brummyboy2008

Threesome Etiquette

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I'm contemplating my first threesome and don't want to jeopardise things by not knowing the do's and dont's.

For example, I appreciate that a fresh condom is required if going from penetration with one lady to penetration with the other. But what about oral? If I've gone down on one lady, is it ok to go down on the other, or is some hygiene ritual required in between? And what about DFK?

All advice will be appreciated.

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Personally I let the ladies remain in charge. I think condom swap is a given when changing partner for penetration. I like owo so unless the ladies prefer not to offer that service, I don't wear protection for oral. As for oral on the ladies, I can't recall anything from the ladies asking me to stop for a clean or anything else. Kissing and oral with the ladies interchanged, just usually go with the flow.

My advice, relax, let the ladies know what you want but once the action starts let them run the show. Can't go wrong really.

Have a great time...let us know how you got on!

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I'm contemplating my first threesome and don't want to jeopardise things by not knowing the do's and dont's.

For example, I appreciate that a fresh condom is required if going from penetration with one lady to penetration with the other. But what about oral? If I've gone down on one lady, is it ok to go down on the other, or is some hygiene ritual required in between? And what about DFK?

All advice will be appreciated.

Check this with the actual WGs of course but i have rarely had problems doing RO one after the other or kissing back and forth mixing each others fluids. Before the hygienists give me yet another lecture, its always consentual and the WGs decide what they offer and in what way, totally up to them.

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I'm contemplating my first threesome and don't want to jeopardise things by not knowing the do's and dont's.

For example, I appreciate that a fresh condom is required if going from penetration with one lady to penetration with the other. But what about oral? If I've gone down on one lady, is it ok to go down on the other, or is some hygiene ritual required in between? And what about DFK?

All advice will be appreciated.

Depends if youve got a real threesome and the girls will be kissing, fingering and oralling (cant think of a more appropriate word - hate licking out) each other as well as you in which case you'll all be kissing and o'ing each other at the same time. So its unlikely that as theyve had oral with each other and you have RO with them that you'll need to rinse out before kissing them. Or it may be a rather tame one when the girls just take turns on you and vice versa with one effectively spectating

The latter is just doing more of the same as in a 121 but the former is an entirely different experience

I'd establish which one you're after and that the girls will provide it

I know which one I'd go for....

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It will depend on the ladies. I did have one dire threesome where one lady would perform OWO then the other would get the wipes out and clinically wipe down my dick before she started OWO but usually the ladies have felt no need for special precautions with kissing, oral or RO. Changing condoms between ladies is essential. The best ladies are skilled at quick condom application and I haven't found it interrupting the pace of the encounter in any way.

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It will depend on the ladies. I did have one dire threesome where one lady would perform OWO then the other would get the wipes out and clinically wipe down my dick before she started OWO but usually the ladies have felt no need for special precautions with kissing, oral or RO. Changing condoms between ladies is essential. The best ladies are skilled at quick condom application and I haven't found it interrupting the pace of the encounter in any way.

Bit strange. OWO itself would be more of a risk than the saliva of the other girl. Maybe it wasn't a disease issue.

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In my, limited, experience the ladies both kissed and "went down" on each other without any fuss so I just followed the crowd.

If you follow their lead you won't go far wrong.

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I tried to French kiss with two ladies at the same time: three tongues meeting together. But it doesn't work for me (I felt two tongues). I prefer to French kiss with one lady at a time.

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The condom swap is an issue for me actually. I am a huge advocate of safe sex, but in a 3sum having to change condoms in between penetration just kills the mood. Reason being is every 3sum i have had has been paid for, wouldnt know how to even get it on 'civvie' street, and the girls i extensively research always are genuinely bi and fancy each other and are 'off duty' sex buddies blah blah. Point is, they claim to be essentially close friends and private fuck buddies. So, in a nutshell, very close!!

Hence, when suddenely asked to chaange condoms my fiirst thought is they obviously do not trust each other that much, so cant be that close, and seemingly obviously don't sleep with each other privately and share sex toys intimately, which when i ask, they claim to!!

Perhaps if girlss just said bluntly we do 3sums to get a butt load more money i'd not lose my erection as i chaange condom swap as i wont feel a sense of disappointment!! But then, a 3sum isnt worth the money is it!!

Bottom line, forget the 3sum, it's not worth the money. The only 3sums worth having are on 'civvie' street like punter14 has experienced.

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I tried to French kiss with two ladies at the same time: three tongues meeting together. But it doesn't work for me (I felt two tongues). I prefer to French kiss with one lady at a time.

3-way kissing is the biggest waste of time of all time as it alllows girls to get away with tongue flicking, when what us french kiss adddicts want is full on tonsil hockey with tongue sucking etc!!

And girls never snog each other hard in my 3sums. Thank god for Viv Thomas art of kissing and pink velvet DVD's and HD. Now, someone hurry up and invent virtual reality TV..........!!

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The condom swap is an issue for me actually. I am a huge advocate of safe sex, but in a 3sum having to change condoms in between penetration just kills the mood. Reason being is every 3sum i have had has been paid for, wouldnt know how to even get it on 'civvie' street, and the girls i extensively research always are genuinely bi and fancy each other and are 'off duty' sex buddies blah blah. Point is, they claim to be essentially close friends and private fuck buddies. So, in a nutshell, very close!!

Hence, when suddenely asked to chaange condoms my fiirst thought is they obviously do not trust each other that much, so cant be that close, and seemingly obviously don't sleep with each other privately and share sex toys intimately, which when i ask, they claim to!!

Perhaps if girlss just said bluntly we do 3sums to get a butt load more money i'd not lose my erection as i chaange condom swap as i wont feel a sense of disappointment!! But then, a 3sum isnt worth the money is it!!

Bottom line, forget the 3sum, it's not worth the money. The only 3sums worth having are on 'civvie' street like punter14 has experienced.

First, I know several WGs who always put condoms on their sex toys even in a 1-on-1 so I don't think it follows that demanding condom changes in a threesome means the ladies can't play together and share sex toys in their own time (though claims that they do are probably more advertising spiel than anything else).

Second, trust doesn't mean putting aside proper health precautions: two WGs may trust each other, be familiar with each others last test results and confident of each other taking proper precaution in their encounters but that doesn't mean they should neglect to minimise what risks there are in a threesome by condom changes.

Finally, though I have never had a civvie threesome, if I did I would expect and demand the same level of precaution as in a p4p threesome and would want to change condoms between the girls and would hope the girls had enough sense and self-respect to want the same thing.

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First, I know several WGs who always put condoms on their sex toys even in a 1-on-1 so I don't think it follows that demanding condom changes in a threesome means the ladies can't play together and share sex toys in their own time (though claims that they do are probably more advertising spiel than anything else).

Second, trust doesn't mean putting aside proper health precautions: two WGs may trust each other, be familiar with each others last test results and confident of each other taking proper precaution in their encounters but that doesn't mean they should neglect to minimise what risks there are in a threesome by condom changes.

Finally, though I have never had a civvie threesome, if I did I would expect and demand the same level of precaution as in a p4p threesome and would want to change condoms between the girls and would hope the girls had enough sense and self-respect to want the same thing.

I may be missing something here, why do women need to put a condom on a sex toy? GUM clinics say STD's need ideal environments to spread. Girls allow me to finger them without wearing gloves, i'm struggling to see much difference? How does a girl know i havent 10 minutes earlier beeen fingering another girl? You get what i am saying here? Or is there a time limit in which STD's are active? I've googled it, cant find an answer?

I mean, i really don't know, i'm not having a go at you. But your comments are deeply worrying as basically OWO is not safe at all, neither is RO, or does saliva kill STD's?

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Nobody said OWO is safe and it isn't. But like swimming in the ocean it is more fun without a raincoat. I don't offer OWO regardless. RO is less of a risk and it's up to the client if he wants to do that.

Why put condoms on toys? It reduces your risk of getting thrush or cystitis from a less-than-sterile toy. Either of those can have you off work for a while. And no, I wouldn't trust another woman in that situation. I'm not putting myself at risk just because it doesn 't suit your porn-influenced fantasy.

There is a way around the condom swap, though, although only really doable for girls who offer OWO (unless you don't mix fucking and sucking ;) ) - Femidoms. With both girls wearing a Femidom, you don't have to worry about changing rubbers. If you don't like that either, man up and stop acting like a spoilt child who only got five chocolates instead of six. Going limp is in your head.

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The condom swap is an issue for me actually. I am a huge advocate of safe sex, but in a 3sum having to change condoms in between penetration just kills the mood. Reason being is every 3sum i have had has been paid for, wouldnt know how to even get it on 'civvie' street, and the girls i extensively research always are genuinely bi and fancy each other and are 'off duty' sex buddies blah blah. Point is, they claim to be essentially close friends and private fuck buddies. So, in a nutshell, very close!!

Hence, when suddenely asked to chaange condoms my fiirst thought is they obviously do not trust each other that much, so cant be that close, and seemingly obviously don't sleep with each other privately and share sex toys intimately, which when i ask, they claim to!!

Perhaps if girlss just said bluntly we do 3sums to get a butt load more money i'd not lose my erection as i chaange condom swap as i wont feel a sense of disappointment!! But then, a 3sum isnt worth the money is it!!

Bottom line, forget the 3sum, it's not worth the money. The only 3sums worth having are on 'civvie' street like punter14 has experienced.

They might not be worth the money to you, some have been to me including an excellent one with two WGs who are members on here, and various others where the WGs got on well and i had fun. I never require girl-on-girl, i want them concentrating just on me. Some have been average or poor, as have a number of FFFM and FFFFM punts which although cheap i found one or more of the WGs not to be that good.

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3-way kissing is the biggest waste of time of all time as it alllows girls to get away with tongue flicking, when what us french kiss adddicts want is full on tonsil hockey with tongue sucking etc!!

And girls never snog each other hard in my 3sums. Thank god for Viv Thomas art of kissing and pink velvet DVD's and HD. Now, someone hurry up and invent virtual reality TV..........!!

Again i enjoy 3-way kissing myself, going from one to another and back i find a turn-on, plenty of time for full-on FK, preferably DFK as well. Whats a waste of time for one punter might be a turn-on for another.

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I have to be honest and say the words "threesome" and "etiquette" together instantly made me think MMF not MFF. I was expecting advice about not hogging any hole or ensuring you don't dangle your tackle in the other fellas face, but I guess that goes without saying.

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3-way kissing is the biggest waste of time of all time as it alllows girls to get away with tongue flicking, when what us french kiss adddicts want is full on tonsil hockey with tongue sucking etc!!

A threesome DFK is technically impossible. If you liplock with a girl to DFK her or let her DFK you, there is no way the other lady can participate. I had a lade that likes to be DFKed (receiving my tongue) and does DFK on me (I receive her tongue) she cannot do it when the other ladye wants to participate. She cannot do a thing.

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I have to be honest and say the words "threesome" and "etiquette" together instantly made me think MMF not MFF. I was expecting advice about not hogging any hole or ensuring you don't dangle your tackle in the other fellas face, but I guess that goes without saying.

Easier said than done, I'd have thought. It's not my scene, any more than parties are, but I'd have thought with all the moving around and changing positions the other chap is going to risk a bit of your penis dribble on him somewhere.

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A threesome DFK is technically impossible. If you liplock with a girl to DFK her or let her DFK you, there is no way the other lady can participate. I had a lade that likes to be DFKed (receiving my tongue) and does DFK on me (I receive her tongue) she cannot do it when the other ladye wants to participate. She cannot do a thing.

Why not? She could rim you, for example. Or reach through your legs and caress your balls, or your cock. Where there's a will...

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I think hans' point was that she cannot participate, specifically, in the dfk. Girl 2 can participate in the action in other ways (such as you suggest) as you and Girl 1 dfk, but there cannot be a true threeway dfk. Which is a fair point. I suggest a threeway tongue contact, followed by a series of 121 dfk-ing, returning to the threeway tongue touching as the nearest feasible alternative.

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DanLeno is right. Of course you can do what you suggested, Mr. Bloom, and that actually happened. Threesome FK is also possible, but not when the tongue is inserted as far as possible. The only possible way is to do it when the three people has extremely long tongues. Otherwise you will just have LFK (Light French Kiss).

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Bottom line, forget the 3sum, it's not worth the money. The only 3sums worth having are on 'civvie' street like punter14 has experienced.

Unlike your "I always avoid Coventry" post, I cannot agree with this :). I have had some dire threesomes in my time and some that have been out of this world, all paid for. The latter ones have always featured girls who are both enthusiastically bi (or at least gay-for-pay and great actors) and who behaved spontaneously throughout the punt (as opposed to acting out a script, which some threesome girls can do). The upshot is that for me, a great MFF is well worth the money.

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