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Outcall To My Home - Warning Signs?

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I've looked over various outcall topics and can't find an answer to this

New profile on **, very sparse, single pic, not her face, and couple of lines of text, but looks like the kind of thing I like. Only does outcalls.

We exchange a few emails, very business like, nothing that says scam. She agrees to fee and services, I give her my postcode (I live in London), and the nearest tube stations and buses - also offer to pick her up in the car. She says she will come by public transport and asks for my address. She's sent me her mobile number without me suggesting it.

I check mobile and her email on google, nothing on either except rather oddly her mobile is the same as one in Northern Ireland offering to organise a disco - assume I can ignore that. Tineye shows nothing on the photo.

I've had a couple of girls come to my flat but always ones I've met before elsewhere, have no problem with that, I'm single and live on my own and don't have much to nick anyway

I can't meet her in a local coffee shop or bar because there isn't one close by, I've offered to pick her up from a station and she is ok getting the bus, which is fine.

For some reason this situation makes me feel really uneasy. Most likely she is an indie who is ok with a decent fee for a few hours but I have a feeling something is wrong, usually I would walk away but I can't see what it is and I might be walking away from a good session and longer engagement.

I can ask her to do all the stuff that indies make guys do, turning up to a road, calling, going somewhere, etc.

I can just give her my address and see what happens - after all my address isn't a secret destination

I can insist on meeting her in a pub/bar/coffee shop and going on

My problem is that if she is genuine, which she appears to be, why not just give her the address?

Don't know if I am reading too much into this and appreciate your advice

charly

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I've looked over various outcall topics and can't find an answer to this

New profile on **, very sparse, single pic, not her face, and couple of lines of text, but looks like the kind of thing I like. Only does outcalls.

We exchange a few emails, very business like, nothing that says scam. She agrees to fee and services, I give her my postcode (I live in London), and the nearest tube stations and buses - also offer to pick her up in the car. She says she will come by public transport and asks for my address. She's sent me her mobile number without me suggesting it.

I check mobile and her email on google, nothing on either except rather oddly her mobile is the same as one in Northern Ireland offering to organise a disco - assume I can ignore that. Tineye shows nothing on the photo.

I've had a couple of girls come to my flat but always ones I've met before elsewhere, have no problem with that, I'm single and live on my own and don't have much to nick anyway

I can't meet her in a local coffee shop or bar because there isn't one close by, I've offered to pick her up from a station and she is ok getting the bus, which is fine.

For some reason this situation makes me feel really uneasy. Most likely she is an indie who is ok with a decent fee for a few hours but I have a feeling something is wrong, usually I would walk away but I can't see what it is and I might be walking away from a good session and longer engagement.

I can ask her to do all the stuff that indies make guys do, turning up to a road, calling, going somewhere, etc.

I can just give her my address and see what happens - after all my address isn't a secret destination

I can insist on meeting her in a pub/bar/coffee shop and going on

My problem is that if she is genuine, which she appears to be, why not just give her the address?

Don't know if I am reading too much into this and appreciate your advice

charly

I would never do an outcall to my own home and havent in 29 years of punting as it breaches my basic security and anonymity, but i would advise you to go with your gut instinct. However, if you decide to go ahead i hope it goes well.

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Some ladies simply don't, won't meet anywhere else but the address, and for her basic security she really should be checking out the address in advance. Think about it, she's advertising a sexual service and is about to head off on public transport at her expense, to meet a male she knows nothing about. I'm gobsmacked how many girls don't do the basic security checks, even if it's just to avoid having their time wasted by being sent to a 'mates' house for fun, never mind not being concerned about their own safety.

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I've had a couple of girls come to my flat but always ones I've met before elsewhere...

charly

not sure what she has done to make you nervous but as you've

only had girls over who you've previously met

why not have an incall with her first ?(unless she does outcalls only).

if all goes well you can have her over to yours the next time if you

want.

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Listen to your punting instinct.

If your not sure, then dont.

Edited by Overworked

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If a lady doesn't ask for the address before doing a call to there I'd be concerned tbh. We need to make sure we're going to be safe, and going to someone's house rather than a hotel is always a much bigger risk!

What does your gut say, and what's making you feel uneasy about the set up?

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Has she asked for your name or landline number? I gather girls who do house visits ask for this info so they can check you are who you say you are and also to give this info to a buddy? Maybe the fact she seems quite laidback about it has made you nervous because you would expect her to have more rigorous security checks? Maybe it's just old fashioned nerves/apprehension because you don't know what to expect- having ,met the other ladies you invited to yours previously?

Can you see her from a window or intercom system before you open the door when she arrives? Just in case she does rock up with a bloke.

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Agreed with a Strawberry, London PinUp and Lydia posts. It is rather strange that she did not asked you for your address and landline telephone number before agreeing to appointment. BTW: Coldcapshroom, OP already mentioned that she does outcalls only.

I cant understand why she refused your offer to pick her up from the station and take bus to your home instead. After all: she only know your post code, and nearest bus stop can be as much as few miles away from your house. Everybody knows that bus never stops where you want them to. About mile away at least, lol. Not exactly convenient to trot at least quarter of mile on the high stiletto hills and looking for your house number. (providing that at this point that she got it from you, and it was not any glitches in communication, bad signal on her mobile, etc).

She could be of course a genuine girl, maybe just to trustful, unexperienced and tad naive and careless. If you will meet her, and everything will work out ok, please tell her to get an address and land line number (as well as talk to the client on this number) before she committed to the appointment. Also, tell her never meet in the public place too (bar, pub, restaurant, etc) unless of course she met the client before.

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Thanks for all your comments. I think I feel uneasy because she's not completely professional (asking for landline and home address as Lydia says) and turns down a lift which as Rada says is a fairly odd thing to do as waiting for a bus in the rain isn't something most people would volunteer for. She's also completely new on ** might suggest that she is a bit inexperienced but also she has no feedback.

Part of it might be just that I nearly always do incall so a bit of nerves, on the other hand I don't fancy having a bloke storm into the flat at the same time.

charly

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Thanks for all your comments. I think I feel uneasy because she's not completely professional (asking for landline and home address as Lydia says) and turns down a lift which as Rada says is a fairly odd thing to do as waiting for a bus in the rain isn't something most people would volunteer for. She's also completely new on ** might suggest that she is a bit inexperienced but also she has no feedback.

Part of it might be just that I nearly always do incall so a bit of nerves, on the other hand I don't fancy having a bloke storm into the flat at the same time.

charly

Two questions why would a bloke storm into your flat, what would be in it for him?surely her going through with the booking and getting her fee is going to be an easier, more legal option?

She might also not fancy getting into a strangers car, I prefer to be in charge of my own transport and the only times I've gotten into a client's car has been when I've been given enough information to leave so someone has a chance of tracing me should I disappear or have to call for help.

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If you really don't fancy seeing her, just tell her you need to cancel. Give plenty of notice and I'm sure she'll be fine.

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Oh and if you do meet her and she's fine, but just naive and inexperienced then point her in the direction of saafe,

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Thanks for all your comments. I think I feel uneasy because she's not completely professional (asking for landline and home address as Lydia says) and turns down a lift which as Rada says is a fairly odd thing to do as waiting for a bus in the rain isn't something most people would volunteer for. She's also completely new on ** might suggest that she is a bit inexperienced but also she has no feedback.

Part of it might be just that I nearly always do incall so a bit of nerves, on the other hand I don't fancy having a bloke storm into the flat at the same time.

charly

It's not odd. I'd prefer to get a taxi from a station rather than get into a strangers car. It also means you have to have an address to go to (so I can let someone know where I'll be), whereas in a car you could be taking her anywhere.

I certainly wouldn't set off without an address first.

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Thanks for all your comments. I think I feel uneasy because she's not completely professional (asking for landline and home address as Lydia says) and turns down a lift which as Rada says is a fairly odd thing to do as waiting for a bus in the rain isn't something most people would volunteer for. She's also completely new on ** might suggest that she is a bit inexperienced but also she has no feedback.

Part of it might be just that I nearly always do incall so a bit of nerves, on the other hand I don't fancy having a bloke storm into the flat at the same time.

charly

Have you spoken to her ? You found " her " on the other site . You don't want some bloke storming into the flat ? Have you considered "she "may be that bloke ? With all your doubts it would be better not to go ahead . Would you be completly relaxed anyway , what about if her bloke came sliding down your chimney ?

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My flat doesn't have chimney but for some reason it does have a turret, so he might break in there and abseil down...

I'm pretty careful with escorts I haven't met - take about the right amount of money, don't take any cards or wallet, etc, so I'm more concerned that in my own flat there isn't much I can do if it does turn nasty, however unlikely that might be.

Exchanged a few emails today and just think she is new to this (as, to outcall, am I) - I'm picking her up at the station so reassured I'll have a chance to check her out in a public place.

I'll pass on the suggestions from Strawberry and others

Thanks for all your advice and comments

charly

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Oh and if you do meet her and she's fine, but just naive and inexperienced then point her in the direction of saafe,

Yeah, if sh'es happy to just climb into a total strangers car and go bobbling off to some unknown location with said total stranger it sounds like she needs it. How is she going to let somebody know where she's going if she doesn't know herself? No offence to the OP, but you could be any random nutter and if she hasn't done any proper security checks you could have told her any old address anyway and then just drive her off to wherever you felt like. It happens, too.

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Just a quick follow up, picked her up from the station and had a brilliant session, one of the best in 10 years of punting and several 100 escorts.

I mentioned some of the points that have been made and she pointed out that she had my car registration and me on the security cameras around the station and a few other things. Not sure I completely agree with her but she definitely isn't naive.

Guess I was worried about nothing here but thanks for your comments

charly

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Just a quick follow up, picked her up from the station and had a brilliant session, one of the best in 10 years of punting and several 100 escorts.

I mentioned some of the points that have been made and she pointed out that she had my car registration and me on the security cameras around the station and a few other things. Not sure I completely agree with her but she definitely isn't naive.

Guess I was worried about nothing here but thanks for your comments

charly

Great to hear it went well Charly. :)

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