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Do Escorts Remember Their Clients?

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I hope it's ok to post this,

About a year or so ago I visitors a dominatrix and it really freaked me out, I dont know why but I'm having counselling at the moment.

Ever since I did it I've had really bad anxiety and ive hardly left the house it's totally ruined me.

I know the woman did nothing wrong and I she only did what I asked or paid for but it's gotten the better off me a lot.

I was wondering do escorts remember all their clients that they meet with?

I only met her once, and it was over a year ago, I think I'd remember her because it's had such a big effect on me but is it likely that she would remember me if say we bummed into each other at a public place?

I'm really nervous about going out since so I hope not

Thanks

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I hope it's ok to post this,

About a year or so ago I visitors a dominatrix and it really freaked me out, I dont know why but I'm having counselling at the moment.

Ever since I did it I've had really bad anxiety and ive hardly left the house it's totally ruined me.

I know the woman did nothing wrong and I she only did what I asked or paid for but it's gotten the better off me a lot.

I was wondering do escorts remember all their clients that they meet with?

I only met her once, and it was over a year ago, I think I'd remember her because it's had such a big effect on me but is it likely that she would remember me if say we bummed into each other at a public place?

I'm really nervous about going out since so I hope not

Thanks

Best that you stay indoors out of harms way then. You know how dangerous these Dominatrix can be ;)

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Good one,

Does anyone have any genuine replies?

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Gosh, you must have had a bad experience for it to have effected you like this.

The honest answer from me (and all women will be different) I remember some and not others. Obviously I don't know if I have seen someone on the street and forgotten them, but I have had clients who have left it a long time between bookings and I don't remember them at all and it's only because they have told me they have seen me before (and obviously do because they remember my location) that I know I have seen them. Even when they arrive I think 'nope, still don't recall you!' even though I won't actually say that to them!

Also, the chances of bumping into her are slim, but as a professional she probably wouldn't make it known she recognises you anyway. We like to be discreet and would never acknowledge a client in public unless he made the first move.

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Very unsettling though it's hard for us to judge if you are exaggerating your response without details and we have no right ot demand you tell, even as a topic starter.

The answer is who knows?

Every wg will be able to say how well she remembers people or not and every punter will tell of how sometimes wgs have remembered him when he had forgotten them.

It has happened to me a few times as it happens but I don't think people want to read about them all somehow.

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Do not fret.

You met her once only, and over a year ago as well.

When we see guys out in public they tend to look a bit different than when we meet them for sexual purposes, as indeed most of us ladies probably do when out and about.

She probably would not recall you unless you did something that made yourself stand out from all the others.

Lucy :)

P.S. Of course I can remember everyone I meet ;)

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Well some will remember you some wont. A funny thing happened to me once I saw a girl in Manchester who was really nice then about a month later booked another girl in Leicester (it was the same girl under a diffirent name) I went in she looks at me and acts all friendly and says hello and starts acting like she knows me a little too friendly for me I was like thinking WTF? Am I supposed to know you or some thing? And then in the end she goes its me from Manchester don’t you remember and in this case I couldn’t remember her. Well I do remember now she told me but the change of name threw me off a bit. It was kind of bizarre but funny now thinking back, having shagged her twice I ought to have remembered her but it was the name change.

I saw another one today seen her a few times before and I havent seen her for over a year she said she remembered me and I think she was genuine. I think most of them remember me its hard not to forget me any way.

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How do u manage to do that Lucy?

To be honest I'm a Bit like that myself, I can remember people I met years ago I just hope she's different.

For me it's letting someone dominate, I see it as abuse, the therapist I seen said it's because I'm addicted to adrenaline and advised me to get into healthier things that give me a adrenaline rush

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I would be amazed if this lady would recognise you in the street, in a pub or even at a private party.

Was she your first visit to a Domme? How did you research her? What did you ask her to do to you that so affected you?

I guess your counsellor has gone through all these questions.

I'm not sure why you posted. Part of me thinks you might be a TW but I'm not yet certain.

I met a lady last week who recognised me after more than a year, and we certainly had a ball a year ago, but I bet she has had many balls since then.

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I'm not sure what a tw is sorry.

Yeah she was my first visit to a dome and my last, I'm not slanting it off but i just don't agree with it for me, it messed me head up I can't help it, I met her on a bdsm website we swapped pics and a few hours later I was at her house, I feel really degraded really, it's just how I feel

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I hope it's ok to post this,

About a year or so ago I visitors a dominatrix and it really freaked me out, I dont know why but I'm having counselling at the moment.

Ever since I did it I've had really bad anxiety and ive hardly left the house it's totally ruined me.

I know the woman did nothing wrong and I she only did what I asked or paid for but it's gotten the better off me a lot.

I was wondering do escorts remember all their clients that they meet with?

I only met her once, and it was over a year ago, I think I'd remember her because it's had such a big effect on me but is it likely that she would remember me if say we bummed into each other at a public place?

I'm really nervous about going out since so I hope not

Thanks

How do you get to work then if you hardly leave the house ? This post doesn't ring true to me , reads like a wind up . :ph34r:

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Obv I do leave the house but I don't work and don't go out to socialise anymore

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I'm not sure what a tw is sorry.

Yeah she was my first visit to a dome and my last, I'm not slanting it off but i just don't agree with it for me, it messed me head up I can't help it, I met her on a bdsm website we swapped pics and a few hours later I was at her house, I feel really degraded really, it's just how I feel

TW means a Time Waster.

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Obv I do leave the house but I don't work and don't go out to socialise anymore

I am not trying to be an amateur phychologist, but perhaps you had problems before you saw the domme and she was just the catalyst?

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Some escorts do remember me, I notice. I try to remember escorts, so that the sex is easier to adjust, both for me and for her. When I book an escort for the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. time, she knows my likes and dislikes, and I know her likes and dislikes.

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OP, if this is a serious topic, are you certain it was that particular event that caused detriment to your life? What was your life like before. were you the life and soul of the party, social extrovert and always out with friends? Did anything else change in your life? My outlook on life changed when I took my last job some years ago; I hated it from day one and it pretty much destroyed what should have been some of the best years of my life.

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No they forget you the moment you walk out the door, having paid. If you pay when you arrive they forget you shortly after. Enjoy!!!

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This Domme sounds like a female Darth Vader!

She seems to have messed you up big time!

Perhaps the reality of visiting a domme was far far different from your fantasy?

As Coventry punter said perhaps the visit to this woman was simply a catalyst?

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They always remember me, which i think because of my kissing and oral! I think the higher end escorts remeber clients, i think the girls who see 7 or 8 a day probably dont remember evryone

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They always remember me, which i think because of my kissing and oral! I think the higher end escorts remeber clients, i think the girls who see 7 or 8 a day probably dont remember evryone

Snogman you could do with a bigger trumpet to blow :D

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They certainly remember me, often to my surprise when its someone I saw only once, over a year ago or so

I do also get this in civvie life though with people telling me they remember me from such and such a time or place, often when I have no recollection of ever having meeting them

I must have a memorable appearance, although whether thats a good or flattering thing is debatable

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They certainly remember me, often to my surprise when its someone I saw only once, over a year ago or so

I do also get this in civvie life though with people telling me they remember me from such and such a time or place, often when I have no recollection of ever having meeting them

I must have a memorable appearance, although whether thats a good or flattering thing is debatable

I know a certain little girl in Paddington who will never forget you , and she keeps telling me that each time I see her . [ she looks great with her glasses btw ]

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To the OP (assuming your post is genuine, and I personally have got no reason to disbelieve you), a couple of things. Firstly, this is obviously all about you and really nothing at all with the dominatrix that you saw : I've never seen a dominatrix myself, but I'm sure she was basically performing for you in some way or another, trying to give you the service that she thought you were asking for. It's really nothing to do with her, so I don't think you should worry about seeing her anywhere in public (which is extremely unlikely anyway). And given the encounter was evidently so traumatic for you, then my guess is that it triggered some much deeper stuff in your subconscious mind, in which case you are doing exactly the right thing by seeing a therapist now. It's a bit like having a really bad nightmare, but you went and lived it out for real, which obviously unsettled you. Maybe just try and be really patient with what your therapist tells you and you might find that in the long run you're much wiser and stronger for the experience ( ie do your best to turn a negative into a positive).

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OP, if this is a serious topic, are you certain it was that particular event that caused detriment to your life? What was your life like before. were you the life and soul of the party, social extrovert and always out with friends? Did anything else change in your life? My outlook on life changed when I took my last job some years ago; I hated it from day one and it pretty much destroyed what should have been some of the best years of my life.

Hi, thanks everyone for the replies. I have had anxiety for quite a while I must admit.

My therapist said the reason I tried it was because of how I was brought up. So for example, even though the doinatrix messed my head up because i seen my mum mess my dads head and was around a lot of violence, imwould have sexualised that in some way, hence why seeing a dominatrix would give me such a rush, that and having a violent older sister too.

She said I can change and I kind of have done already but I guess I just feel damaged by the memory, perhaps some people enjoy it but if your in any way vulnerable please don't do it.

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I'm not sure what a tw is sorry.

Yeah she was my first visit to a dome and my last, I'm not slanting it off but i just don't agree with it for me, it messed me head up I can't help it, I met her on a bdsm website we swapped pics and a few hours later I was at her house, I feel really degraded really, it's just how I feel

Did you really consider what BDSM was all about before you took the plunge?

Was this your first punt?

Sounds to me that the fantasy took over before you got your brain around what it was all about.

If you are getting out of the house to get to work then I assume that you can do the shopping, walk the dog, go to the Laundromat, visit your parents etc. You are making too much of this I feel. It was not the Domme but some other aspect of your existence that screwed you up.

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