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If someone else had written this, id tell them to just walk away.

A few years ago I met a lady in a parlour and we clicked, I was invited to a few bookings at her home ( cheaper than paying the value at a parlour) and soon we had progressed to overnighters.

Now we have done about ten overnighters, and countless bookings at her home, so much so she said she had quit the parlour scene and only seen me and another guy, but due to the amount of bookings I was her main income.

She has now told me that she kicked the other guy into touch, so only seen me, and we were getting on really well, and were buzzing off each other with Dom/sub roles, it really opened my imagination to what was available.

then about 2 month ago she told me she was tired and was going to take a few weeks rest, anyway I held back for amonth then asked her if she wanted to do another booking, she was okay about this, and we agreed a time to meet, then about 10 minutes before I should have been at her door, she phoned to say could I meet her as she had something to discuss.

She was saying she still did not feel ready to start again, and that was a month ago, I sent her a text last week but have not recieved a reply yet.

She was a regular and enjoyed our meetings, and I certainly got more than I could have dreamt off, and was getting into the new scene in a big way, but now it all has come apart as I wait, and wait, not knowing where to turn, should i start looking for another regular, do I explore my Dom side more with a new sub, or do I wait for her to see what happens.

Like I said If I read this from another I would tell them to walk away, but when your involved in some way its a bit hard to see what the right road to take is.

By the way, i have been to see a few subs recently, but they dont seem to hit the right buttons.

Any advice please.

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Walk away, you should not be attached to her as you have paid for very session as far as i can tell, as she says, you were her main INCOME!! If some of your liaisons have been free of chaarge then it is more complicated, but somehow i doubt she has even given ou a discount!!

Find a new sub and think nothing of it.

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She's moved on...and you will need to as well. Painful, and we've all been there (ok, maybe not with a Dom partner, but 'someone' else moving on). If I had to guess, she either left the biz, or is back full time and was somehow getting attached and maybe needed to not develop such a strong personal relationship in a work situation. A lot of people lash out in funny ways towards intimacy, especially if it involved such a sexually involved thing as Dom/sub and feelings....complicated.

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If someone else had written this, id tell them to just walk away.

A few years ago I met a lady in a parlour and we clicked, I was invited to a few bookings at her home ( cheaper than paying the value at a parlour) and soon we had progressed to overnighters.

Now we have done about ten overnighters, and countless bookings at her home, so much so she said she had quit the parlour scene and only seen me and another guy, but due to the amount of bookings I was her main income.

She has now told me that she kicked the other guy into touch, so only seen me, and we were getting on really well, and were buzzing off each other with Dom/sub roles, it really opened my imagination to what was available.

then about 2 month ago she told me she was tired and was going to take a few weeks rest, anyway I held back for amonth then asked her if she wanted to do another booking, she was okay about this, and we agreed a time to meet, then about 10 minutes before I should have been at her door, she phoned to say could I meet her as she had something to discuss.

She was saying she still did not feel ready to start again, and that was a month ago, I sent her a text last week but have not recieved a reply yet.

She was a regular and enjoyed our meetings, and I certainly got more than I could have dreamt off, and was getting into the new scene in a big way, but now it all has come apart as I wait, and wait, not knowing where to turn, should i start looking for another regular, do I explore my Dom side more with a new sub, or do I wait for her to see what happens.

Like I said If I read this from another I would tell them to walk away, but when your involved in some way its a bit hard to see what the right road to take is.

By the way, i have been to see a few subs recently, but they dont seem to hit the right buttons.

Any advice please.

I have been here myself, its very difficult but best to walk away unless she contacts you in my opinion, if she does then i would go and see her and see what pans out. This is the thing about sex, even punting can involve strong emotions, most of us arent robots with no feelings. :)

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Not much else you can do apart from put the ball in her court and wait for her to contact you if she wants to resume the arrangement. In the meantime, keep trying with other girls. You'll find someone you click with eventually.

Whatever you do, don't become a nuisance to her.

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Thanks for the reply's, I just needed to hear someone else say it to me, to know what course to take.

I am in a great relationship with my partner, but sexually I need more, so seeing this escort really opened a few things to me, as I was not really into Dom/sub till she suggested we try it, now its just came to an abrupt halt.

Maybe the best way after thinking about the replies, is to just go back to straight or less involved bookings, till the next door opens for me to explore sexuality of a Dom/sub relationship with no strings attached, maybe just a collar... :lol:

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Yep, walk alway, although I prefer to bring things to a neat close.

I'd send her a final message saying "I've not heard back from you, so I assume you've moved on. Thanks for a great time and all the best for the future. If you ever decide to start up again, do get in touch. x"

That way you don't leave her feeling bad for dropping a good client, and if she does decide to come back to escorting, she won't feel awkward about contacting you.

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Funny, but we seem to have discussed the potential for this sort of scenario in other threads here.

I know words are easy, but it seems to me you have blurred the boundaries between "professional" and "private" to a worrying level where you (and the lady) are prone to be emotionally hurt or exploited (financially, emotionally, whatever).

Whatever buttons have or have not been hit remember your appointments with this lady are professional only. I remember someone saying here if you feel her feelings are real ask to date on a non paid basis, the reply to that will give the indication of the exact nature of feelings, I suspect in 99% of cases I'd know what the answer would be.

I'm far from a relationship expert and wouldn't like to question the character of another, but from what you describe clearly the escort you have been seeing has moved on or at least cannot be bothered to return your contact, this would in turn lead me to question if what was said to you was entirely accurate. I do also wonder if any escort would entirely depend on the income from one client, if that is even wise from an escort's point of view?

I do think you raise a very valid topic, you ask should you seek another regular, my question would be should any client (or certian types of) ever have a regular? I'd say in 99.9% of times it can only end in one place, crap alley.

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not much else for me to say on here really other than I pretty much agree with what every one is saying about this!

I too have fell into this trap before its easy to get into if you get involved with some WGs

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Funny, but we seem to have discussed the potential for this sort of scenario in other threads here.

I know words are easy, but it seems to me you have blurred the boundaries between "professional" and "private" to a worrying level where you (and the lady) are prone to be emotionally hurt or exploited (financially, emotionally, whatever).

Whatever buttons have or have not been hit remember your appointments with this lady are professional only. I remember someone saying here if you feel her feelings are real ask to date on a non paid basis, the reply to that will give the indication of the exact nature of feelings, I suspect in 99% of cases I'd know what the answer would be.

I'm far from a relationship expert and wouldn't like to question the character of another, but from what you describe clearly the escort you have been seeing has moved on or at least cannot be bothered to return your contact, this would in turn lead me to question if what was said to you was entirely accurate. I do also wonder if any escort would entirely depend on the income from one client, if that is even wise from an escort's point of view?

I do think you raise a very valid topic, you ask should you seek another regular, my question would be should any client (or certian types of) ever have a regular? I'd say in 99.9% of times it can only end in one place, crap alley.

Because it suits some of us to have a regular as the service offered can get better and better, at least for me, and always only for a time until i get bored and go elsewhere. Fuck and go every time 100% isnt necessarily as easy as it sounds i have found, because sometimes you click with a WG so well, i dont let that stop me still seeking another regular though as they can offer the best of punts in my experiences.

As to certain types of punters, obviously thats for them to decide, at least this forum can act as a sounding board, more than i ever had for most of my punting career when i punted in complete isolation.

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Funny, but we seem to have discussed the potential for this sort of scenario in other threads here.

I did think about that before I posted, but one thing I can vouch for is differant from the others I seen.

I have had a few regulars before and got used to having them available, and it does get to you a bit when one retires, or seems to just dissapear, but this was differant, I was going through a sexual experiance of learning my Dom side, as she was a very good sub, we had played a few vanilla games and just fell into the Dom/sub side of sexuality.

I felt it was sad to lose a good regular, (as it does seem that she has retired) but feel more sadder at just getting used to doing the Dom side of my personality, and now have to build up that trust with another sub and hoping that she does not do the same in retiring too quickly.

It can take a long time to build up the trust we had in each other during the booking, oh well the interviews for the next sub starts here and now.... ;)

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I do think you raise a very valid topic, you ask should you seek another regular, my question would be should any client (or certian types of) ever have a regular? I'd say in 99.9% of times it can only end in one place, crap alley.

Nonsense. Sure, there are the odd addictive types around who can get overattached to regulars (I am not talking about the OP here, who strikes me as sane and level headed), but the majority of us handle it fine. I myself have had two regulars for over 3 years now. We get on great but know where the boundaries are. Both will retire eventually, I am sure, but when that day comes, it certainly won't be "crap alley". They'll move onto a different phase of their lives and I will wish them well. Simple!

And I am certainly not in a minority of 0.1% !!

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I can imagine, with that scenario, it could be easy to become rather attached to a lady. We've all had favourites and regulars I'm sure, but, like others I'm assuming are more experienced than I in such matters, are saying...

...best to leave the ball in her court.

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i have a question, you say if it was anyone else you would tell them to just walk away, why do you not do this yourself then?

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The escort has said she is taking a break but will come back when she feels ready, so from that point of view I think it is best to just walk away and try to find another reg who might offer me what im looking for.

But, due to having seen her for a while, we have built up quite a rappor of trust on many short and overnight bookings, we were working through some Dom/sub issues, whilst there is a good reason for her taking a break and this must remain confidential between us, but it does not involve me in any way,

Its not really the escort but the situation that I find hard to walk away from, do I continue to work through my Dom feelings with another, or wait to see if the escort decides to return.

I think its best to just put everything on hold for the moment and see what happens in the long term, maybe some other issue will happen, or I might meet someone who is willing to be a sub for the booking fee, and allow me to find out where it leads me.

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The escort has said she is taking a break but will come back when she feels ready, so from that point of view I think it is best to just walk away and try to find another reg who might offer me what im looking for.

But, due to having seen her for a while, we have built up quite a rappor of trust on many short and overnight bookings, we were working through some Dom/sub issues, whilst there is a good reason for her taking a break and this must remain confidential between us, but it does not involve me in any way,

Its not really the escort but the situation that I find hard to walk away from, do I continue to work through my Dom feelings with another, or wait to see if the escort decides to return.

I think its best to just put everything on hold for the moment and see what happens in the long term, maybe some other issue will happen, or I might meet someone who is willing to be a sub for the booking fee, and allow me to find out where it leads me.

I would move on and you just never know who you might meet next, they might be even better, thats happened to me with regulars that have retired, and i then found an even better one. If this WG returns then you can re-assess then. Good luck whatever you decide on. :)

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Very good advice from folk, I left the lady alone and gave her the time she needed, and guess what, she got back in touch and .......well im too much of a gent to say on here, but the advice was spot on...... :D :D :D;)

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Very good advice from folk, I left the lady alone and gave her the time she needed, and guess what, she got back in touch and .......well im too much of a gent to say on here, but the advice was spot on...... :D :D :D;)

Excellent news. Glad to hear it all worked out.

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Very good advice from folk, I left the lady alone and gave her the time she needed, and guess what, she got back in touch and .......well im too much of a gent to say on here, but the advice was spot on...... :D :D :D;)

Good to read about. ;)

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Glad to hear that this thread has a happy ending.

The moral seems to be to leave the lady some time and space to sort herself out and she'll return when she feels ready.

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