish than currently, there are loads of threads on here about 'how do you deal with your GF being a WG' for your reference. as a test, try and imagine her having sex with someone else. if you can't, you probably need not to be going out with a current WG. whether you can reconcile yourself to the other men she has doubtless already seen professionally, is another question. 'she may have seen other men' doesn't suggest to me someone who wants to come to terms with the idea of her doing so. you're probably better going from the assumption that she has, I'd say.

or she says no, ah well you gave it a shot and you won't have any what if bullshit regret, at least.

if (2) you'll probably end up doing your own head in along the lines of 'what if' and 'why didn't I?' and 'did i lose the love of my life?' and the kind of language in your OP, so i think all in all why not just sack up and try to seduce her? although fuck, you're miserable enough about having just had sex with her, who knows what kind of miseries a fullblown relationship might inspire. (joke)

failing that, spklors is right-on. see other girls. lots of them. sorry if the above sounds harsh just trying to break it down how it seems to me, me the veteran of oooh maybe 30 punts now and the wealth of experience i can bring to bear (joke).

oh, and partylover's right too:

I'm even prepared to pay to see her just so we can go for lunch or something. At least then I could just focus on the conversation and see if the feeling was mutual,

you'd be paying her for her time, still, hardly the perfect crucible in which to test the genuineness of her feelings.

anyway good luck and take it easy

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Hi all. So, for the last 48hrs I've been in hell and utterly depressed - please bear with me! I had a 2hr outcall to my place, kind of last minute just for some fun on Friday night. I cleaned the house, bought her flowers and drinks, lit some candles, and had some music on. Nice and relaxing for both of us hopefully. I picked her up from the station - a lovely young blonde polish girl (i'm fairly young too) who spoke perfect english. As soon as I got a good look at her back at my place, I knew I was in trouble. I'm sure most guys out there have their idea of a perfect girfriend, well imagine her standing in your lounge with a lovely smile on her face and then you go up stairs...

From then on it just got worse/better. We connected physically and mentally, she's totally my type, she looked interested when I said my brother had been seeing a Slovakian girl for 2 years, and she seemed to reciprocate these things- even saying things before I did. Sizzling was not the word, she was spectacular and I feel haunted. TBH it's almost not a nice feeling. Especially as I'll be able to see from reviews that she may have seen other men, although she said it's more of short-term financial thing as she hopes to start another job soon. I digress. My problem is, while the sex was amazing, it was the conversation, laughter and touchy feely stuff that really got to me. It felt exactly like the first or second time with a good girlfriend. I've had plenty of girlfriends and seen more than one escort of varying types to know that I shouldn't be feeling this. She even text me after the meeting to say she'd forgotten her flowers and to thank me for an amazing time. :unsure:

So, I'm not going to arrange a similar meeting as I think I'd fall to pieces, but what I want to do more than anything is just talk to her face to face? Does this make sense? Even if it's to say 'I'm sorry, I'd love to be a regular but I'm in grave danger of falling head over heels for you'. It's a crazy situation, and if I could go back and wipe my memory and never have met her I feel I would. I'm even prepared to pay to see her just so we can go for lunch or something. At least then I could just focus on the conversation and see if the feeling was mutual, or if I'm being a complete idiot and need a slap. I'd been thinking about quitting the scene after a very short innings anyway, but to be honest, I never, ever want to feel like this again, so that decision may have been made for me this weekend! :eek:

Any advice much appreciated!

It all sounds like you have the wrong idea about punting, its not dating, its paying WGs money in exchange for sex and its wise in my view to always remember that. If i click with such WGs i punt with them as much as possible till i get bored which will always happen eventually.

Ask her out off the clock if you are that interested in her making it clear your asking her out, as you are considering not seeing her again anyway if she says no it wont effect your punting with her. Good luck. :)

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That's just nuts!!! :eek: You still would have no idea if she was just being nice because she is getting paid!! Ask her for a social meet without her getting paid, see what she says. It's the only way you'll know ;)

Spot on. ;)

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ha, oh the irony. i was going to say to the OP have a look at smiths posts, he has what i would call a healthy and rational approach to punting. and there he is saying kindof what i did in 1/20 the time and space. i like your style smiths :cool:

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Time for this guy to get his head out of the muck and see the situation for what it was: a paid situation in which he gave a significant amount of cash over for companionship. Take away the dollar bills and your polish girl would be miles away.

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On the otherhand, if you stay silent you will never know.....do you really really want to know?

I say go for it.....what's the worst that can happen....(you don't need to answer that btw) lol

Eitherway, goodluck and hope it pans out....

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If you are considering not seeing her again anyway, then there is nothing to lose. Ask her before any further bookings though so she's can maybe feel you liked her in the right way. Be prepared for the probable knock-back. As they say in life....you don't ask, you don't get ;)

I would agree with what others have said though.....from your outburst (unintentionally amusing though it was) about she "may have seen other men"...you sound like you could in no way cope with her job. You would have to avoid every review or conversation about her because it will destroy you if you can't accept it.

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nobody's asked for her details, yet. I'm proud of your sensitivity, fellow punternetters :cool:

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nobody's asked for her details, yet. I'm proud of your sensitivity, fellow punternetters :cool:

ohhhhhh, should I ?....nahhhhhh

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ha, oh the irony. i was going to say to the OP have a look at smiths posts, he has what i would call a healthy and rational approach to punting. and there he is saying kindof what i did in 1/20 the time and space. i like your style smiths :cool:

Cheers CP1. ;)

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Yep I agree, it was a late night post and probably sounded crazy as several of you have pointed out! I did have a healthy and rational approach - I've had great sex before with other escorts, even returned more than once but I've never felt like this afterwards. I should probably have made it clear from the start - I'm not expecting anything to happen. In fact I'd almost welcome a blunt response and to be sent on my way. As others have said, it's more the not knowing and her not knowing how I feel, like what if I'd got that girl's number at the bar? Except I do have her number.

My first post was more of an outburst I agree - she's already got one or two previous reviews and I fully expect her to get more. But she's only been in England 3 months (her reviews date back that far too) and is using the money to pay for tuition fees and plans on staying. Could be BS but who knows. She did stay a little over the 2hrs but we'd already agreed on the train she'd be getting home and were aiming for that so I have no way of knowing. Of course I wouldn't be able to share her with the job, that's crazy and I'd never go down that road. The best that could happen is she calls me when she's out the other side. The worst is that she says the feeling isn't mutual or tries to get me to pay for future meetings, but says she's interested (which I agree is also a no-no).

I'm happy with either outcome. I'll probably give a couple of weeks then see her again in a more normal albeit secluded setting, have a chat and just ask her. I don't have anything to lose

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I can safely say none of the paid girls I have seen have fallen for me. No way. I just know the difference because the women who have, the wife for example and ex girlfriends - had this way of getting close to me - and the way they kissed, the way they fucked, looked into my eyes, held me tight - was all inspired by love - there's a world of difference and you have to know what it is before you make a clown of yourself. If she feels that way - let her tell you - don't make yourself out to be a bigger fool than you are.

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Words of wisdom award go to Lancelot for the preceding post. Well done.

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