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My First Needed Reality Check.

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So I am still new and fairly green to this whole new world and, as discussed in a previous thread, am still suffering from nerves. I had my fifth ever punt this evening and although it all didn't go perfectly it was the first time I genuinely really fancied the WG. I walked out and drove home and couldn't get her out of my head. Now I am not just talking about her ridiculously sexy curves, soft skin blah blah blah, but she made me laugh was interesting and I really enjoyed just lying on the bed chatting to her, in my head at least we clicked.

I feel it's extremely important to keep reality and fantasy separate and thought it would be easy but tonight has made me realise I need to be a bit careful, and,boy, she nearly got under my skin (in one meeting!) so I was glad when I got home and read all the many other reviews of her as it reminded me it wasn't a date it was a punt, and tomorrow some other lucky bloke will be sharing her bed, and then someone else the day after but man I feel alive from the booking...happy days.

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Why do you talk in the singlular?

It's not a guy a day - but at least several - half a dozen even.

Try not to go all mushy and fluffie on these girls - remember - you are paying them for companionship/sex.

That's not to say you should not appreciate great service when you have paid for it.

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So I am still new and fairly green to this whole new world and, as discussed in a previous thread, am still suffering from nerves. I had my fifth ever punt this evening and although it all didn't go perfectly it was the first time I genuinely really fancied the WG. I walked out and drove home and couldn't get her out of my head. Now I am not just talking about her ridiculously sexy curves, soft skin blah blah blah, but she made me laugh was interesting and I really enjoyed just lying on the bed chatting to her, in my head at least we clicked.

I feel it's extremely important to keep reality and fantasy separate and thought it would be easy but tonight has made me realise I need to be a bit careful, and,boy, she nearly got under my skin (in one meeting!) so I was glad when I got home and read all the many other reviews of her as it reminded me it wasn't a date it was a punt, and tomorrow some other lucky bloke will be sharing her bed, and then someone else the day after but man I feel alive from the booking...happy days.

My advice is book her again asap and lap it up while you can, no punting experiences are better than when you both click. :)

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Why do you talk in the singlular?

It's not a guy a day - but at least several - half a dozen even.

Try not to go all mushy and fluffie on these girls - remember - you are paying them for companionship/sex.

That's not to say you should not

appreciate great service when you have paid for it.

Ha ha - you old cynic! But you are right of coarse - still first punt I have done that I felt was worth every penny :D

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Ha ha - you old cynic! But you are right of coarse - still first punt I have done that I felt was worth every penny :D

And now are you going to share her with the rest of us?

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My advice is book her again asap and lap it up while you can, no punting experiences are better than when you both click. :)

Seconded. But for goodness sake, don't do something silly like fall for her (or imagine she is falling for you). If you can't separate the illusion of intimacy from the reality, move on and find a girl you don't click with so well. Always good to hear of a punt going tremendously well.

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Seconded. But for goodness sake, don't do something silly like fall for her (or imagine she is falling for you). If you can't separate the illusion of intimacy from the reality, move on and find a girl you don't click with so well. Always good to hear of a punt going tremendously well.

No danger of that - BUT I am slightly surprised that I liked her as much as I did. I have absolutely NO illusions that that she would fall for me or vice versa (I am not single either and have no intention to be).

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I click with around 10% of the girls I have been with, outside of normal life you realize this is a lot more common than you would think. A lot of the pressures of choosing a partner have been removed for each of you when you're punting so you can be more relaxed.

It was hard when I first started punting as the first couple of girls I clicked with set off my normal non punting feelings. I had a rule that works well, "What goes on in the room stays in the room" Once you're outside again you're back to real life.

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A lot of the pressures of choosing a partner have been removed for each of you when you're punting so you can be more relaxed.

Oh no not another one.

She's not choosing a partner - she is allowing you to spend time with her in return for your money. Don't imagine it's anything else. It's her job to like you - or give that impression.

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Oh no not another one.

She's not choosing a partner - she is allowing you to spend time with her in return for your money. Don't imagine it's anything else. It's her job to like you - or give that impression.

Eh? He's just referring to the fact that punting removes all the complications that would arise if you were spending time with a woman under the pretext of trying to find a partner. "She's not choosing a partner" is exactly what he's saying!

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I would like to add I am not going fluffy but also I am a human being and whether I am paying for her time or not if I had a lovely and enjoyable time above and beyond what I was expecting then it is only natural to feel some sort of warmth towards that person. As I stated earlier I am under no illusions at all that it is nothing more than a punter, WG working relationship and I did say we clicked in MY HEAD, she may not have felt anything towards me and just be very good at her job BUT I walked away happy and confident and whether she gave me a second thought after the door closed behind me or not I am grateful to her for making me feel that way.

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Oh no not another one.

She's not choosing a partner - she is allowing you to spend time with her in return for your money. Don't imagine it's anything else. It's her job to like you - or give that impression.

I'm not talking about her perspective but from the punter and "partner" was shorthand for "Girl you want to fuck".

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Don't worry about lancelot, uncle. I reckon most of the rest of us understood what you meant.

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Don't worry about lancelot, uncle. I reckon most of the rest of us understood what you meant.

Doh

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No danger of that - BUT I am slightly surprised that I liked her as much as I did. I have absolutely NO illusions that that she would fall for me or vice versa (I am not single either and have no intention to be).

It's always a bummer when that happens. You find you have things in common, laugh at the same stuff and then you end up spending an absolute fortune in repeat visits whilst ultimately torturing yourself. I think it takes about three bookings until you are hook line and sinker.

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It's always a bummer when that happens. You find you have things in common, laugh at the same stuff and then you end up spending an absolute fortune in repeat visits whilst ultimately torturing yourself. I think it takes about three bookings until you are hook line and sinker.

Yep I am afraid that may well be the case! I think I will see her one more time (be rude not to) and then if I still feel like she is getting under my skin I will knock it on the head and not see her again otherwise I think I will just end up making a twat of myself. :eek:

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It's always a bummer when that happens. You find you have things in common, laugh at the same stuff and then you end up spending an absolute fortune in repeat visits whilst ultimately torturing yourself. I think it takes about three bookings until you are hook line and sinker.

You mean it takes you about 3 visits? It certainly rarely happens to me, i punt with no strings and leave happy with no thought of having fallen for the WG.

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You mean it takes you about 3 visits? It certainly rarely happens to me, i punt with no strings and leave happy with no thought of having fallen for the WG.

I think that is the ideal way to do it personally and that was/is my intention from now on!

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Before you leave for the last time why not just confess everything to her? Just admit your feelings for her.

Why not just say, "I'm starting to feel crazy about you. I think about you a lot and even feel jealous that other guys are seeing you too. If I see you again I'll fall completely in love with you. I won't be able to stop myself. I know you won't want that and it'll be an emotional disaster for me. Sorry, I'd better stop coming back."

It would be interesting to hear what she says to that!

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Before you leave for the last time why not just confess everything to her? Just admit your feelings for her.

Why not just say, "I'm starting to feel crazy about you. I think about you a lot and even feel jealous that other guys are seeing you too. If I see you again I'll fall completely in love with you. I won't be able to stop myself. I know you won't want that and it'll be an emotional disaster for me. Sorry, I'd better stop coming back."

It would be interesting to hear what she says to that!

Well probably once she has picked herself up off the floor from laughing so much she will say fine and goodbye! In all seriousness I don't think I am about to fall in love with her :eek: I am actually married already and not looking for a new relationship in that sense but I also do not want to really be in a situation where I am thinking about her a lot when not with her...does that make sense????

I take a fair amount of stock in what a few of the more 'experienced' guys on this forum say when they say leave it all at the door on the way out as I genuinely feel that is the healthiest way for someone in my position to handle doing this (in a sexless marriage but do not want to leave). The girls I have seen previous to her I had no problem forgetting about upon leaving but she was definitely someone I would have loved to have as a gf when I was single (by that I mean in personality as well as looks) BUT she is an escort and her job is to make me like her and she succeeded, but I am not desperately pining for her or anything like that - I was just a bit shocked at myself more than anything for feeling that way as I thought I had my head on pretty straight.

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Before you leave for the last time why not just confess everything to her? Just admit your feelings for her.

Why not just say, "I'm starting to feel crazy about you. I think about you a lot and even feel jealous that other guys are seeing you too. If I see you again I'll fall completely in love with you. I won't be able to stop myself. I know you won't want that and it'll be an emotional disaster for me. Sorry, I'd better stop coming back."

It would be interesting to hear what she says to that!

Something along the lines of "If you give me £50,000 a year I will only see you"

And to Mr D again, If she is that good why not share her details?

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50k :eek:

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Haha,,,, fair enough!

I honestly don't think a nice girl would laugh at you at all. But maybe i'm either still naive or refuse to be cynical about women.

You say you are in a sexless marriage. Well I get a little but certainly not very much at all. I just wondered if you feel your wife loves you but even although, she still won't give you sex. Or do you think she doesn't love you? Mine does love me. i feel sure, but still won't satisfy my needs. If you don't want to answer the question I've asked you, that's ok.

The puzzle is: if a wife really loves her husband why won't she do her best to please him in the bedroom when she knows how crucially important this can be to him?

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Haha,,,, fair enough!

I honestly don't think a nice girl would laugh at you at all. But maybe i'm either still naive or refuse to be cynical about women.

You say you are in a sexless marriage. Well I get a little but certainly not very much at all. I just wondered if you feel your wife loves you but even although, she still won't give you sex. Or do you think she doesn't love you? Mine does love me. i feel sure, but still won't satisfy my needs. If you don't want to answer the question I've asked you, that's ok.

The puzzle is: if a wife really loves her husband why won't she do her best to please him in the bedroom when she knows how crucially important this can be to him?

Oh my wife loves me for sure and I am pretty confident sex will come back into the marriage in the future but I went three years without it and I just got so frustrated that I felt I needed to do something about it. I did not want an affair and felt this is the best option for me. I am under no illusions that I am being a completely selfish prick for doing this behind her back BUT I just couldn't handle the not having sex for such a longtime and I just did not know what else to do. I don't want to start a whole debate about the rights and wrongs about it as there are plenty of other threads covering this topic. I know I am in the wrong and I know I am taking a calculated risk but I guess it was an itch that I really needed to scratch so to speak.

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