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Given The Run-around - Or Another Explanation?

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I made a text booking with a WG from the alternative website today.

Her profile checked out, i.e.

normal rates

believable photos and 'enjoys' list

but most importantly ...all positive feedback (22 ratings) with several entries from guys who have seen some of the same WGs as me.

Been using the site for 3 years or so, so I'm not a newbie. I've had my fair share of mediocre punts but nothing like this.

Her replies are quick and polite. She gives me the name of her road and asks me to call when I get there.

I arrive and discover it is a housing scheme with some 30 units of 8 flats each, plus three tower blocks.

I phone and she tells me she is in block X flat Y and it is to the left as you pass a T junction.

There are several T junctions but all the units have street numbers so I make my way to #X and ring to confirm.

I describe where I am (there is a distinct sign outside) but she says that's not it and repeats the block X/flat Y/T-junction.

Thinking I've misconstrued 'block' and 'flat', I make my way to unit #Y and phone again but, no, that's not it either and she tells me the block is clearly marked as #X.

Some more wandering around and it is clear all the units/towers have street numbers, i.e. if there is a 'block X' it also has a street number which she could have provided.

Realising (assuming?) I've been sent on a wild goose-chase I depart the area. As I leave I check my phone and there are a couple more texts - an 'Are U here yet?' followed by a 'You timewaster, I'm sending your number to all the local escorts,etc.'

My feedback is better than hers so I'm not concerned on that front but I'm trying to think of a logical explanation.

If it's a scam, there's no gain, and her feedback would indicate it's not someone just playing games with a false profile,

Was the first unit I went to actually the correct one but she saw me from the window and just didn't like the look of me? I'm no Brad Pitt (or whoever) but I'm clean, well-dressed and in good shape so seems unlikely.

I'd emailed her once previously to say she looked very nice and my texts today have all been polite. I did get her name wrong in the first text but quickly apologised and she appeared to laugh it off. I introduced myself with my other site profile name and she had plenty of time to check it out but there's absolutely nothing there that would put anyone off.

Am all set to shove in a negative report on the other site but have counted to 10 (after having wasted an afternoon's leave from work and £25 worth of train/taxi fares) and thought I would seek the wisdom of the forum in case I'm missing something.

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I have had people standing on the corner of my building call and say they are lost. I give them the directions for the 30 second walk from where they are but the don't materialise then call me half anhour later when back in their car miles away. I don't understand it myself as everyone else finds it straight away.

I think the worse feedback you can leave here is that her apartment is hard to find. She has not gained anything so it's not a scam

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Perhaps she was using a new location that was as unfamiliar to her as to you. When you didn't arrive, perhaps she genuinely thought you had been giving her the run around, just as you thought of her. Give her the benefit of the doubt. After all, you do say her feedback is good. So, she might well be a genuine girl. Perhaps a further text from you to her, explaining your problem in locating her, might pour oil on troubled waters. Who knows?--you may still end up getting it together with her.

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I think it was just a break down in communication over the phone.

Maybe she was not explaining herself well enough for you to understand.

Maybe you were not hearing her right.

Maybe she just said right instead of left sort of thing....

You say she has good feedback, and so do you.

No lady worth her salt who uses the feedback system on that site for bookings would want to risk a red negative feedback by giving a bloke the run around on purpose in my opinion.

Lucy :)

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big problem this. giving directions to a place you know well to someone who has never been there.

I fucked up the other weekend when i gave a relative directions to somewhere, and completely forgot about a turn I have done 100's of times so she ended up lost. She had another relative in the car who had been that way before a lot and he said nowt.

So the message to girls is get someone who doesn't know your area to proof read your directions to make sure they work.

I went to see a girl in brum. she gave me an address like 'flat 4, 23 street name, b23.jxx' but her block didnt have a number on it, so I found 21 and 25 and found the one in the middle. But if she had said, it doesnt have a number on it, then that would have been more reassuring. But she never looks for the number cos she goes there a lot.

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Another thing.

My walking directions and driving directions to my place are bang on, but about 5 blokes have got completely lost for some reason.

Once a bloke rang me and said I still cant find you, where are you?

I looked down out of my high up window and said are you the bloke down there with a suit on and a pully case with a phone next to his ear?

He was right outside but still said he was lost.....

Also I give clear directions to the car parks right next to me, but still some seem to fail to fund them and park 5/10 minutes walk away when they do not need to.

So what I am saying is that confusing on directions can take place at times.

Lucy :)

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Barbie used to receive her visitors in a flat in one of only three tower blocks by the West Way, where it crosses Latimer Road. I did get the right one, but not without a small amount of difficulty! In her case the blocks had names, but they weren't blindingly obvious.

I suspect that both of you were in error - she knew which block is which, even if it isn't obvious, and assumed that you could work it out.

My only quibble is in txting - there is lots of room for misunderstanding with a text message. Why not use "that site's" e-mail facility? Could she even have given you a post code to wind into your GPS?

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My last appointment I was at the right entrance to the block of apartments and had the flat number to call up for entry.

But when I entered the numbers on the panel they didn't register.

It took a while to find that on this particular day, the straightforward system was not working and I had to press up or down arrows to get from a default flat number to the right one.

Phew

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Doesn't sound as if she had anything to gain from this, she wasted just as much of her time as yours.

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Another thing.

My walking directions and driving directions to my place are bang on, but about 5 blokes have got completely lost for some reason.

Once a bloke rang me and said I still cant find you, where are you?

I looked down out of my high up window and said are you the bloke down there with a suit on and a pully case with a phone next to his ear?

He was right outside but still said he was lost.....

Also I give clear directions to the car parks right next to me, but still some seem to fail to fund them and park 5/10 minutes walk away when they do not need to.

So what I am saying is that confusing on directions can take place at times.

Lucy :)

i prefer to park some distance away and walk the rest. then I am sure no-one is writing down my car reg.

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I made a text booking with a WG from the alternative website today.

Her profile checked out, i.e.

normal rates

believable photos and 'enjoys' list

but most importantly ...all positive feedback (22 ratings) with several entries from guys who have seen some of the same WGs as me.

Been using the site for 3 years or so, so I'm not a newbie. I've had my fair share of mediocre punts but nothing like this.

Her replies are quick and polite. She gives me the name of her road and asks me to call when I get there.

I arrive and discover it is a housing scheme with some 30 units of 8 flats each, plus three tower blocks.

I phone and she tells me she is in block X flat Y and it is to the left as you pass a T junction.

There are several T junctions but all the units have street numbers so I make my way to #X and ring to confirm.

I describe where I am (there is a distinct sign outside) but she says that's not it and repeats the block X/flat Y/T-junction.

Thinking I've misconstrued 'block' and 'flat', I make my way to unit #Y and phone again but, no, that's not it either and she tells me the block is clearly marked as #X.

Some more wandering around and it is clear all the units/towers have street numbers, i.e. if there is a 'block X' it also has a street number which she could have provided.

Realising (assuming?) I've been sent on a wild goose-chase I depart the area. As I leave I check my phone and there are a couple more texts - an 'Are U here yet?' followed by a 'You timewaster, I'm sending your number to all the local escorts,etc.'

My feedback is better than hers so I'm not concerned on that front but I'm trying to think of a logical explanation.

If it's a scam, there's no gain, and her feedback would indicate it's not someone just playing games with a false profile,

Was the first unit I went to actually the correct one but she saw me from the window and just didn't like the look of me? I'm no Brad Pitt (or whoever) but I'm clean, well-dressed and in good shape so seems unlikely.

I'd emailed her once previously to say she looked very nice and my texts today have all been polite. I did get her name wrong in the first text but quickly apologised and she appeared to laugh it off. I introduced myself with my other site profile name and she had plenty of time to check it out but there's absolutely nothing there that would put anyone off.

Am all set to shove in a negative report on the other site but have counted to 10 (after having wasted an afternoon's leave from work and £25 worth of train/taxi fares) and thought I would seek the wisdom of the forum in case I'm missing something.

Sounds like a communication cock-up to me.

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Sometimes in our excitement we don't always listen as well as we should. I once knocked on the wrong door :eek: because i thought i knew the street the Lady told me to go to, rather than listening to what she actually said! Turned out a rubbish punt and i would have been better scuttling off & not bothering.

A Lady i see regularly these days gave me perfect directions for the first time i met her, and because i was convinced i knew where i was going, i parked in the wrong place. Not that far away, but not the most convenient place, and a bit of a shame as she had told me to get there early!!!!

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Sometimes in our excitement we don't always listen as well as we should. I once knocked on the wrong door :eek: because i thought i knew the street the Lady told me to go to, rather than listening to what she actually said! Turned out a rubbish punt and i would have been better scuttling off & not bothering.

A Lady i see regularly these days gave me perfect directions for the first time i met her, and because i was convinced i knew where i was going, i parked in the wrong place. Not that far away, but not the most convenient place, and a bit of a shame as she had told me to get there early!!!!

I have certainly not in the past which is why i am very careful nowadays, clear communication is the key for me and i very rarely have a problem these days finding premises.

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Thanks, all, I'll hold my fire and put it down to experience. As someone's signature line says - we are all still learning.

Most of my punts are arranged at short notice by text for the simple reason that I know for sure I'm going to be free.

This approach does of course risk the lady (and back-up ladies, if any) not being available when I am.

This happens a lot more than I'd like but it also means I've never had to cancel on someone, which might happen if I'd booked through the site the night before, as things often crop up at the last minute for me. Maybe I'm being oversensitive (?) but I know a lot of ladies get messed around with bookings. (The irony is not lost on me...)

Ninety percent text me the street name and building number when I arrange the booking, then give me the flat number when I call from outside.

Sometimes it is not the actual building number but the one next door or across the street and they tell me that when I call. Probably because they can see if I am there before giving their actual location, which is absolutely fine by me.

I've had one case of missing house numbers and one where there were no flat numbers on the intercom but both were easily cleared up with a phone call. I guess it's because everything has gone so smoothly previously that this occasion jars so much.

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i prefer to park some distance away and walk the rest. then I am sure no-one is writing down my car reg.

Likewise, though only a hundred yards or so.

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I have this theory that men get so over excited and/or nervous they don't listen properly. I know I give good directions to my flat and explain how to get to it and it really isn't very complicated but clients are always getting lost or claiming I am not in having rung the bell on a totally different apartment block on the other side of the road with a different name and looking nothing like I have described.

I expect this was a communication breakdown.

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I have this theory that men get so over excited and/or nervous they don't listen properly.

My ex-wife had a theory that I never listened properly, regardless of my emotional state :).

Although I don't regard myself as a nervous or overexcitable type, I find I have to concentrate REALLY hard to follow directions to a punting address. I guess I (and perhaps many other guys) am simply easily distracted when talking on the phone to a girl I have never met who will shortly be naked in front of me and shortly after that having sex with me.

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I doubt there was anything to it except incompetence Joe. New girls, especially the younger ones, are often not very thoughtful about how to communicate where they are. I've been almost convinced there's something funny going on before, but it's always turned out to be simply remarkably poor directions.

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Realising (assuming?) I've been sent on a wild goose-chase I depart the area. As I leave I check my phone and there are a couple more texts - an 'Are U here yet?' followed by a 'You timewaster, I'm sending your number to all the local escorts,etc.'

I would say you could probably have avoided that response by texting her to say "Sorry, I just can't find the place and I'm out of time, so I have to go now". Some will just assume the worst no matter what, but most girls are reasonable and would be placated by that.

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Mmmh, all I can say is men and directions! Sadly, even if it is a simply case of walk straight for 100 metres, turn right and hey presto some sadly seem to get lost. Often they do not to listen whatsoever. My last place was ridiculously easy to find and yet a couple of guys walked right round in circles. That’s probably why the Israelites spent so long in the dessert… :rolleyes:

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Mmmh, all I can say is men and directions! Sadly, even if it is a simply case of walk straight for 100 metres, turn right and hey presto some sadly seem to get lost. Often they do not to listen whatsoever. My last place was ridiculously easy to find and yet a couple of guys walked right round in circles. That’s probably why the Israelites spent so long in the dessert… :rolleyes:

:)

I've managed around 50 punts to date without getting lost ...but that doesn't mean I'm infallible.

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When I need instructions to get somewhere, I will always ask for idiot instructions.

I hate getting lost so want really full directions.

I have set directions ready to copy and paste to all I send them too for them to find me if they are arriving by train and then walking to me.

What I did was to ask a friend who did not know where I was to try and follow them, she did and found me just like that, but I tweaked one sentence to my written directions on her advice.

I also will tell guys to google an image of somewhere right next to me that can not be missed.

It must be hard trying to find a place over a phone text though.

Lucy :)

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I would say you could probably have avoided that response by texting her to say "Sorry, I just can't find the place and I'm out of time, so I have to go now". Some will just assume the worst no matter what, but most girls are reasonable and would be placated by that.

Possibly, but after 25min walking past clearly numbered buildings, I'd concluded I'd been played for a fool.

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It must be hard trying to find a place over a phone text though.

That's the thing though - it's never been a problem on previous occasions.

The lady texts the street name (often the street number as well), if I don't recognise it, I look it up on my separate smartphone, I make my way there, then call to confirm the exact location, and a minute or two later I'm walking into her flat.

As they say about financial investments though, past performance should not be taken as an indicator of future results!

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That’s probably why the Israelites spent so long in the dessert… :rolleyes:

Or maybe it was Angel Delight, butterscotch of course. I'd have stayed forever.

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