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Punting Stigma

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10 years ago i would never dream of admitting to anyone i saw escort ladies, but now, apart from my parents, i am pretty relaxed about who i tell as i think it is a fairly standard thing to do for men, i certainly do not think punting is such a frowned about activity as it once was.

Agree or disagree, and why.

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10 years ago i would never dream of admitting to anyone i saw escort ladies, but now, apart from my parents, i am pretty relaxed about who i tell as i think it is a fairly standard thing to do for men, i certainly do not think punting is such a frowned about activity as it once was.

Agree or disagree, and why.

If you have something to lose like a partner, family or certain jobs i would advise great caution who you tell, once its out its out. I never told anyone for many years but the one time i was tempted it was lucky i didnt as i fell out bigtime with the guy and he was such a cunt i wouldnt of been surprised if he would of told my then partner out of spite.

I have told mates in recent years with no problems so far, some think its seedy and others beneath them, and the more enlightened are more accepting. Our society is a very long way from prostitution being accepted and the media and femi-nazi influenced agenda doesnt help of course. The stereotype of the street worker junkie and the mac wearing pervert need to be challenged as Dr Magnanti/Belle has done, thing is many more Dr Magnantis are needed.

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Personally the only person who knows that I punt is myself (other than the ladies I see, of course).

I'm not ashamed of it, but you never know when or how any wider knowledge may come back and prejudice you in some way (either at home, in your career, or whatever)

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Unless you're a politician or something, no one bothers any more.

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I'm not ashamed of it, but you never know when or how any wider knowledge may come back and prejudice you in some way (either at home, in your career, or whatever)

I agree.

Also from a providers side, my family would accept what I do at a push, but would their friends/partners?

I think not.

I never would like to compromise my loved ones, so as much as I am very comfortable and proud of what I do, I will not be telling anyone.

I have met a few men who say their friends/family know of their activities, and say no one seems to judge them.

These are single men though.

Lucy :)

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Never tell anyone, ever.

You may feel it doesnt matter now but you never know when a future girlfriend or employer finds out and causes problems for you.

Its a secret I will take to my grave. And i hope my tracks are covered enough for it not to come out after my death.

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Unless you're a politician or something, no one bothers any more.

How do YOU know who is bothered? In reality you dont and cant know who would be bothered, i think many partners would be very bothered as shown on here when a punter has posted about being caught out by one. So this is real rubbish you have posted in my view.

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Never tell anyone, ever.

Yup, pretty much this. We know the scene is not like it's shown in the media. Non punters only have that to go on and so we'll always be pervs.

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Yup, pretty much this. We know the scene is not like it's shown in the media. Non punters only have that to go on and so we'll always be pervs.

Agree absolutely.

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The reality is that this industry is still very much frowned upon by the mainstream. The majority know so little about it's shocking. When I've been discussing the topic with people (who are unaware of my shenanigans) I'm often left in shock.

The two most notable responses recently;

"I'm against the sex industry completely; those poor women being forced into that!", and

"It's wrong. Even if the girls are getting lots of money it's not normal. I mean, you wouldn't find a prostitute who was like you or me." (Hmmmn, OK then)

I wish I were joking but these were comments from liberal women who I thought were really rather smart and clued up about things. :(

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The reality is that this industry is still very much frowned upon by the mainstream. The majority know so little about it's shocking. When I've been discussing the topic with people (who are unaware of my shenanigans) I'm often left in shock.

The two most notable responses recently;

"I'm against the sex industry completely; those poor women being forced into that!", and

"It's wrong. Even if the girls are getting lots of money it's not normal. I mean, you wouldn't find a prostitute who was like you or me." (Hmmmn, OK then)

I wish I were joking but these were comments from liberal women who I thought were really rather smart and clued up about things. :(

I have heard the first response myself. Another is that WGs must be dirty skanky disease ridden scum spreading their filthy diseases about, and men who pay for sex must be ugly perverted losers. Some people are so brainwashed that they just believe the media stereotypes and dont bother to or dont want to delve further to discover the truth about prostitution beyond the media agenda.

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Let the ignorant think what they want to think, I do what I want to do and as long as I am having fun I don't care. The only thing is that its a secret I will take with me to the great beyond.

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I have heard the first response myself. Another is that WGs must be dirty skanky disease ridden scum spreading their filthy diseases about, and men who pay for sex must be ugly perverted losers. Some people are so brainwashed that they just believe the media stereotypes and dont bother to or dont want to delve further to discover the truth about prostitution beyond the media agenda.

The other response it that its illegal. Most think it is.

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Never tell anyone, ever.

You may feel it doesnt matter now but you never know when a future girlfriend or employer finds out and causes problems for you.

Its a secret I will take to my grave. And i hope my tracks are covered enough for it not to come out after my death.

You and me both- even though friends of mine have admitted visits to the RLD in Amsterdam.

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Id never tell anyone if Im honest.

Its none of their concern anyway (Why would I want to tell them I punt?) , but I dont want it comng out and coming back to haunt me.

Id likely loose my job, or at the very least make my life very embarressing and difficult, especially if I want to go for a promotion or leave to find another job.

Dont think my neighbours would be too happy either. Some think its the same thing as a rapist or peodophile...

I think my family would be upset as well that Ive resorted to paying for companionship rather than looking for a real girlfriend....

So only ones who know I punt, are you posters and the WGs I meet. And Ive never met any of you..(one of two maybe walked passed but think Im still safe) And no one knows my real name.

I might be overly paranoid thou and if it comes out, the no cares or thinks "wow! You've have sex with her! You lucky bugger!" and think its cool.

But im not willing to tell all and find out which. Im keeping stum to be on the safe side...

Edited by Overworked

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Interesting responses, but do you all think attitudes are different amongst different age groups? I don't think u30's care at all, 30-40 more of a mixed bag of feelings, over 40's i think is where the frowwning still occurrs. I am speculating, i have no proof to back up my theories, other than the odd conversation with people.

What really pisses me off, is the comment women will say, "It's wrong. Even if the girls are getting lots of money it's not normal. I mean, you wouldn't find a prostitute who was like you or me."

Now, i can only go off women i know, but as i have said before, after one too many drinks, most of the women i know, some tv personalities, some oxbridge graduates, some City girls, some lawyers, ssome housewives, admit to having over 20 different sexual partners, yet a number have said exactly the above comment!!

My response is always the same, escort girls have greater business acumen then their civvie peers, but lets be blunt, young women nowadays enjoy sleeping with lots of different men, it's their way of being independant i suppose. For civvies to criticise escorts is pathetic.

If i am born again as a woman, i will definitely be an escort!! Tried male escorting, sadly no demand whatsoever!!!!

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Never tell anyone, ever.

You may feel it doesnt matter now but you never know when a future girlfriend or employer finds out and causes problems for you.

Its a secret I will take to my grave. And i hope my tracks are covered enough for it not to come out after my death.

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I don't remember reading that the scientist, Brooke Magnanti (Belle du jour), or her clients, were thought all that badly of when she confessed that she was the blogger. Perhaps it helps if you're an intellectual, high class, part time call-girl with a career to prove your intellectual credentials in the real world?

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Tell no-one, why the hell would you want to tell anyone? Punting is only cool if you're Charlie Sheen.

A friend of mine told a few of us about seeing escorts he'd seen while he was single. I said nothing at the time. A year later, new girlfriend, in love, quit punting and has to worry what one of us (not me) will say if we've had one too many. I can see the tension in his eyes when he is with us and his gf, it's like he'd rather not be with us. I'm certain from talking to his gf that she would be disgusted if he admitted to using escorts. Like I say, keep your mouth shut circumstances can change quickly.

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Tell no-one, why the hell would you want to tell anyone? Punting is only cool if you're Charlie Sheen.

A friend of mine told a few of us about seeing escorts he'd seen while he was single. I said nothing at the time. A year later, new girlfriend, in love, quit punting and has to worry what one of us (not me) will say if we've had one too many. I can see the tension in his eyes when he is with us and his gf, it's like he'd rather not be with us. I'm certain from talking to his gf that she would be disgusted if he admitted to using escorts. Like I say, keep your mouth shut circumstances can change quickly.

That is fine if she is a virgin, or only slept with a couple of guys who she genuinely fell in love with, but most women have slept with guys just for a bit of fun, had one night stands or been a bit naughty in ibiza etc, i find it annoying that such women would find it disgusting if a guy has seen escorts, double standards in my opinion.

I dont go around shouting from roof tops that i see escorts, but i'm not embarrassed about it either.

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I would never tell anyone - society looks down on this whole business. It's one thing when people find out that it's a celebrity and it's reported in the media. It's quite another when it's someone they know or work with.

Even if I didn't have to worry about an employer finding out, it's still not something I'd want family and friends knowing.

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it can only be a stigma if you allow it to be, there are worse people out there i.e. bankers,politicians and tabloid journalists!

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If you tell you pull yourself down in front of others. You humiliate yourself even though you don't look at it that way, because people think there's something deeply wrong or inadequate about you that you have to end up paying a woman for sex rather than getting it in a more 'normal' way.

And if you're a man in your 60s and want sex with a girl in her 20s you're considered to be disgusting and a pervert.

But.Ralph Vaughan Williams, the great English composer, was 65 when he pulled a girl of 27 - Ursula - who later became his wife! And they were both already married at the time! Now how do people like that get away with it? Why are people not disgusted by someone like that? Is it all because of his creative genius? Does that somehow make up for everything?

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If you tell you pull yourself down in front of others. You humiliate yourself even though you don't look at it that way, because people think there's something deeply wrong or inadequate about you that you have to end up paying a woman for sex rather than getting it in a more 'normal' way.

And if you're a man in your 60s and want sex with a girl in her 20s you're considered to be disgusting and a pervert.

But.Ralph Vaughan Williams, the great English composer, was 65 when he pulled a girl of 27 - Ursula - who later became his wife! And they were both already married at the time! Now how do people like that get away with it? Why are people not disgusted by someone like that? Is it all because of his creative genius? Does that somehow make up for everything?

I forgive him simply for 'The Lark Ascending' ...

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I would love to share my experiences of this hobby with certain mates, I think it could enhance their lives greatly, as it has mine. However, it will remain a secret (I hope). Like smiths, my best mate in the world turned into a cunt in circumstances which I could never have anticipated - I thought the world of this bloke. I would have been very uncomfortable if he'd known about my punting shenanigans :eek:

As others have said, you never know how circumstances can change, sometimes very suddenly. The stigma associated with our hobby is very wrong but very real, and unfortunately is unlikely to change for a long time :mad:

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