Ltay

Asking An Escort For Leasons?

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How would you feel if a punter asked you for a course of leasons? I know this sounds like I am asking to book some driving leasons, lol. Would you think this is weird or overly unusual to be asked to teach a guy how to please women in bed?

Here is a short background to explain my question. When I was younger I was always shy and tended to stay away from parties, etc. As a result I guess I never really gained the experience of other guys. I often feel there is an assumption that when a guy hits his early thirties ( I am 33 ) there is an expectation that they should just know what he is doing in the bedroom department. I freely admit, I am not very good in bed :-( .

As I have got older, I am now confident and very social with a good group of friends around me. One area where I do struggle though is having the confidence to confide in my male friends that I am not particularly good in bed. You know how guys are, we are not the most open when it comes to sharing our feelings with each other. I have slept with a few girls over the years, but I have never felt like I am able to please them in bed in terms of technique.

After a recent works night out, a really lovely looking girl I work with was hitting on me all night and asked me to go home with her. Instead of grabbing my coat and leaving, I made my excuses and headed for the nearest door. I was afraid my lack of experience would be blatantly obvious. At this time, I know it was time to find a solution to this problem.

On the outside I look and appear confident, however inside I feel this is an area I need to improve on.

Thanks for reading the waffle

So would it be weird to ask for leasons? ( hahaha, that makes me laugh when I write that for some reason ) .

Ltay

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There is no age to keep learning. And any person you feel has better knowledge or experience in the field can be your teacher. The attitude that you do not know it will make you a good student. But if you try to learn through your punts you will become poor soon. Better confide in girls who are ready to sleep with you regarding your lack of good experience. I think most girls will be happy to know that you have slept with fewer girls before her and hence have less experience. You are not training for olympics i assume!

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IMO the idea of a new relationship is to experiment and learn with each other. Having lessons in the bedroom department with one girl in order to please another may not work, as the girl you're are having lessons with may like entirly different things to what your intended likes.

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Yea, I guess what one person likes isn't the same as another. However, surely it could act as a way to build up a knowledge base over a short period of time. Sort of like a basic cookery skills night class at college, lol. You may not be able to cook delicious 5* meals, but you will know the basics. I am talking about building up a set of basic skills. :-)

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Yea, I guess what one person likes isn't the same as another. However, surely it could act as a way to build up a knowledge base over a short period of time. Sort of like a basic cookery skills night class at college, lol. You may not be able to cook delicious 5* meals, but you will know the basics. I am talking about building up a set of basic skills. :-)

I think you question is absolutely justified. bWhy this is all shrouded in mystery I do not know. All you seem to be looking for are some points of reference, some building blocks to give you some confidence that you are going in the right direction and you are right to seek that rather than go around avoiding situations which you should probably be jumping on. Why WGs are coy and not forthcoming on this subject I just cant explain. Probably the best thing to do on the paid sex front ( great if you can get a trusty civvy partner ) is to find a WG with whom you click and see if she can help guide you. Good luck to you.

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IMO the idea of a new relationship is to experiment and learn with each other. Having lessons in the bedroom department with one girl in order to please another may not work, as the girl you're are having lessons with may like entirly different things to what your intended likes.

True, but at least if the OP 'experiments' with a few WG's he can get a better baseline from which to work, in any civvy jaunts, plus hopefully a bit more confidence. as in, 'ok, that thing that worked well with L*lita didn't work here, what if i try that thing i did with Angelina?'. terribly put, but hopefully i make some sort of sense. basically i am saying a bit of variety may give him a better chance at responding to or catering for an individual civvy girls' tastes.

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Thanks. I am a bit nervous to be honest to hook up with any of my male friends girlfriends acquaintances in case I end up looking a fool. Recently when myself and my mates were sharing a few beers watching the footie, it became obvious they have no idea how much I lack experience. I have managed to fake things for so long that nobody suspects I am a 33 yr old novice, lol. I am socially confident and can easily chat to any attractive female I happen to meet. But any kind of physical intimacy terrifies me in case I make mistakes. As a result, I just remove myself from the situation with an inventive excuse rather than risk looking stupid. I think I will go ahead and look into meeting with a wg. What should I look for in a wg, age, experience, etc? thanks

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True, but at least if the OP 'experiments' with a few WG's he can get a better baseline from which to work, in any civvy jaunts, plus hopefully a bit more confidence. as in, 'ok, that thing that worked well with L*lita didn't work here, what if i try that thing i did with Angelina?'. terribly put, but hopefully i make some sort of sense. basically i am saying a bit of variety may give him a better chance at responding to or catering for an individual civvy girls' tastes.

Agree with you 100% and the guy is out there and willing to learn, to do something about it. I might go for some lessons myself !! Funny enough, I think I know here who might be the right lady to ask !!! :D

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. But any kind of physical intimacy terrifies me in case I make mistakes. As a result, I just remove myself from the situation with an inventive excuse rather than risk looking stupid. I think I will go ahead and look into meeting with a wg. What should I look for in a wg, age, experience, etc? thanks

You'll be alrite mate, a good wg won't judge you and should be able to help you in whatever 'lesson' you'd like to learn. Knowledge is gained through experience, so don't worry about making mistakes, just relax, have fun when you book a wg you fancy.

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That girl who fancied you a lot, you should have gone home with her and during sex you should have asked her what she liked. Imagine missing an opportunity like that! You were lucky to get it! It's a great start to be fancied by the girl rather than the other way round..

What exactly do you think you do wrong? And how are you so sure you're not good, or not average at least? How do you know you don't please them? Do they actually tell you?? How do they behave afterwards? Is it not just all in your mind?

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She still speaks to me at work thankfully and doesn't ignore me so I guess she believed my excuse for not going home with her, lol.

I slept with a female friends cousin a few years ago and reports weren't good. She said I was a really nice guy but got a sense I wasn't too sure what I was doing in bed. I later heard these comments upon asking my female friend what her cousin had said after our night together. Words like boring in bed and too nervous aren't very ego boasting, haha. As usual I managed to talk my way out of it by blaming being too drunk. Luckily my female friend forgot I wasn't drinking a great deal on the night. I bought a few books on sexual techniques from amazon shortly after, but to be honest I am more of a see and copy kind of guy rather than a read and do so the books didn't help that much.

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Agree with comments on just dive in, dont worry and all that - for civvie and wg. And for which wg, book whoever you fancy. If you like 22yo, dont book 45 yo since you "heard" they are better at teaching. Hollywood is not RL. Go with who you like. But if you fancy a 45yo then by all means book her.

But here is an idea... Why not go to LMP and tell Em your story? She'll plan a great 2 hr for you!

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Here is a short background to explain my question. When I was younger I was always shy and tended to stay away from parties, etc. As a result I guess I never really gained the experience of other guys. I often feel there is an assumption that when a guy hits his early thirties ( I am 33 ) there is an expectation that they should just know what he is doing in the bedroom department. I freely admit, I am not very good in bed :-( .

It took guts to post that, and you'll find you're not alone here. My situation is similar, and my punts have been helping me to gain experience and confidence, and by seeing a couple of girls it gives chance to discover the different things that work for different people.

I'd not considered actually making a point of asking for 'lessons' but admit I quite like that idea, and think with the right girl that it could be an interesting and very enjoyable experience.

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Lmp? sorry, whats that?

I prefer chicks in their 20's so that is who I would probably opt for if I decide to go ahead with this.

Scribbler, I think a lot of guys are just as nervous but put on a front. I know a good mate who I go running with who is 24. If you saw this guy you would automatically see he is a good looking guy ( in a non gay way ). His nick name is Brad after Mr Pitt the actor. He has never been with even one girl after the age of 17 on a one night stand. Unlike me though, he is unconcerned and just knows he will meet the right girl and settle down when the times right. I am just not that patient and want to improve myself if possible.

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I think like a few posters have commented, there are guys (myself included) in a similar sort of position, older but lacking experience, as I said in my last report re reverse oral.

I know the internet has loads of information and you want to try and learn in a practical sense, but I think sometimes guys in such a position can get it into their heads everyone else is a sex god and they must be doing something wrong or are not good enough, when the reality is we are always learning.

I'm sure you can always ask the question. To me if that is what you would like, you can always ask, the worst an escort can say is no.

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