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Are We Friends? Can We Be Friends?

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Hey this is mainly a question to the WGs.

Basically I so love hookers so bad and personally I think there is nothing more inspiring than most of my hot WGs and I don’t know where I would be with out WGs or what I would do with out them. they are great for me and give me confidence.

But my question to them is Are We Friends? Or can we be friends?

I know it’s a business transaction and im not naive enough to think that your going to have feelings for me or your ever going to be my girlfriend in a million years and ultimately im just another client and that is all but I feel its still nice to be Friendly and friends with my WGs so the question is are we friends?

Ive had loads of friendly moments with my WGs like gone shopping with them gone sun tanning with them and just general on the bed chatting and banter is a real good way of building up a friendship I even once got tickets to see Drake given to me by my WG.

I like to feel and think that I have very good friendly working relationships with my WGs. I hope they don’t hate me or think im a jerk I hope that we are friends and you can be friendly with clients a if I treat them with respect I get respect back.

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Of course you can be friends! My ex-boyfriend started of as a client. I am friends with a clients too.

Nothing in life is impossible & escorts are people too!

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Aww, such a nice post! You seem like a very friendly client and I don't see why you can't be friends with them as long as you know the boundaries and ask them whether they feel comfortable being friends and that.

Hope it works out for you :)

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Its starts off as a business transaction, and it can progress onto a sort of friendship, but there are bounderies, and once you cross over them it can lead to complications.

Be civil and friendly, and you should get it back, but dont think that you can expect a great friendship from your local escort, after all you are paying for her time, and she is nice to you to encourage you to return, hardly a great way for friendship to start by buying the friendship.

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Hey this is mainly a question to the WGs...

... But my question to them is Are We Friends? Or can we be friends?

I’m not a WG and I don’t possess a vagina, but I think I can add something to the discussion here, especially since my last wife was a WG.

I always thought of our appointments as an extended courtship. I came to realise that time & money combine to form a weak acid that corrodes the mortar in the wall that a WG builds around herself. Eventually the mortar disintegrates, the wall falls down and a pathway to her heart becomes accessible through the ruins.

Often the first sign of friendship is when you give her some Milk Tray and she opens the box and gives you a chocolate. Admittedly, it will probably be a coffee-flavoured sweet or a toffee, but as your friendship grows, you will be treated now & then to a soft centre. Then, before you can bat an eyelid, you’ll be having romantic trips to PC World and enjoying oral sex in Debenham’s changing rooms.

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Friends share their personal lives, have a degree of trust and spend time with each other. I don't need WG friends as I have a few good ones elsewhere, but this doesn't mean I don't care or aren't fond of some of them. WG's are for sex and sex only in my world.

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From a WG perspective- I suppose I am fond of some of my clients, but they are not friends. We have a laugh and a good time during appointments and I like them but they don't come under the category of friends. i wouldn't choose to see them outside an appointment not because I don't like them but because my time is precious and I use my free time to catch up with people who I do consider friends (and actually know my real name!)

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I'm sort of like the Op in my feelings. However, I do think trying or thinking you can be "friends" can lead to complicated situations and a blurring of boundaries which may be fine with the lady, but it depends on your character and life experience.

I would never be rude but it just isn't a path I think I would go down because I know I could be hurt so easily if things went sour, although I do accept saying these things and dealing with the real situation is very much different.

I have seen three escorts now (although not for intercourse) and in all honesty I've found the highs and lows of my emotions afterwards much more challenging than I ever thought I would.

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You encounter people in all sorts of ways. I remember meeting my best friend when I was 10. I never, ever would have thought in that moment that we would still be intimate friends 30 years later. Does it really matter? How you meet them?

There isn't enough love in the world guys. If you meet someone you feel love for, just go for it. I don't care if clients think I am a whore and hold back, I love them anyway. If I met them and I was a nurse, a masseuse, a counsellor, I'd still be me. Still the same person. I met a boy recently, and I told him straight away what I do, because I know people have a problem with it. He said 'I don't care, I think you are lovely'.

Of course you can be friends! My ex-boyfriend started of as a client. I am friends with a clients too.

Nothing in life is impossible & escorts are people too!

Exactly Lara. Exactly.

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From a WG perspective- I suppose I am fond of some of my clients, but they are not friends.

And in that sentance we have the truth about the question, how the hell can a serious friendship develop, when at the outset the punter is hiring the girls body for a set time for money...how much would you pay to buy friendship!.

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You encounter people in all sorts of ways. I remember meeting my best friend when I was 10. I never, ever would have thought in that moment that we would still be intimate friends 30 years later. Does it really matter? How you meet them?

There isn't enough love in the world guys. If you meet someone you feel love for, just go for it. I don't care if clients think I am a whore and hold back, I love them anyway. If I met them and I was a nurse, a masseuse, a counsellor, I'd still be me. Still the same person. I met a boy recently, and I told him straight away what I do, because I know people have a problem with it. He said 'I don't care, I think you are lovely'.

Exactly Lara. Exactly.

IMHO, it's important to differentiate with being friend-ly, with an SP, by way of showing mutual respect and consideration and hopefully sharing a joke and a laugh during a meeting, and becoming proper friends with her.

True friendship takes a long time to develop, but this need not prevent reaching a sort of middle ground between a purely commercial relationship, and the being friends. If there's a "click" between the two of you, let it develop slowly and see where it gets to ?

I'm "Good Mates" with a certain SP :wub: , with whom I share a lot of things others do not know about me, and to whom I can talk about things, particularly those of a sexual nature, in a way I could not do with my more established friends, male or female. I also have 'clicked' :) with another lady, but it's early days there.

Is a "Good Mate" the same as "A Friend" ? Or am I just being pedantic with the English Language ? :unsure:

I'm trying, rather badly :(, to show what I mean by "middle ground" here, with two examples of the on-going process of making friends. Needless to say, face to face meetings with such Ladies remain on a professional and commercial level, as they should IMO, until when and if ( and I guess that's a pretty big "if" ) the Lady should decide otherwise. :)

Jack. :ph34r:

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From the punter's perspective, I agree with everything Jack has said - I've been friendly with each of the girls I've seen, and have treated each with respect - and there's also a certain level of trust that's built up with those I've seen a few times. I don't consider them to be my friends though, unless using the facebook definition of a friend (which appears to be anyone I've ever met, or that they've ever met, and may possible recognise if I saw them in the street!).

As far as becoming friends with one of them goes, yes it could happen, particularly as I'm not that different in age to those I've seen, but, like the various threads about relationships starting betweens SPs and clients, I feel that this needs to be initiated or at least hinted at by the SP, to show (putting it rather bluntly) that she likes more about you than your money.

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If I met them and I was a nurse, a masseuse, a counsellor, I'd still be me.

this is definitely worth noting; if a genuine friendship can develop between provider and client if the provider is a barman, or accountant, or windowfitter, or sales rep (all of which happen), then why not when the provider is a WG?

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I apologise if this is reductively simplistic, but is it actually possible to be friends (and I DO mean friends) with someone whose real name you don't know?

I agree that you can be mates - no doubt about it, I'm mates with more than one escort, go out for a (unpaid) drink or something after work - but friends, I don't think so, except very rarely.

I'm not saying genuine, lasting friendship between an escort and a punter can never happen (I mean, never say never), but I'm certain, after more than 30 years' punting that it's very rare.

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this is definitely worth noting; if a genuine friendship can develop between provider and client if the provider is a barman, or accountant, or windowfitter, or sales rep (all of which happen), then why not when the provider is a WG?

Mate - no offense, but if you are asking this question, it seems to me that you don't quite understand the situation.

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I apologise if this is reductively simplistic, but is it actually possible to be friends (and I DO mean friends) with someone whose real name you don't know?

That's one of the reasons I think it has to be initiated by the girl - to become friends you'll have to trust each other with certain information, names being part of that. If the girl isn't happy to let you know who she really is, and if you're not happy with her knowing the same about you, then you aren't going to be friends in my view. It's what makes it different to becoming friends with the barman, accountant etc. as you start off there knowing more about who the person is.

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oh, what, because where sex is involved and one party is paying for it, that totally skews things to the extent that a genuine friendship becomses impossible? not so sure i agree.

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oh, what, because where sex is involved and one party is paying for it, that totally skews things to the extent that a genuine friendship becomses impossible? not so sure i agree.

If you are responding to my post, that isn't what I said. Thescribbler has understood what I mean.

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And in that sentance we have the truth about the question, how the hell can a serious friendship develop, when at the outset the punter is hiring the girls body for a set time for money...how much would you pay to buy friendship!.

You can't be friends with someone who charges you for sex - that is nonsense and obvious. If they're your friend - they should not charge you. It's another absurd punter illusion.

If you stop paying her for sex and don't have sex with her and you are happy with that - then you can be friends.

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There is a difference - I would think that no uncorrupt person would sleep with a friend for money.

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You can't be friends with someone who charges you for sex - that is nonsense and obvious. If they're your friend - they should not charge you. It's another absurd punter illusion.

Why not? Change the word "sex" for another profession or business (that's what the sex is, right?) - try "dentistry" - and how much sense does it make? (I'll admit, I've deliberately chosen something most people find unpleasant)

Speaking hypothetically, if I found myself in the position where a friendship developed with a wg (and we'd covered the trust issues mentioned earlier), that friendship itself wouldn't have to mean an end to our business relationship (i.e. me paying her for sex), but I'd agree that it may make it uncomfortable. If I was friends with a mechanic I wouldn't expect my car to be serviced for free - though there may be some benefits such as reduced rate, flexibility on time etc.

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If I was friends with a mechanic I wouldn't expect my car to be serviced for free - though there may be some benefits such as reduced rate, flexibility on time etc.

Ca you see how it becomes complicated! And that's just a mechanic and there might be bad feelings if you didn't get that discount.

Plus there would always be the suspicion that the wg is only being friends to keep you as a customer.

If you did not see her for a year and SHE contacted you - I miss you! Let's have coffee. And there was no offer of paid sex and she just wants your time - hey - that's friendship.

Then if you want to date her that's ok - as long as no money changes hand. Can you see that?

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Ca you see how it becomes complicated! And that's just a mechanic and there might be bad feelings if you didn't get that discount.

Yes, and I didn't say that it wouldn't become complicated. I also carefully used the phrase "may be" some benefits, as speaking for myself (as I can't speak for anyone else) I would not automatically expect there to be a benefit from the situation. If there was something, I'd expect it to be discussed, and agreed, as friends.

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I apologise if this is reductively simplistic, but is it actually possible to be friends (and I DO mean friends) with someone whose real name you don't know?

the thing is I do know her real name, and address and phone number I know alot about her. But I dont call her by her real name not yet any way.

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It is complicated. There are unscrupulous women who feign friendship for money or gifts and men who do the same for free sex.

Take the expectation of money and sex out of the equation and you might get friendship.

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