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Been seeing a lovely (and very well known) lady for over three and a half years, had some of my best experiences with her. She's cancelled a few times, most recently a couple of weeks ago, claiming she wasn't well. It became apparent from her website that she was still working. I sent some sympathetic texts, but she didn't reply. I left it a couple of weeks, then texted suggesting another appointment. So far she has not replied. Now I know I should just accept that she doesn't want to see me, that I should move on, see someone else, but I am genuinely fond of her. I really want to know why her bahaviour has changed, and what I've done to upset her, as I feel I must have. Should I persevere, keep texting, emailing and trying to call her, or should I give up? Should I out her, or just put it down to experience and look for someone else?

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You must persist in getting her.

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There is probably a reason why she is giving you the cold shoulder.

mebbe she feel she is getting too attached to you, or mebbe u said something innocently that rang alarm bells for her. who knows

now she doesn't want your business. Plenty of other fish in the sea. move on.

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I would say move on as if you keep calling/texting/emailing her she may see it as a bit 'creepy' or 'stalker like', and like coventrypunter said you probably just said something identically that just gave her alarm bells so the best advice is to move on :)

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Move on before you get accused of stalking her. She is trying to tell you to keep away from her but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Be a bit more sensitive.

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Been seeing a lovely (and very well known) lady for over three and a half years, had some of my best experiences with her. She's cancelled a few times, most recently a couple of weeks ago, claiming she wasn't well. It became apparent from her website that she was still working. I sent some sympathetic texts, but she didn't reply. I left it a couple of weeks, then texted suggesting another appointment. So far she has not replied. Now I know I should just accept that she doesn't want to see me, that I should move on, see someone else, but I am genuinely fond of her. I really want to know why her bahaviour has changed, and what I've done to upset her, as I feel I must have. Should I persevere, keep texting, emailing and trying to call her, or should I give up? Should I out her, or just put it down to experience and look for someone else?

What a question! No you should not 'out' her under any circumstances. I am extremely surprised you would even contemplate it. I hope as many ladies as possible take note of this and put you on their 'do not see' list.

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Yes what on earth do you mean by should you out her?

She does not want to see you, that is the end of it.

Not nice for you possibly by the way she is blanking you, but that is the way it is.

Fish......sea.

Lucy :)

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I would guess he meant out her as in......give her the old heave ho, the elbow, the push, kick her out....so to speak.

If so, it's just an unfortunate choice of phrase given its other meaning :lol:

If he did meant out her as in blow her cover to all....then shame on you, you dispicable man :angry:

But....at least give him the chance to explain before condemning a possibly innocent man ;)

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I would guess he meant out her as in......give her the old heave ho, the elbow, the push, kick her out....so to speak.

If so, it's just an unfortunate choice of phrase given its other meaning :lol:

If he did meant out her as in blow her cover to all....then shame on you, you dispicable man :angry:

But....at least give him the chance to explain before condemning a possibly innocent man ;)

he may have meant name her here....

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Been seeing a lovely (and very well known) lady for over three and a half years, had some of my best experiences with her. She's cancelled a few times, most recently a couple of weeks ago, claiming she wasn't well. It became apparent from her website that she was still working. I sent some sympathetic texts, but she didn't reply. I left it a couple of weeks, then texted suggesting another appointment. So far she has not replied. Now I know I should just accept that she doesn't want to see me, that I should move on, see someone else, but I am genuinely fond of her. I really want to know why her bahaviour has changed, and what I've done to upset her, as I feel I must have. Should I persevere, keep texting, emailing and trying to call her, or should I give up? Should I out her, or just put it down to experience and look for someone else?

My advice is move on, you will hopefully find another regular who could be better. Once the magic is gone thats been it in my experience. If by out her you mean name her for not wishing to see you anymore, thats very petty in my view.

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Hi there,

It might gonna sound crazy but may be she feels attached and likes you a lot. Thats why she is ingnoring you. I dont see any other reason. If you been nice to her all the time than she should be happy seeing you.

Try one more time to find out the reason and if she dont responds than move on. :unsure:

xxx

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Hi there,

It might gonna sound crazy but may be she feels attached and likes you a lot. Thats why she is ingnoring you. I dont see any other reason. If you been nice to her all the time than she should be happy seeing you.

Try one more time to find out the reason and if she dont responds than move on. :unsure:

xxx

you probably speak the most sense out of all the ladies on here, and some are very considered, but in this scenario, i think you are spot on. He has hardly stalked her, not yet, as far as i can see he has just been enquiring about making a booking.

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you could try texting/calling once more politely asking if and when she thinks she'll next be available and if there's any reason why she may be finding it difficult to see you at them moment.

Should she not respond I'm afraid it's time to move on.

Happpens to us all brother...live and learn

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Should I persevere, keep texting, emailing and trying to call her, or should I give up? Should I out her, or just put it down to experience and look for someone else?

The way I read this sentence I think he means "shall I name and shame on here?". That would be unjust and reflect very badly on Brummyboy's judgement.

Move on and start your research for your next punt would be my advice.

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It's possible that she might have recognised that you have become very fond of her and is backing away herself for your own good before you start to develop feelings that are only going to end in heartache

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3 years is a long time, which probably makes calling it a day that little bit harder. Notwithstanding not having some sort of an explanation from the lady concerned - 'the knowing' -

will also make drawing a closure very difficult. Paradoxically even if you did eventually 'know' the reason you still would not be 'happy' but it still does not negate the point of

unsatisfactoriness

After so many attempts to get in touch with her. I do not think it would be advisable to send one final message which will be for your own sake rather than hers because the lady concerned

can still respond to your previous texts, emails if she wanted to.

If you do insist on sending her one final text then let it be wishing her well - nothing about why she refuses to get in touch.

Finally, I concur with some of the commentators here that perhaps she felt that she was coming too close and/or perhaps you were whether that be real or imagined in her thinking.

Good luck!

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Move on before you get accused of stalking her. She is trying to tell you to keep away from her but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Be a bit more sensitive.

I am very interested by the comment and suggestion of becoming a stalker not that I want to become one personally :P .

I wonder at what stage if Brummyboy 2008 should persist sending solely messages will he be considered a stalker as opposed to being a 'nuisance'?

A thin line between fondness and disdain.

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Move on before you get accused of stalking her. She is trying to tell you to keep away from her but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Be a bit more sensitive.

I think this probably hits the nail right on the head. I have been is this situation myself and any form of dialogue from here on escalates the situation clean out of hand because punter does not accept he crossed a boundary line.

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I think this probably hits the nail right on the head. I have been is this situation myself and any form of dialogue from here on escalates the situation clean out of hand because punter does not accept he crossed a boundary line.

So have I Sarah but have to be honest and say there have been times when I've crossed the line myself in the past and had to cut ties with clients because I've become too fond of them and in danger of becoming more than a client/wg relationship, maybe thats whats happening here, you never know, it may just be that she going through one of those burnt out stages that we all have from time to time and needs a little space.

When I stopped escorting at that time I just wanted a clean break and just wanted to walk away from it. Some clients made that very difficult and couldn't understand that I needed space, thats what happens when your offering such an intimate service I guess.

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Hi there,

It might gonna sound crazy but may be she feels attached and likes you a lot. Thats why she is ingnoring you. I dont see any other reason. If you been nice to her all the time than she should be happy seeing you.

Try one more time to find out the reason and if she dont responds than move on. :unsure:

xxx

Thanks for this, it made me think. I decided not to do anything for the moment, I'll leave it a couple of months and try again. The frequency of our meetings increased recently and maybe that started ringing bells with her. We've always been so good together that I don't want to give up on her yet, and at the same time don't want to risk upsetting her any more, if that's whats happened.

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Thanks for this, it made me think. I decided not to do anything for the moment, I'll leave it a couple of months and try again. The frequency of our meetings increased recently and maybe that started ringing bells with her. We've always been so good together that I don't want to give up on her yet, and at the same time don't want to risk upsetting her any more, if that's whats happened.

Good decision but I would wait perhaps 6 months, and in the mean time try to find another escort who floats your boat.

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So have I Sarah but have to be honest and say there have been times when I've crossed the line myself in the past and had to cut ties with clients because I've become too fond of them and in danger of becoming more than a client/wg relationship, maybe thats whats happening here, you never know, it may just be that she going through one of those burnt out stages that we all have from time to time and needs a little space.

When I stopped escorting at that time I just wanted a clean break and just wanted to walk away from it. Some clients made that very difficult and couldn't understand that I needed space, thats what happens when your offering such an intimate service I guess.

Really honest post that Holly, i adire you for admitting that sometimes you can like a client too much. I've yet to fall for an escort, no doubt at some point i may do, and i'd probably never see her again. What would be the point, nothing good could happen, both parties carrying too much baggage.

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