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I know that most guys will experience the opposite problem from time to time but I have a slightly less common problem:

I often find it very difficult to cum during sex (if at all during punts)

I can cum through masturbation quite easily.

My last punt remarked that she had never had a guy slam her doggy style for 1 hour and 10 minutes and not cum (she was complimenting my stamina) I think I have a problem though

I'm thinking maybe I 'bate too much (atleast twice a day) and as a result I seem to have lost some sensitivity in my penis, it sometimes feels almost numb during sex.

If I abstain from masturbating will things return to normal or is there something more to this?

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hello I know how you feel as I have the same problem.

I think for me its because I Got used to masturbation and porn sex so now real sex is difficult fo rme to get used to.

I was thinking about going to A sex therapist but I think I will just save my money now.

I think that if you try to quit punting and masturbating and porn for 6-8 weeks then you may have better results. try it and see it wont be easy going with out but think about it that the results could be worth it when you can get to come in her pussy.

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It sounds like you have porn creep. Stop looking at porn & stop wanking. Give yourself no more than an hour to select a WG, so that you don't spend too much time viewing or reading pornographic material.

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Thanks both, I have never heard of this "porn creep" Lara, maybe I will google it, or is there a more technical term for it?

I don't masturbate on the day before or the day of a punt, I'm guessing you mean much longer though? How long will it take to return to "normal" after I stop porn viewing/masturbating?

Thanks

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Have a look at curedeathgrip.com. It's a bit American and mainly aimed at younger folks, but I've recommended it to a few clients and have been told it's pretty helpful :).

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Thanks both, I have never heard of this "porn creep" Lara, maybe I will google it, or is there a more technical term for it?

I don't masturbate on the day before or the day of a punt, I'm guessing you mean much longer though? How long will it take to return to "normal" after I stop porn viewing/masturbating?

Thanks

its difficult to say and give a time every one is diffirent. but normally 6 - 8 weeks is a good starting point the longer you can go without the better

you might want to read this as well

http://www.psycholog...growing-problem

and then take a look at this website its really really helpful

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

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Well I'm glad this is a well known "issue", thanks for the additional info Lara, AdorableAmy, Down....I'll take a look at them links ASAP when I have time :)

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I have the same problem sometimes.... but

Personally If I don't wank/have sex at least once a day (or twice if I'm not busy), I get irritable because I need to cum more often. So quite often I don't actullay enjoy it just do it so I can not be distracted by being horny!

Should we be expected to come easily with a sheet of rubber on our penises?

DFK makes a big difference for me to staying hard and cumming so can't see a girl who doesn't do that now.

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Too late to edit rubber to whatever :) - sheet of whatever. Is it really a problem if you would not have the problem when having sex bareback?

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Definately abstainance from hand to gland combat for a few weeks and you'll probably find everything start to go back to normal

If it's tricky to stop smacking the little man then just rub a scotch bonnet chilli pepper over your hand when you get horny.......

I've a feeling that you probably wouldn't touch it then

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What is DFK?

I'm addicted to masturbation and porn I can easily admit that, I need my "fix" its like drugs, which I suppose makes sense, your body releases dopamine, seratonin and other chemicals when you cum, its own natural high.

I am new to the world of punting, Iv been doing it for a week,( I have seen 7 girls so far though lol) and only cum once, I was wearing a rubber on that occasion.

I fucked one girl bareback and didn't even cum then so I don't blame it on the condom, its over exposure to sexual stimulation and desensitisation, both physically and mentally, I think its worth breaking the cycle but it won't be easy...

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Definately abstainance from hand to gland combat for a few weeks and you'll probably find everything start to go back to normal

If it's tricky to stop smacking the little man then just rub a scotch bonnet chilli pepper over your hand when you get horny.......

I've a feeling that you probably wouldn't touch it then

LOL

Thats one tip that might work, but I think I'll pass thanks... :D

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I have the same problem sometimes.... but

Personally If I don't wank/have sex at least once a day (or twice if I'm not busy), I get irritable because I need to cum more often. So quite often I don't actullay enjoy it just do it so I can not be distracted by being horny!

Should we be expected to come easily with a sheet of rubber on our penises?

"Denial" is not a river in Egypt! You have porn creep. Maybe you need a wife, meditation, yoga! When your condition deteriorates, it won't be good.

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What is DFK?

I'm addicted to masturbation and porn I can easily admit that, I need my "fix" its like drugs, which I suppose makes sense, your body releases dopamine, seratonin and other chemicals when you cum, its own natural high.

I am new to the world of punting, Iv been doing it for a week,( I have seen 7 girls so far though lol) and only cum once, I was wearing a rubber on that occasion.

I fucked one girl bareback and didn't even cum then so I don't blame it on the condom, its over exposure to sexual stimulation and desensitisation, both physically and mentally, I think its worth breaking the cycle but it won't be easy...

Deep French Kissing is DFK. I have been watching loads of porn for 35 years and it hasnt affected my cock.

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"Denial" is not a river in Egypt! You have porn creep. Maybe you need a wife, meditation, yoga! When your condition deteriorates, it won't be good.

Its your opinion he has porn creep to be accurate, only seeing a qualified Doctor will confirm any medical problems. My advice is go and see such a qualified Doctor. What others post on here are opinions not facts when it comes to medical problems in reality, they may or may not be correct, but only a Doctor can tell you after seeing and treating you.

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do you masturbate 2x or more a day though?

I think I grip my cock too tight, masturbate too fast and furious and now any lesser stimulation just doesnt "do it", my arse is not fast enough to keep up the same pace while fucking as I would keep up if I was masturbating for example, also I grip it tight, tighter than any vagina or mouth would feel, hence the loss of sensitivity perhaps?

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do you masturbate 2x or more a day though?

I think I grip my cock too tight, masturbate too fast and furious and now any lesser stimulation just doesnt "do it", my arse is not fast enough to keep up the same pace while fucking as I would keep up if I was masturbating for example, also I grip it tight, tighter than any vagina or mouth would feel, hence the loss of sensitivity perhaps?

Sometimes and in my youth i was wanking, shagging my girlfriend and punting then coming home for more sex and knocking a couple more wanks out. 8 times a day isnt unusual if i am on a porn fest, i just ensure i get the tissues and Lube in and the porn ready in the order i fancy and then all is set for the fest to start. ;)

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There are other reasons besides wanking, talk to your doctor imo, look on line with search term anorgasmia to get an idea.

"

It is estimated that around 90 percent of anorgasmia problems are related to psychological issues"

http://menshealth.about.com/cs/stds/a/anorgasmia.htm (reliable source as medically reviewed)

Seeing a WG there is also the artificial pressure of a deadline, and you may not get on with the girl as well as you would with a girl you've dated or pulled.

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"Denial" is not a river in Egypt! You have porn creep. Maybe you need a wife, meditation, yoga! When your condition deteriorates, it won't be good.

Lol :), See my link, I win!

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you could try this it works for me

just put the condom on and then have loads of hand relief when you are starting to feel it ask your WG to jump on and ride you and then that normally takes you over the edge, try it and see.

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