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Sexual Addition: A Visit To A Psychologist In The Gum Clinic

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

I have no idea if it will help you or not but if you feel it might what have you got to lose. Just be honest with them about how you feel and what you do is my advice. I hope it helps. :)

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

You are quite normal ;)

I look at men all the time and think I want to screw them......

I do not feel the need to go see a shrink though.

Lucy :)

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You are quite normal ;)

I look at men all the time and think I want to screw them......

I do not feel the need to go see a shrink though.

Lucy :)

the problem is that I left a family thinking that I have not met enough women in my life yet. Now, I am not sure if I will ever be able to build long term relationships if I always look at all women on streets...

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Oh dear! Don't tell me you're looking at these nice girls that you pass in the street as sex objects!! As a focus for your lustful thoughts? Tut tut! That's sooo shocking! How dreadful of you! But I know the feeling. I've wanted to fuck them all my life.

I agree with lovely Lucy. I really don't think you need a psychologist - just find a girlfriend with a high sex drive! They certainly do exist, and you might have better luck than I did in finding one, In the meantime - happy shagging.

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I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes.

That sentence stood out to me the most.

Punting can be very addictive. Sex can be very addictive. Put the two together and you have a recipe for financial stress.

I do hope you get the help you are seeking.

You are quite normal ;)

I look at men all the time and think I want to screw them......

I do not feel the need to go see a shrink though.

Lucy :)

The difference being, it's costing him a fortune. An addiction that causes financial stress needs addressing.

I agree with lovely Lucy. I really don't think you need a psychologist - just find a girlfriend with a high sex drive! They certainly do exist, and you might have better luck than I did in finding one, In the meantime - happy shagging.

A few points:

He may not be in the position to have a 'relationship' therefore finding a girlfriend may be out of the question.

If he is single, finding a gf with a high sex drive may not be as easy as it sounds. Could take months or even years to find someone who could be sexually compatible. Her libido may also change...

Often, those who are addicted to sex or punting, enjoy the variety of sexual partners. Sticking to one person may not be an option.

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

Your behaviour is perfectly normal

Your problem is not Sex Addiction, but Guilt Addiction.

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Your behaviour is perfectly normal

Your problem is not Sex Addiction, but Guilt Addiction.

Surely that can't be said with any confidence without knowing the surrounding circumstances. There is a lot of relevant detail missing from the original post.... things like is the spending out of control (even vast number of keen punters work to a budget); are his reactions to girls in street so "blatant" that they cause embarrassment; is it impacting negatively on his "civilian" relationships; etc.

I'd say its common sense to see the psychologist and have a chat with him/ her, especially because its probably not a problem you can talk through with a friend. But don't expect any quick or easy improvement, psychologists aren't miracle workers. ("Pre-work"? Be prepared to be completely honest, and think through carefully what practical problems you're experiencing now, and what you want to change.)

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

If you happen to see a member of the clergy in the waiting room, give him a gentle tap on the shoulder and make yourself known to him.

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the problem is that I left a family thinking that I have not met enough women in my life yet. Now, I am not sure if I will ever be able to build long term relationships if I always look at all women on streets...

That pretty much sums up my position at the moment. Instead of saving my marriage, I took the position that there were so many beautiful women that I had yet to meet, and I felt that staying with my wife would drastically limit my opportunites for meeting/punting with beautiful women.

I mentally undress all young women that I see on the streets. Always have done. Its not enough to make me want to see a shrink tho :huh:

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the problem is that I left a family thinking that I have not met enough women in my life yet. Now, I am not sure if I will ever be able to build long term relationships if I always look at all women on streets...

You probably just got married far too young and not ready to settle down with one woman only. And you probably won't look at ALL women in that way! The pensioners and the ugly will probably be excluded I'd guess. So you saying it's ALL women you see will likely be a gross exaggeration!. You'll be a little bit selective like all men are.

You just have a strong sex drive. We are all animals, after all - ask any evolutionary biologist. In nature, the aim of life is to procreate, to sow one's seed everywhere. Whether we like it or not, we're simply part of nature - and not apart from it, looking on. All normal men lust after other women to some degree, whether they're married or not, even if only pictures of them.

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You are quite normal ;)

I look at men all the time and think I want to screw them......

I do not feel the need to go see a shrink though.

Lucy :)

I agree with lovely Lucy. I really don't think you need a psychologist - just find a girlfriend with a high sex drive! They certainly do exist, and you might have better luck than I did in finding one, In the meantime - happy shagging.

I also have similar view with Lucy7, and 'Alwayshoping.

Have you tried the following, find a GF with high sexual desire which you could always f*** before you go out. Make sure you drain out all of your semen and energy. If you do not have it anymore I fully believe any hotties you meet on the street will not cause a sexual arousal to you.

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Interesting to see experts on here who know what the OPs problem is if he has one despite never having met him. It must be brilliant to be able to diagnose and tell complete strangers you have never met what the solution to there situation is on a matter like this.

My advice is actually go and see a fully trained and qualified psychologist rather than just listen to posters on the internet, a psychologist will actually meet and talk to you in person hopefully getting to the bottom of this matter using their skills and experience.

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Umm

My belief that our evolution had made men want to spread their seed at every opportunity. Its just that has been suppressed by our socialisation.

so your state of mind is perfectly normal. Those who supress such thoughts are the wierd ones IMHO.

(Women are the same but only at their fertile part of their cycle)

Actually, looking at women in the street I find only a fairly small proportion of the ones i see i have lustful thoughts about. prob a little less than 10%.

trouble is punting is very expensive so you will have to learn how to manage within your budget or find a way to get t for free from 1 or more civilians. wish you luck with that!

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Umm

My belief that our evolution had made men want to spread their seed at every opportunity. Its just that has been suppressed by our socialisation.

so your state of mind is perfectly normal. Those who supress such thoughts are the wierd ones IMHO.

(Women are the same but only at their fertile part of their cycle)

Actually, looking at women in the street I find only a fairly small proportion of the ones i see i have lustful thoughts about. prob a little less than 10%.

trouble is punting is very expensive so you will have to learn how to manage within your budget or find a way to get t for free from 1 or more civilians. wish you luck with that!

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Umm

My belief that our evolution had made men want to spread their seed at every opportunity. Its just that has been suppressed by our socialisation.

so your state of mind is perfectly normal. Those who supress such thoughts are the wierd ones IMHO.

(Women are the same but only at their fertile part of their cycle)

Actually, looking at women in the street I find only a fairly small proportion of the ones i see i have lustful thoughts about. prob a little less than 10%.

trouble is punting is very expensive so you will have to learn how to manage within your budget or find a way to get t for free from 1 or more civilians. wish you luck with that!

Hmm

I've always struggled to get the odd one for free...sounds as if the OP needs an awful lot for free! If he looks at most women with "lust in his eyes", I suspect that he has a fundamental problem. Round these parts most are dogs...unless they are EE.

Go and see the therapist and make sure that you report back (so that any others can follow you if it seems to work)

Jack

PS Student S is on my hotlist.

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I am going to visit a psychologist with regard to what I believe is the sexual addiction: I can not pass a single girl on the street without thinking to fuck her. I am visiting wgs regularly and spending fortunes. Do you think such a visit would help me? What should I take into account before going there?

It will test your resolve if you are confronted by a sexy female...talk about walking into the lions mouth....

On a more serious note goodluck and hope it helps...

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Hmm

I've always struggled to get the odd one for free...sounds as if the OP needs an awful lot for free! If he looks at most women with "lust in his eyes", I suspect that he has a fundamental problem. Round these parts most are dogs...unless they are EE.

Go and see the therapist and make sure that you report back (so that any others can follow you if it seems to work)

Jack

PS Student S is on my hotlist.

or crack one off instead

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Surely that can't be said with any confidence without knowing the surrounding circumstances. There is a lot of relevant detail missing from the original post.... things like is the spending out of control (even vast number of keen punters work to a budget); are his reactions to girls in street so "blatant" that they cause embarrassment; is it impacting negatively on his "civilian" relationships; etc.

I'd say its common sense to see the psychologist and have a chat with him/ her, especially because its probably not a problem you can talk through with a friend. But don't expect any quick or easy improvement, psychologists aren't miracle workers. ("Pre-work"? Be prepared to be completely honest, and think through carefully what practical problems you're experiencing now, and what you want to change.)

The specific circumstances are immaterial where the underlying language and assumptions are flawed.

1) "Sex Addiction" is a self diagnosed Malapropism hyped by pop media psychologists.

2) It describe the perfectly natural and normal Biological Imperative for Reproduction.

3) The disorder is based in religious guilt (Scrupulosity) of natural biology.

When theists can control your natural biology reproductive rights the can control anything.

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The specific circumstances are immaterial where the underlying language and assumptions are flawed.

1) "Sex Addiction" is a self diagnosed Malapropism hyped by pop media psychologists.

2) It describe the perfectly natural and normal Biological Imperative for Reproduction.

3) The disorder is based in religious guilt (Scrupulosity) of natural biology.

When theists can control your natural biology reproductive rights the can control anything.

Blimey. Wipes tears of merriment from face. I'd argue that the specific circumstances can never be ignored.... not unless you want to proceed from dogma as opposed to rational evaluation of fact.

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I think some people have been a bit hard on the OP. Perhaps they weren't convinced of the OP's bona fides or his willingness to sk a pretty unanswerable question on a forum.

I do think some of the points about leaving his family and spending so much should prompt him to go through with initiating any process that may help him.

Comments about lots of us fancying people in the street isn't the same thing at all.

I accept the OP could be taking the rise but if sincere, helpful comments from forum members who have expert knowledge or relevant experience would be more helpful and/or reassuring for him, I think.

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The pyschologist will only be able to help you if you want to be helped and really want to stop. Any motivation to change must come from inside you; without it, you may be wasting your time.

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I believe 'sex addiction' isn't actually addiction to sex but a far more deep rooted problem, Like most things, in moderation they are fine- for example there is a difference between enjoying a drink and being an alcoholic or having flutter on the Grand National and being a chronic gambler. A high sex drive is fine as long as it is manageable. It becomes a problem when it feels like a problem- when its messing with your head, causing financial problems, when it impacts on your life such as causing you to mess up at work or wreck personal relationships. Therefore those of you who say 'everyone' looks at pretty girls on the street so therefore it's 'OK' aren't being helpful. The OP would not have been referred to a psychologist or be posting here if it wasn't causing him worry. It's a real problem to him.

As far as the deep rooted problem I mentioned goes, at a guess it will be stemming from a desire for love and affection caused by something such as a difficult relationship (parents or ex partner) or being bullied.

The psychologist (if they are any good) will be able to get this out of him if he opens his mind and is honest.

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I believe 'sex addiction' isn't actually addiction to sex but a far more deep rooted problem, Like most things, in moderation they are fine- for example there is a difference between enjoying a drink and being an alcoholic or having flutter on the Grand National and being a chronic gambler. A high sex drive is fine as long as it is manageable. It becomes a problem when it feels like a problem- when its messing with your head, causing financial problems, when it impacts on your life such as causing you to mess up at work or wreck personal relationships. Therefore those of you who say 'everyone' looks at pretty girls on the street so therefore it's 'OK' aren't being helpful. The OP would not have been referred to a psychologist or be posting here if it wasn't causing him worry. It's a real problem to him.

As far as the deep rooted problem I mentioned goes, at a guess it will be stemming from a desire for love and affection caused by something such as a difficult relationship (parents or ex partner) or being bullied.

The psychologist (if they are any good) will be able to get this out of him if he opens his mind and is honest.

erm yes lyd

but the OP mentioned letching at girls.

i think we were just saying we all do it and its normal, and mebbe not part of the problem.

for me if i won the euro lottery, i'd prob spend a lot on wg's But i haven't and i have had to find ways of managing it.

Perhaps failing to manage it is the issue here.

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erm yes lyd

but the OP mentioned letching at girls.

i think we were just saying we all do it and its normal, and mebbe not part of the problem.

for me if i won the euro lottery, i'd prob spend a lot on wg's But i haven't and i have had to find ways of managing it.

Perhaps failing to manage it is the issue here.

Which was what I was saying! The other part of his issue- spending lots of money is the actual problem unless he leches so blatantly he gets into trouble.

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