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I was enjoying a nice sensual body to body massage with one of the Oriental providers a couple of months back and it got a bit heated. One thing let to another and before I knew it we were having unprotected vaginal sex and then unprotected anal. I have been returning to this girl weekly and getting the same service (for no extra charge!).

Now I never done bareback before and never intended to do it. However now that I have crossed the line I am finding it very hard to go back. Every time I fancy a punt I end up going back to her as condom sex just does not appeal to me anymore. And I hate it. I know if she done it with me, then she has done it with others, even though the denies this. I so badly want to put an end to this behaviour as I know it is suicidal and sooner or later I will end up catching something nasty.

Does anyone have any tips. Can you go back to protected once you have experienced how good bareback is?

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Catching something nasty could be the good news,; it could be something fatal

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I was enjoying a nice sensual body to body massage with one of the Oriental providers a couple of months back and it got a bit heated. One thing let to another and before I knew it we were having unprotected vaginal sex and then unprotected anal. I have been returning to this girl weekly and getting the same service (for no extra charge!).

Now I never done bareback before and never intended to do it. However now that I have crossed the line I am finding it very hard to go back. Every time I fancy a punt I end up going back to her as condom sex just does not appeal to me anymore. And I hate it. I know if she done it with me, then she has done it with others, even though the denies this. I so badly want to put an end to this behaviour as I know it is suicidal and sooner or later I will end up catching something nasty.

Does anyone have any tips. Can you go back to protected once you have experienced how good bareback is?

I wouldnt be so stupid as to do BB outside a relationship nowadays and havent done so since i was a young stupid man so havent experienced your scenario.

All i can advise is if smart you will stop risking your health like this and wear a condom, and get yourself checked out at a GUM.

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Mother of God Podge! What possible tips can be given? almost no issue that it happened the first time, it's happened to me in the heat of the moment - gotten very familiar after a few visits, she's flicking my dongle against her clit I assumed to bring herself off mid foreplay (she later ignorantly appeals that she didn't feel it that risky as long as i didn't cum inside her ...explained my pre cum and contact with her once was all it took) then she suddenly slips it in!!! told her it felt great but we shouldn't, covered up and carried on, she was very apologetic and offered to show me her text from the GUM clinic a week ago saying all clear, thanked her for the reassurance but no need, marked the date in my calendar and allowed a few weeks to get tested, all clear thankfully, 3 months later all clear again

I enjoyed many years bareback with Mrs dami3n and there's nothing like it though a good and I mean good sloppy OWO with DT comes quite close

if she disregards hers and her 'private' partners sexual health this much then dude your on a dangerous fast track cos as they say you might as well be having bareback sex with everyone else she's had it with

So NOT worth all the orgasms in the world

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Does anyone have any tips. Can you go back to protected once you have experienced how good bareback is?

The first tip would be to stay away from this lady. It is a racing certainty that she gives all her clients BB. You are just one of a long line of stupid blokes taking a massive gamble with your health.

The second tip would be to visit a GUM clinic for all the tests they will let you have. Then return to the clinic in 3 and 6 months to be absolutely certain that you are clear

The third tip would be a very cynical one which I will not post on here. However I would be surprised if many of the escorts who read here would accept a booking from you.

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I was enjoying a nice sensual body to body massage with one of the Oriental providers a couple of months back and it got a bit heated. One thing let to another and before I knew it we were having unprotected vaginal sex and then unprotected anal. I have been returning to this girl weekly and getting the same service (for no extra charge!).

Now I never done bareback before and never intended to do it. However now that I have crossed the line I am finding it very hard to go back. Every time I fancy a punt I end up going back to her as condom sex just does not appeal to me anymore. And I hate it. I know if she done it with me, then she has done it with others, even though the denies this. I so badly want to put an end to this behaviour as I know it is suicidal and sooner or later I will end up catching something nasty.

Does anyone have any tips. Can you go back to protected once you have experienced how good bareback is?

What sort of tips are you looking for for goodness sake? The fact that you have posted on here shows that you are worried about the risks you are taking. There is nothing we can offer that will lessen that risk other than counselling you to stop. If you really "hate it" and "badly want to put an end to this behaviour", then do so immediately. Protected sex might not "appeal any more", but at least it doesn't carry the risk of an early and unpleasant demise. After a few weeks of no sex, perhaps your view on condoms might change again. Best of luck.

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Know exactly what you mean.

The only tip is to try be as very, very careful with who you do it with. The woman you're doing it with, to me, sounds far too risky... and ive been there myself and its very tempting, but it is quite scary. You have to try find an escort who you both get on well together and trust.

The way i see it is, i dont mind taking the odd risk every so many months, allows me so i can get tested before i do it with anyone else and that way i cant be responsible for hurting anyone else. If i could find an escort who thought exactly like me then id be seeing her weekly i really would. But almost all decent escorts either wont do it at all, or they cost too much, or live too far away.

Im 31, i have no kids, wife or girlfriend, im not bothered about living past the age of 50 - i dont even contribute to a pension scheme (which i can easily afford) because i wont see any benefit from it. If i could find love and settle down then id want to live till old age, but life after 50... (no offence to such guys reading this) rinkled up, grey/bald hair, saggy body, slow reactions, no thanks. Im living my life now.

Lately, wont do it with an escort who does it on a first meeting and costs less than £100 extra. I know theres still risk but its less riskier than an escort who does it with absolutely anyone for like £20 extra. If i can see she is genuinely concerned about her safety, thats my sign that she's not doing it with many or anyone else.

Sex with a condom to me is totally meaningless, its exactly the same as masturbation so id rather keep my money... unless she's drop dead gorgeous looking with a genuine passion for sex so than i can keep myself hard for her with a condom. But to me, there arnt that many seriously fit stunners who are escorting. So i dont punt all that much.

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The third tip would be a very cynical one which I will not post on here. However I would be surprised if many of the escorts who read here would accept a booking from you.

How are they going to know who he is ? It's unlikely that he introduces himself as Mr Podge!!!!!

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a nice dose of the clap or chlamidia will make you re-think.

When it feels like your pissing broken glass for a week and your bell-end is to sore to touch, it makes you wonder if it was worth it...

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Being retired and enjoying a monogamous relationship, I can definitely support the merits of the natural approach.

However, were I not retired, such talk would concern me and I would be keen to know whom to avoid. This is, after all, a shared hobby.

I am definitely in favour of the expression of personal opinion and choice but in this case, even if the primaries accept the risk, the next person, or the next, or the next in the chain, probably does not.

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I can hardly believe what I'm reading from OP and one of the replies. If they weren't both long term signed up I'd have guessed it was trolling

FFS! It scares the living shit out of me to think that I might share WGs with such guys

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Some ask why I am posting. I suppose I am looking for you lot to confirm how fucking stupid I am, some words of encouragement, perhaps tips from others who were in the same boat and how they stopped. I am not happy about doing this but somebody who PM'd me and is doing the same described it as a magnet. I think once your attracted to it it's damn hard to get away. BTW, it's been 3 weeks since my last episode and am trying my best to stay away from this lady. Appointment at the GUM clinic coming up next week.

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BTW, for all those who say "I would never do bareback, people who do bareback are stupid", please don't get complacent. 3 months ago I was saying the same thing as you. 5 years ago I was in the "I always use a condom for oral, people who do OWO are stupid" camp. You never know what choices you (or your dick) will make down the line.

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Know exactly what you mean.

The only tip is to try be as very, very careful with who you do it with. The woman you're doing it with, to me, sounds far too risky... and ive been there myself and its very tempting, but it is quite scary. You have to try find an escort who you both get on well together and trust.

The way i see it is, i dont mind taking the odd risk every so many months, allows me so i can get tested before i do it with anyone else and that way i cant be responsible for hurting anyone else. If i could find an escort who thought exactly like me then id be seeing her weekly i really would. But almost all decent escorts either wont do it at all, or they cost too much, or live too far away.

Im 31, i have no kids, wife or girlfriend, im not bothered about living past the age of 50 - i dont even contribute to a pension scheme (which i can easily afford) because i wont see any benefit from it. If i could find love and settle down then id want to live till old age, but life after 50... (no offence to such guys reading this) rinkled up, grey/bald hair, saggy body, slow reactions, no thanks. Im living my life now.

Lately, wont do it with an escort who does it on a first meeting and costs less than £100 extra. I know theres still risk but its less riskier than an escort who does it with absolutely anyone for like £20 extra. If i can see she is genuinely concerned about her safety, thats my sign that she's not doing it with many or anyone else.

Sex with a condom to me is totally meaningless, its exactly the same as masturbation so id rather keep my money... unless she's drop dead gorgeous looking with a genuine passion for sex so than i can keep myself hard for her with a condom. But to me, there arnt that many seriously fit stunners who are escorting. So i dont punt all that much.

A WG is a complete or virtual stranger to me so however much i might like or trust her i wouldnt trust her enough to risk my health by doing BB with her as i wouldnt with a non-WG either. The reason is i cant know for definite, definite enough to put my health on it that she hasnt done BB with other punters and indeed non-punters. What a WG charges is neither here nor there to this to my mind, it certainly wouldnt influence me to practice BB because the WG charges more than another one does, that doesnt mean anything to me and wouldnt make any difference.

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I suppose I am looking for you lot to confirm how fucking stupid I am

I doubt that you are inherently fucking stupid Podge, but you are certainly behaving in a manner that is FUCKING STUPID at the moment (always happy to oblige a civil request :)) Get thee to that GUM clinic and consider your options once you get the all clear and realise how good that feels.

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BTW, for all those who say "I would never do bareback, people who do bareback are stupid", please don't get complacent. 3 months ago I was saying the same thing as you. 5 years ago I was in the "I always use a condom for oral, people who do OWO are stupid" camp. You never know what choices you (or your dick) will make down the line.

I do know what choices i will be making, just like for the last 30 ish years i havent practised BB outside of a relationship and i wont be doing so in future. Going from OW to BB is a big jump though thats for sure.

Fear of catching a nasty or worse will ensure i use a condom, i would be so worried about catching something that the reason i punt, fun, would be replaced by fear and worry so it wouldnt be worth doing it in the first place.

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Some ask why I am posting. I suppose I am looking for you lot to confirm how fucking stupid I am, some words of encouragement, perhaps tips from others who were in the same boat and how they stopped. I am not happy about doing this but somebody who PM'd me and is doing the same described it as a magnet. I think once your attracted to it it's damn hard to get away. BTW, it's been 3 weeks since my last episode and am trying my best to stay away from this lady. Appointment at the GUM clinic coming up next week.

Sorry Podge, no words of encouragement are in order. You're a fucking idiot with no self discipline or control. Get a grip is my only advice.

I have bareback sex with my wife only. I would never dream of it with another girl unless I change my long term partner and develop that trust over time. It doesn't matter whether with a WG or if I pulled a girl in the real world it would not happen and anyone who behaves that way deserves what they get IMO.

I assume you're fairly immature (not just stupid). Yes bareback sex feels nicer but with the right girl sex is also amazing with a condom. When you grow up you'll realize that there's more to sex than just the feeling of your cock inside someone.

Sorry to be harsh but entirely justified in your case I think. :mad:

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You said you are avoiding said WG, well at the end of the day the person participating is you and you need to sort yourself out. Make a decision and stick to it.

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How are they going to know who he is ? It's unlikely that he introduces himself as Mr Podge!!!!!

If he's daft enough to indulge in BB, he's daft enough to try to book under his handle.

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You never know what choices you (or your dick) will make down the line.

It's clear what he is thinking with in this case. I'm glad that the majority of posters are in the same camp as me.

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You never know what choices you (or your dick) will make down the line.

My dick has indeed made bad choices in the past as far as who I've been with, but even it's never been stupid enough to even be tempted to do it unprotected. :eek:

As I've grown older and just a little wiser, I let my top brain make the decisions these days and always ensure it takes precedence over the one in my nether regions! :)

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My dick has indeed made bad choices in the past as far as who I've been with, but even it's never been stupid enough to even be tempted to do it unprotected. :eek:

As I've grown older and just a little wiser, I let my top brain make the decisions these days and always ensure it takes precedence over the one in my nether regions! :)

Very wise Velcro Head. It took me many years to stop thinking with my dick, but like you it never thought BB was a good idea outside of a relationship. :)

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Some of the advice given above is about as useful as Cameron telling the EU to sort out the fucking Euro crisis. He knows its stupid but is looking for some help in how to address the problem. It is in effect an addiction.

A while ago, when my punting got seriously out of hand and I was attending a GUM clinic for a check up, I mentioned to the doctor that punting was taking over my life. The doctor referred me to a sex psychiatrist. After several visits I got things back in control. Maybe this is something for Podge to try rather than be told 100's of times he's a fucking idiot. He knows that he wants some help.

Ben

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Some of the advice given above is about as useful as Cameron telling the EU to sort out the fucking Euro crisis. He knows its stupid but is looking for some help in how to address the problem. It is in effect an addiction.

A while ago, when my punting got seriously out of hand and I was attending a GUM clinic for a check up, I mentioned to the doctor that punting was taking over my life. The doctor referred me to a sex psychiatrist. After several visits I got things back in control. Maybe this is something for Podge to try rather than be told 100's of times he's a fucking idiot. He knows that he wants some help.

Ben

Why didnt you mention this in your first post earlier then if you feel like this. We are a forum, its up to him to decide what he does, most have advised him to stop doing BB, the decision and action to take is obviously down to Podge.

It was always going to be blindlingly obvious that posters would post what they have in my opinion, i have no idea if he is addicted to BB or not as i dont know him and never heard of him before so i cant make a snap judgement on whether he is addicted and needs professional help. To me its not as clear cut as someone saying they have been injecting Heroin for months and need help, which shows they are an addict. Just not doing it is my best advice. If he feels he needs professional help to achieve that then good luck to him and i hope it goes well. His GP or GUM would be the logical places to consider to go to to get initial advice i would think.

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Some of the advice given above is about as useful as Cameron telling the EU to sort out the fucking Euro crisis. He knows its stupid but is looking for some help in how to address the problem. It is in effect an addiction.

A while ago, when my punting got seriously out of hand and I was attending a GUM clinic for a check up, I mentioned to the doctor that punting was taking over my life. The doctor referred me to a sex psychiatrist. After several visits I got things back in control. Maybe this is something for Podge to try rather than be told 100's of times he's a fucking idiot. He knows that he wants some help.

Ben

At last, someone speaks sense on this thread. Nice one Ben!

Sorry Podge, no words of encouragement are in order. You're a fucking idiot with no self discipline or control. Get a grip is my only advice.

Yeah, thanks for that. Telling someone that they are a 'fucking idiot' is not helpful at all. Be sure to tell me to call the Fire Brigade when my house is burning away, or tell me to go to casualty when my head's been chopped off! You could learn from Big Ben's approach. If one of us asks for help, don't condemn, don't reject and don't insult. Better to say fuck all, really.

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