Sarah Summers

Communication

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The old adage 'communication is the key'... to success... to a good relationship... to good business..... applies in all walks of life.

Sometimes though, there can be too much communication before a punt. Sometimes there are too many emails, too much info, too many requests, too much input by the potential client stifling any form of freedom of expression.

I like a nice introductory email from a guy informing me he is polite and well mannered, and that he would like to see me. I do not mind one or two more where we iron out the best time to suit both parties, and location stuff. I do not mind him telling me what he would like me to wear - if he has seen an outfit in my gallery... that sort of thing.

I draw the line at flirting. It's just not for me, and I can't stand it. i will not send flirty texts to the guy to titillate him as he is on his way. I will not do dirty 'phone calls either. For one thing I do not have the time, but I most certainly do not have the inclination.

The flirting can happen when I open the door.

Sometimes when a guy gets carried away with the emails, I cancel. I get a bad vibe. Maybe it's just me, but I am not a girlfriend or a mistress. I am whatever you want to call me - but with the letter 'E' on the end for experience.

It's not real. Okay... I'm not acting when he meets me, but it's not real life, so when he leaves and I shut the door, that is it - end of - until he calls again.

I am sure that most punters will be of the same mind, so why is it that some of them kill the golden goose with too much communication beforehand?

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I think most Wg's realise that the 'overkill' emails are generally from timewasters who get off on contacting the girl rather than paying her.

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Like everything we are all different, for some guys it will be considered part of the punt and some service providers may well be happy with a bit of flirting on line, in fact some insist on a couple of e mails to get a 'feel' for the punter. Personally I don't have time for it as I do most o f my bookings either on the day or the day before. So I can understand perfectly why you don't have time for it either so if you cancel because you have a bad vibe then that's your perogative to do so. However the punter may also feel justified to leave poor feedback if you cancel on him in such a manner (playing devils advocate). Like you say good communications is key!

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Too true, I booked an escort and was asked to phone to confirm the evening before, which i did, and the reply was can we make it 30 minues later, which i agreed to.

as Last time I seen her a few years ago I was kept waiting for an hour becuase of a dental problem and she needed a quick extraction.

As I was travelling over, I recieved a text saying a package was expected, and it might mean her being a further 30 minutes late, to which I agreed, then I got a text asking if we could put the booking back to 1pm, considering it was agreed firstly for 11am, I said no, and that it could only be agreed if the 2 hour booking became a 1 hour booking, so she agreed to see me for the 2 hours, then the 12 appointment didnt start as she failed to show till 12.40, so I paid for the 2 hours upfront.

Because I had asked to see her at 12, she ended the booking at 2pm, I didnt check my watch till i was outside, due to my rush to be somewhere else, but I feel cheated out of my time by 40 minutes, and was held back by 1 hour 40 minuites from when we first agreed.

When I make a booking in future, I will be flexible, but I would not hesitate anymore to cancel if I feel messed about, so yes I agree that text messages should be kept to a minimum.

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The old adage 'communication is the key'... to success... to a good relationship... to good business..... applies in all walks of life.

Sometimes though, there can be too much communication before a punt. Sometimes there are too many emails, too much info, too many requests, too much input by the potential client stifling any form of freedom of expression.

I like a nice introductory email from a guy informing me he is polite and well mannered, and that he would like to see me. I do not mind one or two more where we iron out the best time to suit both parties, and location stuff. I do not mind him telling me what he would like me to wear - if he has seen an outfit in my gallery... that sort of thing.

I draw the line at flirting. It's just not for me, and I can't stand it. i will not send flirty texts to the guy to titillate him as he is on his way. I will not do dirty 'phone calls either. For one thing I do not have the time, but I most certainly do not have the inclination.

The flirting can happen when I open the door.

Sometimes when a guy gets carried away with the emails, I cancel. I get a bad vibe. Maybe it's just me, but I am not a girlfriend or a mistress. I am whatever you want to call me - but with the letter 'E' on the end for experience.

It's not real. Okay... I'm not acting when he meets me, but it's not real life, so when he leaves and I shut the door, that is it - end of - until he calls again.

I am sure that most punters will be of the same mind, so why is it that some of them kill the golden goose with too much communication beforehand?

My modus is usually same day booking communicate only by phone, enquire, book, confirm, turn-up, punt and leave, i look for simplicity, some punters get off on a long build-up as they have posted on here in the past. A long bulid-up is of zero interest to me.

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Too true, I booked an escort and was asked to phone to confirm the evening before, which i did, and the reply was can we make it 30 minues later, which i agreed to.

as Last time I seen her a few years ago I was kept waiting for an hour becuase of a dental problem and she needed a quick extraction.

As I was travelling over, I recieved a text saying a package was expected, and it might mean her being a further 30 minutes late, to which I agreed, then I got a text asking if we could put the booking back to 1pm, considering it was agreed firstly for 11am, I said no, and that it could only be agreed if the 2 hour booking became a 1 hour booking, so she agreed to see me for the 2 hours, then the 12 appointment didnt start as she failed to show till 12.40, so I paid for the 2 hours upfront.

Because I had asked to see her at 12, she ended the booking at 2pm, I didnt check my watch till i was outside, due to my rush to be somewhere else, but I feel cheated out of my time by 40 minutes, and was held back by 1 hour 40 minuites from when we first agreed.

When I make a booking in future, I will be flexible, but I would not hesitate anymore to cancel if I feel messed about, so yes I agree that text messages should be kept to a minimum.

I dont play that bullshit game any more when punting. I enquire and book a set time, there is a reason i have done that so if its put back it wont suit me, if i fancy the WG enough if a newbie to me i might accept one change of time giving her the benefit of the doubt but i would go elsewhere if it was more than one. I have a bit more flexibility with a regular with its very rare i have had a problem with them.

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My modus is usually same day booking communicate only by phone, enquire, book, confirm, turn-up, punt and leave, i look for simplicity, some punters get off on a long build-up as they have posted on here in the past. A long bulid-up is of zero interest to me.

I agree with this. I never have to deal with the flirty emails or email tennis situation before a meeting because I have a simple rule as stated on

the site they found my number on. If they choose not to read through it that is not my problem. My rule is .... if we haven't already met so I know

they are human/genuine/honest and reliable..... then a phone call is the only way I will consider a booking.

Naturally I still get several emails a week from men who think I will bend my own rules. I don't.

I get minimum time wasters and no shows and it is because of my communication stipulations. The best communication

is by two people speaking to each other and using voice rather than type.

Works for me! ;)

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Faffing about, lots of texts or emails is usually a bad sign, and quite off putting.

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I agree with this. I never have to deal with the flirty emails or email tennis situation before a meeting because I have a simple rule as stated on

the site they found my number on. If they choose not to read through it that is not my problem. My rule is .... if we haven't already met so I know

they are human/genuine/honest and reliable..... then a phone call is the only way I will consider a booking.

Naturally I still get several emails a week from men who think I will bend my own rules. I don't.

I get minimum time wasters and no shows and it is because of my communication stipulations. The best communication

is by two people speaking to each other and using voice rather than type.

Works for me! ;)

And certainly works for me and has in my punting for nearly 30 years. ;)

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My modus is usually same day booking communicate only by phone, enquire, book, confirm, turn-up, punt and leave, i look for simplicity, some punters get off on a long build-up as they have posted on here in the past. A long bulid-up is of zero interest to me.

I agree with this. I never have to deal with the flirty emails or email tennis situation before a meeting because I have a simple rule as stated on

the site they found my number on. If they choose not to read through it that is not my problem. My rule is .... if we haven't already met so I know

they are human/genuine/honest and reliable..... then a phone call is the only way I will consider a booking.

Naturally I still get several emails a week from men who think I will bend my own rules. I don't.

I get minimum time wasters and no shows and it is because of my communication stipulations. The best communication

is by two people speaking to each other and using voice rather than type.

Works for me! ;)

Life is so much simpler when anyone calls, books, confirms and turns up. :)

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The old adage 'communication is the key'... to success... to a good relationship... to good business..... applies in all walks of life.

Sometimes though, there can be too much communication before a punt. Sometimes there are too many emails, too much info, too many requests, too much input by the potential client stifling any form of freedom of expression.

I like a nice introductory email from a guy informing me he is polite and well mannered, and that he would like to see me. I do not mind one or two more where we iron out the best time to suit both parties, and location stuff. I do not mind him telling me what he would like me to wear - if he has seen an outfit in my gallery... that sort of thing.

I draw the line at flirting. It's just not for me, and I can't stand it. i will not send flirty texts to the guy to titillate him as he is on his way. I will not do dirty 'phone calls either. For one thing I do not have the time, but I most certainly do not have the inclination.

The flirting can happen when I open the door.

Sometimes when a guy gets carried away with the emails, I cancel. I get a bad vibe. Maybe it's just me, but I am not a girlfriend or a mistress. I am whatever you want to call me - but with the letter 'E' on the end for experience.

It's not real. Okay... I'm not acting when he meets me, but it's not real life, so when he leaves and I shut the door, that is it - end of - until he calls again.

I am sure that most punters will be of the same mind, so why is it that some of them kill the golden goose with too much communication beforehand?

I'm with you here, 100%, and even more!

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I just did myself out of a booking by being too 'on the ball' with communications. Things weren't working out and I wasn't sure I could make the short notice booking I had agreed. Sent a text to say sorry I'd probably not going to make it on time, then 5 minutes later realised it was still possible so in lieu of a reply from him, I texted to say I was getting ready after all just let me know if still on the way. Reply was "Ok no problem" which I took to mean he was still coming. Ran around and was ready bob on time, for him to phone and say had read texts in wrong order (had replied after receiving the 2nd but without reading it) and had already set off to do something else. All happened within the space of 8 minutes.

Ah well will just get changed now and chill out for a bit! Lesson is keep it simple.

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I'm happy regardless, if the lady only wants one email/call, wants to get to know you or wishes to flirt...but as always there are other factors to be considered, We are very much different in are approach and we also get on with some better then others....for me, I just gauge the mood and take it from there but nothing wrong with either method I should think...

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