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What Is An Escort's Ideal Punt?

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When it comes to a punt, I want to be as decent and thoughtful a customer as I can. Obviously my own pleasure is high on my own list of priorities, but if I can leave knowing that I've at least tried to give something in return to make the girl feel better than when she entered the appointment, then I'd be happy.

So ladies, are there any specific things a guy can do or has done for you that stand out? Any things you hope the guy will do or be like (excluding Brad Pitt)? Any examples of things a guy has done that left you pleasantly surprised? This can be specific to the actual sex part of the appointment or either side of.

Maybe a lot of this is common sense and most guys are pretty good, but this forum has left me a little unsure of late!

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They're all being a bit cynical tonight, so no answers I guess. Probably becasue actually they don't give a sh#t. She'll feel better than when she entered the appointment when she's go toyur cash :o:D

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Punter puts money in envelope (plus a tip) posts quietley through letterbox so as not to wake the girl and clears off. Job done

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There was a similar question over on the SAAFE forum, lots of girls answered honestly, quite interesting as we all want punting to be an enjoyable experience for all involved:

http://www.saafe.inf...hp?topic=7633.0

I love the SAAFE forum. Aren't the ladies honest when us lads aren't around?

Anyway, and for those who don't want to read the board, many ladies prefer overweight men in their 40s with little willies.........I forget why that has cheered me up this morning!!

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Actually, having a quick read on that SAAFE link it seems most girls are fairly positive- not many of the 'stick the money through the letterbox and leave' variety. This notion that gets bandied about that we want to do as little as possible for as much money as possible is really annoying- we don't want this any more than anyone else in any other profession and most of us do enjoy our work.

In reply to the OP, I think a lot of it is common sense- most of us just want clients who are polite, clean, friendly, respectful and so on. Bonuses are men who make us laugh, have something interesting to tell us and have that elusive 'click' with. Most men can turn me on to a degree at least, and to be honest if I was having wild exciting multi orgasmic sex all the time I'd be exhausted and incapable so even that isn't a requirement every time!

But on a more personal level - the ones I love the most are the ones who introduce me to something new and tap into something I wasn't aware would turn me on!

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When it comes to a punt, I want to be as decent and thoughtful a customer as I can. Obviously my own pleasure is high on my own list of priorities, but if I can leave knowing that I've at least tried to give something in return to make the girl feel better than when she entered the appointment, then I'd be happy.

So ladies, are there any specific things a guy can do or has done for you that stand out? Any things you hope the guy will do or be like (excluding Brad Pitt)? Any examples of things a guy has done that left you pleasantly surprised? This can be specific to the actual sex part of the appointment or either side of.

Maybe a lot of this is common sense and most guys are pretty good, but this forum has left me a little unsure of late!

I'm often"unsure" myself these days, kembo, even to the extent that a certain small part of me refuses to "stand out" :( lol.

However, like you, I try to give the lady a good time in addition to enjoying myself, but fear my "Brad Pitt" days are long gone, if they ever existed at all :wacko:

Actually, having a quick read on that SAAFE link it seems most girls are fairly positive- not many of the 'stick the money through the letterbox and leave' variety. This notion that gets bandied about that we want to do as little as possible for as much money as possible is really annoying- we don't want this any more than anyone else in any other profession and most of us do enjoy our work.

In reply to the OP, I think a lot of it is common sense- most of us just want clients who are polite, clean, friendly, respectful and so on. Bonuses are men who make us laugh, have something interesting to tell us and have that elusive 'click' with. Most men can turn me on to a degree at least, and to be honest if I was having wild exciting multi orgasmic sex all the time I'd be exhausted and incapable so even that isn't a requirement every time!

But on a more personal level - the ones I love the most are the ones who introduce me to something new and tap into something I wasn't aware would turn me on!

Well said, Lydia :)

I think i've only met a couple of ladies who did not enjoy what they do ( or did, lol, as they seem to have left the business .... surprised anyone ? ) :angry:

I vaguely remember "exciting multi orgasmic sex" as you put it Lydia, but it would exhaust me too, these days, even if I could still manage such things :(

Now, on this personal level, i would love to try to find something new for you to "tap into something you weren't aware would turn you on", but turns out to give a real "Earth Shaker" :D

Shame you're so far from where I live, or we could try this out. :)

Jack :ph34r:

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I think the SAAFE thread is incredibly useful. Recurring themes seem to be politeness, respect, not arrogant or cocky, not too big (of cock!), not superimposing any emotional significance onto the meet, and leaving on time!

I'd support most of this (though I don't turn away the unfortunately well-endowed man, I just whip out the lube ... I suppose we all have our preferences :P), and the time thing doesn't matter that much to me as I usually have my appointments spaced well apart and factor in showering and chatting time at the end. If I ran to a tighter schedule then it would probably be higher up on my priority list.

I would also second the 'we're not mind-readers' sentiment of the SAAFE thread. Suggestions from a punter are great, and help the lady feel more confident that's she's giving him what he's after.

That's really the ideal punter though, not the ideal punt.

My ideal punt ... hmmm. I love a bit of banter from the beginning, and a man who's clearly happy to be in my presence (nerves are, of course, understandable ... I usually ask if I suspect a punter's a bit anxious in order to reassure him that it's okay and we can go at whatever pace he likes.) Respect and considerateness always go down a treat (so many lovely men will say things like "Please tell me right away if I do anything you don't like" or something equivalent.) I'd tell them whether they began with this caveat or not, but it's very sweet of them to say it and instantly endears me to them.

There's nothing I particularly 'need' sexually from a session, as variety is the only thing I really look for in my sex life. Plenty of (fresh-breathed!) light French kissing and being caressed gently all over (and admired, naturally ... have to keep the vanity well stocked) is really nice. Not rushing is also pleasant. When it comes to being touched around the clitoris, gentleness is key for me, and there's nothing nicer than watching a gent tentatively begin to touch, all the while watching my reaction.

Then maybe a hard fuck in doggy style while watching ourselves in the mirror? I did say I liked variety.

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many ladies prefer overweight men in their 40s with little willies.........

Well....two out of three ain't bad :lol:

Wasn't that a Meatloaf song or something?? :huh:

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I must say having looked at the SAAFE forum a few times I do find it fairly negative (certainly the posts that have been linked in here, maybe they are not representative, who knows?).

Some of the threads actually make me think a lot worse of the ladies and there are some very negative stereotypes of clients and I think personally I would choose not to visit a lady who expressed such a view even if I otherwise may have, I mean, no one is forcing anyone to be an escort or client, right? So I see many escorts moaning about younger clients, this client or whatever, well hello, who don't they impose an age limit, or is actually the money more important from anyone than a respect for a client or who they would want to see to be more happy in their work or life?

Yes I understand many guys hold equally unpleasant or sterotypical views and I'd equally condemn them.

I guess the forum is a "dose of reality", but I could never really understand a person getting so negative or making negative stereotypes, be they male or female, clients and escort or whatever.

At least on this forum clients and escorts can "interact", maybe that gives a falseness to this forum, who knows, but I think it allows stereotypes not to form.

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Many women are isolated in this business, there have no one to sound off to.

A ladies forum like that is their only place to vent a rant.....

Leave if for ladies only I suggest and don't peep.

As you guys well know, the majority of clients are good guys, it is just the odd one or two who are not.

It is just one of those things though that we all do at times, moan about the bad and forget to praise the good.

Lucy :)

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I must say having looked at the SAAFE forum a few times I do find it fairly negative (certainly the posts that have been linked in here, maybe they are not representative, who knows?).

Some of the threads actually make me think a lot worse of the ladies and there are some very negative stereotypes of clients and I think personally I would choose not to visit a lady who expressed such a view even if I otherwise may have, I mean, no one is forcing anyone to be an escort or client, right? So I see many escorts moaning about younger clients, this client or whatever, well hello, who don't they impose an age limit, or is actually the money more important from anyone than a respect for a client or who they would want to see to be more happy in their work or life?

Yes I understand many guys hold equally unpleasant or sterotypical views and I'd equally condemn them.

I guess the forum is a "dose of reality", but I could never really understand a person getting so negative or making negative stereotypes, be they male or female, clients and escort or whatever.

At least on this forum clients and escorts can "interact", maybe that gives a falseness to this forum, who knows, but I think it allows stereotypes not to form.

You have to remember that you will get the best and the worst on these forums ............mostly this kind of work is down the middle, perfectly fine, otherwise we would not stay in this industry, but who wants to read about the mundane..

Guy turned up, with correct money, correct time, perfect gent, did not push boundaries and left on time............nothing exciting there.

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Ladies, I do take your points on the SAAFE forum. To be honest I don't think I'll look at it again.

I just found it so negative and full of stereotypes. Far from being a support, the threads linked here read like a client bashing exercise which only gives negatives of many clients and actually in turn of the ladies talking, this one is this, this one is that, etc.

While I accept this is not the majority, don't you feel it gives a bad impression of both clients and escorts?

Equally there is an issue of equality, is this forum open to male escorts?

It seems from what I have seen of the forum, it is far from a support for escorts, more likely unpresentative and utterly one sided (unlike here).

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Ladies, I do take your points on the SAAFE forum. To be honest I don't think I'll look at it again.

I just found it so negative and full of stereotypes. Far from being a support, the threads linked here read like a client bashing exercise which only gives negatives of many clients and actually in turn of the ladies talking, this one is this, this one is that, etc.

It seems from what I have seen of the forum, it is far from a support for escorts, more likely unpresentative and utterly one sided (unlike here).

from a brief viewing it strikes me as an example of 'groupthink', forums often have these insidious forms of accepted 'wisdom' or prevailing attitudes which tend to be taken on as assumptions and drown out any contrary viewpoints. any forum where most contributors are part of a particular group or niche can go in this direction, possibly more so when the group/niche view themselves as something as a subculture.

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from a brief viewing it strikes me as an example of 'groupthink', forums often have these insidious forms of accepted 'wisdom' or prevailing attitudes which tend to be taken on as assumptions and drown out any contrary viewpoints. any forum where most contributors are part of a particular group or niche can go in this direction, possibly more so when the group/niche view themselves as something as a subculture.

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there CP1, though the SAAFE ladies' complaints about punters are nowhere near as extreme as the spiteful misogyny present on a certain UK punting board.

Thankfully, Punternet's groupthink manages to tread the middle ground of mutual respect between punter & provider.

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Ladies, I do take your points on the SAAFE forum. To be honest I don't think I'll look at it again.

I just found it so negative and full of stereotypes. Far from being a support, the threads linked here read like a client bashing exercise which only gives negatives of many clients and actually in turn of the ladies talking, this one is this, this one is that, etc.

While I accept this is not the majority, don't you feel it gives a bad impression of both clients and escorts?

Equally there is an issue of equality, is this forum open to male escorts?

It seems from what I have seen of the forum, it is far from a support for escorts, more likely unpresentative and utterly one sided (unlike here).

But the SAAFE forum (which is a small part of the SAAFE site) is precisely that - a PEER support site for sex workers of all genders and with members posting from various parts of the world. Obviously the threads which are linked to on punting forums are going to be the ones which punters think will either get a rise out of the women posting here or give them an opportunity to whine about what all the Nasty Greedy Lazy Selfish Bitches are moaning about today whilst they count their crisp fifties into neat piles, but the fact is, unless you've read properly and taken the discussions in their proper context (which I'm not even sure it would be possible to do unless you have worked as a prostitute or were seriously planning on doing so) the posts there are never going to be anything other than completely alien to you.

And as Gemma says; 'punter turned up, paid, had shower, did uneventful textbook one hour booking, punter left had cup of tea' isn't really the sort of stuff we have lots of people posting. Have a root through some of the less 'headline grabbing' threads before you get all excited, and you'll realise it's just as mundane as everywhere else - in thew last few days we have had women asking variously about prepaid credit cards, pension plans, rimming and 'squirting etiquette'; also whether they ought to work whilst pregnant (up to the lady), or see a punter again who turned up with a rope without asking (no).

I have personally sent the mobile number and descriptions of two men who beat and robbed a young woman in Nottingham last Sunday night out to seven ladies who saw her warning post, not to mention doing likewise with countless other scumbags over the years. But the site isn't for you and we don't pretend it is so if you don't like it, I suggest you don't read it. We will not censor vulnerable, isolated people who desperately need a way to harmlessly let off a bit of steam if they've had a bad day purely to spare the delicate sensibilities of those who have no business hanging about there anyway.

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Slightly off topic, although this one has changed a little as its gone on.

I have been really interested in reading the saafe forum. Its nice to see the other side of the story. Alot of the time I'm interested in the opinion of the WGs, over there you do get a less sensored honest opinion.

My apologies to anyone offended by my being nosey!

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